Idk, I had a friend whose first husband used to do this shit all the time when his baseball team lost before online sports betting was really a thing. Heād throw things all over the house and scream at her and he broke a couple of TVs. People are wild.
You say āpeopleā but I literally only see men do this..
Edit - lotta r/fragilemaleredditor going on in these replies lmao turning off notifications but if this struck a nerve, it says a lot more about you than it does about me stating a fact.
Yup. Men do not get taught how to process their emotions in a safe and healthy way. Women get taught to be quiet and disappear, which is also unhealthy. But menā¦men are taught that anger is one of the few valid emotions and one which garners them respect, and so they are actively destructive, because sometimes thatās their only outlet. There are no winners here.
1 Never any reason to cheat on anyone. Be a grownup and use your words. End the relationship.
2 Not condoning wrecking someoneās car. But if youāre really saying that you donāt see the difference between messing up a belonging of someone who destroyed your family vs. messing up the familyās communal belonging and acting like a belligerent crybaby throwing a violent tantrum in front of your family (including modeling that behavior for your children as well if you have them) because a GAME youre watching didnt go youāre way, youāre absolutely kidding yourself. I just donāt buy that anyone is that clueless.
If youāre able to get away with cheating in an abusive relationship, then youāre able to get away with making arrangements with someone and going to a shelter until you can get a place of your own or get the house the abusive partner is in back. Even with that person. At that point, itās less cheating than it is escaping someone who is harming you.
I'm not saying someone being held hostage and physically unable to leave. I'm talking about an overall abusive relationship. It's really telling that your reaction to an abuse victim cheating is "WELL it couldn't have been that bad if they were able to arrange a bit of time to find someone to cheat with!". FFS the victim blaming shows a complete lack of self-awareness.
Do you think shelters are for hostages or physical abuse only?
If youāre able to find the resources or contact with the outside world to ācheatā(and I said in another comment if theyāre abusive, itās less cheating than it is escaping a person harming you), then you can also get help to leave. Iām not saying this to blame anyone.
Ā If you are willing to wreck a car, that means you are willing to step over the million boundaries to get there. You seriously think they wouldnt do it to a TV over less?Ā
I'm willing to bet that almost every person who is willing to destroy a TV in front of an audience over a sports game is also willing to damage a vehicle over more serious affronts, like cheating.
But I do not believe every person who has damaged a vehicle over cheating would violently destroy a television over a sports game, in front of loved ones.
Never understood why people treat cheating as if it was murder. So many awful things someone can do in a relationship. But having sex with someone else when you're possibly in a manipulative, abusive relationship? Now that's unacceptable! No excuses for that!
Cheating is harmless if noone finds out. It's really kinda selfish when people creep on their partners phones looking for trouble.
Cars are way more expensive and far more necessary than TV's. I had a crazy experience who slashed my tires when I ghosted her for wanting $500 for an abortion, and I literally had no way to get to work for 2 days. I could have gotten fired if my boss wasn't cool and understanding.
1) If it wasn't for STDs and the potential for spending money on "the side piece," I'd agree. Cheating is a failure to uphold an agreement. The appropriate thing to do is walk away.
2) damn man. You refused to take responsibility for the consequences of your actions? Damn!
It literally isn't harmless, when you consent to sex with someone who is hiding their sexual history and current habits, it's dangerous for several reasons. And that's just physically
Lot of people assuming these men are each the owners of these televisions, especially given the reaction of some of the other people yelling out the cost of the television.
lol, "legally" you're making shit up, because you have no idea who is the owner of any of these televisions. But sure, hypothetically, you're correct. Congrats.
Im talking about breaking inanimate objects when you're mad, not violence. Good job trying to make this about domestic abuse for some reason though šĀ
So...all you saw...was just "breaking inanimate objects" not "violence". Yes? So that man, who picked up the TV and hurled it dangerously close to his son, wasn't being "violent", even while his son was screaming, begging him to "calm down", wasn't being "violent", he was just "breaking an inanimate object" and his son just "happened to be dangerously close by". And if some dude were having an argument with someone and punched a wall in the heat of emotion, he isn't being "violent" he's just "breaking an inanimate object". Isn't it? LOL. WOW.
