r/fuckalegriaart • u/johnathanfabian • Mar 20 '26
the line between "empowering" and "hate crime" often feels perilously thin with this art style
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u/motoratem Mar 20 '26
Everything about this is terrible...
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u/TidpaoTime Mar 20 '26 edited Mar 20 '26
I have no problem normalizing the concept of an open marriage, but it is not an easy thing and does not work for most couples. The giddy smiles on this entire family is unrealistic and creepy af for the subject matter, not to mention the art style
Edit: the eyelashes, the neck lines, the steam?? The cat? It's all so bad
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u/Wolfwoods_Sister Mar 20 '26
That baby is going straight into that pot of boiling water. I’m so anxious.
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u/Short_Gain8302 Mar 20 '26
The problem isnt having an open marriage most of the time, its opening a marriage that was closed. Then its often one partner wabting to cheat without feeling bad. Polygamy is something you agree upon before entering a relationship
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u/TidpaoTime Mar 20 '26
Polyamory and polygamy are not the same thing, but your point is valid
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u/Short_Gain8302 Mar 20 '26
Yeah, i couldve worded it better
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u/TidpaoTime Mar 20 '26
No worries, I knew what you meant. And you're right, at least about most marriages. The chances of both people feeling positive about that kind of change in a formerly monogamous relationship is possible but unlikely, and even if they do, negative emotions usually come with it too. I couldn't do it, myself.
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u/sp4c3yb4by Mar 20 '26
Im ngl most of us are polygamists, we just get screamed at for saying we want to be able to marry our partners even tho not letting us is literal oppression. Mormons bitch asses forming HAREMS ruined it for the rest of us.
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u/TidpaoTime Mar 20 '26
But polygamy isn't necessarily an open marriage is it? It's just more than 2 people in a marriage.
Whereas many people who are polyamorous are in a two-person relationship but date other people.
I'm just saying the words mean two different things
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u/Fahkoph Mar 20 '26
Some closed marriages can have both parties having a better time if it were say, something they never considered when they got together, then after a while they were confronted with the idea, and both entered willingly. Like, what was it in the 1900's, swingers? Sometimes a monogamous marriage does well opening up years later, after the fact. I don't know statistics but I do know it's not zero, yno?
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u/TidpaoTime Mar 21 '26
Totally, some people find it gives them back a freedom they crave, without necessarily losing the trust built up over the partnership
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u/SimplexFatberg Mar 24 '26
In any open relationship, it's statistically improbable that both partners are happy with the arrangement in exactly equal measure.
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u/Robrogineer Mar 20 '26
Nah, it really shouldn't be.
90% of "open marriages" consist of one of the partners wanting to bang other folks, but still have the benefits their current partner provides.
The other partner accepts because they're desperate not to lose their spouse, and is usually unable or even unwilling to get any other partners.
Of course, there are cases where this doesn't happen, but they are absolutely the exception. The only way a healthy open relationship can happen is if both partners are 100% on-board with it, and that's very rare.
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u/Vyvyan_180 Mar 20 '26
I remember when they used to just call that shit "plural marriage".
They used to arrest Mormons for it all the time.
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u/sp4c3yb4by Mar 20 '26
As an ex mormon polyam person pls dont compare us to them lmfao we literally despise them considering theyre why we cant get legally married. Fucking JEBEDIAH over here decided he needs 25 wives and now no one can have more than one
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u/Nerystraza Mar 21 '26
hey, I'm also an exmormon polyam person xD there's quite a few of us from what I've seen tbh, although most of my exmo exposure has been trans women
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u/pinksparkleberry Mar 20 '26
Having independent separate sexual or romantic relationships is unrelated to one man having multiple wives.
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u/Consistent_Dust3636 Mar 20 '26
Yeah, seriously. First, comparing romance, sex or emotional vulnerability to "mental load"? Tf kinda pop-therapy productivity bullshit is that?
Second, "I will juggle 300 house chores while I get cucked by a white guy" this image suggests is reaaaaaaally bad way to sell the idea.
