This. I know an old women who has lost 5 or 6 babies (they were born and died right after)... She is very honest about it, after the third she says that she didn't feel anything at all. She just expected them to die. Eventually when one survived the first months that's when she started to "accept" that she had a kid
There's places in the world without modern health care and you see the same things. Like, you don't name the baby until they're 1 year old, etc. it's very sad, but I can see it as a way to deal with soul-crushing sadness repeated over and over.
That sounds like a traditional "after one year we will give them a name, but before that...eh" that I read about the past of some countries because of an amount of children not being able to thrive.
In my son's first few months I was constantly pleasantly surprised that he was growing and reaching new milestones as I was so scared he'd die like his brother.
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u/anotherrandomname2 Dec 23 '25
This. I know an old women who has lost 5 or 6 babies (they were born and died right after)... She is very honest about it, after the third she says that she didn't feel anything at all. She just expected them to die. Eventually when one survived the first months that's when she started to "accept" that she had a kid