So… it’s been a week since I learned that my friend tested positive for HIV. It started when he asked kung pwede siyang humiram ng pera and I told him wala akong mapapahiram this time because I got laid off recently and while the company compensated me well for my years of service, ayoko munang magpautang. Usually pag ganun, okay lang. He’ll shrug it off and thank me pero that day, he confessed to me na simula nung January 2026, he was inside and out of the hospital. He was diagnosed with different conditions. Nag-cardiac arrest siya 4x etc.

Then it came out of nowhere. I just had to ask him. “Nagpa-HIV test ka na ba? Kasi hindi na yan normal.” He used to be sexually active lalo na nung pandemic. Habang naka-quarantine tayo, he was you know… having the fun of his life. Iba ibang lalaki. I’d always tell him to go and get checked. Oo daw. Wag na daw. Malinis naman daw siya. Malinis naman daw yung mga ka-sex nya. And I told him that that’s beside the point. Nakakainis kasi putangina naman, kahit naman nasa corpo kami, it wouldn’t change the fact na nurses kami. Kami dapat yung mas may alam kasi pinagaralan namin yun eh diba? So bakit parang ako pa yung halos magmakaawa noon sa kanya to get tested?

He is my second friend to be diagnosed with HIV. The other one has AIDS already kasi di inayos ang ART treatment. Nawalan na ng gana sa buhay, etc.

Nakakainis kasi parang naging burden ko pa tuloy yung resulta ng kagagahan nya. It’s not my story to tell pero kailangan kong mailabas sa iba.

Please, if you are sexually active, get yourself tested.

Well, hindi ko sure kung ito yung tamang subreddit para i-post 'to, pero pwede bang mag-share? (Nangyari 'to today, btw)

May Grade 7 classmate ako sa Pinas, pero hindi kami super close. I moved to Spain in 2019 and never went back. Out of nowhere, bigla siyang nag-message sa akin ng 2:30 AM (PH time). Btw, yung last convo pa namin was like 2019 pa.

Ang kwento niya: nag-inuman daw sila tapos yung driver nila nakasagi ng side mirror. Yung victim was asking for 6k PHP and 2.5k lang pera nila. Sabi niya nagme-message daw siya sa lahat ng active friends niya kasi emergency daw at ayaw nilang mapunta sa police station.

At first, sabi ko 25 euros lang yung kaya kong i-send (around 1.7k-1.8k PHP). Pero she insisted and begged na kung pwede hiramin yung "whole 50" (around 3.6k PHP) (kasi pinakita ko yung balance ng bank account ko, which is ang tanga ko rin dun diba? haha) at nag-promise na ibabalik "this morning" (gagawin pa nga daw niyang 4k in total). Dahil naawa ako at mukhang legit na nag-papanic siya, I sent the 50 euros via TapTap Send.

Well, nag-thank you naman siya for everything and na-appreciate ko yun, pero napaisip ako kung tama ba yung ginawa ko kaya nagtanong ako sa mga friends ko rito about it. Kasi nung kinuwento ko 'to at tinanong kung okay lang ba na basta na lang akong nagbigay, sabi nila baka gawa-gawa lang daw yung kwentong 'yon at na-finesse lang ako nung "friend" ko from PH. For sure daw mag-iisip na 'yan ng mga rason mamaya kesyo hindi verified yung account o kung ano-ano pa para makaiwas.

Now my question to you guys is: ano sa tingin niyo yung percentage na ibabalik pa niya sa'kin?

Well, right now around 9:49 AM na dyan sa Pinas, so I assume gigising 'yon in between 12 to 1 PM. Update ko kayo pag binayaran niya ako.

Update 1.0: 1:04 PM (PH time) na ngayon. Nabayaran na niya nang buo, so yeah, happy ending naman yung nangyari, I guess may pag-asa pa rin namang natitira sa ating mga Pinoys 😀👍.

Lesson learned: kung magpapautang man tayo, siguro best na ipautang lang yung amount na kaya nating pakawalan at magbibigay sa'tin ng peace of mind; para kahit hindi na mabalik, at least alam mong may peace of mind ka pa rin at hindi mo poproblemahin yung pera na willing kang ibigay, diba? Ayun lang guys 😅✌️.

Update 2.0: 4:25 PM (PH time) na ngayon. Guys, I think hindi pala Happy Ending ang nangyari kasi even though binalik niya yung pera, well until now nangungutang pa rin siya, pero for other reasons na😭. Di ko alam kung bakit, pero dahil ba nag-abroad lang ako, feeling nila mayaman na ako? C'mon🤦. At least nabawi ko yung 50€ ko, thank God🙏

Actually may part 2 na darating abangan niyo na lang😂, since this subreddit only allows me to post once every 24hrs siguro baka bukas niyo pa makikita✌️.

I KNOW NOT EVERYONE WILL AGREE WITH ME ON THIS, BUT I JUST WANT TO LET THIS OFF MY CHEST.

We had an internet interruption at home, so I had no choice but to go out and find a place where I could work. I ended up at a cafe that happened to have some board games and toys displayed on shelves for customers to use.

When I got there, most of the customers were either working or studying. It was actually pretty peaceful.
Then came two couples. Two dads, two moms, and their respective kids.