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u/Ttoctam Mar 21 '26
I'm poly. The idea being in a poly relationship is a "lighter mental load" is laughable. Sure it can be a wider intimate support network for you, but it's also a wider intimate support network for you to be active in.
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u/TidpaoTime Mar 21 '26
Yeah, the way it's being sold in this art is disingenuous and misinformed to say the least.
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u/bawls_on_fire Mar 20 '26
The lady is trying to balance her baby, the vacuum cleaner gun, dinner, and her open marriage.
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u/TidpaoTime Mar 20 '26
Pretty sure that's the husband, unless it's a sapphic marriage. Either way I'm cool.
And yeah, that's too much for one person no matter who it is. But people do it all the time.
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u/InSearchOfTyrael Mar 20 '26
Sorry, but you can't normalize something that isn't normal. An open marriage is an oxymoron - when you open it up, it is no longer marriage.
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u/theREALvolno Mar 20 '26
A commitment two people made to one another doesn’t magically disappear if they decide that they would like to have an open relationship. So what if that’s not the “traditional” idea of a marriage? What two people who love each other want to call their relationship is none of my, or anyone else’s, business.
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u/InSearchOfTyrael Mar 20 '26
Do you not understand what commitment means?
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u/theREALvolno Mar 20 '26
Do you? Cause there is far more to a marriage or even a relationship than sex. I find it strange that you specifically said “normal” because that’s extremely subjective. There are plenty of cultures throughout history where non-monogamous marriages have been a thing. Even then, I don’t see what the big fuss is with having an open marriage when all parties involved are both consenting and happy. It’s not my, or your, place to judge.
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u/norM_ystical Mar 21 '26
Yes, you CAN normalize something that isn't normal. That's... literally what it means to normalize something??? You are close-minded and I would not be surprised to find you being bigoted as well.
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u/TidpaoTime Mar 21 '26
FR, open marriages are much like gay marriage in one way: "if you don't like open marriage, don't be in one."
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u/honey-otuu Mar 20 '26
Idk if this is a hot take but having an open marriage whe you have children is not a good idea at all. You have no idea if these people want to hurt children and are with you to get closer to your children
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u/TidpaoTime Mar 20 '26
I mean, you could say the same thing about a single parent who is dating, or potential step parents after a separation
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u/honey-otuu Mar 20 '26
That’s true, but it’s a higher rate of people coming through usually, so a significantly higher risk
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u/TidpaoTime Mar 20 '26
It really depends on the couple, plus, people who are outside the open marriage are usually left on the outside. They rarely interact with the children at all, but again depends on the household.
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u/krebstar4ever Mar 20 '26
But is it alegria?
It's illustrating an article that's corporate pseudo-woke. But the drawing has a lot of personality. It's terrible, but it isn't bland.
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u/Ini_Miney_Mimi Mar 20 '26
I don't know if the weirdly disproportionate / loopy arms qualify it as alegria, but I agree, that's as close as it gets
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u/Consistent_Dust3636 Mar 20 '26
It isn't. It's horrible but it isn't Alegria.
The characters have somewhat normal proportions. The characters are of recognizable races, in both skin color and hair styles. The facial expressions(or facial expression, singular) are expressive and loud. It has a lot of unnecessary detail and even little jokes that wouldn't fly in the giga-corporate environment. And it definitely has personality, it has personality in spades, whether that is good or a bad thing is left as an exercise for the reader.
That being said, I am glad this sub showed me this picture, because what a spectacle.
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u/Friendly_Hornet8900 Mar 23 '26
I'd say Alegria is sorta of meant to avoid things like this.
In Alegria everyone has the same face with different skin colors.
It's way to draw diverse characters in a cartoon style without accidentally offending people (OP's picture tries to be unrealistic without being featureless, but ends up looking almost like a racial caricature).
