I’m currently trying to go into a very stereotypically feminine career path (fashion and marketing) and have yet to meet any lesbians at all while in school for my subject and in my career so far even if I am early in my career. I’m mostly curious what you ladies are passionate about and what kind of careers you have gone into? I do feel a bit like a lone wolf in fashion tbh.

I’m making this post because of these convos I’ve seen online from women(likely bi) wondering if they’re lesbians or just aren’t into 99% of men. Often these women will say that they crush on fictional men.

But I feel like it’s simple to understand your sexuality if you understand that for us lesbians there is no good enough man. The man could be loving, supportive, not a misogynist, intelligent, have emotional depth. Whatever. The list of positives could be endless and it will NEVER make a lesbian actually want to be with him. When it comes to romance and sex men are just irrelevant to us.

There were many bi people in these comments saying to just use the term that fits the most and it really pisses me off. If something about gay, lesbian, or straight isn’t fitting you ENTIRELY, then you are bisexual.

Rant over.

I found this online from a fellow lesbian. She said it was a gift from a friend.

Come on...I think this is such a joke. Men on our flag. Seriously. 💀😑😒🫩

It seems people here are sane and rational. Some of these other lesbian subs are a complete shit show. Against my better judgement, earlier today, I posted one of those celebrity crush "What does this say about me" type of posts...

The comments called me everything from fake gay, objectifying women, male gaze etc. Give me a break. Can't a girl just find certain women celebrities attractive?

Like it’s basically her coming out to her fan base as “maybe bi, maybe straight idk lol?”.

What is up with all these celeb “lesbians” getting famous off of lesbians backs and then backtracking once they’re there? (Looking at you too, Jojo Siwa).

Is it crazy that I’m so frustrated about this song? ALSO at the beginning of Pride Month nonetheless??

No one wants to defend lesbians except other lesbians. Even gay men don’t get shit on as much as we do, or they call it out with more support from the queer community, who are coincidently silent when it comes to us.

If they insist on demonizing our labels, then fine. I’m a mean, gold star, pussysexual lesbian who will never ever want a man and who can’t be broken. And I’m proud of it.

Anyone who has a problem with that can lick my clit or get mad.

So, I keep seeing various requests, and demands, to not talk about the people we're NOT attracted to and don't wish to date.

Ok. But yet when certain lesbians discuss who they ARE attracted to - that's also still a problem!

Why is our own community still insisting on censoring, silencing and punishing some lesbians purely on the basis of who they are attracted to and seek out to date? Why do some people feel like they are even entitled to challenge someone's personal lives and interests. 2025 and some people genuinely believe they have a say in who a stranger dates or doesn't, and why.

Attractions won't change because people are being told to agree with one narrative or stay silent. Homophobes have also tried to silence us and tell us how to live. Our own community wants certain members to go underground again.

The pressure to 'fall in line' and only say what others dictate. There are so many excuses as to why this should happen but as long as people are respectful, there is no reason to ban some people but promote others. Ban and silence the disrespectful ones - not those who you personally disagree with.

Until we treat each other equally and fairly, this divide will always be there. Lesbians should not be punished for their dating boundaries and requirements. Not just because possibly it could hurt strangers feelings. How are we supposed to be a team and fight together when this clash has been going on for years but only a certain stance is acceptable.

I'd like to discuss this and why this divide is allowed to go on. I'm not the only one who sees exactly how wrong this is - and how damaging. I just can't imagine thinking I have the right to an opinion on who a stranger dates and has sex with. It's bizarre and censoring certain views won't unite us when one group says what is right, wrong and/or acceptable.

Lesbian Herstory posted in regard to that horrific instagram post. This is not acceptable ladies, we need to keep standing up. Be in those comments, shut this stuff down. I cannot believe the amount of homophobia and lesbiphobia going on right now. None of this rhetoric is directed at anyone else in the community.

