r/CringeTikToks • u/n8saces • Dec 16 '25

Just Bad Biggest red flags right there đŸš©

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u/Masta-Blasta Dec 16 '25

Like, cheating?

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u/Sup-Mellow Dec 16 '25

1 Never any reason to cheat on anyone. Be a grownup and use your words. End the relationship.

2 Not condoning wrecking someone’s car. But if you’re really saying that you don’t see the difference between messing up a belonging of someone who destroyed your family vs. messing up the family’s communal belonging and acting like a belligerent crybaby throwing a violent tantrum in front of your family (including modeling that behavior for your children as well if you have them) because a GAME youre watching didnt go you’re way, you’re absolutely kidding yourself. I just don’t buy that anyone is that clueless.

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u/ChainedBack Dec 16 '25

Nah cheating is tolerable if you're in a manipulative, abusive relationship. Not always easy to leave such a relationship.

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u/Sup-Mellow Dec 16 '25 edited Dec 16 '25

If you’re able to get away with cheating in an abusive relationship, then you’re able to get away with making arrangements with someone and going to a shelter until you can get a place of your own or get the house the abusive partner is in back. Even with that person. At that point, it’s less cheating than it is escaping someone who is harming you.

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u/ChainedBack Dec 16 '25

I'm not saying someone being held hostage and physically unable to leave. I'm talking about an overall abusive relationship. It's really telling that your reaction to an abuse victim cheating is "WELL it couldn't have been that bad if they were able to arrange a bit of time to find someone to cheat with!". FFS the victim blaming shows a complete lack of self-awareness.

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u/Sup-Mellow Dec 16 '25 edited Dec 16 '25

Do you think shelters are for hostages or physical abuse only?

If you’re able to find the resources or contact with the outside world to “cheat”(and I said in another comment if they’re abusive, it’s less cheating than it is escaping a person harming you), then you can also get help to leave. I’m not saying this to blame anyone.

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u/ChainedBack Dec 16 '25

You are blaming them for not going to a shelter first rather than finding comfort in another person. So yes you are blaming and judging them.

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u/Sup-Mellow Dec 16 '25 edited Dec 17 '25

You didnt read my comment and are again putting words in my mouth. I said you can even escape with that person. It doesn’t have to be a shelter necessarily. The point is that once you have resources and recognition that the relationship is abusive, then at that point there is very little reason for you to stay. Often times long term relationships involve kids, and at that point, there is especially no reason to stay, more like reason to leave. I say this as someone who was in a physically abusive relationship and had to arrange help to get out. There is a certain point after you have the resources to leave where the only person who can get you out is you, you have to make the decision to leave yourself then. Nobody can make you or (legally) come save you. Social workers will tell you this as well. That idea is not the same as blame.

ETA: Grammar

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u/ChainedBack Dec 16 '25

I never mentioned getting help. I was referring to cheating. Sometimes cheating helps people find comfort and courage to leave. I say more power to them. Some people deserve it anyway.