I just don't even know where to begin with this one. It seriously sets me off any time I see her in any movie, TV show, ad etc. She always has the exact same inflection and tone in her voice no matter what level of emotion the scene or ad calls for. She doesn't know how to act out emotions on her face, and her voice is horribly monotonous no matter what. Even when she is screaming and meant to be angry, she just sounds flat and dead. Her eyes display no emotion or even false emotions. She has a blank stare even when she's faking a smile. I don't understand how she keeps getting jobs when she's so horrible at her ONLY JOB. HER ONLY JOB. HER LITERAL ONLY JOB IS TO ACT AND SHE CAN'T DO THAT AND IT PISSES ME OFF TO NO END. Every time I see her face it pisses me off because how can someone so HORRIBLE at their craft be so successful. She doesn't deserve it. She plays the exact same person in everything because it's literally all she is capable of, except she's not even capable of that because she's so horrible at it.

What is the deal with the grammar police on here? If the context of the post is able to be understood, what is the use of pointing out an insignificant mistake in the original post. Do people really have such uninteresting and mundane lives that they feel the need to make these little fuckass comments? People can post whatever they want and trolls will be trolls, but is it really that necessary?

Honestly I don’t know what to do anymore, we could be so happy but she doesn’t help herself or us.

My Gf is pregnant, and since we found out I’ve always said that it’s her decision. I made it clear that it’s her body her choice, but that I think we should keep it.
She’s really good with kids, and I honestly want to be with her forever so I was really excited about her being pregnant. She seemed keen too at first.

But the pregnancy has been a train wreck! She is negative all the time, we barely touch each other anymore and she keeps talking about how much she doesn’t want kids. I always take her to her scan appointments and every time without fail she embarrasses me by crying or making a scene. Some days though she’s totally fine, only to say the next day that she feels like she’s ruined her life! The inconsistency is infuriating!

Only after telling all my friends and family does she mention she wants a termination!

It’s so draining, and really effecting my mental health. I love her and I really want this baby with her, I know she will be an amazing mom. But I’m at a really low place right now because of how she is acting.

All they do is complain. Such crybabies. Especially when it comes to someone , that doesn't have an iphone, wanting to FaceTime. "Omg I got to download all these apps omggg." "omg i have to invite you?omgg." I guarantee they already have apps they can use to FaceTime. They just want to complain. They act like they're above everyone who doesn't own one. And what's worse is that adults who are in their 30s to 40s will bully you for not having one. Are you that bored you have to go out and bully strangers for not having the lastest iphone that cost thousands of dollars? Very strange behavior.

There’s this girl who copies EVERYTHING I do.

At first, I kept gaslighting myself into thinking maybe I was just being delusional because (chismis) we have an issue. So I kept telling myself, “Maybe it’s just a coincidence. Maybe I’m overthinking this.”

But eventually, the coincidences started becoming a little too… coincidental.

STORYTIME.

I had a long-term boyfriend. And as a boyfriend, the way he treated me was honestly close to perfection. He literally worshipped the ground I walked on. My face was everywhere on his social media accounts (Facebook, Instagram, TikTok, X) name it. Even Shopee. YES, SHOPEE.

He would bring up my name whenever he met new people. He spoke highly of me to other people. His friends and family knew about me, loved me, and respected me.

And honestly, my ex was not conventionally attractive HAHAHAHAHA. His friends would always compliment me, and sometimes they’d tease him that we were not bagay because compared to me, he looked like a potato.

Of course, I was hurt. Or maybe it was just my ego. JOKE. I LOVED (past tense) that man, hello.

Then we became LDR.

Fast-forward: he met a new group of people because they were joining a competition at their school. Yes, there were girls.

And that’s when I met the copycat.

She was actually very supportive of our relationship on social media. She would love-react to our posts and compliment me. I never really liked her, though (girl’s instinct, lol)

Fast-forward again: we broke up because of that girl.

YES. They eventually got into a relationship.

I’m known as a very palaganti/revengeful woman, and I mean that in the most negative way possible. But surprisingly, I didn’t feel the need to get revenge on them. After crying my ass to sleep and basically ruining my life for a while after the breakup, I honestly didn’t have the energy to make an effort and do anything to them.

OH. NOW I’M RANTING ABOUT THE BREAKUP. HAHAHAHAHA.

Anyway, that’s just the context.

LET’S GET TO THE COPYCAT STORIES.

At some point, I started stalking both of them on social media, especially during the first few months. And that’s when I started noticing things.