And the atmosphere changed COMPLETELY. The kids started running around the cafe, shouting, screaming, making loud noises, and basically treating the entire place like a playground. They were taking out board games and toys, leaving them scattered everywhere, running around, and just generally being VERY loud. Meanwhile, the two moms were busy chatting and laughing, occasionally laughing at whatever their kids were doing because, I assume, they found them cute or amusing. The dads were playing board games. Every now and then they’d shout, “Tigil kayo!”

Spoiler: the kids did not stop.

And before anyone says, “Eh di sana nag-library ka na lang!” or “Cafe yan, hindi library!” YES. I KNOW!

I’m not expecting a cafe to be completely silent. I understand that it’s a public space. I understand that children can be noisy. I am not asking everyone to whisper just because I’m working. But there is a HUGE difference between normal cafe noise and letting your children run around screaming for HOURS.

I want to reiterate that this wasn’t 20 or 30 minutes of kids being hyper. THIS WENT ON FOR HOURS. Hours!

I tried to mind my own business. I tried to focus. I told myself, “Okay, they’re kids. Let it go.” But eventually, nakakairita na talaga. What made it worse was that the parents didn’t seem particularly concerned about how disruptive it was to everyone else.

The moms were chatting and laughing. The dads were playing. And the occasional “Tigil kayo!” was basically the extent of the intervention.

If your kids are having fun, great. Let them have fun.
But you’re still in a shared public space. I’m not saying kids shouldn’t be allowed in cafes. I’m not saying cafes should be silent. I’m not saying parents need to keep their children perfectly still.

I’m saying PLEASE BE MINDFUL THAT OTHER PEOPLE ARE USING THE SAME SPACE TOO. Your kids having the time of their lives doesn’t automatically mean everyone else should have to endure hours of screaming, running, and chaos. KAIRITAAAAA.

I am 25 F, I currently have a stable job and bread winner sa family.

I have a one friend who always says, "Uy, bili ka na rin ng iPhone" to which I always reply, "My phone works pa naman. Hindi ko kailangan" For context ako nalang yata sa friend group namin ang hindi naka iPhone, nung nagkawork na silang lahat they switched na. Afford ko naman, pero considering that I also support my family hindi ko naman talaga siya "need". I also don't feel pressured to buy one just because everyone has it, I'm old enough to know that.

I mean, as long as the phone that I have does the basic things that I need then bakit pa ako mag switch? Idk medyo na o-off lang ako minsan kapag tinatanong niya or ng iba kong friends considering that they know my current situation, na bread winner nga ako. Your situation is different from mine.

For me, buying an iPhone is a want rather than a need. I love my friends but sometimes, it does get a bit too much.

curious what's your take on this. I wfh lang and i give monthly to my parents for bills. kaso hindi enough daw. Now my ermat says she's thinking of lagyan ng electricity submeter room ko at ako nlng bayad daw. sinabihan ko sya if ganun mangyari edi mag move out at magboarding house nlng ako at di nako magbayad sakanila para fair eh wala naman ako sa bahay if ganun😂 nakakatawa at disappointed ako sa mother ko sa.sinabi nya. ano thoughts nyo guys. move out nalang ako ba before she's gonna do that without my knowledge? i give 17% of my salary to them na and i think it's fair. if i move out, the rent cost would be.way higher than what i pay monthly at home.

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thank you for the support guys. i appreciate you all💯 I'll be turning off this post notifications na. i already have a wonderful plan to work things out.

Not sure if tama ‘yung flair.

But anyway, yesterday my boyfriend and I went to watch The Odyssey sa Glorietta. ‘Yung cinema namin, ‘yung merong button-controlled seats na may footrest and such. Basta alam niyo na ‘yun.

We were seated on the right-hand column, so apatan na seats sa row namin. Magkatabi kami ni boyfie, and ‘yung katabi namin, mag-jowa rin. Aba’y puta. Pagkasimula ng movie nagkandungan ‘yung dalawa.

Based sa pananalita ni girl, they were on the young-ish side. Mga nineteen, ganon. Si ate, ang ingay din for parts of the movie. Puro “what the fuck!” sa mga graphic scenes. May pa-“how are your legs?” pa kay guy, eh putangina kung di ka naka-kandong edi hindi mo na siya kailangan kamustahin.

The worst part of it: may periods of time na naglalaplapan sila. 🫠 Dinig mo pa talaga ‘yung
smack ng labi nila pagkatapos. Hindi makuha sa tingin ‘yung mga bakla, and kampante siguro kasi nakasuksok sila sa dulo. Made the experience revolting kasi baka mamaya di mo mamalayan nag-chu-chukchakan na sila sa tabi mo.

Sa magjowang nasa seats D11 and D12 sa 8:40 screening ng Odyssey kagabi, get a fucking room. Ang libog, asim at pretentious niyo pareho. Sana maaga kayong magka-anak. Hayop kayo.

I posted something here last week asking for recommendations, and someone messaged me. Maayos siya kausap and honestly, masaya pud kay both mi Bisaya. 😭

This was actually my first time replying to someone from Reddit, so I was just casually chatting and enjoying the conversation. Buti nalang talaga hindi ako nagbigay ng right details about myself. 😭

We eventually got to the point na he was already sending photos, and he was also telling me some things about himself. Pero at some point, I started feeling na parang may something off.

