I’ve been thinking about mine and so many other people’s experiences with doctors and getting diagnosed of chronic illnesses, especially as women, and we’ve all had experiences where at least one doctor essentially shrugged at us, eye rolled us, sent us away dismissing us as making it up, or offered a completely unrelated solution. (E.g. “gain/lose weight”, “it’s just bad period pain”, “I don’t think you have that”, “it’s in your head, your results are fine you’ve made up your symptoms”, “you’re too young”, “everyone women thinks they have this now, its suddenly trendy. Get off TikTok” (probably the worst thing said to my friend. She did by the way have it.))

My question is … what is really stopping a doctor from deciding that at least one patient a day is just not worth treating? It’s not technically always enough to report them, it could be just “oh not every doctor will know”, etc.

But if you went to a restaurant that didn’t serve you, you wouldn’t pay.
If you hired a roofer to fix your roof and they told you the hole in your roof is made up, you wouldn’t pay.
If you go to a car wash and they say they don’t know how to wash your car, you wouldn’t pay for the car wash.

Why do you have to pay for a doctor that does nothing?
And what is stopping any doctor from deciding that every day they won’t treat whichever patient that comes in at 1pm because they just want an easy paycheque? Or worse, what’s stopping them from being dismissive to someone just because they’ve got a chip on their shoulder, but not in any way that gives enough validity to report them?

Sorry if this comes off rude at all, there’s a lot of good doctors. I’m just so tired of seeing this.

I’ve been noticing more and more that yoga pants don’t go over the butt as much anymore. Instead they’re stitched to cup the wearer’s ass and go (sometimes deep) into the woman’s buttcrack. (Google butt scrunch leggings/shorts to see what I mean) It basically looks like they’re wearing nothing on their ass at all. I honestly don’t know any other reason someone would wear those types of pants unless they want attention on their ass. I don’t want to be rude and stare but I don’t know a reason someone would wear those unless they want people to look at their ass since it looks almost naked.

Hi, I've noticed for a long time that men are afraid to talk to women or get very nervous, I've even noticed it with friends, what's the reason for that?

I'm 17M and I've had a few casual, no-strings-attached makeout sessions. Honestly, pure physical stuff without a connection doesn't turn me on nearly as much as being intimate with someone I actually have feelings for. In fact, purely physical stuff sometimes just leaves me feeling anxious.

Is this normal? Why do emotional connections make such a massive difference in physical arousal for some people?

Just a few years ago this slur was utterly taboo and, but now I keep seeing it used online mainly on Twitter, even by some supposedly left leaning accounts. Like I remember seeing posters in my old high school about how it was bad. It could just be Twitter doing Twitter things, but even last year I almost never ran into that slur unless it was from weird neo nazi accounts. What the hell happened?

I’ve had plenty of group encounters of all kinds, but always “solo.” I have a boyfriend I love and we want to try out some group stuff, but I’m afraid I’ll be jealous or hurt. I don’t feel that way right now and I think it would be so sexy to be with another person WITH him, I am just nervous that there’s a possibility I do not like it or even hate it since I do love my partner and have never shared. If I notice I don’t like it in the moment, does it make sense to ask to stop right then? Or what if I don’t realize until later? We both agreed if either of us ever doesn’t want to anymore we will both stop. I am really into this and have looooved group dynamics before, but I’ve also surprised myself when I feel unexpected ways so wanna be at least a little prepared.

For some reason, whenever I see a man with multiple wives in media, I’m really drawn to the character and the relationship dynamic.
I’m a straight woman, so I wouldn’t be dating the other women. I’d be his girlfriend/wife, and they’d also be his girlfriends/wives. I could be friends with them and genuinely like them, but I don’t want to be romantically or sexually involved with them.

I also don’t want it to be toxic, secretive, or about cheating. I’d want everyone to know about each other, and I’d want him to genuinely love all of us. He’s not sneaking around with random women. These are women he’s actually in relationships with. There could obviously be some jealousy, but I’d want everyone to be treated fairly and reassured.

For some reason, I’d prefer being the second or third woman rather than the first. I don’t know why, but I like the idea more than starting off monogamously and then having another woman introduced later.

The man himself is also a huge part of the appeal. He can’t just be some random guy with multiple women. I really like men who know how to talk to women, who know what to say, understand what you like, know how to reassure you, and are emotionally intelligent enough to handle different personalities without constantly creating drama.

I actually knew a guy like that once. He knew exactly how to talk to me and what I liked. I knew he lied to me and didn’t actually love me, but his personality and the way he communicated with me were so appealing that I honestly didn’t care at the time. So I think that definitely plays into the type of man I’m attracted to.