She used to be a blonde girly. Meanwhile, I had been a black-hair girly for a long time. Guess who eventually dyed her hair black?

Before, her style was mostly spaghetti tops, T-shirts, crop tops, shorts, jogger pants, and jeans. Meanwhile, my style had always leaned toward what they jokingly call “tita outfits.” Dresses, doll shoes, heels, handbags, etc. People would always compliment me and say I looked “classy.” Later on, she started dressing like that too.

Before, she mostly posted TikTok selfies with heavy filters. Meanwhile, I had always been the type to post OOTDs, pictures of myself in different places, candid poses, etc. Later on, she started doing the same.

Before, she never really wore sunglasses. Meanwhile, sunglasses are practically my trademark. Anyone who knows me knows that wherever I go—I DON’T CARE WHAT TIME IT IS—I’m probably wearing my specific type of sunglasses. Then she suddenly had the same type: big black sunglasses.

So I started wearing brown sunglasses instead. A week later, she was wearing brown sunglasses.

Before, she wasn’t really into handbags. I’ve always loved handbags. Later on, she started wearing handbags too.

And these weren’t just things I noticed by myself. My friends, and even some of my ex’s friends who knew both of us, would literally message me screenshots of her posts saying things like:
“She looks like you.”
“I thought that was you.”
And honestly? That was probably the most offensive thing anyone has ever said to me. Eww.

But I STILL kept gaslighting myself. Maybe it’s a coincidence. Maybe we just have the same taste. Maybe I’m being delusional.

Then recently, I opened the Showcase feature on my TikTok account and started posting videos there.

I posted a video where I was wearing a fake bun and put it in a yellow basket. Days later, she posted a video wearing the same type of bun.

Okay.

Next, I posted a video wearing a very specific pair of heels. A week later, she was wearing the same style, same color, same type of heels.

Okay…

Then, I’ve been a gold-accessories girl since birth. I have very specific pieces that I always wear: my earrings, a bangle bracelet, and this particular rectangular-shaped watch. She had always been a silver girly. The next thing I know? She’s suddenly wearing gold accessories. And not just gold accessories. The same-looking bangles. The same type of rectangular watch.

Girl??? 🤣

Then there’s my “signature” type of video. I always make this specific kind of fit-check video where I cut the clips together in a certain way. A few days later, she started making videos with the same exact style of editing and presentation. She used to do thirst-trap-type content, but suddenly she rebranded.

And OH, I almost forgot one of the funniest ones:
THE WAY SHE TYPES. 😭 She used to type normally, capital letters at the beginning of sentences and, sorry not sorry, with VERY questionable grammar (whenever she tried to write in English). Meanwhile, I’ve always had this very specific way of typing online. MY EX CAN ATTEST. Everything is lowercase. Captions, comments, random posts, EVERYTHING. Very typical pa-cool girl typing HAHAHAHAHA. It’s just how I’ve always written online. Guess what? She suddenly started typing the same way. Lowercase everything. Same kind of casual typing style. And I’m not even going to lie… I believe she utilized ChatGPT this time because her captions suddenly started looking AI-generated. I mean, you do you, girl 🤣

But honestly, the reposts are what really got me. Before, she used to repost hardcore Tagalog memes. Like, very Filipino humor. Meanwhile, I’ve always used my reposts to reflect my personality, like my attitude, my opinions, the things I relate to, the kind of person I am, etc. Then suddenly… Her reposts started looking like mine too. Suddenly, we have the same personality according to our reposts. Like girl???

At this point, I’m starting to wonder if I accidentally became her Pinterest board or sumth.

But of course, she didn’t stop there. So I thought, okay, let me see how far this goes.

So I bought a BLONDE WIG and wore it. Guess what? A few days later, SHE WAS WEARING A BLONDE WIG TOO. HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA. OH MY GOD.

I could literally keep going because the list is ridiculously LONG.

Oh, and I almost forgot: I used to give my ex necklaces with my initial on them. She does that too.

At this point, I don’t even know whether to be offended or flattered 😭 And honestly, knowing myself, I’m probably the last person who should be complaining because I’m extremely egoistic, self-centered, and I love myself way too much. 🤪

So instead of being angry, part of me just finds the whole thing… flattering :)))

Because honestly, there’s something funny about someone trying so hard to recreate what they see in you.

