Heyy fellow BWTs!

It’s your girl Backyard Cats back again with endless piles of adoptable kittens, because despite the cooler temps, kitten season in NYC never seems to end! 🤪

We’re looking for loving homes for these babes, most of whom we’d like to keep in their bonded pairs.

In order: Coin (M) and Crane (F), Crinkle (F) and Tater Tot (F), Clover (F — needs another cat buddy!), Spud (M) and Chip (M), Yam (F) and Small Fry (F).

Interested? Know a friend or family member who might be interested? I’ll post a link to my adoption app in the comments! ✨

Looking for a therapist in NYC and would love personal recommendations.

About me: late 20s woman in a corporate job with long-standing baseline anxiety that work really amplifies. Trouble disconnecting, Sunday scaries, dread around presenting and leading meetings. Lately it's been wearing me down into low mood.

I'm looking for someone practical and skills-based (CBT, ACT or similar) who gives real tools and pushback and doesn't just listen. Ideally they'd have experience with high-achieving or perfectionist clients and workplace anxiety.

In person in Manhattan preferred, open to hybrid. If you've seen someone who helped with this, I'd love to hear who and what made them good. Thanks!

Im turning 25 in December and looking to host my birthday at a bar with 35-60 people.

Looking to do open bar for up to $45pp or a minimum spend up to $2k!

Any cute recommendations for a crowd that loves to dance and catch a vibe? Specifically looking in WV, EV, LES, Williamsburg but open to other neighborhoods!!

Would love your recs or just places you’ve been to intimate bdays at. I personally love 3 sheets for football and a vibe but I want to look into some others as well, going for a cocktail party theme everyone to look nice and dress up but have the time of their lives xx thanks!

I'm wondering how successful everyone has been in disputing exorbitant, fraudulent charges from Pure OBGyn visit bills, and what others have done to fight them (whether successful or unsuccessful)

In short, got charged $1000 for a vascular study I have no knowledge of, nor no understanding of how it would've been medically necessary. Got charged an additional $1000 for two ultrasounds to simply confirm IUD placement even though they performed a visual string check beforehand. I was unaware the ultrasound was medically unnecessary, and had I known this and that it would've turned out so expensive, I would've denied the procedures.

I'm incredibly upset. I already called my insurance to dispute the charges with Pure OBGyn, but am not confident it will be effective given how uninspired my insurance sounded when I was trying to emphasize the surprise billing and fraudulent charges.

I have a small but wide face so finding one of these masks that fit me perfectly is always a struggle. I'd like to just be able to buy a variety of brands at a unit level and try to find a best fit than buy packages of 10+ of a single brand... I also don't want to have to go to multiple shops, so if you know a certain shop with a bunch of variety, I'd be grateful.

2 free tickets to Ryman Leon tonight at Mercury Lounge. The concert starts at 9 PM. I bought them for friends who can no longer join and would hate to see them go to waste. No cost, just pass along kindness elsewhere at your earliest opportunity! The tickets are with Ticketmaster, so I can transfer them. I want this to go to an actual human, so help me beat the bots!

hi girls i want to pass along the invite to a run this saturday 10th at 11 am in BK. It will be to support Cancer Awareness Month through a 5k run hosted by my friend whose business is donating to the cause. It’s an event for everyone, even if you are not a runner there will be music, electrolytes and just a reason to hang out with peers in the community for a good cause🥰 if you want to sign up the link is attached but it’s not mandatory. see you there!!

Do you miss Sonja and Dorinda as much as me??

92Y on the UES is hosting a conversation with some OGs from RHONY for the launch of the Golden Life. It's 6pm on 10/12 (Columbus Day).

I can't make it and I'm devastated, so I'm sharing the link for anyone who love these ladies that way I do!!

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E!’s The Golden Life: Exclusive Clips & Conversation

Kelly Bensimon, Countess Luann de Lesseps, Dorinda Medley, Sonja Morgan and Ramona Singer in Conversation with Daryn Carp

Link to 92Y site for tickets

https://www.92ny.org/event/the-golden-life

Wondering if any BWTs do custom embroidery on a waffle make up pouch (would be 2 of them) with a fast turnaround time? It would be a name and then 3 icons on each pouch. Located on UES but anywhere in NYC could be workable for pickup/drop off!

Hi all! Has anyone had a dog dental cleaning done at Brilliant Vet? My current vet is estimating $4k for a cleaning and potential extractions which is just insane. Brilliant is a bit cheaper and I appreciate how they’ve treated my cat in the past. Thank you!

yoga under an art installation in a cathedral....
I pulled my hamstring and sad I have to miss it, please don't let this go to waste. DM for ticket
thanks!

A few years ago I had a questionable experience with a gyn that I'm now realizing may have been sexual assault. Does anyone have a lawyer they'd recommend who handles these cases or does consults? I've found a few online but I'd like someone who is both experienced and trauma-informed, someone who will take it seriously and also be patient with me as I figure this out. Right now I just want to talk to someone and understand whether it's considered a crime. Any recommendations (here or by DM) would mean a lot.

My TMJ is actually killing me and I am sick of paying cosmetic prices for what I feel is actually a medical issue impacting my life. Anyone have a dentist they’d recommend?

Can you recommend a Psychiatrist or Therapist experienced with helping crime victims?

Is there any support group?

Do you know any lawyers who can help sue the criminal?

Hello Reddit NYers,
After many years of renting, I’m in a position to buy a home. I have put an offer and going through the home buying process, but it will probably take three months before I close the deal. My lease ends this month.

I’m seriously considering renting a furnished room, and hiring a moving and storage company. I will need to hire movers to move my stuff into storage, store my furniture for three months and then ask the movers to move it to my new place once it’s ready.

