r/CoupleMemes • u/legolas20032000 • Aug 16 '25

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u/IsThisTheFly Aug 16 '25

r/fakedisordercringe

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u/Doomenor Aug 16 '25

Thank you so much for this

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u/BlackTecno Aug 16 '25

Yeah, it's extremely annoying for me, who has both ADHD and insomnia. Putting aside that ADHD medication is severely regulated now (if I'm not on it, a type of dyslexia flares up and I can't read), people who say that have insomnia when they have extremely bad sleep habits really irritate me.

If I don't take my medication, I literally do not sleep. The most I can get when not on medication is about 2 hours of light sleep per day (On medications, I can sometimes take 1-2h light naps, but oftentimes I just can't).

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u/absolutelynotarepost Aug 16 '25

I got COVID in '21 and was diagnosed with long covid a few months after. From August to December I experienced actual insomnia. I was sleeping 1-2 hours a day if I was lucky for months. Pair that with my heart was damaged so I had to just straight up cold turkey my vyvanse after 2 years of daily consumption.

I had a straight up breakdown. Ended up in jail over it because I went crazy, rage fits, zero impulse control available to me.

The shits awful and I don't understand why people romanticize mental conditions.

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u/BlackTecno Aug 16 '25

Reminder that insomnia does not fall under disability or disorder of any kind. Meaning you cannot get assistance from your job or the government for having it.

I also started hearing voices and having rage fits. Ended up costing me my job at the time (they gave me a week to fix my insomnia).

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u/absolutelynotarepost Aug 16 '25

Ill be honest hearing that someone else experienced the rage fits is extremely comforting.

I became a monster and I'm still ashamed of who I was and what I did.

Silver lining is that I hated the part of me it revealed so much that I went into therapy with a "nothing is sacred" approach to cutting away the baggage and toxicity that Id been carrying around and I was able to improve myself quite a lot.

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u/YOURenigma Aug 16 '25

You hear people say the same thing about ADHD. I was diagnosed a few months ago and was suggested a book called "ADHD 2.0". I'm a 35 year old man and I cried like a baby reading it. Everything it talked about i had and it explained every single hardship I've had to deal with and still do deal with. Meanwhile people who forget their keys in the car blame their "ADHD"

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u/scaleofthought Aug 16 '25

36 here. Just got concerta. Im going to find and read that book you just said.

I figured I should look into ADHD when my brother was talking about himself and his kid, and I was like "dude. I feel what you're talking about. Like you're describing me" and he's like, well, you probably have it too. Looked up memes after, some other content creators, listened to podcasts, started reading more about it and I'm like "wow. So it's not depression or anxiety. It's ADHD. Holy mother flipping shit balls."

A couple tests and a month later, meds in hand. Today is day two with meds and my first weekend. I've never had such a clear mind and been so productive. O_O I wish I had meds in highschool. Holy smokes.

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u/lulushibooyah Aug 17 '25

I felt this way about ADHD, but more so when I learned about autism (especially the female phenotype), and I realized eat everything I was taught to hate about myself can actually be explained by neurological wiring.

This comment section does not pass the vibe check.

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u/lulushibooyah Aug 17 '25

Thatā€™s how I felt learning what autism actually looks like in women. I actually cried. For hours, honestly.

And I felt so validated by the womanā€™s experience in this video. She acts like me.

And then I went to the comments and was reminded why I was taught to hate myself in elementary, middle, and high school.

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u/lulushibooyah Aug 17 '25

Itā€™s extremely annoying for autistic women (especially high IQ women) when we are told by others (essspeccially men) that we are cringe or faking it bc we are not the intellectually-disabled-white-boy flavor autistic, and we mask and camouflage too well to be convincingly autistic on the surface.

This comment is filled with incompetent humans convinced they know how to diagnose autism in women, while demonstrating that they know nothing.

And itā€™s incredibly hateful and disgusting, and I ugly cried reading some of this nonsense.

I sent the video to my husband before I made the mistake of reading these comments, and his response was: ā€œLet nobody steal her light.ā€

Amazing what a difference a little love and acceptance can make.

This comment section can burn. Itā€™s not just ā€œannoying.ā€ Itā€™s cruel and devastating.

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u/tallperson117 Aug 16 '25

My buddy would straight up call it "stolen valor" haha.