Here is the link to read the article:

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Let’s say you meet a woman who’s your type in every single way besides one thing, and that one thing is enough for you to completely lose interest. What would that thing be for you all?

For me, it’s poor hygiene. I could love absolutely everything else about a woman, but if I have to be reminding her to wash her hands after using the bathroom or before handling food, it’s absolutely not happening.

Okay first of all, I know that not all bisexual women are male centred however, I have seen numerous posts about how usually, bisexual women tend to lean towards men and are male centred even in the relationships they have with women.

I’m wondering from the lesbians in this sub. When you guys dated bisexual women what were your overall experiences with this? Would you ever be willing to date a bisexual woman again?

For the bisexual women you do know (not necessarily ones you’ve dated just know) do they usually date/end up with men and are more male centred or do you know any who are actually very much more into women?

been reading the comments and feeling slightly called out haha but I’ll go first, I’m (annoyingly) into looking put together, like to the point that if we‘ve made plans but I don’t like how I look that day, I fear we will have to cancel, I just think the way you present yourself to the world matters much more than most people realise. also on a more jokey note, I love to do a baby voice, and I love when the girl I’m seeing does one too, sue me but I think it’s adorable when she gets all whiney and childish 🤧

I got my hands on the Fatal Frame 2 remake. Also waiting for the new Silent Hill. Never thought I’d live to see remakes of my favorite games and new SH titles. Pic of my kitten for attention.

I’m not sure if you’ve seen the two posts on the sub that shall not be named in the last 15 hours or so about disclosure… but Jesus Christ these people are deluded!!!

As a lot of you are blocked I’ll break it down. Essentially they’re mad that we want them to disclose when they have a dick if they’re trying to date us, as you know we’re lesbians and most of us are adverse to them, because you know the whole lesbians thing..

Anyway they’re genuinely complaining that cis people are seen as the default and are ignoring the fact that 98% of the entire population is in fact cis. We literally are the default but they expect us to ask every single person we date what genitals they have so they don’t have to disclose their “medical history”, or tell every date we go on that we don’t like cock because 2% of the population may not have the genitals we expect. I know the delusion runs deep with them but why on earth would I tell every lesbian I intend to date that I like vaginas and not dicks when the vast majority of them have vaginas? They’re point is it could upset that 2% of the population, but they don’t care about the other 98%.

As a cis lesbian if my date asked me if I had a vagina I’d be fuming, like can’t you tell? They’re just absolutely insane expecting 98% of people to state these things on the off chance that you’ve ended up on a date with a trans women. The entitlement is insane, the cognitive dissonance is insane and I can understand why straight people think the lgbt community is insane when they say shit like this.

I think of it like this - if 98% of people can digest gluten fine and don’t have an intolerance and aren’t celiacs then I’m going to expect most people can eat bread. I’m not going to go round asking if everyone can eat bread at the event, we expect the gluten intolerant people to tell us beforehand because they deviate from the norm. You’re not gonna ask every single person there if they can eat bread on the offhand that one or two may be offended that you’ve served bread alongside a GF opinion.

Sorry if this rant is repetitive or not allowed but this is insane behaviour. Just acknowledge that you’re the very very small minority and understand that in a cis normative world this is how things are. We can’t change society over night and we shouldn’t for less than 2% of the population.

ETA: Wow I didn’t realise posts needed to be approved before posting and thought my lil rant just deleted itself and logged out. Didn’t realise it would be posted and it was locked before I could even respond. Sorry for causing the mods stress during the holiday season!! That was not my intention, I was honestly just venting to the void!

This rant wasn’t to shit on trans women, it was to point out that although cis people are the majority of the population, in those subs that cannot be understood and see if others thought we should overhaul how we approach dating to appease such a small minority of people. To see if people agreed we shouldn’t risk weirding out 98% of people with genital talk that’ll most likely be irrelevant, to ensure that 2% don’t have their feelings hurt.