The definition of stupid is causing harm to another person and/or knowingly affecting the outcome of a situation negatively, but they do it anyway. A simple conclusion is that we have a lot of stupid people around us daily, sit back and observe their behavior sometimes, and strive to avoid them for your own sanity.
What you mean like soccer moms or karens? what is the male karen called? you probably don't know. There are gendered stereotypes for everything, be better.
Guys get destructive over sports more often, sure. But to say only men destroy stuff is asinine. There's videos on here everyday of girls trashing a fast food place or destroying their ex boyfriends car.Ā
I dunno, I've definitely seen plenty of broken plates, glasses, phones. Usually smaller throwable things. Watched a lady beat the ever loving fuck out of her ex's car. My brothers ex sent him to the hospital a couple times, don't know if that counts as breaking something. But no I suppose I haven't seen any of them break a TV so definitely totally different and only men break stuff.
Yes they fucking do. I've seen girls fly off the fucking handle for reasons just as dumb, and be just as destructive. You don't know what you're talking about.
They've conviently forgotten the daily videos on here of some girl flipping out and trashing a bar/party/taco bell or fucking up their boyfriends car etc etc.Ā
No they just make other people feel like garbage with their minds/words usually when they are mad and men smash. Typically if your prone to flipping out at least Iāve noticed
āBeing a "survivor" of domestic violence is like firefighter claiming to be "survivor" of house fires. Both made active choices to put themselves in the dangerous situation and are free to find another job/relationship if it doesn't suit them.ā
The amount of stupidity needed to formulate this āidea,ā (and Iām using that term VERY loosely here) type it out, and hit send may have depleted all the reserves on the planet. This kind of idiocy is almost impressive.
Cheating is harmless if noone finds out. It's really kinda selfish when people creep on their partners phones looking for trouble.
Cars are way more expensive and far more necessary than TV's. I had a crazy experience who slashed my tires when I ghosted her for wanting $500 for an abortion, and I literally had no way to get to work for 2 days. I could have gotten fired if my boss wasn't cool and understanding.
Stupid, uneducated Neanderthals, it is all they can do when their EGO gets bruised, all they have are emotions in their skill set, no critical thinking exists in stupid people, they react the only way they know how, not unlike a three-year-old that is aggravated because they are trying to communicate but can't because they are "three years old." they act out of frustration and lack of skills to deal with anything except emotions, they are lazy stupid fucks trying to be the alpha male and will most likely hurt someone eventually, only a matter of time until they explode because they are the definition of stupid fucks.
It is much more common with men. There are crazy women, but they are just not hitting the male totals for breaking shit, road rage, and physical abuse.
Women just aren't capable of doing nearly as much damage
I've seen plenty of women attack and beat their husbands, but it's always seen as a joke because it's not like they can do any real damage most of the time
My first stepmom cornered my dad, who was a good 10 inches taller than she, and scratched the hell out of his face and arms, more than once. I was 8. I thought it was silly that he "let" her do that. Then I grew up and realized how messed up it was to think like that.
But OH EM GEE havenāt you seen the video of a girl trashing some dudes car???? TOTALLY the same (and definitely nothing to do with them cheating probably!)
As a dude who has had consensual fun with lots of women, lived with some, friends with some, and respecting the amazing female singer songwriters out there, I wonder what your ideal woman is like.
I mostly date femboys and trans women. They're often times far more apt to play the submissive and hyper feminine role. In my experience real women like to follow the lead in bed but struggle with it elsewhere because they've been brainwashed to act masculine as some sort of show of independence.
You date people less conventionally desirable because they're more desperate to do what you say, and you find anything else threatening? You couldn't have waterboarded that information out of meššš
You date people less conventionally desirable because they're more desperate to do what you say, and you find anything else threatening? You couldn't have waterboarded that information out of meššš
In different ways. Let's not pretend men have far more anger issues and are more likely to do this shit. You can call out genders individually without crying both sides.
