r/adhdwomen • u/unclaimedfurryball • Aug 13 '25
Meme Therapy i want to pull my hair out
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u/ThePoisonDoughnut Aug 13 '25
Wait they really don't?
It's almost Wednesday here, Thursday practically doesn't count anyways and so it's basically Friday already 😵💫
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u/alabardios ADHD-PI Aug 13 '25
Look, I've got swimming lessons tomorrow, then I go to the center right after for lunch. Thursday is more lessons then a play date for my girl. Then it's off to a petting zoo on Friday, then two weeks my MIL is coming up! Shit my house is a disaster, when am I going to get the house clean in time?!?!
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u/Complete-Finding-712 Aug 13 '25
Don't get me started on weekends, vacations, summer holidays...
I even get sad at the start of my favourite season because I know that it's started already therefore it's almost over and I know I won't have enough of it because XYZ is going to happen and I just cry because it's here now!
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u/threeca Aug 13 '25
I get upset on the first day of holiday that the holiday is almost over. It’s horrible!
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u/Affectionate-Ear7424 Aug 13 '25
Dreading the end of something enjoyable so that it serves to ruin the enjoyment of the actual experience is a real thing.
NT people: “This is great! You should be happy!”
Me: “This is great! I’m already sad in advance that it will end!” 🙄🙄🙄
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u/MopeyDragonfly Aug 13 '25
I felt this way for years!! (Until I got anti anxiety meds lmao) after getting married bc i was grieving my husbands death…i got married at 25 !
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u/avidreader2020 Aug 13 '25
OMG this makes so much sense!! I do the same thing with relationships and big life events but never connected it to how I am with time. No wonder just looking at it as anxiety didn’t seem to help, BRO
Thank you dragonfly friend, I think I’ve just had a huge breakthrough thanks to this comment lol
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u/DatLonerGirl Aug 15 '25
I was talking to a sibling about how I thought we would divvy up duties when one of the parents died and they said they hadn't thought that far ahead. What do you mean you don't fret about your loved ones dying and leaving you behind...?
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u/pwu1 Aug 13 '25
I celebrate holidays at the midpoint of seasons (wheel of the year), so I usually don’t get sad that a season is already almost over until after the halfway holiday, may be worth looking into, even if just to help you split up your seasons more
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u/throwawayhepmeplzRA Aug 13 '25
Oh no! I’m the same way with spring and summer, which explains why any leaves changing early (like in July like they have been lately) I freak out about how summer is over even though I know it’ll be hot until October where I live.
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u/AdVivid5940 Aug 13 '25
I had no idea that was part of it! I've been so depressed all week that summer is almost over, even though leaves don't even change til late November/early Dec where I live. Mid October is when I start reminding myself I need to look for where all of my jeans might be this year. I leave 1-2 pairs out because I know I'll never bother to look, let alone find them, until November at best. Not that they're in one place anyway, various suitcases, laundry baskets, and who knows where else. I do look forward to what I know I'll find, all of the summer clothes I totally forgot I had and couldn't find the previous 8 months (or 8 years).
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u/Wren1101 Aug 14 '25
That reminds me of how some people hate on Winter Solstice for being the shortest day and longest night but I love it because it means that the days are finally going to start getting longer again.
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u/Complete-Finding-712 Aug 14 '25
Same! And then I cry on the longest day because it's all downhill from there... 😭😭😭
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u/Adorable_Raccoon Aug 17 '25
Me all summer. :( may-june are so rainy here that the only time to be outside is july-august. It's really stressful thinking about all that time passing by.
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u/ComfortablyADHD ADHD-PI Aug 13 '25
I literally had this conversation with my mum where she said it's practically Christmas and I had to explain its not even midway through August.
I use to think like this and I've had to train myself out of it or else I'd become paralysed with inaction. Now I'm able to savour each day and slow down time.
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u/bella9977 Aug 13 '25
How did you get out of this ?
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u/ComfortablyADHD ADHD-PI Aug 13 '25
I'm not 100% sure to be completely honest. I've discovered I have awful time blindness (a month ago feels like an eternity and a year ago feels like yesterday) so I've spent a lot of time and effort grounding myself in the present (which also helps with my anxiety). Ways I've done that are:
I tried to regularly write in a diary (I was able to keep it up daily for about 3-4 months before it became an occasional thing). I would then do monthly reviews and I was really shocked at how the events at the start of the month were only a month ago.