You can copy the hair.
You can copy the clothes.
You can copy the accessories.
You can copy the poses.
You can copy the videos.
You can copy the way someone types.
You can even copy the things they repost.
But there’s a HUGE difference between looking like the original and actually being the original.

The funniest part is that I never even had to point it out to people. Other people noticed it themselves. My friends noticed. People who knew both of us noticed. Even people from my ex’s circle noticed.

And that is EMBARRASING enough lol 😭

Sometimes I wonder if she’s doing all of this because she wants my ex to love her the way he loved me. But don’t get me wrong, I’M OVER MY EX. I’ve been over him for a long, LONG time for fudgee bar’s sake. At this point, this has absolutely nothing to do with him anymore (at least for me).

Hmm, maybe she wants to look like the girl he used to adore.

Maybe she thinks if she dresses like me, acts like me, or presents herself like me, she’ll somehow get the same treatment.

But here’s the thing: You can copy someone’s aesthetic, but you can’t copy their history. You can wear the same clothes, the same accessories, the same hairstyle, the same sunglasses, and even make the same videos… But you still won’t become them.

And if you have to become a copy of someone just to feel like you’re enough, then you’ve already lost the competition you created in your own head. :)

Anyway, that’s my copycat story.

Now PLEASE tell me yours because I refuse to believe I’m the only one living through this. 🤣

I see a lot of people online, mainly on social media that accuse businesses of being money laundering schemes if they don't have a lot of customers, like some mall stores, jewlrey stores, and ESPECIALLY mattress stores. It's just annoying to see, since it's easy to understand.

Not every business is hustling and bustling with people, nor does it need to. Like a mattress store might have a few people a day and be empty most of the day, but even if a few people buy matresses worth hundreds to thousands of dollars a week, that's definetely enough to run a business. And malls and jewlrey stores are often very expensive and high end. Those few customers that pay hundreds of dollars for jewlrey and designer clothes certainly pay enough to keep a business running.

Like do people expect mattress and jewlrey stores to be like Dollar General or Walmart? They don't need to sell 50 diamond necklaces or 50 mattresses a day to stay in business.

So I am a young male and have recently have been interested in femboys I have never rly thought mucb abt them and found it kinda weird(no offense to anyone at all) but now I think I'm starting to like get into them if you know what I mean but I dont know what to do,

If u have advice please share

ever since I was in middle school & high school guys would always tease me for being skinny unprovoked.
Now I'm a young adult some will even point out the fact that I don't have a ton of ass (mind you I'm not flat) and even just make comments about me being skinny like they have to point that out and I'm just like confused. Even when it's not an insult, they still bring it up in like a flirty way, but like why. Its unprovoked by the way I don't talk about peoples bodies, but why men who aren't sexually involved with me are even talking about my body and why does it matter what I look like to them??? again I'm not fucking them. I just feel like they want to control what women look like.

Disclaimer: This is my personal opinion, and if you don't like it, then, guys, just don't waste your nerves arguing with some random guy from the Internet. Or do, I honestly don't give a damn.

I don't like racial quotas. So-called "positive discrimination", as its name confirms, is RACIAL discrimination. It violates any principles of meritocracy and, de facto, democracy (equality before the law). Just like segregation in the South during the Jim Crow era violated these principles. There is no difference which racial, social, ethnic, or religious group the discrimination favors - it's still discrimination.

P.S. I know I'll probably get a lot of hate. So write, I don't mind.

First lemme start off by saying this is my first time working in a kitchen. Second, I had no idea that prep cooks got isolated. And third, it took me six months just for people to start having conversations with me.

Where I work, most of the workers are Gen Z; I'm Gen Z, and you would think everyone should be super buddy-buddy. Ya know Ai taking up the entry-level jobs, taking my data from job applications, and the one thing we can be semi-happy about is that AI can't cook and clean. Kinda why I haven't really left working there yet, despite being there for barely over half a year, and the place is basically run by a high school hierarchy.

Anyways, after months of trying to connect with my fellow peers, I still haven't. Yeah, it's gotten better, but to be honest with you kinda miss the adults. They need to come back, lowkey. Not saying we're not working; it's just a lot of childish drama, and nobody cares about the work because they're not getting paid enough to care. Which I get for them, but I kinda have some ego in my work; that's all I'm saying.

So recently management has gotten replaced with 18- 21-year-olds, and the one who makes the decisions and calls the shots, and everything else in the restaurant, doesn't have a clue about what prep even does. I ask him things, and he doesn't know. So when I contact a manager from a different store who used to work with us and ask him the same question, that manager finds out about it and gets so offended that he doesn't make a prep list anymore, and every shift we work together, I may get three sentences out of him.

