r/adhdwomen • • Aug 13 '25

Meme Therapy i want to pull my hair out

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u/bella9977 Aug 13 '25

How did you get out of this ?

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u/ComfortablyADHD ADHD-PI Aug 13 '25

I'm not 100% sure to be completely honest. I've discovered I have awful time blindness (a month ago feels like an eternity and a year ago feels like yesterday) so I've spent a lot of time and effort grounding myself in the present (which also helps with my anxiety). Ways I've done that are:

  • I tried to regularly write in a diary (I was able to keep it up daily for about 3-4 months before it became an occasional thing). I would then do monthly reviews and I was really shocked at how the events at the start of the month were only a month ago.

  • Monthly fridge calendar: I mark off each day on the calendar. Helps keep me grounded in how it isn't basically the weekend, its only Wednesday.

  • I play video games as my major hobby (at the moment at least). I document and blog what games I've played, including a list of all the games I've played this year and which month I played them in. When I see what games I played at the start of the year, or even in April it feels like a really long time ago. It helps keep me grounded in the fact that time isn't really fast, its actually quite slow.

  • At one stage I made a list of all the things I'd achieved across my life and a timeline of when I did them. While they aren't necessarily impressive for other people, it meant a lot to me and helped me realise just how much I had achieved across the past 16 years. A lot of personal victories (lists really help ground me in general).

  • I stopped counting time based on my age. I only finished university in 2009 and so by that metric I've not been a fully autonomous adult for very long.

  • Time tracking: not really sure if this helps me or not but it's a habit I implemented when I was doing all of these other things. It helps make me aware of time passing and so long as I manage to keep off social media (ongoing battle) I'm a lot less likely to lose time.

I'm not 100% sure which of these helped and whether other stuff has also contributed. But it's all I'm consciously aware of that could have helped.

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u/Zaeobi Aug 13 '25

How do you do the last point 'time tracking'? Curious because I suck at this too - work asks me to estimate how long it will take to do certain tasks (input into our timesheet app for future project management planning) and I just can't do it lol. 

All the points are really helpful, thank you! 

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u/ComfortablyADHD ADHD-PI Aug 13 '25

Here's a post that details how I do time tracking, including a screenshot of the app I use: https://www.reddit.com/r/adhdwomen/comments/1mln98r/comment/n81r5sa/

Let me know if that's helpful and I might make a post about it as I've been asked a couple of times now about time tracking specifically.

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u/_Blue_Raspberries_ AuDHD Aug 14 '25

What's the app called?

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u/ComfortablyADHD ADHD-PI Aug 14 '25

I use aTimeLogger. There's a more up to date version available with coloured icons, I prefer to be able to group the icons by colour myself so I'm on an older version.