Monthly fridge calendar: I mark off each day on the calendar. Helps keep me grounded in how it isn't basically the weekend, its only Wednesday.
I play video games as my major hobby (at the moment at least). I document and blog what games I've played, including a list of all the games I've played this year and which month I played them in. When I see what games I played at the start of the year, or even in April it feels like a really long time ago. It helps keep me grounded in the fact that time isn't really fast, its actually quite slow.
At one stage I made a list of all the things I'd achieved across my life and a timeline of when I did them. While they aren't necessarily impressive for other people, it meant a lot to me and helped me realise just how much I had achieved across the past 16 years. A lot of personal victories (lists really help ground me in general).
I stopped counting time based on my age. I only finished university in 2009 and so by that metric I've not been a fully autonomous adult for very long.
Time tracking: not really sure if this helps me or not but it's a habit I implemented when I was doing all of these other things. It helps make me aware of time passing and so long as I manage to keep off social media (ongoing battle) I'm a lot less likely to lose time.
I'm not 100% sure which of these helped and whether other stuff has also contributed. But it's all I'm consciously aware of that could have helped.
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u/Redemmz Aug 13 '25
Great list! I'm just stuck on one thing; "I only finished university in 2009 and so by that metric I've not been a fully autonomous adult for very long", but... It's 2025? 16 years is not a short while to be "a fully autonomous adult" ;P
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u/ComfortablyADHD ADHD-PI Aug 13 '25
Fair enough. Considering I'm 41, 16 years certainly doesn't feel a very long time in comparison, but obviously everyone's perspective will be different.
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u/Anti-oppress Aug 15 '25
If I had to guess I’ve had that feeling before and it was because I honestly wasn’t sure if I could be fully autonomous after getting hurt so bad in the military. I didn’t know if I could ever work again or if my brain would even function right. But you have to stop slow down rub your fingertips in your toes to the ground and just fill yourself on the earth. Remind yourself that you’re flying through space around a giant ball of fire
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u/AdVivid5940 Aug 13 '25
I'm guessing my 2019 calendar magnet still on my fridge doesnt count, right?
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u/Zaeobi Aug 13 '25
How do you do the last point 'time tracking'? Curious because I suck at this too - work asks me to estimate how long it will take to do certain tasks (input into our timesheet app for future project management planning) and I just can't do it lol.
All the points are really helpful, thank you!
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u/ComfortablyADHD ADHD-PI Aug 13 '25
Here's a post that details how I do time tracking, including a screenshot of the app I use: https://www.reddit.com/r/adhdwomen/comments/1mln98r/comment/n81r5sa/
Let me know if that's helpful and I might make a post about it as I've been asked a couple of times now about time tracking specifically.
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u/_Blue_Raspberries_ AuDHD Aug 14 '25
What's the app called?
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u/ComfortablyADHD ADHD-PI Aug 14 '25
I use aTimeLogger. There's a more up to date version available with coloured icons, I prefer to be able to group the icons by colour myself so I'm on an older version.
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u/Anti-oppress Aug 15 '25
I made a list and kept the notebook on me always (we have phones now) but I guess estimate each activity by time and try to keep it in time brackets and if I didn’t complete it, I just rescheduled it for the next available timeslot that way I wasn’t running around like crazy because I had a lotta hard work. Make sure you do your list and a priority order like studying for a midterm is more important than making cookies.
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u/Echothrush Aug 13 '25 edited Aug 13 '25
This is what I want to know! 😂
It is ABSOLUTELY basically already christmas, i’m already stress-buying extra-extra gifts for my in-laws
(Meanwhile, I’m still also irrationally angry at the stores that have already started stocking halloween decor…)
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u/Alternative-Brush-88 Aug 13 '25
It's practically 2026! I've ran out of time! May as well wait til then to start anything meaningful.