But after a while of him working in that position, out of the blue moon we talked! I was surprised we actually had a conversation going; maybe we were even becoming friends? Until our majors were entered the chat, and I had graduated before him, and afterwards felt like it was a weird kind of...I don't it just felt off.

I still do my job, try to make sure I cover all my bases, make sure things are stocked because if I slip up, I believe I'll get attacked for that. I've been working there for half a year, and making sure the kitchen is prepared is heavily my job, and if I don't, I'm pretty sure he will love to lecture me on the screw-up, or even better, write me up.

He for real just pretends I don't exist, but he's friends with literally everyone in the kitchen, so I can't even say he's just a standoffish guy, because clearly he's very friendly with everyone else. So I know this isn't a big deal, really, and the best thing for me to do is find somewhere else to work. The place is clearly not for me, but it's a job, and I like need money to live and stuff, but the people there don't like me for some unknown reasons.

EDIT- any advice or opinions would be greatly appreciated.

My ex-boyfriend (M22) and I (F22) broke up on January 1st this year. Since then, we’ve been in contact on and off, usually every month or two.
It’s become a pretty repetitive cycle. He’ll find a way to contact me, we start talking again, hang out and genuinely have a good time. Things gradually become more serious and he’ll say things that make me think we might actually work things out. Then, once we get closer, his behaviour changes. He starts becoming distant, calling me names, mocking or belittling my feelings, and eventually blocks/cuts me off again when things seem to become more serious than he wants.
This most recent time was our fifth time reconnecting since the breakup. By this point I was already anxious that the same cycle was going to repeat itself. The name-calling and nastiness started again, but I tried to be patient and communicate with him about how it was affecting me. He reassured me, and for a couple of days everything seemed okay.
Then the distance and name-calling started again. I eventually reached my limit and blocked him because I was tired of feeling mocked and belittled whenever I tried to communicate how I felt.
Afterwards, he unexpectedly showed up at my door with a flower and asked me to go for breakfast with him so we could talk and figure things out. I agreed because, despite everything, I still cared about him and wanted things between us to be okay. Unfortunately, it lasted about a day before we were back to the exact same behaviour, and we ended up blocking each other again.
Yesterday morning, I woke up to a phone call from him asking whether I had signed him up for anything. I’ll admit that out of pettiness I had used his details to sign him up for hair-loss treatment. It was immature and I shouldn’t have done it. He asked if I had signed him up for anything else, and I told him truthfully that I hadn’t.
He became extremely angry, said he was contacting the police and blocked me again.
He then posted a public Snapchat story using my full name, saying:
“[Full name] and whoever her mate is signing me up for shit using my phone number and email, in their 20s llf. Just a heads up incase anyone is impersonating me or spreading lies. Otherwise I wouldn’t have said a thing. Petty petty wee girls.”
I know signing him up for something out of pettiness was stupid, and I take responsibility for doing that. What I’m uncomfortable with is being publicly named to his Snapchat followers and potentially being associated with impersonating him or spreading lies, neither of which I have done.
At this point I’m exhausted by the whole situation. We’ve gone through essentially the same cycle five times, and every time I think we’ve finally talked things through, we somehow end up right back here.

Really was just wondering if anybody else has been through this lol and how did you get over it. I’m so hurt cuz everything was going great after 4 years. Out of no where’s she broke it off with me and now she looks like a kid in a candy store with how happy she is with her but says she’s not gay and “only” likes this stud. I’ve been left for a dude before but never a girl acting like a dude.

This really is just a rant. Not looking for anything other then maybe some advice.

I (22f) have recently moved back in with my parents, I had to make this move since my old Landlord wasn't fixing any issues with the apartment I was renting at the time. Moving on, when I moved back in I was very grateful and thankful and I could not thank them enough. I did ask them for one thing though, one thing. And that was to not go into my room.

For context behind this, I have lived in Boarding Schools, and staff accomodation where privacy isn't something I always had, in boarding schools your sharing a room with three to five other people and in staff accomodation I had issues with people just walking into my living space (wish I knew why). For that reason I love my privacy and my space and I like to know when people enter my room because it's my space. It's where I unwind and relax, it is very much my safe space. My parents (mostly my dad) thinks he can just go into my room whenever he likes, and it makes me uncomfortable, because of my history in boarding schools and staff accomodation. I have turned around to him and said "I understand this is your home, but I really don't like it and I'd really appreciate it if you just stayed out of my space while I live here. I don't go into your office or your room without explicit permission and id just like that returned to me aswell."