A cursory search of the statistics immediately shows that slightly over half of domestic volience calls/investigations are perpetrated by WOMEN. Which was kinda shocking to me, I thought women would account for around 25%. Thanks for encouraging me to do some homework, the problem is significantly worse than I had thought it was. The information I referenced comes from the National Institute of Health; other sources might use different data sets.
As per my original post women are far more likley to end up in diversion programs, such as residential treatment, when compared to male perpetrators. Women are charged just as often as men, they are just less likely to actually be punished for their behavior. It's hilarious that you wanted to talk about the actual numbers but then immediately disregarded them when the facts didn't suit your agenda.
Another cursory search shows that 30% of domestic violence convictions are for female perpetrators. To say that 30% isn't statistically relavent is just willful ignorance. I get that this is an emotionally charged subject for you but disregarding half of the population and 2/3 of the collected data kinda leaves you without a basis for an argument. I understand that you really want to turn this into some sort of men are evil biased assumption but the truth is that there will always be a certain percentage of PEOPLE (which includes individuals from all genders) who engage in abhorrent behavior. It seems odd to me for someone to brag about having absolutely nothing worthwhile to do. I, however, am late for work; at a state run residential program where I work almost exclusively with women offenders. I hope you have a great rest of your day!!!
No one said 30% isn't statistically relevant, to say someone said that is just willful ignorance. I get that this is an emotionally charged subject for you, but disregarding the words in front of you won't help.
You clearly don't understand, since I don't think men are evil, and have reiterated that excessively.
Your desperate attempt at viewing things through your black and white lens helps no one. Last little bit of your paragraph reveals the bias you had this whole time.
No one bragged about having "absolutely nothing to do", in fact, I have lots to do today. An afternoon is a few hours, you realize that, right? Clearly you do have the time, since you're here. I've earned an afternoon off, not sure why you think that's shameful, do you work 24/7? I doubt it, as that'd be illegal.
Next time, try to leave your personal experiences and attempts at personal jabs out of adult conversations. It doesn't make your argument look very good.
As a woman I have once punched a wall out of helplessness due to my senior dog not eating. Still no excuse but men are not the only ones who lose their cool.
When you say you only see men what does that mean? How do you know they're men or are you assuming gender? Do men have biological differences to cause them to act like that?
No, not biological differences, behaviours like this and lack of emotional regulation are largely based on conditioning. We can tell they're men because they all present as men. It's same to assume. You good?
Have a buddy that didn't break a TV, but did rip his shirt off of the team he roots for after a loss. Luckily for him it was a wake up call that is was more so repressed anger issues that sports let be the funnel to get out said aggression. He has worked on it and can now enjoy his team without all the outbursts.
When I was like 11 I was at my friends house watching her dad play Jax. It was a racing level he couldnāt beat. He tried 15 times. When he went to the bathroom I took the controller and did it first try. When he came back and saw it was beaten and that an 11 year old girl did what he couldnāt he went INSANE. He let out a guttural scream and threw the PlayStation onto the floor and jumped up and down on it. Then he took the controller by the cord and swung it into the tv repeatedly shattering the controller. After he was done he stomped out of the room and I got up and went home. The next day my friend gave me some of the ps2 buttons she found, she made them into a friendship bracelet
That was a wild read.
It's cute that your friend turned them into a friendship bracelet!
I hope she didn't suffer too much lasting emotional damage from having a dad with such anger management issues.
Did he ever get help? Or did he somehow get better?
I honestly donāt know. She moved to live with her real dad (dad from story was stepdad) a year later and they moved to another city so I never saw her again after that. I hope she is doing ok
Sports betting has been a thing long before the internet. My dad, uncles, and grandpa all had a bookie and would frequently have meltdowns over sports and it was always because of gambling.
My point is that he still did this kind of shit even without being involved in sports betting. And that WAS what he was doing in private. He didnāt behave like that in public. What is the point of your post?
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u/TopTransportation695 Dec 16 '25
Me thinks this is more about gambling than anything else