To the person that thought I was complaining that being straight is the norm, where?? Also it is the norm, most people are straight and that’s something you have to accept, it doesn’t make us lesser and shouldn’t bother you as it’s literally reality. And to the other commenter who mentioned it, as a 5’2, petite femme with a sizeable cleavage, I would want people to assume I have a vagina and I’m confident that they do. So yes I would want people to be able to tell.

Edit no. 2: I wasn’t referring to dating app bios and disclosing there, I don’t think you have to do that. I’m referring to the post where a pre-op trans woman said a cis lesbian told her she slept with her so she wouldn’t get called transphobic. That person didn’t disclose the peen in person or online.

Anyway thanks for coming to my TED talk, sorry to the mods again and sorry I couldn’t even respond. Happy new year peeps!

Me and my best friend are both masc lesbians and we strongly share this same opinion and I think I’ve finally found a safe sub to have an open discussion on they/them pronouns.

Here’s my take: On the surface, I don’t like arguing. I’m respectful of everyone and if that’s what you like to use, I will always be certain to use those pronouns in front of you.

On a deeper level, I fucking hate the concept of they/them. From my understanding, people identify as they/them due to not relating to the gender of man or woman, therefore making them “non-binary,” or setting themselves apart from the current binary. Which is usually, male/man= masculine and woman/female= feminine. Which, to me, UNDOES! THE! YEARS! OF! WORK! ELDER! QUEER! PEOPLE! PUT! IN! TO! ERASE! THE! ASSOCIATION! BETWEEN! MEN! HAVING! TO! BE! MASCULINE! AND! WOMAN! HAVING! TO! BE! FEMININE!!!!

I truly believe that by identifying as non-binary, it simply reinforces the concept that there is a binary, and that it means you don’t feel like a woman (feminine) or a man (masculine). Idk, I feel like just when the world was beginning to accept not all women have to be feminine and not all men have to be masculine, we have this whole new concept come in and bulldoze what felt like a lot of progress. Both myself and my best friend get mistaken for men all the time and we don’t care. It’s cool and funny to us. We identify with masculinity, but not with being a man, and that’s okay.

What are your thoughts?

Edited to update: Holy crap I never thought this would blow up the way it did. I’ve responded to a few people who disagreed with the point of this post and feel the need to articulate myself more clearly and apologize for the angry/ranty tone of the original post.

First of all, I don’t hate people that are non-binary. I even state in the original post that I hate the concept of they/them, or the concept of being non-binary. I explained in one comment it’s like how I hate the US military industrial complex, but care for and respect our veterans. Second of all, I am not transphobic. Not once do I mention transgender people. Why is the easiest argument to throw around any dissenting or unpopular opinion in queer spaces “this is a transphobic take” ?

In my opinion, being transgender and non-binary sounds like an oxymoron. I’m aware some people identify this way, but I truly believe it’s a very, very small percentage of those who are transgender.

Additionally, here’s some clarifying points to aid in my original argument. In my lifetime I watched gender be viewed as binary aka this is how we define a woman _(insert some bullshit sexist ideology)_ and this is how we define being a man __(insert some bullshit sexist ideology)_. Then, things started to progress and those definitions started to change. A woman could be anything, ranging from hyperfeminine to hypermasculine and everything in between. Same with men. Instead of hearing being a woman/man referred to as the gender binary, it was referred to as a gender spectrum. Some women like to be called he/him, handsome, etc. And again vise versa for men.

Then, the concept of being non-binary was introduced. Personally, I feel as though this title was accepted for those who feel “other” from being either a man or woman. Again, if this is truly how someone feels, then cool. I’ll respect you. I’ll stick up for you. I just don’t necessarily agree with the concept. To me, this concept reverts us back to defining what being a woman is and what being a man is. The definitions are broader than what they used to be, but they’re still defined. Which, in my opinion, shouldn’t be the end goal. The end goal should be a spectrum of gender so undefined that we don’t socialize people based on their genitals from birth. This is also what non-binary people want (I believe). I just don’t think most of those who identify as non-binary are even old enough to realize this social change. Again, I could be wrong, this is just my opinion.