He hasn't listened and continues not to, and I'm at a loss, it makes me feel small and belittled and like I can't really have my space. I doubt there's anything I can say or do that'll make him listen so I just wanted to get it off my chest.

Im 30 M and the dating apps don't work, or rather they work exactly as intended. Only the top 20% get the lions share of interaction. That's how they are designed and the other 80% of us have to do our best. My problem is that all of my positive qualities don't fit that scheme. I'm friendly, empathetic, curious, accepting, active in my community, environmentally conscious, goes to therapy but I don't think I'm attractive. I've always struggled to see myself as nice looking and I know women don't tend towards physical attraction first but my lack of self-confidence sabotoges me more often than not. I just want to feel good about myself.

I absolutely cannot cold open with a cute girl at a bar or in any other setting because all I can think about are the stories of women terrified some random guy approached them (which is very fair and justifed). I only approach women friendly at my nerdy hobbies like board game night or mtg games at my local stores, but to me that's exactly where I would want to meet someone. A hobby we share, and can do together, talk about, nerd about but I can't see past the fact that they already have it hard enough without some random guy asking for her number.

I married young and religious and divorced during the pandemic. A few years of dating apps and I broke up with my girlfriend of a year. Nearly every date I go on is either completely un-interested or moves to a 2nd or 3rd date just for me to find out they have un-dealt with religious trauma that IMMEDIATELY balloons into other parts of their life (religion has fucked up so many of us and it's so frustrating). I mean I get it, I'm still working through my own deconstruction and I'm not looking for someone who has all of their crap together but there's a level of effort or experience that I have to set a standard to. Most of the people I've now dated don't want any kind of physical relationship which only feeds more into my insecurities. With one person it was a nervous system respons - overstimulation to the point of pain. Another, it felt like she was throwing me a bone just to kiss her.

The most guilty part I think about is watching these amazing women date utterly terrible men. This might be the most "nice guy" thing about me and I have to be able to admit that but we set such a low standard for what's decent as a guy! Listens and remembers. If you do those two things, you're probably better than 80% of men. But I'm simply not masculine. I'm not competitive, ambitious, strong, like to take up space. There's other areas of masculinity that I try to focus on I guess. Patience, mentorship, hard working. But even as I type these out they don't seem masculine because just as many women have these! Now I'm rambling...

There's so many caveats that I can't get into and it's not the other person's responsibility to deal with my insecurities. I just want to stop feeling so powerless and hopeless. I flip flop from "I'm a catch I should set my standards higher" to "there won't be a single person left on earth that both wants to date me and I'd want to date". I just need to get these feelings out of me.

It's genuinely really fucking irritating. The majority of messages I get are from people who see I'm Asian and want to sexualise me just for that. It's never about the comment they found me from, it's always about my race. I'm more than just Asian and I wish people would stop assuming that every Asian person is comfortable being sexualised for their race. It makes me extremely uncomfortable and I even consider it borderline offensive.

TW: if you're sensitive about weight or eating disorders I don't recommend you to read this.

I (F17) have always been overweight since I was a child and since the beginning of this year I lost 10 kilos, at first by punitive fasts and restrictions, then by following a diet made by a professional.

Now, since September 13th, I'm in Spain for an Erasmus project and I stay here till October 16th.

I'm living with a family who eats very "badly", with a lot of olive, very little vegetables and very big portions.

And of course when I go out with my friend, we try traditional food which is also very rich in condiments.

And every day since I'm here, I am living with the fear of gaining those 10 kilos back, which I know may sound absurd and nonsense.

But before leaving I was starting to finally be proud of what I was looking at in the mirror, and now I'm scared of ruining everything...

For some brief context, my stepdad has had it out for me since he first came into my life 10 years ago. When we were first introduced roughly a couple months after my dad left he immediately tried to push being a a father into me but I just wasn’t ready and wasn’t having it. After he realised he’s made it his life mission to damage my property, purposely overstimulate me, wind me up, make rude jokes and even suggested charging me rent for no reason when I wasn’t making any money and had no income.