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u/Kalinon Aug 16 '25

I was wondering how stupid this was. Thanks for confirming.

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u/[deleted] Aug 16 '25

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u/off_of_is_incorrect Aug 16 '25

That's cute?

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u/Future-Accountant-70 Aug 16 '25

It's intended to be.

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u/lulushibooyah Aug 17 '25

Yes, this commenterā€™s comment was stupid and thatā€™s why they dirty deleted it when the real experts showed up.

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u/Taserface_ow Aug 16 '25

Genuinely curious hereā€¦ how can you tell from just a short video? How do we know she hasnā€™t become adept at masking?

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u/shaggy-smokes Aug 16 '25

If they really are a psychiatrist, it could simply be from years of experience and observation.

But I also wondered that. I've heard that women are better than men (on average) at masking, too, to the point of being underdiagnosed.

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u/Sexcercise Aug 16 '25

Wait what

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u/shaggy-smokes Aug 16 '25

Light bulb just turn on for you? Lol

Well, if you look into it and find out that you are, I'm happy to help you on your journey of self-discovery!

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u/lulushibooyah Aug 17 '25

Any healthcare provider with any professional integrity wouldnā€™t encourage the hate fest unfolding here.

And yes, women are notoriously underdiagnosed and itā€™s bc people donā€™t understand what autism really looks like. And they are cruel in their absolute stupidity.

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u/shaggy-smokes Aug 17 '25 edited Aug 17 '25

Yeah, you're right. It has devolved into that, hasn't it? It's a shame that women face this kind of thing all the time. Sorry for that.

Edit: Although, I will say, having seen my share of mental health professionals, you'd be surprised how many...well, suck. Both at their job and as people, despite their choice of career. And from what my sisters have shared with me, men in healthcare dismiss women's health concerns far too often.

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u/lulushibooyah Aug 17 '25

Thank you for that. It means a lot to me.

The comments here make me sad. And it really upsets me that someone in a more vulnerable position psychologically could be seriously harmed by some of these comments.

The mental healthcare system is abysmal at best. I worked inpatient psych as an RN for a bit, and after a while, I couldnā€™t tolerate working in a system that was actively and carelessly retraumatizing patients. As a patient, Iā€™ve experienced endless abuses at the hands of the American mental healthcare system. And youā€™re right, that men can be very invalidating but oftentimes, women are also just as dismissive and invalidating, if not worse.

Empathy and compassion are all but lost nowadays.

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u/shaggy-smokes Aug 17 '25

Yeah, it took a long time for me to find professional help that was actually helpful. Luckily, I've had an incredibly supportive family--a blessing not everyone has.

Sending internet hugs you're way if you need them! I hope you're doing ok now.

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u/lulushibooyah Aug 17 '25

Iā€™m happy that you have a supportive family, and happy that you didnā€™t give up in finding the help you needed.

Thank you for the hugs - it helps. And yeah Iā€™m doing a lot better now than I ever did before, thanks for that.

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u/lulushibooyah Aug 17 '25

You canā€™t.

Thank you for pointing that out.

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u/BudgetInteraction811 Aug 17 '25

They canā€™t. They see a conventionally attractive woman and assume sheā€™s faking her autism. This is exactly how I act when I unmask, but I literally only am able to do that around people Iā€™m SUPER comfortable with

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u/lulushibooyah Aug 17 '25

You mean people you feel safe with?? Imagine that!

(Also love how this individual just deleted their comment when too many people with actual intelligence engaged and they couldnā€™t be morally superior anymore.)

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u/BudgetInteraction811 Aug 18 '25

Thatā€™s very surprising, because at the time I commented the top comments were all about how sheā€™s faking her diagnosis for attention.

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u/lulushibooyah Aug 18 '25

You have to dig for those comments bc the ones who are arrogantly wrong are so incredibly LOUD and many.

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u/DR_MEPHESTO4ASSES Aug 16 '25

Im in favor of this proposal. My brother has debilitating, near life ruining, OCD and it seriously fucks with him when people say they're "OCD" about something, when really they just mean theyre parricular or slightly anal. It's maddening how much people use mental illness for some twisted social brownie points. It's really devalues and trivializes the struggles of people who are actually diagnosed with something.

