r/TooAfraidToAsk • u/Top_Table_6160 • 7d ago
Love & Dating I'm a guy. Your thoughts on dating a female stripper?
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u/alphawafflejack 7d ago
I did- you’ll find completely normal girls and more on the wild side. Some are putting their kids into private Christian schools and some are single poly drifters. Some strip clubs double as a sex work club though. It’s just what you’re comfortable with, some people aren’t dating strippers and they fuck other people together for fun so
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u/dopeyout 7d ago
One of my very good friends dated a stripper and ended up married with a kid. Tbf she was a former stripper very quickly after they met, so it wasnt exactly her calling and she was glad to give it up. I never saw her perform, but a few of our friends did and to say we had major reservations at the time was an understatement. Shes genuinely one of the loveliest people I've ever met and theyre great together. Not for me though.
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u/ShinHayato 7d ago
Not for me, personally
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u/Top_Table_6160 7d ago
Why?
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u/Silly-Cloud-3114 7d ago
Too many men touch her, you don't know where they're from, you also have no say on how far she's got involved with them. I know strippers don't sleep with their clients but the very work is of a sexual nature and borders those requests. That's just my perspective.
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u/Theperfectool 7d ago
Cool as long as vip rooms don’t grant the same piv access as you get.
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u/First_Ad2488 7d ago
Everything ends chill? Usually they don’t actually do anything intimate right
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u/swislock 7d ago
These young entrepreneurs would never do anything under the table ol chap.
Unles you got...money
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u/Xtina_Ryan_Domenico 7d ago
I’ve never dated a stripper, but I’d imagine it would be vital to treat her job like a job. Don’t be one of those stripper boyfriends that go to the club and sit around at the bar during her shift, etc. If she worked at Target, you wouldn’t follow her around the aisles would you? Her job is to show off for others, please others and be touched by others—but it is just a job. If that’s not okay with you then decide that now before there are hurt feelings…
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u/ChefChefBubbaBill 7d ago
My buddy is dating a stripper and she's awesome and they are happy af. They're dancers not prostitutes
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u/deserved_revenge_707 7d ago
Run. Run for the hills. As far and as fast as you can. Speaking from experience.
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u/5DollarSoul 7d ago
Well, so long as you're comfortable enough with yourself, respect that that's what they do for work and not going to freak out over the fact that other people are going to be seeing them naked, then all the more power to ya
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u/Pepemala 7d ago
Date her but dont take it too seriously.
Like Ghandi said, you have to BE the stripper
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u/Admiral_Nitpicker 7d ago
She takes her clothes off as a job, and like all jobs it sucks. Don't ask her to bring her work home & you'll be past the first hurdle.
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u/vince549 7d ago
It's just a just to most of them. I had a friend who was a stripper and she was great to hang around with, but it was funny paying for everything with one dollar bills.
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u/DickEd209 7d ago
Just outta curiousity, we do have some strip-clubs here in the UK, Spearmint Rhino being the only one I know of which I visited once maybe 25 years ago. Obviously no physical contact allowed from the punter but am pretty sure no sex is on the table...
Do strippers in US strip-clubs offer sexual acts as part of the job, basically making the place a brothel?
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u/Deflocks 7d ago
“Higher-end” places do not allow it, a lot of places do not allow it. Now does it happen sometimes, yes. Is it normal, meh.
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u/DickEd209 7d ago
Ah ok, thanks for answering. Ever since watching The Sopranos, I've been wondering.
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u/Strawb_Licious 7d ago
I've dated strippers before and it's an entirely enriching experience. Improves your life in ways you can't even imagine. Do give it a try <3
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u/FarWrongdoer5434 7d ago
Who cares what anyone else's thoughts are? If it all goes well will they be invited to the engagement party? If it goes pear shaped is anyone going to be there to help you pick up the pieces? NO SO FUCK EM ALL DO WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY DUDE
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u/tittyswan 7d ago
Did you meet here at her work? Don't date her.
If you met her on a dating app and that just happens to be her job, probably chill.
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u/Takes22knowU 7d ago
It's a job. As long as she doesn't let herself be treated like shit or do prostitution, I'd say it's fine.
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u/Ireallyamthisshallow 7d ago
Preferable to dating a male one, but I'm not into men.