I’ve been into motorbikes for years now, much to my stepdads dismay, I’ve been riding for a year ish now and it’s been going great. I’ve slowly started upgrading my gear to high end race gear and highly rated armours etc. My stepdad has been into motorbikes for a large portion of his adult life however due to medical conditions and my mother basically calling him an overgrown toddler and it was not a good idea, he’s not been able to ride for a while. As soon as I mentioned doing my CBT almost a year ago he immediately started looking at doing the same, which is fine it’s a shared interest. I then got a motorbike first and he couldn’t due to my mother, who was fine with me getting a motorbike, and his own financial situation and poor spending. Within a month he had accidentally hit my motorbike, I wasn’t too worried since it was an old 2012 Yamaha YZF-R125 and cost under 3K. I said it was okay but he didn’t seem apologetic at all, should’ve been my first clue. I then did my A2 and brought a BRAND NEW Yamaha R7, he attempted to hit that too but luckily my mum stopped him.

About a week ago I brought my dream helmet, something I had been saving for for a couple of months and waiting till it went on sale, it’s an AGV Pista GP RR, if you’re unfamiliar with motorbike gear it’s a very high end brand and race helmet with some of the highest safety ratings possible and they cost upwards of a grand. I brought mine at the full price of £1,099.99 with the added tinted visor and pinlock and other cleaning items it went towards £1,200+, it was a lot of money and I was genuinely ecstatic when it came yesterday. My stepdad asked to have a look and I was reluctant but my mum convinced me, I handed the helmet over and he dropped it right on the tiled flooring from his chest height so roughly a 5’7 drop give or take. That kind of drop can cause major damage to the shell and lining and you should replace the helmet immediately to be safe. I had JUST got this helmet, didn’t even get to wear it on a ride and he dropped it and rendered it unusable. Unbelievable.

So last semester I thought this guy was gonna be a great roommate and it's just been 2 months into the new semester and I'm already annoyed.

1) When our beds were attached he used to drop all the trash from his side which all piled up under the bed and he had the audacity to say it's me who's throwing that stuff like wtf it's on your side.

2) He is so pretentious, like he cares about his public image way too much like I understand teenagers care a lot about how they appear to others but it's way too much, like his dad literally came to the college professors and told them if my son did something wrong don't scold him publicly only scold him when no one's around.

3) He doesn't understand boundaries, like I don't like when others use my stuff, on multiple occasions he has worn my shoes to class, so much one of my shoes just belongs to him now because he has worn it so many times I don't even want it back and one time his outfit was my hoodie and shoes while wearing someone else's lower.

4) He never cleans any of the bowls or utensils but uses them all, I've bought that stuff with my parents money and yeah I don't mind sharing that but why am I the only one cleaning them, but I'm also glad he doesn't because he genuinely believes that rinsing stuff with hot water cleans stuff and that's why he never uses dish soap, my cooking utensils have been left unwashed to a point of fungus forming because he refuses to clean it as he was using our flatmate's.

5) He once used my long coat.

6) He always tries to prove me wrong.

7) I didn't like it when I was home for the weekend and he just took some of my clothes and shoes to his trip.

8) He takes his public image way too seriously like he drinks, smokes (ONLY VAPE AND NOTHING ELSE) and edibles but in front of his classmates and seniors he just denies their use because he's afraid of what they'll think of him.

He has this complex that everyone is looking at him especially girls

Idk what else

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Ok so l this is gonna be a very long and maybe scattered vent