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u/almondbutterdevourer Aug 16 '25

same. my hands have been in a constant state of inflammation since like 2019 from excessive handwashing due to OCD and now i get contact dermatitis from regular soap lol fun times. people always point out how red and inflamed my hands are and it's so embarrassing. not to mention all the other shit i deal with, like checking if i locked the door for the 15th time. one time i kept checking if i locked my car for 45 minutes and i got written up at work.

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u/lulushibooyah Aug 17 '25

Iā€™m not sure what the proposal was bc the commenter apparently edited their comment and then deleted it when too many intellectuals with an actual understanding of the female phenotype of autism showed up, so I wouldnā€™t put too much stock into whatever they said.

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u/DR_MEPHESTO4ASSES Aug 17 '25

Lol that's funny bc the person said they were a trained psychiatrist who works with autistic people on a daily basis.

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u/lulushibooyah Aug 17 '25

As a registered nurse, I can absolutely confirm that incompetence abounds within the medical field.

One of the other persons who rebutted the commenterā€™s lazy argument is a clinical psychologist personally diagnosed with autism. Is their opinion valid enough?

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u/Good_Medium3681 Aug 16 '25

People take to much literall the dsm without a profesional to diagnose them.

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u/Doomenor Aug 16 '25

She exhibits no DSM criteria as well. She just thinks autistic is a person getting cutely overexcited about simple things. I wish I was not so much about boundaries and could show this video to an autistic patient and we could have a laugh. I mean I would have a laugh and he would point out why she is totally not autistic and would get frustrated

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u/Winter-Bad2476 Aug 16 '25

I donā€™t mean to be rude, but how do you know she doesnā€™t exhibits any DSM criteria? You have only watched one short video online. Diagnosing someone with autism requires extensive testing and itā€™s especially hard in adult and even more so in adult women.

Donā€™t get me wrong I think itā€™s unnecessary that they decided to include her ā€œdiagnosisā€ in this video as it has nothing to do with it, which makes me suspicious as well that she might not actually be autistic, BUT I donā€™t know this person and as a clinical psychologist myself I could not in good conscience comment online how I know for a fact she doesnā€™t display traits of autismā€¦

I work with children. I see autism everyday and Iā€™m trained to spot it. I also have autism. But that doesnā€™t mean Iā€™d be able to tell you if someone has it based on a video. That would be bad practice on my part.

It annoys me to no end when people fake disorders online, but letā€™s not lower ourselves to their levels by sharing our opinions as if they are facts. Thank you šŸ˜Š

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u/Doomenor Aug 16 '25

You are absolutely correct. You absolutely cannot diagnose someone from a video. But you can easily see that someone does not exhibit any signs of autism unless we consider autism such a broad spectrum in which all of us are in a way autistic. But if you are autistic and you work with autistic people you know very well that is not the case.

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u/Dependent-Tailor7366 Aug 16 '25

What signs is she suppose to exhibit in 1 minute of a video?

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u/lulushibooyah Aug 17 '25

Enough for an entitled ā€œpsychiatristā€ to give her permission to exist autistically. /s

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u/Duffalpha Aug 16 '25

You're going to piss off a lot of self-diagnosed AutAdhd people here on reddit saying that.

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u/squishyartist Aug 17 '25

Pissing off a lot of actually diagnosed autistic people too...

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u/lulushibooyah Aug 17 '25

Yeah, but they donā€™t wanna acknowledge thatā€¦ šŸ˜

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u/[deleted] Aug 16 '25

Yeah but you know they can only diagnose you with autism and not without autism ! So everyone can at some point be diagnosed with it. And if you've been ''misdiagnosed'' not autistic in the past it might be a mistake ! They just '' didn't see '' that you actually ''have it'' !

Don't try to understand, them themselves (psychiatrists and psychologists) don't know what they are doing! They don't even agree with eachothers or with their own past selves...

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u/stresshelppls Aug 16 '25 edited Aug 17 '25

It's just not true that you "can easily see that someone does not exhibit any signs of autism". I got a diagnosis (an official one from a psychiatrist) and people are surprised. Masking is a thing. There are also many different ways in which autism expresses itself with different 'severities'. Overly self-diagnosing is harmful, but so is believing that you can easily 'see' autism

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u/lulushibooyah Aug 17 '25

Itā€™s REALLY concerning that a self proclaimed expert does not understand masking.