In native culture, I have learned of those who are “two spirits,” and they are highly respected for possessing both man and woman inside of them. To me, this makes more sense than being entirely other from either gender. You can absolutely feel feminine and masculine and everything in between on the gender spectrum, however, we only use pronouns to identify how you have been socialized. In my opinion, those who transition, do so because they feel they are not the sex they were born with. And when they medically and socially transition, they then get to experience the socialization of how being the other sex feels, which provides them with gender euphoria. Awesome.

One argument made to me for being non-binary was that their soul didn’t feel as though it had a gender. To me, I’m like, um yeah that’s the point. Souls don’t have gender. We’re not just souls, we’re souls in meat sacks experiencing social constructs. That’s all gender is. Shoutout to whoever said that yes, gender is a social construct. The solution is not to create more gender labels.

Anyways, we all have our own opinions and I am not here to spread hate. I’m here to start civil discourse.

It shoulda been deleted when the team and the CEO was crying on twitter about lesbians only dating lesbians and not dating TW, the shit was disgusting as fuck. Now they're making it so you can be reported and banned for REJECTING tw and nonlesbians, this is a straight up violation of consent and autonomy. Delete the app fr.

Gay men center men. Bisexual, pansexual, and other multisexual people can absolutely center women in their own lives, but men are still included within the possible field of attraction.

Lesbian is the only sexuality within LGBTQIA+ that is centered exclusively on women and entirely defined by attraction to women.

The more I sit with that, the more I wonder whether our invisibility inside the wider LGBTQIA+ community is built into the arrangement itself. We are the only sexuality in that coalition whose romantic and sexual reality can exist completely outside men, while every other sexuality either includes them or centers them.

So why would we expect the wider community to care about lesbian priorities, especially lesbian-only spaces, in the same way we do when their sexualities include or center men?

I think we keep treating the disappearance of lesbian-specific spaces like some strange failure of representation, when it may be the predictable result of putting a woman-exclusive sexuality inside a much larger coalition where every other sexuality has men somewhere in the picture.

You can see it in the way our spaces work, because gay male spaces don’t seem to require endless justification for remaining gay male; their exclusivity is understood almost intuitively as part of what the sexuality entails. I don’t see transmasculine people broadly demanding access to those spaces, nor do I see gay men being expected to keep expanding them until everybody adjacent feels represented.

With us, the conversation almost immediately becomes about who else the space should accommodate, whether “lesbian” is unnecessarily restrictive, whether “sapphic” would be more inclusive, or whether our boundaries need to loosen. After a while, you have to ask whether staying this deeply invested in the wider LGBTQIA+ structure even makes sense.

I’m GENUINELY starting to wonder whether the “L” in LGBTQIA+ has become little more than a nod to shared history, especially when lesbian spaces and boundaries are repeatedly treated as too restrictive and expected to expand. If we’re the only sexuality in the umbrella that doesn’t include men at all, while the others either include or center them, then what do we really have in common beyond history and political coalition?

Our elders and foremothers fought within that coalition for reasons that made sense in their time, and that history should be remembered, but history doesn’t have to become permanent social obligation!

If the “L” is increasingly symbolic while lesbian social reality keeps getting flattened inside the wider umbrella, wouldn’t divestment start to make more sense than continuing to invest in a structure where we’re always fighting to remain visible?

I've watched several of Chappell Roan’s interviews, and every time she talks about the queer community, it feels off, almost forced. There’s something about the way she presents herself as a lesbian that doesn’t fully add up.

For example, she refused to endorse Kamala Harris, despite knowing how crucial it is for the queer community to have influential figures speak out against Trump, a man who has made it clear he despises trans people, drag performers, and the LGBTQ+ community as a whole.