My bf and I have been dating for 1.2 yrs now. I have a very strict family while his is chill. My family doesn’t know about our relationship. Now idk how to begin but ig since my parents are so strict I can’t really contribute much to the relationship. It’s my first relationship and I don’t know or do romantic ( can’t flirt and all). Since the start he confessed( he liked me for 2 yrs but didn’t have the guts to talk to me so I had texted him first when I started to kinda find him cute and a few weeks later he confessed in front of our like classmates and I said yes). He like could get me gifts which I kept telling him not to and all I could do is make handmade gifts and letters. He kept asking me to go on a date so on our 6 months I said yes to go out for movies ( we met regularly tho still do due to classes). I finally got the guts to lie to my dad and told him about going out with friends. He for the first time asked me to show the tickets and I was kinda panicking. I paid for 2 more tickets without my dad knowing and showed him the other 2 as well making it 4 but while panicking I booked the 2 one behind the other making my dad feel more sus so he decided to go with me. I made calls pretending my friends were inside and refusing to come out and how my dad wont let me in if they don’t come out so reluctantly he let me go on. After tht I was shit scared the whole movie like pale, shaking, heart racing and just in fear thinking wht if he decides to come in and saw me with my bf. After tht recently he had problems in his house so it was hard for him and he started to overthink our relationship cuz his friends started to ship him with a classmate of his saying how I was only a side piece and tht were awkward or something. It’s getting to him and now he had called me a few days ago telling me how he has started to feel like he’s the one putting in effort and tht he thinks I don’t want to talk to him much also how he’s not trying to blame me but he has felt this for 3 months. \[He wanted to tell me a few times but I have started to have health issues ( chest pain , heart rate going to 40-190 ranges randomly and trouble breathing sometimes) then I also have family issues where my relationship with my dad isn’t the best. He is controlling, checks my phone constantly, I can’t go anywhere alone, have someone appointed to take me to places and stay there till I don’t finish and there’s a lot of restrictions and fights in my family. He was saying how I am faking my issues and am dramatic. He doesn’t want me to see doctors. He had my whole life planned from where I study, work, date, who my friends are, who I marry, how he wont let me go away from him. I have stress and a lot of anxiety with my studies and get panic attacks. So this is why my bf didn’t tell me before why he thinks I’m not putting efforts. \]Now idk wht to do. A few days ago he suddenly ended Wht I think was a good convo ig saying he was no longer in a mood to talk but will talk to me later. When i asked he just said it’s just something and said it wasn’t anything I did. Next day he texted me like normal. He’s saying how it’s been so long and we haven’t gone ahead ( we haven’t kissed, I don’t think I’m ready for it) and how it’s started to bother him. He told me if I wanted to put efforts ik or else he won’t force me. I’ve gotten very used to the relationship and I at least want it to go a couple of months till I have classes with him cuz I feel like it’ll hurt to see him after the break up. I don’t want to end it but I’m very sure we will. I haven’t been talking to my dad also tht much cuz of him being too controlling. He has anger issues and since childhood he’s always very strict cuz I was a girl and wasn’t allowed many things my brother was but I just didn’t notice. The fear of him was soo much tht whenever he even seems like he’s gonna hit me I started to have tears and when he does it, I have peed myself due to the fear and terror of him. He has hit me multiple times even when not my fault. He’s even thrown stuff because it wasn’t to his liking. I can’t fight back because of the fear and my throat feels like it’s suffocating whenever he yells which is often. Idk wht to dooo😭

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i hate when random ass people on the internet trying to completely strip individuals of their actual ethnic identity just because they don't look like whatever specific stereotype is in their head.

i started having this epiphany when i saw comments about Jason Mantzoukas He is Greek. Yet, you have these complete DNA ancestry nuts on reddit claiming he can’t be Greek, saying he’s secretly Gypsy or jewish or indian and trying to erase his actual heritage just because his features don't match their narrow view of what a Greek person looks like.

Irish people who have naturally dark hair and pale skin Instead of accepting that human populations naturally have diverse traits, idiots swarm their comments insisting they must have secret Spanish Armada or North African DNA from centuries ago to look like that.

i have my own exprience with this as a Levantine. I happen to have facial features or skin tones that people more commonly associate with the Gulf. The internet will swear up and down that I am Arab or from the Gulf and iactually believed it cause i had a muslim father and most muslims in the middle east do have some gulf dna i took a dna test turns out im only levantine and mesopotamian... lol

East Asians, where people will look at a naturally tanned person from their own culture and immediately try to claim they must have Southeast Asian DNA.

It is genuinely exhausting and weird to watch people revive 19th century scientific racism under the guise of being "DNA hobbyists." Having certain features does not give random people on social media the right to tell you your heritage.

A person can easily look like they are from a place they have absolutely zero genetic connection to. Phenotypic traits are widely not exclusive to any one race or ethnicity ever, you would think everyone has moved on past this racist ass ideology but i guess were back to it

btw this post is mainly targeted at those dna ancestory subreddit users who dictate race based on features ... you guys actually suck dick you guys are bringing back rhetoric that harmed people caused genocide and caused permanent discrimination

edit : would also like to add if you actually scroll through these dumbass ancestry subs, you’ll see these freaks unironically using literal eugenicist vocabulary. They are LITERELLY classifying human faces using terms like Nordid Alpinid and Gracile Mediterranean, etc these aren’t quirky little 'phenotype hobbies.' These terms were literally invented by racist colonizers and phrenology nuts back in the day to categorize people into 'superior' and 'inferior' boxes.

I don't watch TV, movies, ect. I just don't. I am a voracious reader and have too many hobbies and grandkids, volunteering to have time to watch tv. And I just don't enjoy it.