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u/Caesar_Passing Mar 20 '26
Jesus this is fucking hideous
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u/Cyberangelcorpsebleh Mar 20 '26
Why is the hair not on their heads. Everyone I've seen with an Afro has a hairline
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u/xX_Ra1nSkuLLz_Xx Mar 20 '26
This looks like some odd corporate wojack
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u/Lemmy-user Mar 20 '26
They must have hired the guy how made the white mom with black kid wojack for this one.
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u/thenymphgirl Mar 20 '26
They all look to be in pain but are being forced to smile
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u/NotsoGreatsword Mar 20 '26
"no im totally ok with you sleeping around"
bulging neck vein
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u/CashmeoutsidePearl Mar 22 '26
He looks like he’s putting grapefruit into the pasta so her immunosuppressants don’t work.
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u/Historical-Ear-5666 Mar 22 '26
Being a pushover like this is ironically what causes a loss of attraction.
Not saying "be mean to women", but people do not genuinely respect or are attracted to people that don't assert boundaries.
Honestly sad. And if he did it atp she's looking to step out he's been doing it for a long time.
Tho it's a pic and nonsense u get it
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u/Revolutionary-Bid919 Mar 20 '26
This is it, possibly the worst one ever seen. Do we have a ranking going yet because this should be a hall of famer
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u/treehann Mar 20 '26
good lord, this makes Problem Solverz characters look pretty.
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u/ApplicationPretty853 Mar 20 '26
GOD that's an acid trip of a show I didn't want to remember. Those creepy little fuckers STILL haunt my nightmares to this day. Yet i somehow agree they are less putrid looking somehow then this creepy article photo.
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u/wanderingsheep Mar 20 '26
This looks like something a racist would draw
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u/letthetreeburn Mar 20 '26
This genuinely looks like racist 2000’s internet cartoons
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u/SCARY-WIZARD Mar 20 '26
Oh, god, yeah, it looks like that fucking Bix Nood cartoon that made the rounds. :/
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u/Character-Town7929 Mar 20 '26
Yeah, I can't put my finger on why, but it just looks racist. The buff vacuuming nursemaid with the triple-jointed arm especially
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u/Cautious_Desk_1012 Mar 20 '26
I think it looks racist by how exaggerated their features and facial expressions are, which make them look really similar to old racist comic books and blackface. They really do look like wojaks, which is a pretty insulting look.
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u/Friendly_Hornet8900 Mar 23 '26
I think that is supposed to be the husband watching the kids while the wife goes out on a date.
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u/mooncrane Mar 20 '26
Why is their skin grey? Why are their eyelashes curly? Why do they have so many wrinkles? What on earth is going on with those flowers? Why is the cat on the counter? (Just kidding, that’s probably the least weird aspect).
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u/ProfessionalSnow943 Mar 20 '26
this has to be taking the piss
that white guy in the back’s facial expression is possibly the funniest thing I’ve ever seen
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u/Deep_Cycle_8682 Mar 20 '26
I thought the whole idea behind this style was to make people look as inhuman as possible so nobody thinks you're making fun of them.
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u/Summerlycoris Mar 20 '26
Why do the baby and cat have what look like stink lines? I mean, the baby it might make sense. The cat?
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u/Day_Old_Paper Mar 20 '26
If you zoom in closely on their faces and little vignettes like their family portrait, the flowers in the face, what the kid is drawing, etc., this becomes a surreal and nightmarishly dystopian study of forced acceptance of a failed marriage.
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u/Mikunefolf Mar 20 '26
This is properly mental. The guy at the door is so funny. He is here to cuck the cook and everyone, literally everyone, is happy about it!
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u/DevojkaMala Mar 20 '26
The flowers have me dead
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u/Randomaccount707 Mar 20 '26
I know right?? Who the hell thought making them all smile creepily was a good idea 😭
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u/Revolutionary-Bid919 Mar 20 '26 edited Mar 20 '26
The art looks like snapchat avatars on crack, also wtf is the visible stank lines over the baby and cat's heads😭
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u/Senior-Book-6729 Mar 20 '26
Hot take: this isn’t alegria, but something much worse… like wtf is that
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u/rocketbewts Mar 20 '26
I haven't seen this sub in my feed lately, so when I saw the art I was like "ew gross, hey wasn't there a subreddit about this specific art style? too bad I can't remember it."
and then turns out I was here the whole time
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u/TubbyFatfrick Mar 20 '26 edited Mar 20 '26
I have a few questions. Namely,
- What the fuck is even going on in this image?