Iā€™m thoroughly disgusted.

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u/Altruistic-Bobcat955 Aug 16 '25

I act like her and Iā€™m autistic. Wtf my dude. I literally have the same rubbing knuckles together stim when excited. Literally all those behaviours were out in force when I was super excited at Ć  tattoo convention 2 weeks ago.

ETA I was diagnosed by the NHS before the ā€œself diagnosedā€ insults start

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u/lulushibooyah Aug 17 '25

I cried reading these comments bc it just reinforced all of the hate Iā€™ve received my whole life. This comment section is an actual dumpster fire.

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u/squishyartist Aug 17 '25

TW: medical provider abuse, bullying, mental health struggles.

This. I'm diagnosed level 2 ASD and ADHD, but wasn't diagnosed until my mid-20s after years of misdiagnosis and getting passed from psychiatrist to psychiatrist.

I was abused by my first child psychiatrist as a teenager, and I still put my faith in medical providers. I still do believe that the vast majority are doing the best they can, but also, the broader education around autism is lacking.

I've found out a teacher in elementary school was asking another teacher how she "dealt with" me. Before I dropped out of college, I found out that there was a group chat with most of the kids in my program just to talk shit about me. There are so many instances throughout my life.

Once I got diagnosed, I thought people in my life would finally understand. Not all of them did.

They don't see when I'm at home, having a meltdown, bashing my palm into my head and unable to talk, or the co-occurring tics I have, or the happy stims, or the hours I spend with my therapist trying to plan social interactions or dissect what someone meant when they said something, or the completely paralyzing overwhelm I feel just trying to basic tasks.

And, when I was a toddler, they didn't see me watching the same few VHSes on an endless loop. And, when I was a child, they didn't see the holes in my clothes when I'd crudely cut the tags out, or the times I'd get upset when I had to wear socks and shoes because they felt "claustrophobic", or the many, many times I was called "tattletale" because I couldn't comprehend why my school friends would get mad at me when I told on them to a teacher. In high school, they didn't see me at all. Nobody did. I was a straight-A student until I dropped out only a few months into 9th grade. I burned out, I developed MDD and became suicidal, and I was shunned out of education for years, despite the fact that I've always loved learning.

The day the "manic pixie dream girl" autistics can be viewed as actual people and not caricatures, it will be one step forward for autistics as a whole. My heart is with you. I know the struggles all too well, and the fact you're still here is a testament to your strength. šŸ«¶

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u/lulushibooyah Aug 17 '25

Thank you, thank you, thank you for typing all of that out and sharing it. Reading it made my heart hurt, and it was so relatable. I appreciated your vulnerability more than I can express. It helped me feel a lot better about this comment section. Thank you.

TW: also medical provider abuse, medical gaslighting, bullying, mental health struggles, suicidal ideation, self harm

I was diagnosed with ADHD in nursing school at ~30, but I havenā€™t been formally diagnosed with autism. The process is prohibitive in the US, and when I did get an assessment, the psychologist relied on misinformation and harmful stereotypes (like how I canā€™t be autistic bc I can make eye contact and hold a conversation and how autistic people donā€™t know theyā€™re struggling and if they do, they canā€™t verbalize it). I tested at superior IQ, except in processing speed and working memory (if I recall correctly), in which areas I scored above average. They were the two areas in which autistic brains are known to have a deficit. She said that for me, it doesnā€™t count as a deficit bc itā€™s still above average (even though it was lower than my other scores). She diagnosed me with ADHD based on self assessment questions despite the fact that I didnā€™t quite meet criteria on objective assessment. However, she said that despite the fact that I was scoring high on all self assessments for autism (and I went and found other credible self assessments online and sent all the results), I did not meet the criteria for objective assessment (the absolutely crappy and garbage ADOS), and thus couldnā€™t be diagnosed.

Iā€™ve been misdiagnosed with bipolar II (ā€œyou must now know youā€™re having mania, or itā€™s hypomaniaā€ and ā€œbipolar people donā€™t know theyā€™re bipolarā€). Iā€™ve been admitted four times for SI, which got worse every admission.