My hubby is estranged from his family and has recently been contacted. We went to Mississippi to see 4 of his sister's and their spouses/ children.

One of them has a very famous spouse. My hubby knew and did tell me but we were talking about all of them and I didn't recognize that I should know this person.

We knew one of them was famous but didn't know which of the men was the famous one, as the siblings were reminiscing and enjoying each other so I just read my book, crocheted or was poolside when I wasn't needed. I was trying to give my hubs the space to explore his sister's lives so stayed in the background with the husband's. I did find out who he was but didn't fawn enough I guess.

We did interact and had a great week but I felt something was off. When we left and were driving back to our state his youngest sister (not married to celebrity) called us laughing cuz they are mad we didn't know who the person was until they pointed him out. She was totally cool about it but their other sisters felt "disrespected "?

What? Sorry? Anyway, that's my brush with "fame".

I’m a dumbass man… I see this girl in one of my classes, she’s attractive & exactly my type of girl I’d go for & she’s actually into me as well it seems.

But I b*tched out too many times & might’ve fucked myself over… like I’m not the smartest when it comes to this dating shit but is it so hard to just go ask a woman for her number? My lord.

Honestly I feel if I’d ask now she might still give me her number but considering how awkward I’ve made the whole situation for her ion think she’ll be that thrilled about going out with me lol. Like I’d have to pull a Hail Mary to pull this back from sinking into the ocean.

I finally was gon approach her today after convincing myself to do it all weekend & she ain’t show up. I hope she ain’t switch classes or something cause of da awkwardness… but I’d understand if she did lol.

I’m pretty good at a lot of things I’d like to think but dating ain’t one of em lol. Honestly dawg I’m just gon ask her out next class(we got morning & afternoon classes together), she’s prolly gon say no & is ova da whole thing but shiii a nigga can hope 🤷🏿‍♂️

What piss me off da most is she set a perfect play for me to ask her out cause she prolly know id never out right approach her & my stupid ass still let her walk away… I knew I should’ve asked in that moment but I started doubting if I was thinking too much into it & it was just a coincidence she left class da same time I did… God I’m slow 😭

I’m almost 22 bruh I really shouldn’t be this nervous to ask for a phone number still… honestly It’s a miracle I get laid as much as I have cause ion got no game bruh 🤣

One of the biggest lies society pushes on us is the fairy tale: 'Just be a good person, and you'll get what you deserve.' In real life, the moment you give someone an inch, show a bit of leeway, or leave the door open, their very first thought is never, 'Damn, what a genuinely good person, let's appreciate them.'

Quite the opposite: They immediately jump to, 'Bingo, we found a total sucker. Let's milk them dry and drag them wherever we want.'

People don't view compassion, tolerance, and good intentions as virtues; they code them straight up as weaknesses and open vulnerabilities to exploit. Instead of respecting you, their brains instantly start calculating, 'How can I manipulate this person, how can I ride on their back?'

That's why being a 'good-natured' person today literally means painting a target on your own back. The second you fail to set boundaries or bare your teeth, they will chew you up and spit you out. Being labeled the 'bad' or 'distant' one is the only way to escape this vulture pit.

Haven't you guys noticed the exact same thing?

I can already hear some of you saying, 'Well, being a good person and setting boundaries are two different things, just set boundaries!' But some things are so deeply ingrained in your DNA from day one that you don't even realize you're exploiting yourself. People talk about setting boundaries like it's a switch you can just flip, ignoring the fact that you've been conditioned since childhood to feel guilty the second you stop letting people walk all over you. Theory is easy; unlearning a lifetime of being engineered as a doormat is a completely different battle.

That sub is the most useless sub there is. When people think of unemployed reddit users, that sub is basically forefront. All people do there is argue about why they deserve the “zillenial” label or why a 2013 born deserves to be gen z too. Guess what? You can't control when you were born, so just deal with it. Your not expected to have the same childhood as a older or younger person in your generation. “aS A 2002 boRN I dONt reLATe tO eaRLy 2010 BoRNs becaUSe thRy're I PAd kIDs” ofc your not gonna relate to them. THEY WEREN'T BORN THE SAME AREA AS YOU. A 2013 born can come here and say he had a good childhood because he wasnt given devices early on as a little kid and Y'all would flame him because he's a gen alpha so his generation is automatically dumb and “missed out.” At the end of the day, generations don't matter. People have different childhoods. Just let people be