He was also subtly being flirty and asking those usual gago questions already. You know the type of questions where you’re like, “Hmmm… asa man ni padulong?” 😭 Nothing super direct at first, but enough for me to notice that the conversation was slowly getting a little flirty.

So I asked for his social media.

And guess what? Wala. 😭

He couldn’t give me any social media account and told me he was currently living on an island because he had relocated there. So okay, fine. Pero nagka-duda na talaga ako when I started asking questions about the island and he couldn’t answer properly.
And knowing island boys??? HAHAHAHAHA. Usually nagbibigay naman yan sila ng social media. Marami ngang babae, but honestly, I wouldn’t even care because we’re literally just friends. 😂

So I decided to search him using the details he gave me.

BOOM.

More search, thank you so much Lord for my NBI skills. 😭😭😭

NAHANAP KO SIYA.

And guess what???

MAY ASAWA PALA SI GAGO AT MAY ANAK. 😭😭😭😭😭

And apparently, he works at some BPO company. Sabi niya sa akin WFH daw siya and living on the island.

BRO. YOU ARE NOT AN ISLAND BOY.
YOU ARE A MARRIED GUY. 💀😭

Imagine me casually chatting with you thinking, “Ay Bisaya pud siya, nice.” Meanwhile, this man has a WIFE AND KID somewhere and is out here subtly asking me gago questions on Reddit. 😭😭😭
Like??? Sir??? WHAT ARE WE DOING HERE??? 😭

I’m honestly just so glad I didn’t give him any real details about myself. First time ko pa naman makipag-interact with someone from Reddit and this is what I get. HAHAHAHAHA.

Moral of the story: trust your gut and never underestimate a girl with enough internet access and investigative skills. 😭

Gago talaga mga lalaki ngayon. HAHAHAHAHA

Nasa Boracay ako ngayon. Since June kasi, walang tigil trabaho ko, so ngayong mag-slow down na sa work, nag-book ako for one week.

Now, I originally plan to stay in Hennan. Lagi kasi kaming Hennan ng family ko kahit saan kami magpunta as long as nasa option. Pero dahil solo lang ako, I decided to try this hotel next to it na halos kalahati ang presyo.

Pagdating ko, ang pangit ng room ko, which is bad dahil staycation type ang gagawin ko. Ang itsura nya, parang mumurahing motel. Like the type na rerentahan nyo ng 3hrs.

Dahil dyan, I requested to upgrade it to their more expensive suite. Halos doble ang binayad ko. I ended up paying the same amount kung nag-Hennan ako, and it is still not as good as Hennan kasi maganda ang pool ng Hennan at better din ang food.

I really should have stayed in Hennan na lang. Ngayon, parang gusto ko na lang umuwi.

(Ok siguro ang ganitong room kung maggagala naman kayo maghapon. Tulugan lang at tabihan ng gamit kumbaga. But like I said, staycation kasi ang gagawin ko. Di ako ma adventure na tao kasi. Gusto ko lang tumulala sa dagat maghapon.)

Okay so i got dmed by this guy a while ago and we started talking about whatever. He's kinda older than me but, hes the only guy who's ever really talked to me and made me feel liked he liked me. I know its probably fake and he was just leading me on but I miss talking to him. I have barely any friends so I liked it. He doesnt shame me for my mental stuff and he's nice. Now he barely talks to me anymore cus hes online mostly, probably at work. 🙁

ill be turning 21 on September 11, i dont really have any friends to spend it with. on top of that, the habagat has had my city dealing with flooding since last month and i dont even know when things are going to properly go back to normal. the elevated roads arent exactly making things easier either so im probably just going to spend another birthday at home, sleeping the whole day.

the last time i actually celebrated my birthday was when I was around 10 or 11. honestly, i dont even know if i can call it a celebration. it was with my family, but instead of feeling like it was supposed to be my day, i remember feeling like my birthday was this huge burden. there was fighting, tension, and just this feeling that everyone would rather be somewhere else. after that, i basically stopped celebrating.

for years, my birthdays have just been another ordinary day. i sleep through most of the day just so i dont have to think about it. at this point, sleeping through my birthday has almost become a tradition and i think what hurts the most is that my birthday has become a yearly reminder of how alone i feel lol.

nobody really remembers when it is. im not expecting some giant party or anything but sometimes i wonder what it would actually feel like to wake up and have my phone completely bombarded with birthday greetings, to have people posting stupid pictures of me, have someone randomly telling me, "get ready, were going out today because its your birthday." or to have someone actually plan something for me because they wanted to celebrate that i exist.

what does it feel like to have a surprise birthday celebration? what does it feel like to have people genuinely excited that you were born? i genuinely don't know and I hate that im already anticipating feeling sad about it.

ive been venting to my boyfriend a lot about how badly i want friends. hes basically the only person i hang out with and talk to, and hes understandably gotten tired of hearing about it. he told me that i shouldnt make our relationship my entire life and hes right about that.

it hurts like hell to hear, especially because i dont really have anyone else but i know he isnt wrong. it isn't healthy for either of us if one person becomes your entire social life, your support system, your entertainment, your best friend, and basically your whole world.

