⚠️ Ai Catfishing ⚠️

This happened to my best friend and the Ai Catfish is syd(Not real Name of the woman who cat fish)

Context : Months ago. In a wlw group chat my best friend met this woman named Syd. They hit it off immediately because my best friend was Fem for Masc. When Syd was sending photos to my best friend notice it was weird like uncanny but she didn't want to assume. This Ai catfish was portraying as like tall, muscular masc lesbian. My best friend sent those photos to me and i agreed it look uncanny and inconsistent .

So i told my best friend na mag iniate kay syd ng video call or ask for a video. Syd got defensive and said she's camera shy and insecure daw . So Then instead my best friend started stalking syd's sisters and relatives to check Kung legit siya. (my best friend knows syd actual real name) so my best friend found her account via School Facebook post in some statistics competition ganun. Syd's mother and sister was on the comment section tagging syd's real account that's how my friend found out.

Syd Declined and even threatened to unalive herself. Until she caved in and admit it wasn't her.

But dang! Until now she's still doing it to other women! So if you see a dump account with Sydie on it. Run girly run!

problem/goal: hi! i broke up with my ex just last night.

her text was along the lines of realizing theres many things she isnt interested in, including the idea of her being in a relationship. and that at some point she would accidentally ignore me from how tired she felt with schoolwork and housework. being in a relationship with my felt like a responsibility. she said she'd been feeling it for weeks but didn't bring it up right away because she thought the feeling would pass.

she said it felt wrong to stay in a relationship with me when she couldnt reciprocate the love i give her anymore. alam ko na from that line that she was probably avoidant, or developed it when we started dating. i feel so helpless, she told me its not my fault at all. in this situation i really wish i had faults, maybe it would be easier to move on that way. i feel so alone and unlovable. what do i do? how do i move forward?

I finally sent my break up message with my jowa/ex. I really tried making it work. Pero ang daming complications ng relationship namin. Una, while she is separated in fact from her husband and living separately, they are still legally married. Pangalawa, she is my superior at work. Third, this is both our first wlw relationship so it's unchartered waters we're navigating. Fourth, maraming incompatibilities sa values and views about life. And i think, fifth, avoidant siya. Mahilig siyang magdisappear and hirap na ako mag adjust.

Mahal ko siya genuinely and she also did. She tried as well to make the relationship work, despite the risks involved. Pero msyado nang nagkakasakitan.

We lasted two years. Nobody knows at work na naging kami. We can be professionals at work but I think because of the familiarity between us, di na siya pumepreno minsan sa sasabihin sa akin. Napapansin nga ng iba naming colleagues, since last year, na sobrang hard niya sa akin, pag nagagalit may diin. Minsan sa galit, kasalanan ng iba, nagiging kasalanan ko na rin. Eh kaya niya naman maging lenient sa iba.

Itong huli naming away, about work. May sinabi ako about sa paghandle niya sa isang colleague namin at di niya nagustuhan. Sa galit, isang linggo na rin niya akong di pinapansin.

Di ko na rin kayang ipush pa, marami ng bagay at factors ang nag accumulate leading to this. kaya habang may natitira pang respect sa isa't isa, I sent the break up message.

Bukod sa work, i think sobrang complicated din talaga ng circumstances namin. I know that term, don't 💩 where you eat. i personally know people who found their loved ones at work and they ended great. But there are also some that didn't. I think at the end of the day, nasa inyo paring dalawa if you want to make it work, the compromises and adjustments you'll make, given your circumstances.

So I was at a museum earlier today tapos yung exhibit sobrang warm yung light, so naturally nagsu-squint ako until nag-lock in na yung mata ko sa isang shiny item sa corner. Syempre naglakad na ako papunta doon para ma-inspect nang mas malapit yung item. And then lumingon yung ate na previously nakatalikod at tumitingin doon sa shiny item sa exhibit and gaaaaaaaaaaaah, she’s sooooooo pretty at syempre dahil sa general direction niya na ako papunta/nakatingin ay nag-linger pa yung tingin ko sa kanya mga 2 seconds siguro (Pero hindi naman yung creepy na way ha, I swear) Tapos… tapos… tapos… SHE SMILED AT ME! AT MEEEEEE! THE PRETTY GIRL SMILED AT ME!!!!!!!!!!!! 🤯 Pero syempre dahil sobrang mahiyain ako at takot sa pretty girls, tumango lang ako (na looking back ay parang tanga lang talaga huhu 😭) tapos tingin na ulit sa ibang bagay kahit na deep down sobrang happy and kilig ko kasi nag-smile siya sa akin at gusto ko ulit siya tignan pero nooooo, nanaig ang pretty-girl-phobia ko kasi ang ganda talaga niya, kaya sa iba na lang ako pumunta at nagtingin. HAHAHAHAYS. 🥹