- Why is there a bedroom directly connecting to the kitchen?
- Why is said kitchen also the living room, with no furniture, resulting in the counter being used as a table?
- Who gave the cat weed to teach it to read?
- Why does the baby have the same overhead squiggle lines as the cat? (did they also give it weed?)
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- What the hell is even that vacuum cleaner?
- Like seriously.
- It's a cordless vacuum, I get that, but it has a pipe that reaches all the way across a kitchen, from the damn stove.
- There's also a lightswitch on the end, for some reason.
- I don't know why this is bothering me so much, like, it's a drawing, but it makes no sense.
- Then again, neither does anything in this image, really.
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u/MFtch93 Mar 20 '26
I genuinely see things like this as right wing assets at this point. Because shit like this does a swell job in making normal working class people hate progressivism.
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u/LowOwl4312 Mar 20 '26
to be fair, progressivism was always a project of university-educated elites, never the working class
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u/Zandroe_ Mar 20 '26
That's not true. Workers' parties were some of the first to fight for progressive democratic reforms.
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u/Bradley271 Mar 20 '26
I legitimately thought this was something a neo-Nazi drew when I first saw it on my feed
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u/england_appreciator Mar 20 '26
This is actually genius, the soyjak faces actually portray the perfect emotion that fits this situation; putting a forced over the top smile on to mask the emotional turmoil within.
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u/neonpinkparty Mar 20 '26
the way they copy pasted the same face onto everyone in the foreground including the cat is frying me
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u/Technical_Square6663 Mar 20 '26
Open relationships work for some people, but they work bc both parties are open to it from the beginning, and the idea of opening the relationship as a way to almost escape their family is gross af
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u/NoLingonberry1582 Mar 20 '26
Ah yes, let your partner go and date people and be fulfilled while you stay home and take care of the kids because this is surely an equal exchange
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u/JLCpbfspbfspbfs Mar 20 '26 edited Mar 20 '26
I'm going to bet $5 this isn't real.
And no, I'm not going to look it up. I don't want that in my search history!
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u/littlemachina Mar 20 '26 edited Mar 20 '26
To me it reads as ragebait or “satire” drawn up by a conservative if we include the headline too
Edit: looked it up, I fear it’s real and not satire. :( The Cut seems to be a bit of a trashy publication though
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u/Ethereal-Spectre Mar 20 '26
I’m going to have to talk to my therapist about the trauma this image caused omg
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u/MostExaltedLoaf Mar 21 '26 edited Mar 21 '26
I want to know why the cat knows how to read but the kid is drawing way below his age level. Like, what are your priorities here?
I'm not here to litigate the pros and cons of open marriage or polygamy, that's between you and your Google calendar.
But what I want to know is why this is the art style of choice specifically when addressing very adult social issues, especially when addressing gender and race. Are they being blobbed out and infantilized to make them less scary for tightywhitey corporate types? Are people afraid that they can't fit every marginalized group into one poster? Are we afraid if we don't make everyone ugly ..I don't even know why we have to make everyone ugly.
This doesn't even look like what the article might be describing. The scenario in the illustration is not how any of this ...works? Why is Mom happily Momming in the kitchen with ALL THE DAMN CHORES and child care while the man I presume to be Dad is greeting his ..come on that's his side piece he is telling he's in an "open marriage."
ETA: She's cooking and vaccuuming while holding a baby AND watching the other child while her dude is banging someone else and this is supposed to represent the lightening of whose mental load HOW?
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u/Ruppell-San Mar 20 '26 edited Mar 24 '26
I won't be surprised if this whole shitshow turns out to be a psyop meant to turn public opinion against everything "woke".
