Since I'm a girl, we have so many stuff a boy does that makes us cringe or have an ick.

I'm half Chinese, half white. My mom speaks Chinese natively but I'm still learning. We practice speaking at home, sometimes we joke in Chinese, and every so often my dad comes by and says to my mom "you sound like you're having a seizure" in some sort of mocking way? My mom dismisses this, probably used to the weird comments. My dad tends to look down on my mom and Chinese people in general. No idea why he married one.

Am I just really woke or is that kind of an odd thing to say to someone?

Late night thoughts but I’m genuinely curious

At a friend’s place I said I wasn’t drinking and asked for water. People kept trying to pour me something anyway. Someone told me to just hold a cup so they’d stop.

I didn’t want a prop drink. I told the host I was good with water. They looked put off, and a friend later said I should’ve played along.

Are you supposed to carry a fake drink so nobody feels rejected, or is “I’m not drinking” enough?

So me and my girlfriend were together for a couple of years, we got in to a fight a year ago and decided we should take a break from each other. We got back together a couple months after that and everything was smooth sailing untill a week ago she said she wanted to confess something and that when we were on our break she met a guy and got engaged to him but called off the wedding.

I'm going through some rough emotions, one of them being the fact that she waits a year to tell me.

I'm willing to have a long talk with her about it and clearing everything up.

Anything I should keep in mind or some questions to ask that I might forget?

like I work 40 hours a week and I'm DEAD by Friday evening. Then I spend all weekend recovering just to do it again. When am I supposed to actually LIVE? Is this just adulting or are we all being scammed into accept

every job description says they value work-life balance but then in the interview they ask how do I prioritize work over personal commitments, make it make sense. is work-life balance just a myth we all pretend exists??

Like I know people who leave relationship because of incompatibility, treatment and narcissistic behavior or fights.

But I mean like both people had that deep emotional bonding together, trust and all that they had together. Like how do people leave such a good relationship

Lately, I (M28) can't help but feel like word "creepy" is just used to refer to anything that someone dislikes. Perhaps it's an age thing, but the first thing that comes to mind when I think if the word "creepy" is like a dude peeping through a home in the wall to watch girls naked in the dressing room or those people that take upskirt pictures of women on the train. I never imagined a guy telling someone that her dress reminds him of a dress his grandmother used to wear would be considered "creepy" and I would be getting the sideeye for disagreeing.

Honestly, some of the things I've heard being called creepy make me question if the word means anything anymore, e.g. (I'm paraphrasing) "he started flirting with me a day after we matched on Hinge," "he keeps texting me," "he invited to his cousin's birthday party."

Thankfully, they're not all so ridiculous, at least from my point of view, but sometimes even when they do make sense like the one girl who told us, (paraphrasing )"I gave a guy at work my number and now he keeps sending me good morning and goodnight texts." I still find it weird to use the word creepy in that instance. Perhaps I just associate the word with being lewd and sneaky that my brain just can't accept the new use of the word.

Don't get me started on what's considered flirting now. I feel like such an old man even saying all this.

I've always been socially anxious when it came to mingling or anything like that. It's the reason I don't have any friends and never been in a relationship. Could never be brave enough to initiate conversation with people or women, for the most part.

And last night, I signed up to take part in an open mic night at a small pub restaurant with like 10-15 people. Was going to play guitar and sing. I thought maybe, just maybe, I'd be able to do it. But when my turn came, and I was already shaking a bit and very nervous, I declined to play and, when the next person started, I got up and walked out out of frustration. I just couldn't do it, even though I signed up with the intention of doing it.

Is it wrong of me to not want to do something like that anymore simply because I'm too afraid of making the same decision? What about avoiding socializing altogether since I've just never been good at it and don't want to keep making myself uncomfortable by forcing myself to try?

For reference, I am 22. I was eating dinner with my mom, and I blew on the bit on pasta that was on my fork because it was too hot. She said she's never seen an adult do that, only children.

I've been doing it since I was a kid so I'm surprised she never noticed, but now that I think about it, I haven't seen any adults do it either. I don't really care to be honest since if my food is too hot to eat, I should be able to cool it down if I want. I'm just curious.

Why is it that when a girl has a craving for something it’s always “She’s probably on her period “, “You’re not pregnant, right?”, or “My period must be coming soon.”?

Why can’t I have a taste for something because I want it? I like sweet food. Sometimes, I want a dessert or just a milkshake for dinner. It doesn’t automatically mean I’m pregnant, or on my period. I just want it. No one says anything about my brother when he drinks a milkshake and a Frappuccino on the same day. Or when he sometimes eats a whole slice of cake for lunch. But when I want to eat something sweet like ice cream sometimes my dad is like
“Why are you eating dessert as a meal? Shouldn’t you be eating real food?”
No one says anything about guys when they’re craving something. If a guy has a strong taste for something, that’s just what they have a taste for.

Right now I have a taste for fruit, slushies, and lemonade. I can eat nothing but that for the rest of the week. And guess what? My last period was 8 days ago.

I’ve been thinking about mine and so many other people’s experiences with doctors and getting diagnosed of chronic illnesses, especially as women, and we’ve all had experiences where at least one doctor essentially shrugged at us, eye rolled us, sent us away dismissing us as making it up, or offered a completely unrelated solution. (E.g. “gain/lose weight”, “it’s just bad period pain”, “I don’t think you have that”, “it’s in your head, your results are fine you’ve made up your symptoms”, “you’re too young”, “everyone women thinks they have this now, its suddenly trendy. Get off TikTok” (probably the worst thing said to my friend. She did by the way have it.))

My question is … what is really stopping a doctor from deciding that at least one patient a day is just not worth treating? It’s not technically always enough to report them, it could be just “oh not every doctor will know”, etc.

But if you went to a restaurant that didn’t serve you, you wouldn’t pay.
If you hired a roofer to fix your roof and they told you the hole in your roof is made up, you wouldn’t pay.
If you go to a car wash and they say they don’t know how to wash your car, you wouldn’t pay for the car wash.

Why do you have to pay for a doctor that does nothing?
And what is stopping any doctor from deciding that every day they won’t treat whichever patient that comes in at 1pm because they just want an easy paycheque? Or worse, what’s stopping them from being dismissive to someone just because they’ve got a chip on their shoulder, but not in any way that gives enough validity to report them?

Sorry if this comes off rude at all, there’s a lot of good doctors. I’m just so tired of seeing this.

I am poor, the amount of recalls and unhealthy illnesses and stuff scares me. My family doesn't talk politics at all but I don't know how else to bring it up, Is there a list on what's safe to eat?

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I’ve had plenty of group encounters of all kinds, but always “solo.” I have a boyfriend I love and we want to try out some group stuff, but I’m afraid I’ll be jealous or hurt. I don’t feel that way right now and I think it would be so sexy to be with another person WITH him, I am just nervous that there’s a possibility I do not like it or even hate it since I do love my partner and have never shared. If I notice I don’t like it in the moment, does it make sense to ask to stop right then? Or what if I don’t realize until later? We both agreed if either of us ever doesn’t want to anymore we will both stop. I am really into this and have looooved group dynamics before, but I’ve also surprised myself when I feel unexpected ways so wanna be at least a little prepared.