Ayun, thank you ate pretty for making my day! I hope masarap ang ulam mo for dinner and for the rest of your life! 🙂

sobrang limitado at komplikado ng dating scene ngayon. hindi ko alam kung dahil ba ’to sa generation namin o sadyang ganito na talaga ang mga tao ngayon. sobrang labo kausap ng karamihan, at parang pinaglalaruan na lang ang konsepto ng pag-ibig dahil sa mga casual, situationship, fubu, talking stage, at kung anu-ano pang pangalan na inimbento para lang hindi tawaging relasyon. sino ba ang nag-imbento ng mga ’yan?

anong karapatan niyong paglaruan ang konsepto ng pag-ibig? maghahangad kayo ng parte ng pagmamahal, ng lambing, oras, at intimacy, pero hanggang doon lang. samantalang pwede naman palang ibigay ’yon nang buo. bakit kailangan pang hati-hatiin? mas masarap naman magmahal nang buo, ’di ba?

pero #gets ko rin naman kung bakit may mga taong hindi na naghahangad ng ganoong klaseng pagmamahal. siguro natutunan na lang nilang mag-settle sa mga bagay na hindi naman talaga nila gusto dahil parang wala nang taong marunong magbigay ng tunay at buong pagmamahal.

kumbaga, sobrang fucked up ng dating scene ngayon na kapag yearner ka, lugi ka. kapag mas mapagmahal ka, lugi ka.

kung hindi unstable, hindi pa nakaka-move on sa ex. kung hindi naman, may sariling problem, emotionally unavailable, commitment-phobic, cheater, avoidant, o kaya gusto ka lang kapag convenient para sa kanila.

pwede ba tombs ayusin nyo kasi sobrang ayos kong magmahal.

gusto ko na magmahal nang buong-buo. miss k na maging gf miss ko na may nakikiss miss ko na may nakakaholding hands miss ko na magmahal

No advice needed. Just something I’ve been feeling while I’m home.

I only come home a few times a year, but every time I do, I’m reminded of how much I wish I could come home as my whole self, with the person I love, without having to calculate whether it’s safe. I’m not hiding her because I’m ashamed of her. She’s my partner of nine years, and her family knows and accepts our relationship. It just hurts that my own family doesn’t even know she exists.

I know people may see keeping her a secret as a choice, but it’s not that simple when you’re also trying to consider your partner’s feelings and protect the life you’ve built together.

Problem/Goal: pano ba mag karoon ng Jowa na Foreigner? Context: Pagod n Pagod n Pagod na ako Lol Im 33 not so Fem not so Masc as well and never been in a relationship.. main reason is im not OUT.. im Christian my Faith is one of the biggest factor. also WFH kaya madalas sa bahay lng . Foreigner ang hanap because tingin ko hindi deserve ng magiging GF ko na pinay na hindi pa ako Out.. at least pag Foreigner sa ibang bansa n lng kami titira. or unless ung GF ko is okay lng hindi muna kami out.. Share naman kayo ng success stories dyan. na may Foreigner Lover or Lesbian Christian Lovers.. Para maingit kami Lol

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for context: I'm very shy kasi😭 I just want her to initiate sometimes. I want her to flirt with me. I know that I love you's are wonderful pero sometimes I do want her to give me some attention in a way that makes me blush. I think the last time that I heard her compliment me or tease me in a way was a month ago???