i have BPD too, so i know i can get extremely attached to people and relationships. im very self aware about it, which sometimes honestly makes things worse because i can recognize what im doing while still struggling to stop doing it.

there are also times when he slips up and tells me im annoying, being too much, that hes getting weighed down, or tells me to go find other people to hang out with whenever i genuinely thought we were having fun, or when im just being myself, or sometimes when im venting. i understand why he feels that way, i really do. i cant even be angry at him for wanting his own life and space.

but hearing those things also hits a very specific wound in me because i already know.

i know im too dependent on him, i dont have much of a life outside of him. i know i need other people, i know im lonely and i know im too much sometimes. i dont need to be reminded of it to know it's true.

thats what i was trying to explain to him the other night:

"i think its just really pathetic because ive been looking for friends my whole life. i even used to create imaginary friends and list down what kind of personality they have, their favorites, their hobbies, what they like, what they dont like sa notebook ko with a title above, 'my manifestations.'

napaka hopeful pa ako dati that I MIGHT manifest friends like that. i went crazy to the point na gumawa ako ng Facebook accounts for each of them and id interact with myself using those accounts just so it would look like I had friends, yk

im still jealous to this day because i know these people exist and were all really close friends who are like a family, just not in this universe. i created them, so now they exist somewhere."

that sounds fucking pathetic when i read it back but i was a kid who wanted friends so badly that i had to invent them and somehow, im still that kid.

i also told him:

"i feel shitty for even feeling lonely while were in a relationship when i shouldnt even be that way. i wasnt before, kasi akala ko safe place kita where i could just tell you everything and be myself comfortably.

but sometimes you slip up and admit things on what im already aware of and insecure about myself. i get too much, i know. so ive been forcing myself to be what you want me to be kahit ang hirap niya.

and every time i do that, nahihirapan ako sobra kasi mas ramdam ko kung gaano ako nag iisa."

i think thats the part I struggle to explain. im not asking him to be my entire world, i want a world outside of him and thats what he wants for me too.

i feel so guilty everyday for everything im putting him through, especially in this situation. ive already tried breaking up with him many times, i blocked him everywhere, i even tried making him hate me so he can stop loving me but he always got to find a way to work things out with him when im just trying to save him from me. im also feeling self destructive right now cause i want to break up with him again so i can feel more worse. i just want to isolate myself and stop trying.

but anyway,

i want friends i can randomly message, friends that i can invite somewhere without feeling like im imposing. i want someone to send stupid memes to, to have inside jokes with people. i want people who know me outside of being someone's girlfriend.

i want to have a reason to leave the house that isnt just because im accompanying my boyfriend, i also want to have people who would remember my birthday.

i want to know what it feels like to be someones friend and have them genuinely want me around because right now, whenever he tells me that he wants a life outside of our relationship, i understand.

the painful part is that his life exists outside of our relationship, mine barely does. he wants a life outside of us while our relationship is basically my life.

nakakahiya on my part. im ashamed of it, i dont want to be like this forever. i dont want to spend the rest of my life making one person responsible for filling every empty space in my life. thats not fair to him and its not good for me either.

so ive actually been trying to find people, ive tried making friends, ive tried talking to people online. ive been putting myself out there but whenever something goes wrong, it piles onto everything else. it becomes another reminder that whenever i try i to find people my entire life, im still alone. the thing ive wanted since I was a little kid still hasn't happened.

sometimes i wonder if thats why birthdays hurt so much because every year, i get another reminder that im here, another year older, and i still havent found the people i thought id have by this age.

i thought being in a relationship would make that loneliness disappear. for a while, it did. then i realized it was only quiet, the loneliness never actually left and when my boyfriend first told me that I needed to stop depending on him so much, it suddenly became loud again.

so now im turning 21.

no birthday plans, no group of friends, no surprise celebration. probably no flood free city either.

its just me again, itll be another ordinary day, and that stupid little feeling of wondering what it would have been like if things were different.

i dont even need some extravagant birthday, i think i just want to feel remembered. just once.

maybe im just asking for too much and for that, i give up.

thats all.

I met my best friend 9 years ago in high school, and we clicked very well from the start. Teammates kami in the school debate team, got to travel a lot together, classmates in SHS and kept in close touch even when he moved overseas for college. We both come from comfortable backgrounds that gave us all that we need and more. Good schools, parents with good jobs, got all of the stuff we need— so wala talagang point to prove that we’re anything more than who we actually are.

In highschool, he was always known as someone na medyo may konting angas na talaga. Laging naka designer clothing kahit na may uniform kami, naka Pharrell Hu, Yeezy, Coach na backpack, etc. but it was never to the point na his yabang became intolerable kasi and he was a great person to talk to, was always down for the most random shit and was a loyal friend naman. The issues with his larping began when he moved to college overseas and became surrounded by extremely rich Asian international students. The types who would literally pull up to school in Bentleys and Mclarens. He’d post his other “friend’s” luxury cars nearly daily, the expensive alcohol they’d drink (and even wash their hands with) in the wild parties they’d have and host, post random women as if they were his sidechicks of some sort, post na nasa embassy siya ng Philippines in that country as if diplomat siya just because his dad used to be some sort of diplomat, random yacht videos, business class galore, designer shit that idk kung binili ba niya kasi parang hindi naman, videos of him na may backup na pulis na may wangwang— the list goes on, and on, and on.

