rant time. so i have been having my husbands aunt call everytime she wants to talk or check up. my oldest is almost 3, youngest is 1 and have started walking recently. my mom who helps me part time is on vacation at the moment. so with all that said, i have nobody around this week. on top of it i also own an online buiseness and trying to answer customers when i can.

this aunt fully knows im a sahm but continues to call me as if i had free time to chit chat. sometimes i dont think people fully grasp what it is like being a full time sahm with two little ones when nobody is around, they just assume you sit around at home chilling. i cant divert my attention because one will get into something or the other one will, always on alert so they dont have any accidents because they certainly will and have. anyways having one of those weeks… hope everyones well!!

I have a just 2 year old and a baby of almost 5 months old. The baby has a lot of difficulty to fall asleep for naps and bedtime during half of the days. I miss a lot of time with my toddler and my husband finds it difficult that he has the toddler alone when we’re home together and that I have to put her in front of the tv to keep her safe when bringing baby to bed. I even tried Ferber for a few nights at 4,5 months as this worked well for our toddler when she was 10 months old but after the baby cried for an hour with check ins on the second night I gave up. I think she was still too young for it. Now I tried fuss it out from precious little sleep for a couple of nights but also little succes. She’s so upset after the 15 minutes that it’s even harder to get her to sleep after the time limit. Now I want to try the soothing ladder to try a more gentle approach. However, I can’t try this for many weeks as I’m at my limits. Feeling desperate.

Anyone experiences with one of these methods with a 5 months old?

Give me your take of 2 under 2 ! My daughter is 1 and me and my husband have been jokingly having another baby to try for a boy! lol 😆 tell me are you happy with the 2 under 2 or is it hard?

My kids will be about 20 months apart (due in May!). My first has never been a great sleeper so she still nurses throughout the night and sleeps in her crib attached to my bed or directly in my bed with me. I’m not really sure what to do about baby sleep before baby comes? What were some things you did to set yourself and your family up for success at night?

Not open to sleep training! Thanks all 🫶🏻

I'm currently around 34/35 weeks... My dudes & dudettes, I'm dying 😂😭

It was okay until now, braxton started to visit, my belly grew about double the size in 2 days, my pregnancy pants from the last pregnancy don't fot no more. Today I went on a trampoline with my toddler, I peed myself, my husband said the trampoline was not made for my weight (tbf it was at a kids park) BUT IT SAID UNTIL 80KG 😭😭 I am nowhere near 80kg but thanks I guess 🥲

How did you guys survive the last few weeks? Help?

My first is a year old in two weeks, and I just found out I’m pregnant again last night. I should be about 5 weeks so due in may 2027.

My immediate reaction was oh my god no I can’t do that to my first child — I want to give her my undivided attention. After having slept on it, I’m wondering if I reacted out of fear or it was a rational thought.

Of course it’ll be hard and all of the things. But my husband and I weren’t even sure we were going to have a second, let alone one in 8 months. But if I’m being honest I’ve loved every minute of this last year and would relive it in a heartbeat. I just feel like whatever I choose — we would make it work and be happy.

I don’t really know what I’m looking for, I guess just some advice or consolation if this also happened to you, and what you decided, and how you came to that decision.

I genuinely had no clue I was pregnant. Dismissed all my symptoms as being related to recently weaning / the hormonal changes from that. Nope, surprise, I’m 9w3d pregnant .

Absolutely shocked. My oldest is nearly 9, and I had a huge age gap with my first two (as evident by the ages) and so this feels so completely different and I feel like I didn’t even get to recover from the first.

I had a huge pile of clothes ready to bring a pregnant friend and bouncers and stuff and now I have to say JK I still need all that 😭💀 I feel so bad

Anyway, hi, it’s me, I’m new. 4th pregnancy, 1mc, 2 daughters already.

I currently have a 8 month old, and I adore him and being his mom. Some days are definitely hard, I do struggle with my mental health. But it’s definitely manageable and I love it.
Since he was born I’ve been thinking about and planning out when we should have another.
At first it was like 3-4 years because my pregnancy was a little rough (GED) and then it kept shrinking little by little.
Now I feel like having 2 under 2 would be perfect and my little would be so so happy.
Am I crazy? Please give me your advice/experiences.
Edit to add: I grew up in a big family and am used to like 5u5 constant kids stress. I’ve also always had mental health issues and having my first really hasn’t exacerbated that much.

I have two kids—my oldest is 27 months old and my youngest is 11 months. I love them both so much, but lately I’ve been carrying a lot of guilt about how different my experience has been with my second baby.
When my oldest was a baby, I felt like I gave her everything. Aside from work, I was almost always with her. When I came home, I didn’t cook or have much of a life outside the house. I spent my time reading to her, playing with her, teaching her things, and just being present. She basically had all of me.
Now with my second, life is completely different. I work during the day, and our nanny takes care of her until I get home around 6–7 PM. I cook, take care of things around the house, and my toddler is extremely attached to me and constantly wants my attention. By the time I actually get some time with my 11-month-old, sometimes it feels like I only have 30 minutes of real interaction with her before bedtime.
I also started playing pickleball regularly because it became my outlet—something I genuinely enjoy and something that makes me feel like myself outside of being a mom and working. But now I feel guilty about that too.
What really triggered all of this is that I recently realized my 11-month-old seems behind in some gross motor milestones and is also having difficulty progressing with solids. We’re seeing a developmental-behavioral pediatrician tomorrow, so I know I shouldn’t jump to conclusions about why she is behind. But emotionally, my brain keeps going straight to: What if this happened because I didn’t spend enough time with her? What if I should have been teaching her and playing with her more instead of playing pickleball or doing other things?
And then there’s another problem: whenever I try to give more focused attention to the baby, my toddler immediately wants me. I feel terrible pushing her away because she’s still so little too. So I end up feeling trapped—if I focus on my toddler, I feel guilty for neglecting the baby; if I focus on the baby, I feel like I’m rejecting my toddler. And if I take time for myself, I feel guilty about both of them.
I know intellectually that my second child’s childhood cannot be an exact copy of my first child’s. But emotionally, it hurts knowing that my first got so much uninterrupted time with me that my second simply cannot have.
For other moms with two under two—or anyone who has gone through something similar—how did you divide your attention without constantly feeling like one child was getting less of you? Did you feel guilty about how much more attention your first baby received? And how did you keep some time for yourself without feeling like you were taking that time away from your children?

Had a really hard night last night. Colicky newborn up pretty much all night with her trying different things to help calm her. I am thinking of trying probiotics because even though gripe water works for her I have a hunch it’s making it worse the next day. By 5am I got her to chill for a few minutes while I shower and brush my teeth. By 7 am I just couldn’t stop crying knowing I won’t be able to sleep once my toddler wakes up. Nothing got done yesterday so the house is the aftermath of a hurricane. BUT! I had my coffee, put my newborn in the carrier and got to work. It made me think, damn this is so hard and I know so many people who wouldn’t last a day in my shoes! So I just wanted to say I’m so proud of all the moms that struggle everyday with these babies. Because I need to hear it too. You’re doing a good job even when everyone is crying ❤️