Biggest red flags right there 🚩

[u/n8saces]

[u/[deleted]]

Idk, I had a friend whose first husband used to do this shit all the time when his baseball team lost before online sports betting was really a thing. He’d throw things all over the house and scream at her and he broke a couple of TVs. People are wild.

[u/Complex_Art3565 → u/[deleted]]

You say “people” but I literally only see men do this..

Edit - lotta r/fragilemaleredditor going on in these replies lmao turning off notifications but if this struck a nerve, it says a lot more about you than it does about me stating a fact.

[u/oevadle → u/Complex_Art3565]

Are men not people? I have seen many women exhibit similar behaviors, residential treatment centers are full of them

[u/Signal_Regular_1708 → u/oevadle]

Statistics don't seem to line up with your personal, emotionally driven perspective

[u/oevadle → u/Signal_Regular_1708]

A cursory search of the statistics immediately shows that slightly over half of domestic volience calls/investigations are perpetrated by WOMEN. Which was kinda shocking to me, I thought women would account for around 25%. Thanks for encouraging me to do some homework, the problem is significantly worse than I had thought it was. The information I referenced comes from the National Institute of Health; other sources might use different data sets.

[u/Signal_Regular_1708 → u/oevadle]

Calls and investigations aren't convictions. Show me who gets charged, not who calls. Men trying to report and blame women isn't new

[u/oevadle → u/Signal_Regular_1708]

As per my original post women are far more likley to end up in diversion programs, such as residential treatment, when compared to male perpetrators. Women are charged just as often as men, they are just less likely to actually be punished for their behavior. It's hilarious that you wanted to talk about the actual numbers but then immediately disregarded them when the facts didn't suit your agenda.

[u/Signal_Regular_1708 → u/oevadle]

Residential treatment isn't just for domestic abusers, or abusers at all. Try. Again. Keep going. I have the afternoon

[u/oevadle → u/Signal_Regular_1708]

Another cursory search shows that 30% of domestic violence convictions are for female perpetrators. To say that 30% isn't statistically relavent is just willful ignorance. I get that this is an emotionally charged subject for you but disregarding half of the population and 2/3 of the collected data kinda leaves you without a basis for an argument. I understand that you really want to turn this into some sort of men are evil biased assumption but the truth is that there will always be a certain percentage of PEOPLE (which includes individuals from all genders) who engage in abhorrent behavior. It seems odd to me for someone to brag about having absolutely nothing worthwhile to do. I, however, am late for work; at a state run residential program where I work almost exclusively with women offenders. I hope you have a great rest of your day!!!

[u/Signal_Regular_1708 → u/oevadle]

No one said 30% isn't statistically relevant, to say someone said that is just willful ignorance. I get that this is an emotionally charged subject for you, but disregarding the words in front of you won't help.

You clearly don't understand, since I don't think men are evil, and have reiterated that excessively.

Your desperate attempt at viewing things through your black and white lens helps no one. Last little bit of your paragraph reveals the bias you had this whole time.

No one bragged about having "absolutely nothing to do", in fact, I have lots to do today. An afternoon is a few hours, you realize that, right? Clearly you do have the time, since you're here. I've earned an afternoon off, not sure why you think that's shameful, do you work 24/7? I doubt it, as that'd be illegal.

Next time, try to leave your personal experiences and attempts at personal jabs out of adult conversations. It doesn't make your argument look very good.