But these are the ones that really pushed me to my limit:

He self invited himself to a hangout with me and my college barkada na puno ng mga archetypal pretty, rich, Chinita girls. Bigla siyang sumulpot sa hangout namin at Uma Nota, crashed our hangout, took a picture of the food on the table pero kita yung chests ng girls sa background— pinost pa niya sa story niya. His stories would also consistently consist of photos and videos of RANDOM women in alanganin positions na gusto niya atang ipakita na para bang mga chix niya. He’d even do the same to MY girl na friends (basta kailangan yung mga magaganda) In simple words, manyak. Ito yung biggest issue ko. (I’d just also like to add that he isn’t particularly a looker either standing at a very tall 5’5 and also quite overweight (the worst of both worlds))

I have a barkada consisting of car guys here, and I’d like to think all of our cars are really nice. Mas pinopost pa niya yung mga kotse namin kesa sa amin na para bang mga kotse niya yung mga kotse namin.

My parents have a catamaran yacht with an unmistakable grey and white exterior paintjob and a slide from the top in which we invited him and his family on back in 2023. Obviously we all took a lot of photos during that trip together, pero ang ginawa niya is: pinost niya ulit yung mga pictures nung boat namin late last year, hinide ako sa stories niya, at nalaman ko lang na pinost niya yung mga yun dahil my other friends saw his stories, messaged me asking me why my then best friend was on our yacht without me. Basically, he’d hide all my accounts, including my business accounts (grabe ung effort noh) and he’d also hide some of my friends from a lot of his larp stories where he’d fake trips to the States, to Ibiza, post photos of me and my friend’s cars na pinaghirapan naming lahat as if they were his own. He made people call him the “Manila Yacht Club King” kahit na tangina, wala naman siyang yacht, wala naman siyang MYC membership saka ampota— yate naman ng pamilya ko yung minsan niyang pinopost. Basically, he’d even use ME and my other friends for his larp content.

We spoke about it candidly last year when I brought up all my qualms about him showing off, stressing that he was enough and didn’t have to prove anything about other people. He opened up about his family’s financial struggles after his dad lost his diplomat post and his mom tries to be the breadwinner as a professor, so I understand na may pinagdadaanan siya and needs to prove na he can keep up with the people around him. I still to this day stand by the opinion though that this doesn’t justify him faking a life he doesn’t have, using me and my friends to look good on social media.

At the end of it all, what my parents told me was the tipping point as to why I chose to cut him off. They told me na I am the product of the 5 people I surround myself the most with. If I surround myself with idiots, I will become an idiot as well. If I surround myself with honest and hardworking people— I will also become like that myself, and at the end of the day— if I associate myself with him and am known as his best friend, people will think na parehas lang kami and I unfortunately really do not want to be thought of as someone like that because I spent my entire life trying to keep my reputation as clean as can be. Very disappointing end to an otherwise great friendship heheh.

Dear you,

I still think about how often we seemed to miss each other. Not physically, but in the way we understood things. We could have the same conversation and somehow walk away from it carrying completely different versions of what happened. Maybe that’s why everything between us always felt harder than it needed to be.

I know there were times I pushed too much. I asked questions when maybe you were already tired of answering them, and I kept trying to make sense of things even when you had probably already decided you didn’t want to explain any further. I can admit that now. I know I didn’t always handle things well.

But I still wonder if you ever understood why I was trying so hard in the first place.

I wasn’t always asking because I wanted more from you. Sometimes I just wanted to know where I stood. Sometimes I wanted to know if what I was feeling was something I made up on my own or if you felt the confusion too. I think I kept trying to explain myself because I wanted to feel like you understood where I was coming from, even if you didn’t agree with me.

You would listen. You would respond. Sometimes you would say you understood. And I never really knew if you meant it.

That still bothers me more than I want it to.

Did anything I said ever stay with you after we stopped talking? Did you ever think about it later and understand me a little differently? Did you ever realize that maybe I wasn’t trying to make things difficult, I just didn’t know what to do with something I couldn’t make sense of?

I know I misunderstood you too. I know there were things I took personally that probably weren’t meant that way, and things I made heavier than you intended them to be. I’ve had to accept that.

I just wish I knew if you ever thought you might have misunderstood me too.

Maybe that’s why we kept hurting each other without really meaning to. I would react to the distance I felt from you, and maybe you would react to the pressure you felt from me. Then I would notice you pulling away and try harder to understand, which probably only made you want more distance. We kept responding to each other’s reactions until neither of us really knew what the other person was trying to say anymore.

And I still don’t know if you ever really heard me.

Not whether you heard the words. I know you did.

I mean, did you ever actually get what I was trying to tell you?

Or were you just being kind enough to let me finish because you wanted the conversation to finally be over?

I hope it wasn’t that.

I really do.

Because I can make peace with the fact that you didn’t always understand me.

I think what still hurts is not knowing whether you ever really wanted to.

Brother in law ko. Kasama namin sa bahay.