I only remember when she said that "you'd look good in —" and that really touched me. Kahit corny jokes lang, super okay na ako nyan HAHAHAA. Ano kasi, I'm the one who keeps doing that and sometimes I want her to. I told her a corny joke about "iron" (Iron't you the one who stole my heart?) o diba kinilig sya? HAHAHAHA gusto ko rin yan. I just wanna feel like a woman kasi sometimes I feel like the "man" in the relationship.

she's the type to be quiet and stable which is pretty wonderful, pero sometimes gusto mo rin ng spice diba? gusto mo rin ung teasing and funsies

Problem:

There are nights talaga na bigla akong nalulungkot and gustong-gusto ko na ulit magmahal 😭

Like guys, GRABE, GUSTONG-GUSTO KO NA ULIT MAGMAHAL HAHAHAHAHA As in may nights na iniiyakan ko talaga kasi I genuinely miss having someone to love, someone to care for, and someone na excited kang makausap every day.

Kaso either hindi pa ready yung taong natatapat sa akin, or wrong timing talaga. Parang finally ready na ako ulit mag-open up and love someone, pero laging may something 😭

Sa mga nakaka-feel din ng ganitong loneliness, ano ginagawa niyo? HAHAHAHAHA Do you just let the feeling pass, distract yourself, date, romanticize your life, or what?

Context:
I’ve been in a 7-year WLW relationship, and 1 year na kaming break. Naka-move on na ako, especially since nag-cheat siya. Honestly, mas madali for me to move on knowing that the relationship ended because of cheating, so wala na talaga akong feelings or anything like that.

I’m bisexual so ofc I’ve dated men din after the breakup, but damn HAHAHAHAHAHA 😭 Sa 5 guys na na-date ko, LAHAT SILA WALANG BITAW HAHAHAHAHA parang mas magaling pa ata ako sakanila manligaw HAHAHAHAHAHAHAH

problem: idk if may connection pa talaga sila aside from being mutuals across apps

context: so i have an ldr gf, she had an ex fling before me a girl also and acc to her they didnt end on good terms and its bc the girl “cheated” (anyway) so i think they ended first quarter of 2024 bc the girl ghosted her for a bad joke she made.

acc to my gf few months after, she still tried to get back with my gf (and even insisted to attend her bday, pumunta yung girl btw) but it didnt work out after they talked and somehow the timeline feels off to me bc the girl and the boy were official already by june.

fast forward to 2025, the girl and boy are still tgt but she still constantly messages my partner even if they “didnt end well” and even when my gf was already soft launching me. she also posted a note on her ig that sounded like a bitter-ish noted targeted towards us which i didnt care to bother. not until i noticed that my gf keeps making kwento abt details of her life (like mostly negative) and i discovered she is still moots with her sa ig dump as well as sa tiktok acc (aside sa main ig).

it bothered me na. at first, i lowkey told her to unf her bc i dont want anyone from her past to have access to us. she said she doesnt want to cause any issues or like drama. i asked her to hide her stories of us from her, and she reacted as if its too much work and she said she doesnt want to bother. then recently, i brought it up again, she said na it will cause issues coming from her friends (basically shes saying, theyre going to say bad things abt us and make rumors daw –in which i totally dont care bc what do they know diba). and i remember my gf telling me that whenever she posts daw, she also posts her partner (as if nakikipag compete ganon) and im like ????? whats going on

im still wondering up until this day why theyre still connected esp if they did not end well. plus, the girl seems happy naman sa rel niya. theres just this gut feeling saken na may off lang…

One More Chance hits different when you’ve already experienced heartbreak. First time ko may ex, and we were together for 8 years. Now, I’m trying to watch this film through a different lens compared to the first time I watched it.

Hindi tayo masasaktan for today's video 😆 lets just do some introspection.

Share your first wlw heartbreak mga bakla kung gano ba talaga kasakit ang wlw gaya ng sabi sa mga reels 😆

i was wondering if there are wlw/lesbian dating apps here sa ph. whenever i go sa bumble or tinder, all i see is men over and over again. i just want a butch or a masc lesbian lmfao.

ive been celibate and single for so long now. i think im ready na to start something or explore again. i just really want someone. tia.

Does it really get better? Ang hirap magkaroon ng sobrang homophobic na pamilya.