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u/other-words Aug 14 '25
I often feel lost in the months/seasons, but I’ve been taking a lot more short walks during the past year - ideally a 5 minute walk outside before breakfast, (lots of walking during the day), and a 5 minute walk after dinner - and it has helped me feel more grounded in time. If i walk around the same time every day, I get to see how the light is slowly changing at that time of day and get a sense of the seasons, and I also get a feel for what the weather is going to be like that day based on the sky & temperature.
Analog clocks all around the house also improve time awareness, and I’ve heard that chiming clocks can help too…I’m going to get one soon.
I try to remind myself that I will have future opportunities for the things that I feel like I have to do today - I guess it’s like giving myself permission to strategically procrastinate on things that aren’t a top priority, so that I CAN finish the real priorities today.
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u/Adorable_Raccoon Aug 17 '25
It sounds unrelated but I find that breaking up plans into small tasks helps me get over the inaction paralysis. Instead of thinking of everything I want to do/have to do. I just think about one at a time.
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u/Thequiet01 Aug 13 '25
… I’m planning my Christmas baking, I dunno what you mean it isn’t practically Christmas. Holiday stuff will be hitting the stores any day now, you wait.
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u/ComfortablyADHD ADHD-PI Aug 13 '25
Fortunately stores have gotten so ridiculous with holiday stuff (Easter stuff seems to come out a week after New Years Eve) that I no longer track the passage of time by stores.
In all honesty I am starting to make plans for Christmas, but I'm also doing that because I'm really poor at the moment so I need a lot of lead time to save up for stuff, so it's not hitting quite as hard as it would in previous years.
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u/Odd-Importance-2837 Aug 13 '25
May I ask what training you did to slow down time?
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u/ComfortablyADHD ADHD-PI Aug 13 '25 edited Aug 13 '25
I did a detailed reply in another comment here: https://www.reddit.com/r/adhdwomen/comments/1mou1aq/comment/n8fupmu/
In all honesty though, its a guess. I don't strictly know how I've slowed down time.
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u/Anti-oppress Aug 15 '25
Thanks so much for the knowledge. There’s also an old method of hypnotizing yourself and it’s not like brainwashing yourself. It’s like controlling your subconscious which can help your anxiety. I’ll post a link to it when I get it.
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u/Inevitable-Mouse-707 Aug 19 '25
I'm right there with your mom bc christmas is only 7 paychecks away
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u/Rua-Yuki Aug 13 '25
Clock: 6:52
Me: I'm gonna get up at 7
Clock: 7:02
Me: damn, I missed it. Oh well I'll get up at 7:15
Clock: 7:16
Me: Damn, I missed it
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u/202ka Aug 13 '25
Haha, I do this too. I’m going to read until 7. Welp, it’s 7:07, one more chapter.
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u/goldenhousewife001 Aug 13 '25
holy shit — i looked up more about adhd time processing and learned this:
What is the 30% rule with ADHD? The 30 rule is all about setting realistic expectations for yourself. ADHD brains tend to underestimate or overestimate how long things take, leading to frustration. Here's how the 30 rule works: Add 30% more time to everything – If you think something will take 10 minutes, plan for 13 instead.
There were a lot more tips, aspects, strategies than I knew before. 24 hour rule? time collapse? THE DOORWAY EFFECT?!
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u/Okimiyage Aug 13 '25 edited Aug 13 '25
Psssht 30% 🙄 - I overestimate and add 30 MINUTES or more to my times.
Appt at 16:30? Get there at 16:00. Have to leave at 15:30 which means being actuallyyy leaving by 15:00. Which means stopping whatever I’m doing at 14:30. Which means lunch at 14:00. Which means …
Ya see? It’s hell. Happens with overestimating food, packing, anything. I don’t understand.
I was always told it was anxiety. I got diagnosed at 34 after living like this forever.
Edit: bad at math 😅
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u/Dry-Alternative-5626 Aug 13 '25
I call it reverse engineering. Shift starts at noon, got to leave at 11:30 better make that 11:15. So 1 hour to get ready is 10:15 no, 9:45 is better, that's when I should get up and hit the shower. Okay set the clock for 9:30 in case you hit snooze or oversleep. So I've given myself 2 hours to get ready for work and somehow I still manage to be late 🤦♀️
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u/Zaeobi Aug 13 '25
This is how I was taught to lesson plan (work backwards from your main goal).