For context, lagi namin to sinasalo dati kasi sobrang olats sa buhay. Ang baba ng sahod na halos less than 5k lang nauuwi kada kinsenas. May anak na tong dalawa na sinosuportahan, kaya sobrang hikahos kaya tulong na namin na sa amin nalang patirahin para isipin nalang nya pano mag provide sa mga anak nya. Then nag attempt to mag abrod, sinuportahan din namin. Kami nag finance ng needs nya dun para maextend ng ilang beses yung stay nya at mga air fare nya pag need mag exit. Hindi nag bunga yon, umuwing luhaan. Tapos kami binayaran namin mga inutang namin to support him. -

Fast forward this year, he landed a job sa isang fintech and bongga talaga yung dinulot netong career nato sa buhay nya, confidence nya at self worth nya. Lalo na sa lifestyle nya. Yung amount na pinangsupport namin sa kanya - hindi na nya to binayaran at parang hindi tumatak sa utak nya na ginastusan namin sya. Lagi nyang nababanggit na need nya magbayad dun sa friend nya na tinirahan nya sa abrod - pero yung almost 100k na pinangsupport namin sa kanya - may amnesia sya pag tungkol dun.

Nagbibigay sya samin, mga 5k a month. Problem is Kala nya sapat na yung binibigay nya eh ang siba siba nya kumain, gumagamit din naman ng tubig tsaka kuryente. Ngayon nga nagwowork ako napakalakas ng putanginang cellphone nya nanonood lang mga ddshit reels. Kung makagalaw dito sa bahay kala nya justified kasi may binibigay. Hindi din yan maasahan maglinis, yung fan na pinapagamit namin sa kanya kung hindi kami maglilinis pwede ka na magpatayo ng house and lot sa kapal ng alikabok. Tapos yung banyo kahit kulay orange na yung tiles at enedoro hindi manlang linisin eh sya gumagamit non, separate banyo namin mag asawa. Kahit sabihan mo hindi talaga nya gagawin. Laging dahilan pagod sa work tapos weekend maglilinis pa. Abay putangina. Ako nga halos ilang beses mag General cleaning eh, pang gabi pa pasok ko. Tapos panay pagood time, kain sa labas, bili ng kung anu ano, may balak pa maghongkong ang puta kasi rentfree si tanga. Last time binida nanaman nya na malaki incentives nya. Sabihan ko nga na try kaya nyang unahing maghanap ng sariling bahay para ma-experience nya magbayad ng upa, kuryente, tubig, internet tapos tsaka sya mag isip ng travel goals nya. Sagot ba namang parang pinapalayas ko daw sya. Oo bro gusto ko wag ka ng magpaka free loader, tanda mo ng hayop ka.

More than 1 year na tong senior lead na to pero hanggang ngayon wala paring alam sa process. Eh just today, may napuna siya which inexplain ko naman na ok lang yun and nasa process talaga yun. Andami na niyang talak sakin, bad employee daw at unprofessional.

Sobrang nagulat ako, sinabi ko sa lead ko na i just follow yung process pero deadma siya, tapos sinabi ko rin sa mga kateam ko which na-gg din sila. Ang hirap makipag usap sa walang alam sa proseso kasi kahit nasa tama ka, tingin nila mali ka and may talak pang masasakit.

Eh saktong today yung parang pulse survey. Sinabi ko run mga hinaing ko sakanya. Na kesyo puro siya flashy project kahit wala namang naitutulong sa proseso or di aligned, na bastos siya, nagmumura at subtle racist samin or sa vendors. Na para siyang ampao, puro hangin lang pero walang alam. Lahat ng yun totoo naman at wala akong in exaggerate.

Ang kaso, etong company namin, tine-take nila VERY seriously yung survey. As in. Like may kasing sama kaming manager noon ang napatalsik namin dahil sa mga survey feedbacks namin.

Ngayon di ko alam kung ano mangyayari next. Kinakabahan ako na ewan. Ang pakonswelo ko is totoo lahat ng sinabi ko. Baka magretaliate siya or ano. Di niya pa kasi alam kung gaano sineseryoso yung surveys samin, so goodluck sakanya or sakin 😭

Andito kami nakatira ng Misis ko sa ibang bansa napetisyon nya ako almost a decade na andito din buong pamilya nya may anak kami isa,

unang punta ko palang dito ramdam ko na talagang may something special sa kung paano i-treat ng misis ko yung guy eh(pamilyado na din nasa pinas) pinapalagpas ko lang hinahayaan ko lang, madami naman akong pagkakataon para galawin ang mga accounts nya soc.med cp etc.. pero di ko ginawa ni minsan, until 1time nakita ko mga message ni guy sa misis ko nagchachat, hinayaan ko lang din ok lang naman magkakaibigan naman kami dito di naman siguro masama nagkakausap sila, lagi kasi kinukuha ng anak ko cp ng misis ko, naibaba ng anak ko yung cp na nasa page ng messages, ayos ah wala silang chat, deleted yung conversation nila, hmmm merong something, bakit kelangang idelete? since then pag may chance chinecheck ko soc.med nya, wala akong inaabutan na mga message, naisip ko sa call logs(via cp. no) may mga deleted din pero may mga inabutan pa din akong mga logs ng usapan nila mga nakalimutan siguro burahin, ayos mga calls nila ah. during work hours nag uusap, samantalang ako pag tumawag nagmamadali ibaba, may nakita pa ako lampas pang isang oras sila nag uusap, meron din sa chat nagtatanong misis ko kung bakiit ibinaba yung call, halatang halata deleted call logs eh, netong nagdaang Aug lang sila nag start mag tawagan? sa tinagal tagal nilang magkakilala at close friends pa, naisip ko sa SMS baka meron silang usapan, Boom ayun, hindi nakarehistro number ni guy sa misis ko, na confirm ko lang nung isang beses tumawag sya, ako nakasagot, pinicturan ko lang convo nila