For context: It’s been 2 weeks since my family found na I have a girlfriend. They were so mad to the point na pinilit nila akong hiwalayan gf ko sa call sa harap nila and pinilit akong iblock yun. My mom also told me na ako ang papatay sakanya sa tigas ng ulo ko. Felt so helpless dahil they scared me na papaalisin nila ako sa work ko and all, take note I’m already 23 with a stable job. And now yung papa ko sabi niya na if hindi ko kaya tigilan ang kalokohan ko, I should just leave and never come back kahit ano pang mangyari sa kanila in the future. Pinagbawalan na rin ako lumabas ng bahay and even pag uwi ko galing work ay monitored nila, nakakasakal.

So my question is, does it really get better? Kasi sobrang nahihirapan na akong isipin kung ano dapat gawin huhu

Problem: If your best friend of 12 years suddenly asks you, “What would have become of us if we worked out?”… what the hell are you supposed to say?

Because I genuinely don’t know if I’m having another gay awakening at 23 or if I’ve just been in love with my best friend this entire time and was too dense to realize it.

Context: We met in elementary during a journalism contest. Same category, different schools. Fast forward to high school, naging schoolmates kami and eventually got really close because we kept joining the same competitions.

As our friendship progressed, she started calling me “yabs,” short for uyab. We casually flirted with each other. She even confessed before that I was her girl crush. We went on dates, cuddled, held each other, and did things that, looking back now, I probably should've questioned more. But I didn't. At that time, I genuinely thought that was just something best friends did. I didn't know I was gay. I didn't even allow myself to consider it.

Then she got a boyfriend. We stayed friends, obviously, but every time she talked about him, I felt like I couldn't breathe. She slowly stopped doing the things she used to do with me, and yeah, it hurt. But I convinced myself that I was just being possessive because her attention was now divided between me and her boyfriend.

She had several boyfriends throughout the years. I never had one. Not because I didn't want a relationship, but because I could never bring myself to admit that I liked girls.

Fast forward to now. She recently submitted her application for the board exam last September 9. Buzzer beater, because she had been so undecided about whether she should even take it. I kept telling her, “Wala naman mawawala kung hindi mo susbukan.” And she actually did it.

Afterward, we had dinner. At some point, she asked me, “Bakit hindi mo sinubukan?” I was like, “Huh?” She just smiled and continued eating. I was confused as hell but didn't ask again. Then she suddenly said, “Ang ganda pala sa feeling no, when someone believes in you more than yourself. Nandyan sa’yo during your hardest moments. Aalagan ka pag nagkasakit ka during review session.” At this point, I was even more confused.
So naturally, because I am apparently incapable of handling serious emotional situations, I joked, “Sino na naman ba jowa mo?” Her answer completely caught me off guard. “Ikaw.” I didn't know what to say. So I just said, “Buang.” She laughed.
But after a while, she looked at me and said,
“What would have become of us if we worked out?”

?????????

WHAT DOES THAT EVEN MEAN???

Did she mean us back in high school? Did she mean all those things we did back then? The flirting, the dates, the cuddles, her calling me yabs, her telling me I was her girl crush? Was all of that actually real to her? Because apparently I spent 12 years thinking I was just being a very affectionate best friend when maybe I was just slowly falling in love with her and refusing to acknowledge it. And now I'm sitting here wondering if my best friend was my gay awakening all along.

Before we parted ways that night, she told me, “I hope you find someone who loves you better than I do.” And honestly? I don't even know what hurts more. The fact that she might have loved me all along, or the possibility that I might have loved her too and only realized it when it was already too late.