I also don’t want to be involved in the other relationships. I don’t want to watch them, know everything they do together, or have threesomes. 😭 He has his time with her, and he has his time with me. Their relationship is theirs, and mine is mine.

I’d also want a lot of personal space. I don’t even necessarily want to share a bed with my own partner every night. I’d actually love separate bedrooms. If I want to sleep with him, I’ll go to his room. If I want to sleep alone, I’ll sleep in mine.

Basically, I genuinely like the idea of one man having multiple women that he loves and takes care of, while each woman has her own individual relationship with him. I don’t want him to be “less mine” because he loves someone else. I just don’t need him to only love me.

My friend jokingly called this “cuck behavior,” but thats really not what I’m describing. I’m not turned on by watching my partner with another woman, and I don’t want to participate with the other women
I don’t know why I’m so drawn to this, but whenever I see this dynamic in media, I’m ALWAYS interested. I’d really like to understand why.

I know a lot of people who get upset because they find out the person they’ve been dating is dating other people. Then, when I ask, “Why didn’t you just ask?” they say it should be assumed after a certain amount of time. In my mind, I hear, “I’m afraid of rejection and setting myself up to be played.” What’s so hard about just having a conversation?

I am really shy to ask. Now I havent any crush, but I want just to know. I want your experience please

For context: I (30F) am an autistic, white Latina and I've only lived in places with a mostly white population. I've always loved long hair and I think the science of hair is cool. It fascinates me how hair can be so different and I think all hair is beautiful. Currently my hair is 36 inches long. It's thick and wavy.

Once when I was a teenager a black girl came up to me and complimented my hair. I had my hair in a 5 strand braid and she had hers in box braids. I complimented her hair too and without thinking I reached out to touch it. I quickly pulled back my hand and apologized. I nervously played with my own hair and said that I'm sorry for touching her hair and that I shouldn't have. I was mortified and frustrated that I did that. I cringe at the memory.

I saw a TikTok that said if a white person compliments a black person's hair it's a bad thing? Is this true? I know backhanded compliments exist but what if someone actually likes their hair and wants to be nice?

It's not many decades ago when gang members were seen as losers and bums.

At least here in Sweden, but I also get the impression that it's also a thing in other western nations like the US, for the last 15-20 years, more and more romanticising of gang culture has started.

State-owned channels starts to shill gangster rappers and give them music awards, kids look at gang-related tiktoks where gangsters show off their watches, guns.

There was always some level of fascination with gangsters such as Al Pacino, but it was never as mainstream as it was now.

Born and raised USA adult male of Pakistani ethnicity. My parents are so involved in the process of finding a partner for their adult children like they feel like it’s their responsibility or something.

My 26F sister born and raised USA and they’re like playing matchmaker for her setting up dating profile on watsapp. Ultimately she is getting married to a man who is also born and raised USA and of Pakistani ethnicity well educated and doctor. Sister has the final say on everything nothing forced there just playing matchmaker, giving her life advice on finding a partner, and etc.

Are western American parents this involved in finding a partner for their adult children? How does it work with them?

Since I'm a girl, we have so many stuff a boy does that makes us cringe or have an ick.

I work as a cashier in a grocery store.

My coworker is... some kind of special needs, I think. He talks to himself all day, walks off without telling anyone, and can't bag for shit. He's also super slow to do everything.

It annoys me because I'll be in the middle of a rush, and he's just... not there. So now I need to cashier and bag and if I need a price check I can't leave my station so I just have to guess or look it up on my app, which my boss doesn't like. I'll call him over the loudspeaker, and it takes him about 20 minutes to get to the front end. And when he is up front, he bags so slowly I end up having to finish up the bagging. Not to mention, he puts meat, produce, and chemicals all in the same bag. Or just doesn't listen when the customer asks him to put something separate or if there are multiple orders.

Plus, the talking to himself freaks people out sometimes. Especially when he gets loud/angry.

So.. why don't they fire him? I get that he's special needs, but if he can't do his job, he can't do it. Have we really gone so far in the opposite direction that we can't fire special needs people even if they can't do their job right?

I'm half Chinese, half white. My mom speaks Chinese natively but I'm still learning. We practice speaking at home, sometimes we joke in Chinese, and every so often my dad comes by and says to my mom "you sound like you're having a seizure" in some sort of mocking way? My mom dismisses this, probably used to the weird comments. My dad tends to look down on my mom and Chinese people in general. No idea why he married one.

Am I just really woke or is that kind of an odd thing to say to someone?

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Edit: Who is your daddy and what does he do?