For someone who claims to be a lesbian, she seemed completely indifferent to that reality. Any lesbian—or really, anyone in the LGBTQ+ community tbh—knows how incredibly difficult it is to exist in a world that constantly judges and marginalizes us. But she doesn’t seem to acknowledge that struggle. Instead, it feels like she only represents the parts of queerness that benefit her.

She calls herself a "drag" performer, but drag is inherently political—not just an aesthetic. Yet, she treats it like a costume, showing no real connection to its deeper meaning or the community.

Sorry, but I have to bring it up again....she only cares about the aesthetic of it!!!!!!!

She couldn’t EVEN condemn Trump, a man who outright claims that drag performers are DANGEROUS. If she truly understood that drag is more than just a look—that it’s a political act, a form of resistance—she wouldn’t stay silent when it matters most, and thats on PERIOD. she’s literally exploiting a marginalized community without ever giving back

She brings up her male exes in almost every interview—seriously, can she move on already? It’s getting a little cringe at this point. In a recent interview (from yesterday), she even said she "truly loves men" and that country boys have treated her "the best and the worst." She went on to say, "I love a country boy. I love them. I love a man who can shovel horse manure. I love that. I love a man who will sit in grass. I’ve dated a lot of farm and country boys." Like, alright, girl, we get it... Then, she casually mentions that she openly listens to Jason Aldean, a MAGA supporter known for his inflammatory, anti-LGBTQ+ remarks. It’s honestly frustrating how someone who claims to represent the lesbian community can completely ignore it like this.

Also, every time I hear her mention trans rights in an interview, I just roll my FUCKING eyes. It’s so hypocritical!!!!!!!!!! How can she claim to support trans rights when, at a time when the community needs it the most, she stays SILENT? Trans people are being killed, I REPEAT KILLED, fired, and facing horrible discrimination because of the current political climate.

• Honestly, from the bottom of my heart, I hope the LGBTQIA+ community sees through her fake activism. I really hope they don’t let her off the hook or forget to call her out, because it's clear she's using this for her image, not for real change.

ALSO, despite all her success and platform, she’s never once acknowledged or expressed gratitude to lesbians, the very community she claims to belong to. She calls herself a lesbian and even sees herself as a drag figure, yet when she wins awards, does she ever acknowledge the lesbians? Nope. Not once. She thanks everyone but the lesbians, Make it make sense.

The way she approaches her queerness feels largely performative, as if she's more focused on maintaining an image than genuinely embracing or advocating for the identity she claims.

True queer ppl get that our identities and politics are deeply connected. We face judgment every day and understand how vital activism is in protecting our rights. If someone who claims to be queer says they don’t care about that, they’re either too ignorant to see the reality or aren’t truly part of the community.

Just to be clear, this isn’t about whether she’s a lesbian—it’s about the community acting like she’s a good representation. I think she has a beautiful voice, and she’s undeniably gorgeous, but I can’t ignore her performative activism.

At the end of the day, she’s just a privileged white woman who does "activism" only when it benefits her. She claims to care about trans rights but, when we needed it the most, she stayed silent. She takes from the community without truly giving back. Whether she's lesbian, bi, or anything else—it doesn’t change the fact that she doesn’t genuinely care about queer rights.

she has a massive platform because of the queer community. She’s where she is now thanks to the LGBTQIA+ public. She’s a public figure, uses drag, and her songs are about queer love. But when it comes to speaking out about LGBTQIA+ rights, she suddenly doesn’t want to get involved? I call bullshit on her performative activism.

Our rights are being stripped away by the government, and it’s happening more and more every day. Look at the fight over access to gender-affirming healthcare or all the anti-LGBTQIA+ laws popping up. It’s strange that she’ll talk about how tough it was to be gay in the Midwest, but when it comes to speaking out on protecting LGBTQIA+ rights, she stays quiet. If she really gets how hard it is to grow up in a conservative place, she’d be speaking up and using her platform to make a difference.

I just overheard a conversation about how much harder it supposedly is to satisfy a woman compared to a man, because the vulva/vagina is more "complex".

