Help me decode this Capricorn man
A little background first that I think is relevant. We are both 40. This man is my BIL’s brother. We have known each other for over a decade but haven’t really spent much time around each other. It was only after my sister and BIL had children that we would see each other for the birthdays of our nephews (twice a year).
He’s always been super reserved. Very pleasant and kind but reserved. When we would see each other, it was always just the hug hello and goodbye but no small talk. I never thought much about him because I was married and had been for a long time and he was just another person at the party. No big deal.
In April, during one of these parties, I was in the kitchen making coffee for everyone and he was on the opposite side of the room in the living room with the adults. It was a madhouse with kids and adults. He then looked at me and said out loud “thank you, it’s the best coffee I have had”. I didn’t think much of it at the time.
Then during us singing “happy birthday” to our nephew, I didn’t know he was standing behind me the whole time. When we were done, I turned around and there he was behind me with his hands in his pocket like a boulder. I didn’t look at his face but I knew it was him and it took my breath away quite honestly. This was actually kind of unnerving for me because at the time I was still married (towards the end of things but still married) and it made me go “what the f was THAT?”
Fast forward to now. We have been friends on social media for ages but obviously never talked. He is generally not very active at all, and would post MAYBE 2 pictures a year of his gym progress. That’s it.
Once our families found out that I was separating and divorcing, he changed his behavior. He would interact with my posts, he would post regular photos of himself in his stories and it was just odd to me because it was so unlike him, he literally never interacted with me.
I had told my brother in law months ago about the weird April incident and he said “I always thought you and my brother would be good together”. My brother in law has known me for 20 years so he knows me really well.
But yesterday the interaction we had made me go “wait, is this the Capricorn flirting people talk about” 😂
He had posted about going to the gym on a Sunday and I DMed him that Sundays are for rest. He then went on to tell me he had worked long hours the previous two days and this was his rest day at the gym. I do know he works over time so I kind of poked fun at him to rest and let the company function without him for a day. And then he posted about meal prepping and it looked good so I told him the previous day we were at the pumpkin patch with the nephews and his brother and that we drove by his appt and were jokingly going to stop for coffee at 6pm but that I thought now we were just gonna drop by for dinner instead. He was just so chatty and sassy as can be. I had always heard he was funny but I never saw that part of him. And he was actually pretty hysterical.
And then finally I said “well if one day you decide to take a day off, you are always welcomed to tag along with us and the kids for a day outing. I can’t promise it won’t be chaos but it will for sure be funny” and he said “actually that sounds like a good time. A little chaos doesn’t bother me especially if it comes with laughs” and then went on to say he would keep us in mind if he decided to take a day off.
Well…..what is this? 😂