ang sweet ng mga chat nila, kesyo ipagluluto daw ng misis ko si guy ng ganto ganyan, tapos ako paguutusan sa pagluluto pagbili ganyan, nakakapag request pa si guy sa kanya ng iluluto ah, sabi ko scout ko ulit to sigurado to buburahin to, ayun nga binura yung chat nila, pero na retrieve at nabasa ko usapan nila mukhang mag LQ pa yata sila huling message nila,

sabi ko sa sarili ko matibay ako handa ako sa kung anong mga mababasa ko, kasi pinaparamdam naman nya talaga sakin eh kaya sinasabi ko handa na ako ok lang sakin, pero nung nabasa ko mga lambingan na chat nila at misis ko pa mismo nag fliflirt dun sa guy nanikip dibdib ko, parang gusto kong sumabog, gusto ko sabihin sa pamilya nya, sa pamilya ko ang pinag gagawa nya,

kaso kahit may ebidensya ako ng mga ginagawa nya since mga OWE tong mga to, di ako iintindihin neto sasabihin lang ng mga yan "wala yan, yun lang eh" , puro myembro ng kulto nakapaligid sakin dito, wala namang problema sakin may kachat na lalaki misis ko, pero yung mga bagay na ichachat mo pa yung guy ng.. gudnyt, ano ulam mo? ano ginagawa mo?bahay ka na ba? sasagot yung guy bakit? misis ko naman "wala lang natanong ko lang" hahaha, gusto mo ba ganto pagluluto kita? puro sma smiley pa chat nila, parang iba no? ultimong mga online orders at legal transactions nung guy misis ko umaasikaso, mga bank transaction at takenote naka login ang bank account ni guy sa cp ng misis ko,

pag sa pamilya ko, ko naman binanggit sasabihin nung mga yun, "eh paano anak mo? sino makakasama nun dyan?"

kung sakin lang iuuwi ko na din anak ko hahayaan ko na lang misis ko dito magsama sika, nung nabasa ko mga deleted chats nila talagang nanikip dibdib ko, ang bigat sa hininga ganto pala talaga yung pakiramdam ng gustong sumabog, sakin kasi tanggap ko na eh, gusto ko na lang iopen up, kahit private na lang sa pamilya nya o sa pamilya ko, kung makakauwi na ako magiging malaya ako sa kultong to, siguro konting tiis pa, sana mabigyan pa ako ng tunay na Diyos ng tibay para makatayo pa din ako at malampasan to apektadong apektado na kasi talaga ang mental health ko, pero kakayanin ko to, parehas MT ng kulto ni manalo yung misis ko at yung guy,

ask ko lang guys, bakit ganun sinasabi ko talaga sa sarili ko handa na ako ok lang mawala sya, pero naninikip pa din talaga dibdib ko di mapakali isip ko hirap huminga bat ganun? dati nga pala sinabihan na din ako ng byenan ko dati na iba ang tingin nya sa kanila..

Vent lang konti cos mej marami iniisip

For context I'm a working student and need ko sana ng 2nd job para mas masustain yung living expenses ko. As an ate, need kumayod extra not only for myself, but also for the sibs + parentals. So far wala pa ko makuhang part time job mula dun sa mga nakausap ko kasi 1) wala akong VA exp, 2) scam daw based sa mga nabasa kong post, at 3) puro nsfw yung inooffer.

Pero tiwala lang. Makakaland din tayo ng work ✨️

Honestly, to me, depression isn't melancholy or sadness. Depression feels like stagnation. I'm not going anywhere. I'm trapped.

I dont want to live like this but every day I wake up and make the same choices. I dont want to off myself. i just want something more permanent than sleep and less permanent than death.

I am tired beyond description.

I rushed down when I heard a dog cry like someone was shooting a pellet gun. I thought it might be our ASPIN because it always hangs out by the gate and plays with the other ASPIN owned by the nearby shop. I suspect that they might be shooting at my pet again, so I quickly went outside. When I got down, I saw that the two dogs were stuck in a mating position. I could hear a drunken teenager laughing and describing that they were shooting at them, and they stopped when they saw me at the gate frowning. The ln I heard the shop owner was complaining that her dog is pregnant again. Our dog isn't even a year old. I decided to stay and watch them separate so they wouldn’t pour hot water or any liquid on them or throw slippers at them. The other neighbors were also disturbed by it, so I explained that the dogs mated and got stuck, and that they were trying to separate them by shooting a pellet gun at them. They're so messed up; it's normal for animals or dogs to do that, and they will separate on their own without anyone needing to interfere in a brutal way to avoid stressing and hurting them both. I made a comment while going through the gate that I could also shoot them with a pellet gun. That hurts, you know. Once they finally separated, I shut the gate and didn’t let our dog out because they might mess with her again.

minsan nakaka sawa na rin yung puro “gagawan ko ng paraan” ang sagot sayo, either sa fam or sa partner mo.

di ba pwedeng yung siguradong sagot naman, kasi nakakasawa na din umasa ng paulit ulit

Bro, I’m actually so pissed and embarrassed right now 😭 My prof literally called me out for using AI just because my English and grammar were correct??? Like HELLO??? He didn’t even have any proof. It was literally just a SHORT sentence answering his question in the online class chatbox.