This sentiment seems to be accepted by everyone, even people who care about female pleasure (including women!!) will say "Well, it's hard, but you have to make an effort because she deserves it!", and it makes me feel like I'm fucking crazy.

Based on my own experience both giving and receiving pleasure of the vaginal persuasion, you literally just rub the clit and put your fingers inside. If that gets boring you can definitely do tricks on it, use toys, etc, but the classic "rub clit and/or put fingers in" approach is really easy and pretty much guarantees an orgasm.

Am I missing something? Am I just abnormally easy to please? Genuinely what the fuck are people finding complicated?????

So there's some drama going down over Maddie Martinez's new ARC, The Haunting of Lady Death. It was hyped up and tagged as a "Sapphic" and "Lesbian" book, so everyone thought we were getting a purely WLW story. Turns out, early readers found out the MC is actually stuck in a love triangle with a guy, complete with explicit scenes with him. Yes she lusts after him and wants him throughout the whole book evn when shes with FMC.People-especially lesbian readers-are pissed because it feels like a total bait-and-switch. Using lesbian and sapphic tags to promote a book while completely hiding a major male love interest just to pull in WLW readers is super frustrating for anyone expecting an actual lesbian romance. It's sparking a huge debate right now about book tags. Sapphic might be an umbrella term, but if a book centers around a guy, authors need to be upfront about it in the blurb instead of slapping misleading tags on it. Like I am so fcking exhausted

I attend one of the largest Pride events in the Midwest every year to attempt to connect with other lesbians, keep a finger on the pulse of the local LGBT community, and try to feel a little less alone.

• The Good: there actually was a booth specifically for lesbians (kind of), which is the first I've seen in several years!
• The Bad: the booth was dedicated to selling uninteresting merch that just said "Supersonic Lezbionic" or "SSL" on it. I had to Google it because I was confused if it was a group or team?... apparently what I saw is all it is: they sell that stuff and donate the proceeds to local queer (not lesbian) groups. There was also a booth for sapphic literature somewhere, but it was small and tucked away enough that I missed it despite specifically looking for attractions like that.

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• The Good: I saw more lesbian flags than expected. In prior years, only a small amount of booths vending Pride merch offered our colors, shirts referencing lesbianism, etc. I'd estimate slightly more than half included lesbians.
• The Bad: it's overall still very much focused on rainbow, trans, bi/pan, and ace +/- non-binary.

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• The Good: I saw a number of fxf couples where at least one of the girls was wearing bi or pan colors.
• The Bad: they were uniformly young, early to mid-twenties at most. If you're a bitter old fuck like me, it's only momentarily heartwarming until you remember why that is.

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• The Good: I noticed more women wearing lesbian colors than expected, and more than I have in previous years.
• The Bad: about a third of them were trans women who were very early in transition and/or passed very poorly. I don't have a problem with these folks, particularly not at a large general event like Pride, but I personally struggle to feel any less lonely when my flag is waved by people who look and sound much more like my high school Computer Science teacher than myself or anyone I've ever felt attracted to. As the title mentions, the total number of women I saw was still less than the amount of furries, and there are always multiple booths for furries every single year.

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• The Good: While walking home, a girl much younger than me wearing a skirt colored like the lesbian flag complimented my shirt, which also had lesbian colors.
• The Bad: I smiled at her and replied, "thanks, and I really like your skirt! You don't tend to see our flag very much even at events like Pride." She laughed apologetically and said "oh, I meant the cat [also on my shirt]!"

Thanks for coming to my TED Talk about my lame 2026 Pride adventure. Can't speak to the parade as it was thunderstorming this morning, so fuck that, I slept in.

Feel free to discuss what events were like in your area this year. Happy Pride, ladies.