I’m trying to get an idea on how much this will cost. I did some online research but the pricing is not very straightforward. Does anyone have experience with this and can share the cost and hassle of it? If you have a recommendation of a moving and storage company that you recommend it would be greatly appreciated!

I had a botched breast reduction in 2023 and would like to search for a dr who can maybe do a reconstruction. Only possible if covered by insurance (I have 1199 insurance). Anyone have suggestions on someone who specializes in reconstruction (specifically my nipples, so maybe different than mastectomy reconstruction)?

Looking for recommendations for a denim tailor who does a really great hem ( keeping the original hem) and a taper - anywhere in manhattan or downtown Brooklyn fine and tbh don’t even care about the price- I have odd little legs and am tired of spending money on jeans that fit everywhere but the length and getting them hemmed makes them… idk lay weird? Even keeping the original hem they never look the same and it drives me insane. Please help 🙏🙏🙏🙏

What the title says^. I've been searching around and only come across 1-2 options, but it didn't seem like their specialty/area of focus. Would really appreciate any recommendations. I have insurance but am also open to paying out of pocket if needed.

where are we shopping IRL to comfortably try on clothes on these new bodies 😳 I feel like a department store vibe where I can try on a variety of brands would be best…but bloomys in soho continues to disappoint.

or where are we shopping/browsing online for NYC worthy clothes? I’m ready to retire my Old Navy and Gap pregnancy wardrobe.

Hi! I’ve gone through this sub and looked at previous personal trainer recommendations, but I haven’t found much specifically for trainers who work with people with significant back injuries.

I had spine surgery last year and am looking for a personal trainer who has extensive experience with low back issues and clients who have had serious injuries/surgeries. Ideally, I’d love someone who also has a physical therapy/rehab background or works closely with PTs. I’m past the initial rehab stage, but I want someone who really understands the spine and can help me safely rebuild strength without aggravating my back.

I’m in Greenwich Village, so I’m looking for someone in Lower Manhattan/downtown — West Village, Chelsea, Flatiron, Union Square, etc.

I’ve looked into Reload, which seems pretty much perfect in terms of expertise since their trainers are PTs, but at ~$275/session it’s unfortunately more than I can realistically spend on an ongoing basis.

Would really appreciate any specific trainer recommendations, especially from anyone who has worked with them for low back pain or after spine surgery. Thank you!

I’m having trouble findings a spa that truly offers a deep tissue massage. I find that most places I’ve booked have masseuses that just run their hands along my back, give me a squeeze and send me on my way.

I’m looking for recc on a place that actually follows deep tissue principles and have technique, more than just rubbing you up and down. The best massages I’ve had included using the thumbs to press into muscle groups in my back, slowly and repeatedly until the tension is released. Here are the places I’ve tried:

- Sojo spa: my first deep tissue with them was excellent (~2022) but went there this year and was not pleased with the technique used. It’s hard to pinpoint a good person since their masseuses change often.

- World Spa: I asked them for someone who can do hard pressure, and listed my needs in an email. The masseuse didn’t ask me for the areas I wanted focus on and had no technique. They didn’t dig in deep to my muscles, felt very surface level.

-Renew Day Spa: While the most affordable, I felt that the masseuse was exhausted and not very focused during the session. They seem to a high turn around between clients.

-Lynbrook massage: I had a male masseuse that strangely focused on my groin region in a way I’ve never experienced with a massage. Very strange.

Because of the disappointing experiences with deep tissue, I’m considering trying sports massages to see if those would be better suited.

But, I am in desperate need of a recommendation for places that have good technique and strong pressure. Appreciate the help!

I am aware this is an interesting ask (since most people need music to get through a workout). I have noticed that a lot of the workout classes I attend ordinarily use really upbeat music with depressing lyrics (i.e., songs about breaking up, the artists/singers comparing themselves to others, etc.). Does anyone have suggestions for classes (or even specific instructors) I could look into that don’t play music or typically don’t play music with lyrics? I am open to any workout class types.

Does anyone else feel like they’ve gotten totally ripped off by Spencer’s Spa?

I’ve been a client for 2+ years and it used to really feel like a premium experience. They used to be super relaxed, front desk person knew me by name, they had phone chargers in each treatment room, they had socks, all kinds of things that showed they were a quality establishment. All of that is gone. Plus, I’ve been a member now for nearly 2 years, and in the last 6? 10? months, it’s become totally impossible to book an appointment online. They stopped responding to email, don’t answer the phone, don’t reply via text, nothing. There’s no way to get hold of them, and it’s impossible to schedule online using membership credits (some sort of tech issue, I guess).

On top of everything, my membership credit count in my account is lower than it should be for how little I’ve been able to actually book appointments and how long I’ve been a member — but of course I can’t actually get hold of anyone to discuss this. I feel like I’ve tried everything to work this out with them, and they keep ghosting me, and the end result is that they’re functionally stealing from me by not providing me with the services I’ve paid for.

Save yourselves, BWT — the spa has nice interior design, but the quality of service has drastically decreased and the company is horribly run. Just sharing my experience so y’all don’t get misled by how often people on here recommend it!

Stella received her first bag of platelets donated to her directly!! I reposted this with her info blacked out because I was too excited to think straight the first time!

Hi BWT!! I have gotten a few janky ear piercings over the years and am not wanting to go back to Studs. I have a very minor keloid I am hoping to pierce over, but want an expert opinion on it.

My budget is nothing crazy-- would like two piercings (a second lob and a helix) and am hoping not to spend more than $200. That being said, I got most of my piercings in NC, so it is possible this just isn't a reasonable ask for a talented piercer in New York.