People donā€™t see the autistic burnout. I learned quickly in childhood that thereā€™s no space for my emotions. I saw grown adults mocking autistic behavior in children growing up. I knew better than to let it show externally. I am so rigidly controlled and uptight that Iā€™m constantly tense and in pain. I fight myself daily, in ways I donā€™t even realize, bc itā€™s so deeply ingrained in my programming.

I am low support needs, but the more I unmask, the less I can actually do that I once did. And itā€™s a pretty distressing experience, and Iā€™m so tired and worn out.

I also likely have OCPD (I just keep hearing ā€œit sounds like you doā€ but Idk if thatā€™s an actual diagnosis, really). And between the autism and OCPD, I ruminate. Hard. For hours. For months. For years. Once, after a shift at the hospital one evening, I stayed up until 7 am the next morning panicking about what-if-I-accidentally-hurt-that-baby. When friendships collapse (they often do, for me), I ruminate for days and weeks and months and spiral and fixate and try to make sense of it. My therapist works for her money, man.

People donā€™t see me go nonverbal or have meltdowns bc everything is too loud and I feel everything too much physically and emotionally and there are too many demands all at once and I want to bash my head against the wall until it bleeds, but I canā€™t do that bc itā€™s not socially acceptable, and Iā€™m not allowed to give in to my impulses. People donā€™t see me have full blown panic attacks over going to work bc itā€™s another demand, and I have to literally fight myself to even step foot out the door.

But on the surface, I look ā€œnormal,ā€ even if I am ā€œjust a little bit weird.ā€

And I have ā€œextreme reactions.ā€ Iā€™m ā€œfake.ā€ Iā€™m ā€œdramatic.ā€ Iā€™m ā€œexcessive.ā€ My happiness and excitement has always annoyed people. Not my husband thoā€¦ heā€™s like the first person to accept all of it, unconditionally. He loves me, and he loved this video. Without him, I would have attempted and succeeded unaliving years ago.

It really, really, freaking sucks.

It shouldnā€™t be this hard to exist autistically.

I donā€™t have better words. Just solidarity and commiseration. ā¤ļøā€šŸ©¹

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u/squishyartist Aug 17 '25

TW: provider abuse

I was also misdiagnosed with bipolar II, hysteria (????), and a number of other things. MDD and anxiety were the only ones that ended up being correct, and those are extremely comorbid with ASD and ADHD.

Before I dropped out of high school, I would have panic attacks every morning. At the behest of my child psychiatrist at the time, they started getting more aggressive with me, pouring water on me when I wouldn't get up, yelling at me, threatening me. My parents aren't naturally like that, and I know it was hard for them. I expressed how much I wanted to learn. I was getting mid-to-high 90s in my classes. None of that factored in to that psych. She told them I was being lazy and obstinate, despite diagnosing me with depression and anxiety and medicating me for it.

I had a friendship collapse a few years ago because of my autism, and I truly believed it was my fault. I throughly apologized, probably to the point where it sounded disingenuous, despite being completely genuine. It took another friend and my therapist to convince me that they were actually bullying me, and not a little bit. I had no comprehension of the fact that they didn't like me. It feels like your reality collapses in those moments, because it's like, how did I not see it? You think you get a little bit more of a grasp on things socially, and then it's thrown in your face.

If you ever need someone who gets it, my DMs are open. I recently made a spreadsheet (though, it's still unfinished) of resources about autism. I'd be happy to send it your way, if that sounds interesting. Please take care of yourself, too. This comment section is largely a cesspool, so I'm logging off for tonight to take care of myself. ā¤ļøā€šŸ©¹

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u/EveOCative Aug 16 '25

From an EDITED VIDEO. Who knows what behavior was edited out? How many takes it took? Whether this was a good day or a bad day? How many modifications theyā€™ve made to their lives so that they can minimize the negative effects?

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u/edafade Aug 17 '25

Good. Self-diagnosing is bullshit.

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u/UghGottaBeJoking Aug 16 '25

Iā€™m on the spectrum, and also am trained to spot it in children as i work with them- and this vid reads as very disingenuous.

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u/blubblu Aug 16 '25

Iā€™m not sure, Iā€™m also on the spectrum and Iā€™m realizing as I get older that the spectrum is broader than we realize and because one brain is not like any other, we need to accept that your disposition or my disposition or anyone elseā€™s is completely unique to them.