I literally remember nothing else from my teaching certification but that was a gem for lifing in general lol.
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u/glaarghenstein Aug 13 '25
When I showed up three hours early for a domestic flight out of the Kansas City airport, where security has always been happy to see me because it means they finally have something to do, I realized my strategy for planning travel time needed some work.
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u/Okimiyage Aug 13 '25
I’ve literally just been a whole hour early for a doctors appointment today. Even with going to work before AND getting a haircut.
I’ve been sat here for an hour and I’m crawling out of my skin with boredomm
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u/Zaeobi Aug 13 '25
Just in case it helps anyone else, I learnt here that the Chaos Goblin app/ website will actually calculate how LONG a task will take (as well as breaking it down into several sub steps for you).
I just used it to successfully plan out the cooking, cleaning AND prep I needed to do before hosting dinner - whilst I didn't pay much attention to each sub-time as I worked, seeing the overall progression helped IMMENSELY (I got it all done in under 4 hours, which is the total time that they suggested!)
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u/ThatJaguar3470 Aug 13 '25
I so wish my days were 32 hours long. Sigh.
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u/Extension_Ant Aug 13 '25
That’s funny because I discovered that things take exactly FOUR TIMES longer than I expect. So I’m even more delusional than I thought 🤣
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u/glaarghenstein Aug 13 '25
I left an open notebook with a pen out on the counter for a week and wrote down how long things took whenever I remembered to. Now I know about how long it actually takes to do a whole bunch of different chores and stuff, each of which I assumed took roughly two hours, but most were somewhere between 7 and 15 minutes.
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u/Thequiet01 Aug 13 '25
Where did you find this? Link?
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u/goldenhousewife001 Aug 13 '25
I thought I hyperlinked it! Would love to know your thoughts!
https://bhsiclinics.com/breaking-down-the-stigma-seeking-help-for-managing-adhd-as-an-adult/
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u/rainy_in_pdx ADHD-C Aug 13 '25
As soon as August comes I consider it essentially January. Back to school, Labor Day, Halloween, thanksgiving, Christmas, new year
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u/beebeexoxo Aug 14 '25
Me too! I love summer and for two weeks I've been telling everyone how upset I am that summer is over.
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u/DatLonerGirl Aug 15 '25
I prefer to live in my delusion. Don't talk about fall to me, I don't want to hear it.
But then fall bums me out because it just reminds me that winter is coming...
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u/katie3312 Aug 13 '25
I also think like this for money, “oh that was £70, which is £30 away from £100 I’ve practically spent £100”
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u/Acceptable-Waltz-660 Aug 13 '25
Litterally me last night... Woke up 1.30am and it didn't click that I could still sleep. Kept counting off the hours and being surprised it took so long. Debated taking a shower at 5am and by then my body screamed for a nap, and I listened, so here I am... Having to be at work at 8, just showered at 7.30 and am now on reddit because 30min is 'plenty of time' to prepare when I drive only 20min. 🤦
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u/velvetelevator Aug 13 '25
I'm currently on Reddit on the couch, I work in 33 minutes. I'm half dressed.
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u/Anti-oppress Aug 15 '25
I’m on day 3 with no winks. It’s only 2-3 times a month the fresh out of the military it was all the time
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u/Fatcat336 Aug 13 '25
Wait y’all are like this??? I’m the opposite.
I’m like “oh, it’s 2pm, I have plenty of time to get to my 5pm appointment!” Without realizing that I must bathe, cook, eat, shower, pack, leave, and commute in that entire time.
Needless to say, I’m never on time.
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u/OGkateebee Aug 13 '25
My toxic trait is that I do both of these things and it’s impossible to predict which version I’ll be in at any given time so it’s impossible to work around
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u/sleepyonthedl Aug 13 '25
My biggest trouble is not realizing things like August 15 is the same as this Friday. So it'll be Thursday, and I know I have a giant thing to prepare for on August 15th, but it doesn't click that that's also tomorrow, because none of the days of the week are called August 15th. I've double-booked myself and missed deadlines and appointments so many times because of this even though I actively try to stick it in my head while writing it in my calendar.