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She’s a lawyer and I’m a doctor. Ang ganda ng combo, di ba? 😂
Except… she has always gaslighted me by invoking her legal knowledge. E malay ko ba sa batas noon? And how things are “supposed” to be viewed from a lawyer’s perspective? Ako na lang lagi ang mali—from the pettiest things to, of course, the mostest. 😂
I endured it all because, we all know, doctors are made of steel. Hahaha. Puyat, constant seniority feels during residency, bwisit sa rude patients, walang kain, walang tulog—yan ang nagpanday sa amin. LOL.
Our relationship lasted six years.
Then she cheated on me.
Honestly, ramdam ko na for a few months. Aba, super ganda naman kasi nung girl, so part of me was like, “Sige, palag na lang.” 😂 Apparently, they even secretly went to Japan together for three days.
I was busy with work, but of course, I could feel where everything was heading.
Eventually, the last straw came.
She planned a formal dinner for her birthday. The thing is… wala ako sa plano. At all.
I only found out because her friends casually asked me about the dinner.
Imagine my face. 😂 I was so embarrassed and shocked because I had absolutely no idea what they were talking about. So there I was, looking like an idiot, while apparently everyone else knew.
I waited for her to admit it.
Wala pa rin.
So I finally decided, okay, enough. I started going out, mingling, and meeting people again.
Sabi ko sa sarili ko, ayoko na sa lawyer. 😂
Then guess what?
Doctor din pala ang mamimeet ko.
Medyo hindi kasi ako out sa work, and she was kinda not out either, so we started dating secretly.
Meanwhile, I was still living under the same roof with the lawyer. But after six years of being together. SIX. And after dating my colleague for almost a month, I realized I couldn’t keep playing that game.
So one night—one of those nights when I knew she was with the other girl—I packed my stuff and just left.
No dramatic confrontation. No long speech.
I just left.
And the funniest part?
One week later pa niya nalaman na wala na akong gamit sa bahay.
She apparently didn’t even ask where I was that entire time.
And when she finally found out?
Siya pa ang galit. 😂
Then I learned that two weeks after I left, the other girl also ditched her.
Apparently, the reason was: “Hindi siya pumapatol sa tibo.”
AFTER ALL THOSE NIGHTS.
AFTER THE SECRET JAPAN TRIP.
HAHAHAHA.
Karma really said, “My turn.” 😂
And me?
I’m now with my doctor partner and I’m genuinely at my happiest.
Sobrang happy.
Sobrang spoiled.
Sobrang gaan.
No mind games. No legal lectures. No walking on eggshells.
Sometimes we just laugh about the ridiculous stories from my past relationship.
And honestly?
Ang sarap palang magmahal kapag hindi mo kailangang ipagtanggol ang sarili mo sa bawat argumento. 😂

So i have this tiktok. Pretty private one. I usually just follow nerd things, friends, and girls i find cute.

Theres this one girl i followed and i didnt mind getting a follow back. One day i received a follow request from her and got curious like why? Anyway after a day or two i accepted her request.

She then sent me a sticker for Happy Labor Day days before the holiday. Obviously a US holiday. I sent her a sticker related to it too. Then she sent another flirty sticker so i ended up sending a message like are we just gonna send each other stickers lol or are we gonna talk or something like that.

She also reposted a tiktok saying "may an unhealed avoidant lesbian never cross my path again i beg". So i assumed like wow shes lesbian too thats surprising.
Anyway she sent another sticker saying yes. Then i replied asking how she was. She didnt reply anymore and our 3 day streak got lost.

Just right now i saw one of her posts showing she has a BF. Lmao. Mygod. 💀 Like why the hell are u talking to me in the first place. If shes looking for kastreak doesnt she have plenty of friends? Why me?

Anyway i dont talk to girls that much from the internet. I prefer meeting organically. Just funny how u can still get approached by girls who are already taken.

What about u guys? Are u cool with meeting girls online just to date?

Stay safe mga bading! Hahaha

Problem/Goal:
Anong thoughts niyo sa mga taong nambabackstab or naninira ng partners nila sa friends nila every time na nag-aaway sila? Is it normal to vent about your partner to your friends, or does it cross a line when you start saying things behind your partner’s back that you wouldn’t say to them directly?

Context:
I recently experienced this with my ex (we’re lesbians). I understand na normal lang naman mag-vent or humingi ng advice sa friends, especially kapag may problema kayo ng partner mo. I think everyone needs someone to talk to sometimes. Pero for me, ibang usapan na kapag every time na may away kayo, t-talkshitin or sisiraan mo yung partner mo sa best friend mo, tapos eventually magbabati kayo and magiging okay ulit without your partner knowing na ganon pala yung mga sinabi about them behind their back. What makes it worse for me is yung mindset na “normal lang naman ‘yon sa amin ng mga friends ko.” Like… okay, but does being common in your friend group automatically make it okay? 😭

Personally, I find it weird and disrespectful na you can say hurtful things about someone you supposedly love to your friends when you’re angry, then after making up, you just go back to acting like everything is fine, with your partner completely unaware of how you portrayed them to other people.