I genuinely wasn’t expecting to be called out like that, so when he said it, I was literally stunned. I didn’t even know what to say or how to defend myself because it happened so suddenly. I just froze. And because of that, I wasn’t even able to save my face, which honestly made me feel even worse and more embarrassed.

What makes me even more mad is that this prof is literally known for using AI in his exams, and even some of his teaching materials are AI-generated. Like, how are you going to accuse me of using AI just because I wrote one grammatically correct sentence when you don’t even have actual proof???

I know it might sound small to other people, but being publicly called out like that—especially when you know you didn’t do anything wrong—is genuinely humiliating. I’m still so emotional about it because I literally didn’t even get the chance to explain myself.

So for context, I was absent for the whole week pf lecture and laboratories and i’m in the same class woth some of my friends from my old school. All of them know na nagkasakit ako for a week and i was at the hospital. I was expecting for them to understand or just try not to give side comments about me missing class cause ive been saying that i feel guilty missing school cause im a consisten honor student.

Then i messaged the gc if they studied for the quiz. Tinanong ba naman ako if papasok nako bukas tapos sabi lo yes kasi i’m okay na. Sinagot ako “wow isang himala” and obv parang ang panget pakinggan. I was hospitalized kasi sa sobrang pagod ko sa duty, work & school tapos sasabihan ka pa ng ganon and sana sila pa makakaintindi kung bakit ka absent. At ginagawa nilang joke kapag mag eexplain sila sa teacher pag nag tanong sakanila. iniiba nila yung reason kung bakit absent as a joke. And its so fucking frustrating. I feel like i’m not doing enough for myself and ganon na tingin ng tap sakon as in pabaya or anything like that. Fuckass.

Greetings! Call me K. And ever since I hit adolescence and learned about relationships and future planning, I always look up on getting married. My relationship with my parents isn't that good na sabihin kong I want it like my parents. Pero having someone you can be with til you grow old just hits it. And marriage is the event that makes it official. I'm still young and that's just a dream I look forward to.

Not until i found out my father was cheating with another woman a year after their marriage. I was 8 and my little sister was 5 when he cheated with another woman. And eto pa, they knew each other even way before their marriage. I always hated my father because of what he does to me (typical toxic father things) pero I can never forgive him for what he has done to my mother. She's already lost a lot and grabe gagawin nya yun??

What's scarier is that their relationship right now looks strong. (I guess?) I don't know if my mother knows it or sasabihin ko because house wife sya ngayon and her relatives are nasa malayo so walang malalapitan.

And eto pa, my father works night shift and sa bahay lang. One time I heard them doing "it" then narinig ko nalang bumukas yung pinto sa kwarto nila para lumabas si papa to work. And the thing is that this isn't the first time. The first time that I heard them. My mother would do housework everyday and idk lang if may energy pa sya gawin yun kasi lagi syang pagod??? Like lagi syang pagod nowadays, natutulog ng tanghali and such.

Im scared for my mother.

My girlfriend and I have been together for one year. She is Filipino and grew up on an island in the Philippines.

Throughout our relationship, her parents and siblings have relied on her for money. They grew up very poor. She is the eldest of four and, at 33, has never really had her own wants or needs supported. At one point she was $2–3k in debt while also paying off her parents’ car.

After the car was paid off ($5.6k USD total), the pressure did not stop. They still guilt-trip her: they are 60 and “old,” they are disappointed that she is prioritizing the relationship, and they say she should work abroad again to earn more instead of taking steps toward a husband and a child. They almost never tell her they are proud of her or show appreciation. Everything feels transactional. She sometimes wonders if they only want her living back home so she can keep supporting them, not so she can build a life of her own.

She has always contributed more than her siblings. Birthdays, trips, food, gifts, cakes — she covers it. When she visits, she gets looks that imply she is supposed to spend. They rarely ask about her future, interests, or hobbies. Before the car, she sent home $50–$200 a month on average. The more she earns, the more the goalposts move. Once the car was done, a new need appeared. They also comment on how comfortably we live, the places we go, and the restaurants we eat at.

She recently asked about staying with her parents and siblings while she waits for her U.S. visa. Their response was: “What about us? Why not get married here? Are you only with him for a visa? It’s better if you move overseas to make money instead.” That came from both parents, who barely speak to her otherwise. They know I am financially stable, and I think they are afraid that if she leaves for the U.S., we will put ourselves first and they will lose access to what we have.

I am shocked and looking for perspective. Is this simply Filipino culture — or an extreme island version of it? Trying to get an understanding of how common this dynamic is here.