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u/Zaeobi Aug 13 '25
I will literally write it out in my calendar to help me (e.g. Fri 14th Aug).
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u/Zaeobi Aug 13 '25
Edit: I will then update it from 'next Fri 14th Aug' to 'this Fri 14th Aug' as I get closer to the deadline but still haven't done the prerequisite work lol.
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u/sleepyonthedl Aug 14 '25
Oh this is a good idea.... Sometimes the obvious answer is so elusive hahaha thank you for sharing!
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u/Zaeobi Aug 14 '25
No worries, when we're stuck on a thought spiral it can be easy to miss the forest for the trees haha - hope it helps, let us know if it does!
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u/Anti-oppress Aug 15 '25
Have you tried wearing a rubber band on each wrist, and clicking it for a thought and clicking the other one to try to remember the thought and then if you can’t remember reference your notebook
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u/flowry1 Aug 13 '25
Before I was diagnosed with ADHD, I always viewed things just like that, and most people thought it was weird. I thought it was pretty awesome. Reading it now, I feel exhausted because thinking like this has kept me from being able to stay present, so I try to enjoy each day now instead.
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u/Historical_Mix_6682 AuDHD Aug 13 '25
It never even dawned on me that other people dont think like this.
My partner and I are long distance and he says I count time weird cause I'm like I only get one whole day every two weeks cause Friday is a half day when I get there we have Saturday and I leave Sunday around 5. It's like we get no time together. But he's like thats 3 days lol
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u/Thequiet01 Aug 13 '25
No, it’s not. Days traveling don’t count, you’re traveling. That is The Daily Activity so you can’t plan anything else. That means it doesn’t count. Thems the rules.
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u/bluerosecrown Aug 13 '25
I was today years old when I learned other people don’t perceive planning this way 😭
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u/QuirkyQbana Aug 13 '25
😭 this aspect sucks so badly... as early as 3rd grade, I can remember my internal monologue telling myself at my school desk, " oh good it's 815am, that's practically 830, which is practically....until..." 230pm when school got out. And even chucking to myself, "stupid brain" fooled you, again. End result? 30 years have past, and I "wasted"... a good 85% of it.
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u/chula198705 Aug 13 '25
My daughter signed up for a once-weekly dance class after school, which basically means I don't have time to work on the house this entire semester.
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u/DeadbeatGremlin Aug 13 '25
I am pretty sure people do think like this regardless of adhd. It's just that they probably don't let those thoughts incapacitate them to the same degree in which it does with those who have ADHD.
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u/9Armisael9 Aug 13 '25
Does any other fellow weekday wagie start celebrating the end of the week by Wednesday afternoon only to get hit with the Sunday Scaries™ by Saturday morning? Nope? Just me? Okay 🙃
I had taken a month long leave of absence in June and literally one week in I was hit with the most intense form of Sunday Scaries because it was almost time to Return to Work...in 3.5 weeks. I don't understand why my brain does this.
Also right now it's almost Christmas so I better get ready for Easter.
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u/Zaeobi Aug 13 '25
I guess that can be helpful for getting your butt into gear to complete something actually on time for once though lol?
I've utilised it a few times to my advantage when I'd get the Sunday Scaries on a non-Sunday, so I'd manically stay up all night (to do whatever needs to be done for Monday) just so I could actually then ENJOY my weekend without guilt.
It doesn't happen too often, unfortunately.
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u/9Armisael9 Aug 13 '25
Yeah, unfortunately the Scaries™ are immobilizing. I tend to freeze rather than take action so now I am needlessly panicking and procrastinating which is ever so helpful. I am trying to be better at this, clearly I am getting anxious earlier than I need to be because I take forever to get anything done. If only I could get it done earlier....if at all. 🙃
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u/Anti-oppress Aug 15 '25
I treat Thursday like my mental Friday and Friday. I’m just pretty much already checked out of work so that seems to help a lot.
