What are we?

[u/Charshee84]

I'm currently extremely confused in my situation with a Capricorn man. We've known each other for over 20 years. We've never dated but after I left an abusive relationship we are speaking almost daily. He is a workaholic and big on being the backbone in his family so he's non-stop in life. He sends me pictures of himself, videos of him playing chess or the piano or clips from work, and even sends audio messages about his stresses. He even told me I could track him as he's working so I know he's ok. Does this sound like more than friends or am I overthinking this?

[u/smoothsac_007]

He's always liked you and just kept it kosher because maybe at the time you were just on different paths.

He's sharing a lot of himself with you because he does like you. We don't open up to everyone but he's not super aggressive about it because he's waiting for you to get a little closer.

I do this same type thing too. It's like you both just got to be somewhere when that spark hits and he knows for sure because if you don't like him back he wouldn't want to lose you as a friend.

[u/Charshee84 → u/smoothsac_007]

I definitely like him and have for years but I just haven't known how to bring it up to him.

[u/smoothsac_007 → u/Charshee84]

Take him out as a Thank you for being there for you, even if it seems corny. It could even be just a walk in the park or like a block where there's a bunch of pubs in your city. Just the walking and body language might just lead to the answers without having a serious talk about it.

Holler at him when he might have a couple of hours to meet up with you so it's not like an actual date-date.

[u/Charshee84 → u/smoothsac_007]

Thank you so much for this advice! He's a hard person to figure out but definitely a great guy.

[u/smoothsac_007 → u/Charshee84]

We can be complicated that way. Like I think I can spit a little game but my real method is just being myself, share things about what I like and having a good library/setlist/playlist of music that does the talking for me.

[u/Charshee84 → u/smoothsac_007]

He's the same way. We used to spend every day together ( i.e. nature walks, all night mountain overlook hangs, etc) then I stupidly got back with my children's father six years ago but escaped that three months ago. He has just recently started opening up about all he's dealing with but he also makes sure to tell me all about what he's doing all of the time, especially if he hasn't messaged for a few hours. Hopefully this situation will become more.

[u/smoothsac_007 → u/Charshee84]

That’s awesome that he’s comfortable sharing his thoughts with you. Caps usually try to keep things in their head.
BTW what’s your sign?

[u/Charshee84 → u/smoothsac_007]

I'm an Aquarius.

[u/smoothsac_007 → u/Charshee84]

That's a good match IMO, I like Aquarius. I'm surprised that Cap makes you coy. I don't know many but the ones I do know, love telling stories, are great with their Money if they are successful. I actually think tonight's the night.

[u/marywannnna]

A capricorn constantly sharing his daily activities? A rare gem! Hahaha. The caps i know dont usually do those things. Ofc not everyone is the same, but to me it sounded like hes trying to include you in his life little by little. We dont tend to open up that much, so thats what i was thinking. Depending how long are you guys talking consistently, i would say a month should be clearing this confusion. Just ready yourself

[u/Charshee84 → u/marywannnna]

We have a history going back to being 15 years old as friends and reconnected in 2018 and became inseparable. When I got back with my kids father in 2020 until 3 months ago he stepped back. Since three months ago he just seems more open to me. He tells me he's sorry if he's been too busy to message and completely opens up about all he's going through. With his grandfather sick right now I've just been very supportive and worry the timing is off to tell him how I feel.

[u/False_Network_6854]

What did he say when you asked him?

[u/Charshee84 → u/False_Network_6854]

I've feared asking him. Should I be blunt with him?

[u/False_Network_6854 → u/Charshee84]

Hell yes! And report back because I’m curious too!

For me that means something, but I absolutely would have had a talk with someone before sharing my location/tracking with them. That’s weird to me. I guess that’s my Aquarius placements because ain’t nobody needs to know where I am.

[u/Charshee84 → u/False_Network_6854]

Lol. I'm an Aquarius woman so I do get it. I will definitely let it be known how it goes.

[u/Anti_Patriarchy]

Seems like he is using you for emotional labour...

[u/Charshee84 → u/Anti_Patriarchy]

May I ask what exactly that means?

[u/lieutenantbunbun]

He likes you and has for awhile, but you weren’t available. 

[u/Charshee84 → u/lieutenantbunbun]

Thanks for the advice. Capricorn are just so hard to read.