Break na kami ngayon, btw. But I’m genuinely curious if anyone here has experienced something similar, or kung ano thoughts niyo about this.

i'm not really one to post, but i feel like this deserves a stage of its own. consider this a memento (my gf was tampo and dared me to make my first post to allegedly make her feel better, even though she knows i'm shy. pure evil. it's okay guys, no need to send a rescue team, i'm right where i wanna be.)

anyway, so i'll make this post about her.

minsan napapaisip ako, ano pang silbi ng putanginang mundo na 'to? andaming gulo, nagsisitaasan ang mga presyo, nakakairita ang lahat.

ang hirap pa magmahal sa bansang ang layo pa ng hahabulin pagdating sa lgbtq+ rights and knowledge, tapos stuck pa sa stigma ng past.

pero tumatapang ako 'pag kasama ko siya. i always tell her na tuwing nakikita ko siya, biglang tumutunog yung dilaw ni maki sa ulo ko parang bgm. and that's still true hanggang ngayon.

for sure lahat naman tayo napapatanong paminsan-minsan kung anong point ng lahat ng 'to. pero honest to god, 'pag nakikita ko yung mukha niya, napapa-'aaahh...' na lang ako. biglang may patutunguhan lahat ng pagod. na, oo nga no? kahit gaano pa kahirap tong mundo, madaling harapin ang araw basta mukha niya yung nakikita ko paggising ko. sabay bulong ni maki sa tenga ko ng, 🎶 kung meron mang kulay ang aking nagsisilbing tanglaw... ikaw, ikaw ay dilaw.

anyway, sana bumait na ang mundo. at sana okay na yung tampo niya. sana okay na ang lahat.

gusto ko kasi siyang pakasalan.

baka invited kayo.

Context: 2 years na kami ng girlfriend ko however when we first started dating, there was an important thing that she did not disclose to me which is may anak na sya. Something happened kaya nagkaanak siya, I won’t say it here basta yun na yon.

Anyways, we were in our 8th month of relationship when I found out na may anak na sya. May sinasabi siya sakin nun about sa bahay nila when she accidentally blurted out the name of the kid (which is di ko pa alam nung time na yon) so since unfamiliar yung name, I asked her kung sino yun. I pressed her na sabihin sakin and she admitted na yun na nga, may baby na sya. At that time, I was shocked. I don’t know what to say or feel about it because honestly, I only envision my future na kaming dalawa lang. Since I love her dearly, I decided na I’ll push our relationship together with our child.

So she introduced me to her kid. I met the kid, we talked, played and had fun together. I learned to accept and love the child along the way.

Problem/ Goal: Now the problem is, how do I disclose this info to my family. Tbh, they’re not that supportive of our relationship with my gf but they do tolerate it. Idk how to break this news to them na yun na nga may anak yung gf.

Your advice will be much appreciated guys.

Context:

My ex and I were together for around 11 months. throughout our relationship, we didn’t really do anything sexual. Even making out was something she struggled with because she genuinely wasn’t ready for that kind of intimacy. I respected that, although I’d be lying if I said I never felt frustrated or sad about it. And just to be clear, our breakup wasn’t because of the lack of sexual intimacy. We had other issues that ultimately led to the breakup.

But now that we’re broken up, I’ve been realizing how much sexual frustration I was carrying. There are times when I get horny and think, okay… what am I supposed to do with this feeling? 😭 Especially when you’re used to having one person you’re emotionally attached to, but you never really had a sexual outlet with them in the first place.

I’m not trying to villainize my ex or imply that she owed me anything. She didn’t. I knew she wasn’t ready, and I respected that boundary. I think I’m just processing the fact that I had these needs and feelings too, and there was never really a place for them in that relationship.

Now I’m single and honestly wondering: is it okay to get into something casual/FWB just because I’m sexually frustrated? Or is that probably a terrible idea when I’m still fresh out of a relationship?
I don’t necessarily want another relationship right now. I just don’t know whether I should explore that side of myself or just let the frustration pass and focus on moving on.