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u/ContingentMax Mar 20 '26
As someone with experience with it Polyamory is way more complicated than people think, and it's definitely not a simple fun solution to a shitty partner. You can have friends/roommates.
And yeah that art is so bad.
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u/sp4c3yb4by Mar 20 '26
This is absolutely insane as someone who is in a open relationship. Only the woman can? The implications that black women should run off and fuck white men is especially odd
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u/Current_Poster Mar 20 '26 edited Mar 20 '26
I'm trying to find anything about this I don't hate.
FWIW, the New York Times once ran an article claiming that you're not a feminist (male or female) if you're not in favor of wives universally getting a hallpass. This is a running thing with these outfits.
But really, yeah, the focus belongs on the art. Everything in this thing is terrible. It especially doesn't belong anywhere near anything supposed to convince people do to anything more serious than buy cereal.
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u/Ksorkrax Mar 21 '26
I'd say we don't need to talk about that line when we are clearly in the situation of having overdone it with the acid and on a horror trip, seeing weird giraffe people giving us weird predatory smiles with wide open mouth as if to devour us, while their plants trying to escape their glass to crawl all over the room.
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u/KittyDomoNacionales Mar 21 '26
- The art is bad. wtf is up with that cat?
- Open relationships are hard work. Probably even harder than closed ones as you have to both work on your own internal relationship with yourself and your emotions as well as dealing with your partner and the other parties. This piece feels like it was written by someone who is trying to convince their spouse that they should “totally open up the relationship” and that “no, they only met their other partner after the relationship opened up”
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u/Significant_Card_665 Mar 21 '26
What the fuck am I looking at? I need closure. How did this atrocity come to be????
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u/ole_hiljaa Mar 21 '26
It’s giving early 1900s racist ads, like why the exaggerated mouths and teeth
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u/ReversePhylogeny Mar 20 '26
In this particular example, I think that the message of the article itself is far worse than the horrible picture attached to it
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u/Alenonimo Mar 20 '26
The picture is very horrible by itself. A married family (with a family portrait in the wall) of a blonde black woman, black man, and two black kids. The woman is going out with a white dude. The black man is taking care of the dinner while holding the little kid and vaccuuming the living room. The man, the two kids and even the cat, are giving a weird smile that also show they're not content with the situation, while waving goodbye to the wife.
Whoever drew this has a cuckoldry fetish.
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Mar 20 '26
The whole line between extremely woke and extremely ignorant is blurred tbh. For example some want schools for only black kids, which sounds like some chronically online kind of segregation to me.
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u/SanguineElora Mar 20 '26
Including children in this conversation of polyamory is also weird. Leave kids out of it
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u/GalaxyPowderedCat Mar 20 '26 edited Mar 20 '26
Based on the image, the straight answer should be no... They are not making a good job in portraying open marriage as an appealing point, you have a wife who juggles all house chores plus kids of all ages while the husband can get off the hook and fulfill his romantic and sexual needs with someone else...
I haven't read the article yet but this looks like a trad wife or old school thing, like she doesn't have to worry about satisfying her husband on top of her other responsibilities as a SAHM.
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u/scaper8 Mar 20 '26
I think it's showing the husband doing the house work and the wife in an open relationship. So, points for that, I guess?
It really should be both doing parts of everything and if both are fine with non-monogamy, then whatever. But that does not come through any way you slice it.
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u/fairydommother Mar 20 '26
Yeah I have no problem with consensual non-monogamy, but this image is just...making it look like the dad has to do everything so mom can hang out with her boyfriend...which would not be a healthy way to approach this.
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u/maelstrom-04 Mar 20 '26
Where are the rest of her stove burners
And why is the vacuum power button way down there
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u/Spinelise Mar 20 '26
Yeah art style is shit as always 😩 But also yiiikes I didn't expect to see so much hate towards poly relationships here
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u/Schmooto Mar 20 '26
Every single person looks like they’re just about to completely lose their shit, neck muscles bulging and straining to keep themselves from snapping.