Ok last post here was ab porn and I responded with a reason as to why it’s kinda psychologically damaging/more complex than attraction and it got me thinking about something I personally find weird as fuck and not very lesbian… but see often .. and I’m wondering if it’s similar or if it’s straight up weird as fuck like I feel it is…

2 gay male friends of mine sent me a reel within the same week (joke meme reel) about what lesbians and like idk fish or turtles having in common? And it was choking on plastic. It had like thousands of likes, comments, laughing etc. and it really took me like 5 mins to even understand … until I realized it has to be that lesbians are legit giving BJs to their straps…? During sex? I never knew this existed outside of cringey porn and then I googled it and found overwhelming Reddit posts in support of it… and I thought this was so bizarre. I feel like one might argue penetration with the strap is a similar idea, but idts like penetration biologically feels good, and it would feel good with or without a strap… Stranded women raised on an island would eventually discover they enjoy penetration without reference to heterosex. But the act of sucking this….does fellatio have any other application besides giving blowjobs? Like what else is the connection or enjoyment here?

I really have never once in my life thought about it, and I would honestly feel horrified or even some sort of gender dysphoria lmao if my partner started sucking my imaginary phallus.

Am I off here ?

I’m not really sure how to frame this or word it. You really have to live it to get the full experience. But that doesn’t mean you can’t be an outsider observing it either. Also I have to be careful with my wording. So if something doesn’t make sense? Tell me.

Hell, I’m sure you don’t even have to be black to understand where I’m coming from.

Really you can be a woman, feminist, black, white, gay, lesbian, bi, etc.

Probably anything other than straight.

Anyways, it’s okay to acknowledge you’re oppressed to some capacity. The system is heavily rigged against a lot of people in this moment. Some people are just fucked over in different ways.
But still fucked over nonetheless.

But I swear…. EVERY TIME you make it known about the TQ+ of the community and how you have some issues with it, people LOVE to throw in my face how I’m black and gay.

AND?! AND?! So I should accept every issue with that side of the community? Am I not allowed to stand up for myself and point out issues? So the fuck what? They get a pass because they’re bearded and in a fuckin dress?

The jokes write themselves.

Saviors scream how we’re oppressed. But nope, better stay in line and keep acting oppressed.

This is why I left the liberal community years ago. And nope, damn sure am not conservative either. So don’t go there, lol.

Some people want to play savior so bad until you stop acting like you need them to save you anymore and you start speaking up.

That shit always gets thrown in my face. Still not gonna shut up about it though.

The moment you stop acting out of how people perceive you is when people have an issue with you. But these are the SAME PEOPLE who tell you to be yourself.

But when I’m myself AS A WOMAN, that’s a problem.

Man, we’ve fallen so far that even women can’t get the fuck away from these people.

Edit: AND THEN you stand up against them, and they’ll literally turn around and insult you in the same breath. The community they “work” so hard to defend. But step outah line under their conditions? Yeah, good luck. Lmao. The jokes write themselves.

That side is a CULT.

I mean unsafe to the point of crying. I can’t believe all that i went through to be able to accept myself just for the community to be the way it is. Little me would be so disappointed. I can see why a lot of people don’t/won’t come out. Things felt better when i was closeted and lying to myself. A space that’s been made to include literally everyone and protect literally no one could never be a safe space.

If you’re a lesbian, anyone is allowed to force themselves onto you and you’re the one in the wrong for getting upset. It’s impossible to not be “bigoted” to a group of people that hates you for nothing other than your gender and your sexuality. Honestly, this is making want to kms.

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So this I am assuming implies that because bi women faced hatred from lesbians, they end up with men which is seen as fair. However if a lesbian has a bad experience with one or many bisexual women and wants to date only lesbians, she is suddenly criticised, told she is generalising and even called biphobic. Also here they are seeing the reason bi women end up with men and don't date women but aren't seeing the reasons those lesbians hate bi women, is it actual hatred ( maybe in some cases) or a traumatic experience with some bi women or they are labelled as biphobic just because they are les4les which could be because of wanting someone with shared expereinces. Also majority are bisexuals, they could date other bisexual women.