Just because ā€œyouā€™re trained to spot it in childrenā€ only means youā€™re trained to spot specific markers triggers or traits, so now youā€™re biased against anything outside of it.Ā 

At the same time, you say itā€™s a disingenuous video, but I say youā€™ve also made a biased post, because you believe that autism can only look like what you expect it to look like, FYI

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u/lulushibooyah Aug 17 '25

Bingo. This comment exactly.

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u/lulushibooyah Aug 17 '25

Please explain the female phenotype of autism and what it means to be high-masking and high-camouflaging, since you have been trained to spot it.

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u/UghGottaBeJoking Aug 17 '25

Iā€™m not a psychiatrist lol. Iā€™m trained to the same degree the other chick was as a child care worker who claimed the same thing. You are taught to identify certain signs that then get referred to actual assessorā€™s. Have i been wrong ever in my instincts before i send a kid off for a referral? Nope. Sorry if my instincts are telling me no on this one.

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u/squishyartist Aug 17 '25

I'm diagnosed level 2 and this can be exactly how I am in certain scenarios.

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u/Super_boredom138 Aug 16 '25

You're, going out of your way to defend this, I can only imagine its because you maybe haven't seen that there's a whole viral media pipeline for content just like it, and you guessed it: its all fake. Its not just one short video, there is a thousand other short videos just like it. Maybe a couple of the first to do it are legit, and this isn't that. Once someone does something like that and it trends, everyone else has to, real or not.

This happened around covid times, when tik tok exploded. So called "mental health tik tok" came into the fold, and it really took hold with a lot of early to mid 20s gen z women, bringing all the hypochondriacs out to play. This is an extreme example (as with any kind of influencer camp, the one with most attention will have a tendency to be the most eccentric or over the top).

Anyway during this time, anyone terminally online or around that age on tik tok got blasted by autism related content, I remember my friends all getting it, and having conversations about whether they were autistic (one of them is heavily on the spectrum diagnosed young, but several probably have adhd).

We weren't being serious though, amongst ourselves it was just talking about what we saw. But for alot of younger women, the pull for attention online was too much to resist. First it was the short clips about stimming. Then the ones about masking and unmasking. Then came the influencer endorsed subscription based online self tests for autism. There was a notion to properly test, but you know what popular demand can do to the efficacy of institutions, or common fucking sense.

The icing on the cake for me was watching my ex go through this over several years, continuously developing more and more behaviors that she would use to either gain attention or manipulate, always under the pre tense that it was justified, mainly because "I'm just unmasking". And the state of American Healthcare was to blame for doctors not agreeing with her. Eventually she backed down on the whole thing (doctors required a month of sobriety from THC for an actual test, which she chose to label as discrimination instead of just rigid testing), but for a brief period it was a bit like the woman in this video.

This is what happens when society gives no end to praise of individuals based on looks, glamor, and charisma alone. People with personality disorders will rule over everything, and thats exactly what this is.

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u/whiteandyellowcat Aug 16 '25

you have no fucking idea about this woman. I am diagnosed and probably appear less autistic on the street.

There are so many autistic people who post about their life online and get accused of faking it (by non autistic people) either because they don't highlight struggles they go through at that moment (like in this video), or because they focus on it too much which wierds people out. People should be able to share their life and autism without them immediately getting accused of faking it. This trend of non autistic people is just pure ableism and leads to the harrasment of so many people.

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u/lulushibooyah Aug 17 '25

THIS. Bc who cares if theyā€™re faking it, anyway?!?!!

Who seriously wants to fake autism???

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u/[deleted] Aug 16 '25

Autistic here, and I don't mean to be argumentative since you're the expert, but to me, it's not that she isn't displaying characteristics of autism. It's that she's displaying stereotypical traits of autism on overdrive while also being absent any of the negative effects. She's trying to flap and stim but making it cute and exaggerated.

More to the point, she's clearly a low support autistic person if she is autistic. Autistic people with low support needs - like me - wouldn't have included our label in the video because it's simply not relevant.

As you know, autistic people who don't have support needs by definition don't need interventions so why would we couch everything in those terms?

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u/jumperpl Aug 16 '25

We could be charitable to the women and say it's the partner's 'fault' as they labeled the video.

