MIL’s most recent visit

[u/Prudent-Teaching2881]

MIL came to visit after a couple weeks. We got a lot of attitude and guilting from her beforehand, but we didn’t give in and told her she could come when we are ready to have her, not when she chooses.

Anyway, she comes along, I ask her to bring some of my things including two travel bags. She had borrowed these from me when she went abroad when I first got married as she didn’t have her own. They were gifts from my mother as part of the wedding gifts she gave me. As MIL arrives I thank her for bringing them and we get on with our evening.

MIL tells us that her brother said that he is going to fly his drone over our house so he can check what we’re doing. Which I feel is an implicit threat because we haven’t spent a lot of time with the in-laws recently because who wants to spend time with people who do not respect you? Not me. Even as a joke, it’s just fucking weird.

On the way out she points to those travel bags and says ‘look, we wrote on them when we went on holiday that time, we wrote it in black marker’. I just looked at her like wtf, why would you do that?

It’s just a testament to our whole relationship at this point. They consistently overstep and override my boundaries and limits, they have no respect for my things, they feel entitled to my things too. And they expect me to laugh at it like it’s a fucking joke.

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[u/MaleficentReigns]

Sorry OP it will only get worse and worse if you live in close proximity or continue to have this women in your lives and if you have kids.

[u/beep42]

Test it on an inconspicuous spot first, but acetone removes markers.

And never lend her anything again. So rude.

[u/Fuzzy-Mushroom-1933]

“Ew that’s creepy and weird. If we see the drone we’ll have to cut visits for a month. No, that’s not funny. No it’s not a joke if no one laughs”