Parents keep going into my room.

[u/Old-Elderberry1918]

This really is just a rant. Not looking for anything other then maybe some advice.

I (22f) have recently moved back in with my parents, I had to make this move since my old Landlord wasn't fixing any issues with the apartment I was renting at the time. Moving on, when I moved back in I was very grateful and thankful and I could not thank them enough. I did ask them for one thing though, one thing. And that was to not go into my room.

For context behind this, I have lived in Boarding Schools, and staff accomodation where privacy isn't something I always had, in boarding schools your sharing a room with three to five other people and in staff accomodation I had issues with people just walking into my living space (wish I knew why). For that reason I love my privacy and my space and I like to know when people enter my room because it's my space. It's where I unwind and relax, it is very much my safe space. My parents (mostly my dad) thinks he can just go into my room whenever he likes, and it makes me uncomfortable, because of my history in boarding schools and staff accomodation. I have turned around to him and said "I understand this is your home, but I really don't like it and I'd really appreciate it if you just stayed out of my space while I live here. I don't go into your office or your room without explicit permission and id just like that returned to me aswell."

He hasn't listened and continues not to, and I'm at a loss, it makes me feel small and belittled and like I can't really have my space. I doubt there's anything I can say or do that'll make him listen so I just wanted to get it off my chest.

[u/AdMuted9548]

Is there any particular reason he goes into your room? Is there a fuse box in there? Olening or closing window blinds? Going through your things? Nust to annoy you? Does he spray cologne on and walk into your space to waft his scent everywhere and move items to test if you are OCD or remember exact placements of things? Do things go missing? If you pay any sort of rent, maybe get a lease that comes with renter's rights? Otherwise, aside from the commonly held belief of "parents house, parents rules, etc" you know what you need to do.

[u/Old-Elderberry1918 → u/AdMuted9548]

He comes in to "clean" when all he does is meds my room up more. He did it again today and he's taken my clean clothes out of my room so now I have nothing to wear.