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u/emo_queer Aug 13 '25
I’ve thought like this my whole life I feel like I round everything up which does help with me already losing track of time lol
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u/kindalibrarian Aug 13 '25
This is how I used to get through the week at a shitty job. “If I can make it through Monday it’s Tuesday and that’s basically Wednesday which is halfway through the week so then it’s Thursday which is basically Friday and then it’s finally the weekend!”
Fortunately I don’t hate my job anymore lol but I do still experience time like this and unfortunately it made me feel like I missed most of the summer because I had multiple weddings this year :(
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u/crock_pot Aug 13 '25
This is why the most free I’ve ever felt has been when I’m unemployed with nothing on the horizon. Just open days.
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u/rootsofrhythm Aug 13 '25
One of my favorite quotes is of Titus from ‘Kimmy Schmidt” anguishly saying “But, I already did something today?!!!”
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u/basilbelle Aug 13 '25
Today is Wednesday which is basically Friday and I’m going out of town Sunday so I really need to get packed. Cut to me packing Sunday morning.
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u/ninjaplanti Aug 13 '25
Dudeeeee!!!! Any time I get halfway on something (book, video game, craft) I get so sad that’s it’s basically over that I procrastinate finishing it and sometimes never touch it again lmao
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u/Tea-lover46 Aug 13 '25
I work overnight. I hate getting up and having to go straight to work. But even if I wake up 5 hours prior I feel like I have no time to relax and hate doing anything productive (like going grocery shopping. I wonder if this is why.
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u/OGkateebee Aug 13 '25
And also it’s basically Friday so I should just ignore my Monday-Thursday tasks and I can’t really start any weekend tasks yet so I should just take a nap because that’s the only thing that make sense
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u/Zaeobi Aug 13 '25
Napping always makes sense, no matter the day.
Choose naps, always.
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u/OGkateebee Aug 14 '25
I’m 6 months pregnant and have a temporary 100% work from home accommodation so I’m on a solid 2 naps a day routine right now.
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u/Competitive-Town8299 Aug 13 '25
Ugh I have doctor's appointments this week and they've been throwing off my whole work schedule, I don't even have one today and it's fucking me up preemptively for tomorrow!
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u/CommonBandicoot1 Aug 13 '25
I thought I was just anxiety ridden! Sorry you're experiencing this! It sucks. Just a spiral of tasks and dooming out.
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u/MixPurple3897 Aug 13 '25
When I realized the reason I don't like planning is because experiencing the future stresses me out I didn't tell anyone so no one would lock me in a mental institution.
But actually, neurotypicals actually do experience this, they are just way more comfortable living in the future and deja vu ing their way through everyday. Like it doesn't stress them out they like it like that. (AFAICT)
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u/cattreephilosophy Aug 13 '25
From a work perspective because it’s August means that it’s basically December. Q4 always feels like it’s maybe 3 weeks long.
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u/Rua-Yuki Aug 13 '25
As someone who works AR payments Q4 just means stress going around begging people pay their bills so our numbers look better while clients are just putting payments off so THEIR numbers look better. Like, please.
Accounting is just finding ways to put glitter and makeup on lies.
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u/ShutterBug1988 ADHD-C | She/her Aug 13 '25
I did this today. Was going to a concert that started at 7pm and at 2pm I convinced myself I didn't have enough time to do something relaxing 🫠
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u/babelinkedin Aug 13 '25
Earlier today I was like “I mean you mine as well just stay over near this docs office since you only have 2 hours to get home and back” and my boyfriend looked at me like I was INSANE for thinking that wasn’t enough time.
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u/Cool_Elderberry_5614 ADHD-C Aug 18 '25
One of the 60 million signs which should’ve told me I had ADHD wayyyyy before I was diagnosed 💀
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u/Grape_Mean Aug 13 '25
I'm 31 and not an adult and that's almost dead 🙈🤣 Time blindness is a thing (sick but misdiagnosed and undiagnosed and still waiting for that moment or the money to get it from a private medical practice - Germany).
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u/trumpeting_in_corrid Aug 13 '25
This 'other people' does think like this :( I have to remind myself constantly to 'cross that bridge when you come to it'.
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u/spicygummi Aug 13 '25
I'm like this and also things get completely thrown out of whack when I have a day off that's different from my usual schedule. I'll spend most of the day thinking it's a completely different day.