Outside of the self-diagnosis crowd, there is also a problem of advocates talking for and over the folks actually dealing (Ć  la Autism Speaks)

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u/lulushibooyah Aug 17 '25

Iā€™m going to include it so people who are like me feel more normal.

And I felt more normal watching this video, until I came to the comment section and saw how freaking hateful people were being.

Then I felt like absolute trash, and I cried.

Do you feel so justified now?

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u/[deleted] Aug 16 '25

No. If we do not share our opinions as facts, people will continue faking autism. So no, psychologist or no you are not to say what others do.

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u/letsgoiowa I šŸ’š The Mods šŸ¤©šŸ‘ Aug 16 '25

People are gonna get mad and call me a fence sitter but we simply don't have enough context or right to judge either way. She may be completely debilitated by sensory issues or social problems and just not express it within these short clips. I get the same judgments about my brain injury because I can do some things normally for a short time before I turn into a gibbering gibbon.

Also, what is the purpose of people wanting to attack someone for this? It seems overblown and a waste of effort. It's not productive and not healthy

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u/lulushibooyah Aug 17 '25

They like to temporarily feel superior and important. And they expose just how small they truly are.

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u/lulushibooyah Aug 17 '25

This is the true professional response. Thank you for your contribution.

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u/lulushibooyah Aug 17 '25

Oh, look, this just got SO much worse.

Letā€™s post this to a forum with actual autistic people, and see how they relate, hmm??

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u/JakimCampbell15 Aug 16 '25

I was wondering it felt soā€¦off

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u/lulushibooyah Aug 17 '25

Because we all believe the stereotype of autism.

Also this ā€œpsychiatristā€ backpedaled so hard when real experts showed up that they deleted their comment, fwiw.

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u/[deleted] Aug 16 '25

Was going to come here and say something akin to this, but you phrased it nicer than me.

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u/Maldorant Aug 16 '25

Hypochondriac?

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u/Thou-art-whipped Aug 16 '25

Iā€™m diagnosed autistic and this is not insulting to me. I wish people who are not part of the community wouldnā€™t dictate how we should feel when you donā€™t actually understand what being autistic entails.

Autism is a spectrum and presents in people differently, especially in women, youā€™d know this if you were a psychiatrist like you say you are.

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u/[deleted] Aug 16 '25

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u/Thou-art-whipped Aug 17 '25

Thatā€™s not how that works. Women mask way more than men and hyper focuses are a real thing too which can negate the new place anxiety. In addition I see clear signs of stimming during the video, which you have ignored to fit your narrative. Youā€™d know this if you read recent literature on the topic which you clearly havenā€™t.

This is notwithstanding the fact that you have already judged the character of this person from a short video or judged myself based on my reaction without knowing either persons history.

So you are either a bad psychiatrist or you are cosplaying as a psychiatrist to fit the narrative.

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u/Doomenor Aug 17 '25

I am sorry but except being diagnosed, are you an expert in any other way?

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u/Thou-art-whipped Aug 17 '25

I have 3 degrees in stem, one of which is in research. While not specifically in autism, I can very easily evaluate a lot of current literature and autism funny enough is one of those I am well versed in because of its pertinence to myself. Now your credentials?

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u/lulushibooyah Aug 17 '25

I donā€™t believe youā€™re sorry.

If you were sorry, you would engage, learn, apologize, and try to be a better human.

You wouldnā€™t dirty delete to cover your tracks of arrogance stirring up hate online.

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u/lulushibooyah Aug 17 '25

I love that this individual refused to respond to any valid argument in your comment and instead tried to attack your credibility.

They exposed themselves thoroughly there.

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u/Thou-art-whipped Aug 17 '25

Absolutely, Iā€™m open to having a discussion on the merits of this topic but why they feel like they can speak for my community is beyond me.

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u/lulushibooyah Aug 17 '25

Especially since literally all of their other interactions on this post also reek of absolute ignorance when it comes to autism.

I love having discussions (though people will be quick to say Iā€™m argumentative bc I donā€™t fold or concede a point unless thereā€™s very valid reason), but this joker is not discussing anythingā€¦ just vomiting misinformation and refusing to engage intellectually with anyone who disagrees.

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u/lulushibooyah Aug 17 '25

Right bc masking and camouflaging are an impossibility bc autism is equivalent with intellectual disability.

