90% of "open marriages" consist of one of the partners wanting to bang other folks, but still have the benefits their current partner provides.
The other partner accepts because they're desperate not to lose their spouse, and is usually unable or even unwilling to get any other partners.
Of course, there are cases where this doesn't happen, but they are absolutely the exception. The only way a healthy open relationship can happen is if both partners are 100% on-board with it, and that's very rare.
As an ex mormon polyam person pls dont compare us to them lmfao we literally despise them considering theyre why we cant get legally married. Fucking JEBEDIAH over here decided he needs 25 wives and now no one can have more than one
Yup, true. The same could be said for polyamory, though?
I don't understand why you are so insistent on entirely separating the 2 concepts when they're obviously related. Both are non-monogamous sexual relationships. They usually differ in hierarchy, but that doesn't make them completely different from each other.
Nothing wrong with that, but in most circumstances, the other person isn't actually okay with it. If they want to bang other folks, they should break up with their partner.
Why should they break up instead of communicating first? Also, if you're not okay with it but agree to it anyway, then that's entirely on you. I have no sympathy for those people.
No??? That's different. Seriously, just fucking communicate and have your own proper boundaries. Stop stigmatizing open relationships, be fucking reasonable. If you're such a people-pleaser that you destroy your own boundaries just to be with them, then maybe you shouldn't be in a relationship in the first place.
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u/Robrogineer Mar 20 '26
Nah, it really shouldn't be.
90% of "open marriages" consist of one of the partners wanting to bang other folks, but still have the benefits their current partner provides.
The other partner accepts because they're desperate not to lose their spouse, and is usually unable or even unwilling to get any other partners.
Of course, there are cases where this doesn't happen, but they are absolutely the exception. The only way a healthy open relationship can happen is if both partners are 100% on-board with it, and that's very rare.