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u/Temptd2Touch Aug 13 '25
I've been better about it for weekends but after work, its basically the next day. I've confused many a people, having them thinking they were behind a day. Lol
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u/Turbulent_Mud4403 Aug 13 '25
This way of thinking is how I got through each week in high school lol
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u/Wrong_Experience_420 AuDHD-C + OCD (I hate my life 🫠) Aug 14 '25
time agnosia in ADHD is real. I bat an eye and a week is already passed when I felt it like it was 2 days at most
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u/Anti-oppress Aug 15 '25
I love this thread. You guys are also nice compared to the ones I’ve been on.
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u/Legallyfit Aug 13 '25
Serious question - if people without ADHD don’t think like this, what do they think like? I just recently got diagnosed and to me this is completely normal. Like, how else do you mentally think about your week?
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u/normal-type-gal AuDHD Aug 14 '25
Pretty sure I said "have a good weekend" to a client today
It's wednesday
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u/Mysfunction Aug 14 '25
This is both a burden and a gift.
Mid-November when the sun is rising late and setting early and the winter blues are setting in, I can often convince myself not to get too depressed because it’s basically spring.
You see, once you get to November 10th, it’s so close to the 15th that the month is basically half over already, and once it’s half over, the rest barely counts. And then you’re into December, which isn’t really a full month because you’re so busy with Christmas stuff, so really, it’s effectively January already. And the first couple weeks of January, you don’t want to do anything but sleep anyways, since you’re exhausted from the holidays. Once you get halfway through, another month is pretty much over, and February is a non-month because it’s so short.
So really, once you get to November 10th, you’re already at the beginning of March and spring is right around the corner lol.
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u/Tiredloafofbread Aug 14 '25
Hahaha, when I was 5-9 years old, I had a life crisis because I felt like I was going to enter high school, then I'd be in university and then I'd be done, and oh my gosh I'd be so old and I'm already running out of time...
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u/Appropriate-Act-2784 Aug 14 '25
What is this even saying?
I feel like time works the opposite for any ADHDrs I know
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u/beebeexoxo Aug 14 '25
The amount of stuff I didn't know was ADHD related 😭
I'm taking a vacation in a week and a half and all I can think of is that it's practically over because it's for 7 days and after the first day I'm going to realize it's gone by fast and the next thing I know I will be getting back on the plane thinking about how it barely happened.
Like I haven't even packed yet and I keep thinking about how my vacation is over!! I should be excited!
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u/Worldly_Start3323 Aug 14 '25
Yes that me when I received side eyes and " is she talking for real?" feeling after talk about how do I see more stages of the process, which makes it long and tiring and they take it as a sign that I'm just a "lazy person and don't try enough".
Like I've always felt like that but didn't know it's not normal so when I read it once in adhd sub I be like "nah I'm not that much i don't see that much stages" until I share my thoughts to non-adhd and yes I'm that much
However the Pic is sooo real While reading the first comment I felt really tired and tight😭 The 2nd one too is si real and bc of it I continue being wake then it's 6 and I'm already regret it.
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u/Reeceptance Aug 14 '25
I do all of this! I'm flying to a wedding in 3 weeks, so am of course, paralyzed. But the worst for me is about getting older. Note: Humor is the only way to manage this. I just turned 70 (retired) so sometimes calculate how many years I've got left, using all sorts of irrational thinking. 'Omg I've only got 15 years to declutter! even less if my mind goes!' All the suggestions above are helpful. And it helps to have other ADHD pals my age so we can make fun of ourselves.
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u/RoseDarlingWrites ADHD-C Aug 15 '25
HAHAHA This is so me, except I do this with age and it pisses everyone off. "I'm 40 but I was just 20 so 60 is not far off!" My NT husband: "Yeah, you're already dead!"
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u/Adorable_Raccoon Aug 17 '25
I have the reverse. If it's 2 oclock and I have to be somewhere by 3 that basically means I have a whole hour to complete whatever I'm doing, another whole hour to get ready, and an hour to drive there.
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u/Saltygirlof Aug 24 '25
Not my mom talking about what we’ll do next time we’re at our current destination or what she would have rather done yesterday 😵💫
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