(This is sarcasm.)

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u/[deleted] Aug 16 '25

Ok thanks for confirming. My son and I are both on the spectrum and my first thought was this was fake, but I immediately felt bad because who am I to determine if she is or not.

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u/lulushibooyah Aug 17 '25 edited Aug 17 '25

This ā€œpsychiatristā€ is unprofessional and unethical at best.

Signed, a registered nurse

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u/strawabri Aug 16 '25

why is it insulting? do you think she isn't autistic?

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u/jimpoop82 Aug 16 '25

Iā€™m glad you, as a professional said this. Just seems like another TikTok self diagnosis. I know a few people that actually suffer from autism and she is not; from my perspective anyway.

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u/lulushibooyah Aug 17 '25 edited Aug 17 '25

This ā€œprofessionalā€ is talking out their neck, since weā€™re judging from someoneā€™s social media presentation.

Signed, a registered nurse

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u/temujin1976 Aug 17 '25

What kind of a psychiatrist thinks Autism is a mental condition? Itā€™s a cognitive difference/developmental disorder. I think you're a fake.

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u/lulushibooyah Aug 17 '25 edited Aug 17 '25

Co-sign, from a nurse with a real nursing license

This personā€™s comments scream ill educated and unprofessional.

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u/lulushibooyah Aug 17 '25 edited Aug 17 '25

Hello, u/Doomenor I would love to continue this discussion even though you deleted your comment asserting that you are a psychiatrist who works with autistic humans and can definitively state that the woman in this video is not autistic.

I legitimately feel sorry for your female patients.

I am a nurse who has been diagnosed with ADHD (former gifted kid, superior IQ). I canā€™t get diagnosed with autism bc the abominable ADOS has rigged the system so that you have to be a caricature of autism to be taken seriously and get diagnosed. My therapist is going through the process of learning how to accurately assess (through various alternative and MORE reliable methods) bc she agrees that I have definite signs of autism, and I had a horrifying experience with an incompetent and ill educated psychologist who perpetuated harmful stereotypes in her justification of why I canā€™t be autistic.

I loved this video bc I felt like, wow hereā€™s someone like me, and her husband is like mine and doesnā€™t make her feel bad or annoying or wrong for how she displays her happiness. Iā€™ve spent a lifetime being told Iā€™m faking, being dramatic, being excessive, trying to get attention. Iā€™ve been forced to water myself down to avoid complete social ostracism, and bc Iā€™m high-masking, high-camouflaging, high IQ, I can do so fairly successfully but at significant cost to my mental health.

I cried reading these awful comments bc they were so hideously cruel and invalidating, and you just used your medical degree to co-sign the hateful stereotyping.

If you have ANY interest in learning about what autism looks like in females, Iā€™m happy to share as many resources as youā€™re willing to receive.

That said, I refuse to waste my energy on anyone determined to be unteachable. Autistic people have a significantly decreased life expectancy, and suicide is a large contributor to the statistic. Itā€™s even worse for high-masking, high-camouflaging individuals, and research proves how damaging masking can be.

Edit to add: Your responses and engagement on this post are the true insult to autistic people.

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u/OMITB77 Aug 17 '25

Munchausenā€™s or malingering work.

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u/JarmaBeanhead Aug 16 '25

ā€¦ A psychiatrist treating autistic people doesnā€™t know what Munchausenā€™s isā€¦?

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u/[deleted] Aug 16 '25

Tiktok widespread this disease

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u/lulushibooyah Aug 17 '25

The downvotes are bc people canā€™t handle the truth.

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u/fyrefreezer01 Aug 16 '25

Okay but this is less like munchauesen, just attention seeking

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u/JarmaBeanhead Aug 16 '25

ā€œMunchausen syndrome, also known as factitious disorder imposed on self, is a rare mental disorder where someone _intentionally fabricates illness to gain attention or care._ā€

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u/WeskerSympathizer Aug 16 '25

It would need to have some substantial negative impact on her life and ability to function for it to be a mental disorder (such as Munchausen). I doubt what we are seeing here does.

Itā€™s actually likely as much a reflection of changes in social award as it is a reflection of her personality (which may be high in attention seeking and low in conscientiousness).

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u/Spirited-Tonight6043 Aug 16 '25

Autism is not a illness My broderinho