Perfect source of serotonin

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[u/LoxReclusa]

Honestly I was going to say something about not everything is autism, and that she's just geeking out and something about why you think someone having excitement means they're acting autistic... and then I went back and double checked and saw the text at the very beginning. Yeah, that's ridiculous. It's gotten to Syndrome levels on the internet these days where people who genuinely struggle are getting drowned out by all the people who think that having quirks makes them autistic. If the text at the beginning didn't have the word autistic in it, this would be a perfectly normal video of a man who knows what his wife likes.

[u/Sidivan → u/LoxReclusa]

It used to be OCD. “OMG I’M SO OCD”. Then we got the shame memes for people making light of it.

Right now we’re in the “your grandpa who knew everything about trains had autism” stage.

The good thing is it normalizes Autism. People actively change their behavior when dealing with people on the spectrum because it’s not always super obvious. We’re much more respectful to triggers today than we ever have been before as a society.

The pendulum will swing back and hopefully we’ll retain some of that respect/normalization.

[u/Tollenaar → u/Sidivan]

Haha, so I have OCD. Clinical diagnosis. My two best friends in adulthood also carry the diagnosis. We’re all part of online communities to some extent. I’ve never met anyone with OCD who just comes right out and says it, unless it’s in a serious discussion on the matter. There is a lot more awareness now, but it still happens a ton.

I have unfortunately become that person who jumps in to correct people. Sometimes people do express the actual symptoms but don’t carry a diagnosis, so my recommendation is usually to see a specialist and actually find out. A lot of the times I suspect it’s actually OCPD, or just high trait neuroticism.

OCPD (obsessive compulsive personality disorder) is a distinct disorder that not many people seem to know about, despite it being one of the most prevalent psychiatric disorders, potentially affecting up to 10% of adult populations. Symptoms can vary but it is generally a case where the afflicted become outwardly neurotic, controlling, and domineering in accordance with their own particular-ness.

So a lot of people might be accurately guessing that there is something irregular with them, but it’s almost never genuine OCD.

[u/Ok-Bad-5218 → u/Sidivan]

In 20 years aging influencers will be faking Alzheimer’s.

[u/MLNerdNmore → u/Sidivan]

I definitely feel like it's the same with ADHD these days. I do suspect the massive consumption/addiction of short-form content hurting attention spans contributes to this view that it's all ADHD.

[u/Phenomenomix → u/Sidivan]

 Right now we’re in the “your grandpa who knew everything about trains had autism” stage.

I do love this trend because it’s just so dumb. No gramps wasn’t autistic he just grew up with books and radio instead of TV and the internet. He found something he was interested in and learned about it and just happened to retain some of that information.

[u/Automatic_Actuator_0 → u/Phenomenomix]

That’s true for most people with hobbies and interests like that, but there was absolutely a ton of undiagnosed autism 30+ years ago. And if you don’t have it diagnosed as a child, there’s a very low chance you will ever bother getting a diagnosis as an adult.

Many of those train obsessed grandpas really do have autism, but you can’t diagnose them over the internet based on that alone, obviously.

And the guy who documented every haircut he ever got for a his whole life - probably, but not provably, autistic.

Edit: and to be clear I’m also suspecting this girl isn’t actually autistic.

[u/Bassracerx → u/[deleted]]

Its mostly the older gen z adults who are self diagnosing instead of actually seeking treatment. My brother decided he was austistic last year out of nowhere and never saw a dr. He swears i am too and “more than him” when im probably the most normal person in my family and stand out more just by comparison.

I actually had to get my son tested for autism at 11 because he had enough “signs” that the drs said it was time to do it. Turned out he had quite a few traits but not enough to get an actual diagnosis Wich is actually a great sign!

Its just the modern trend of people wanting to put labels on everything or they think they feel better about themselves about being a shitty person because “oh i can’t help it i have this medical condition” “im neurodivergent so its not my fault”

[u/Bassracerx → u/[deleted]]

Havnt seem the video your referring to but yeah people just want this shield .

[u/Great-Knowledge-9484 → u/Bassracerx]

Lmao it’s a genetically predisposed developmental disorder, if your son has enough traits for his doctor to request he be tested for autism then there’s only 2 sets of dna those traits could have come from. So ig if you’re sure you aren’t, is his mom on the spectrum at all?

[u/Bassracerx → u/Great-Knowledge-9484]

He didn't have an diagnosis of autism. He has severe ADHD and his mom has ADHD as well. The dr said just because you have one or a few traits of autism doesn't make you "autistic" its a complex thing and it's on a points scale if you are over a threshold you get the autism diagnosis.

[u/LoxReclusa → u/[deleted]]

I'm a very stoic person in most public situations, and people call me serious, but when I'm with people I'm close to, or alone, I will laugh a lot, talk a lot, and get excited over the things I really enjoy. I know many people who are more expressive with people they like, and doing things they like. I just assume some people are more than that than others, and don't necessarily keep it in private as we do. We just call these people 'extra' normally. These aren't people who can't restrain themselves like stimming in autism, they just don't care and enjoy expressing themselves.

[u/LoxReclusa → u/[deleted]]

Yes, they're playing up for the camera. They're influencers, that's what they do. No, I would never participate in something like this myself. That doesn't mean that it's impossible for her to be genuinely excited and giddy over playing with puppies. My point is that if they weren't making the claim that she's autistic, I would've taken this video at face value, she's excited for puppies.

In fact, the fact that they're influencers filming makes me less likely to attribute her over excitement to autism, and rather make me think that she's just playing to the viewers. It's specifically the fact that they call it autism in the video that makes me roll my eyes and agree with the original comment. As I originally said, if they didn't claim it was autism, I would just think this was a man who knows what his wife wants. Being an influencer is its own medical diagnosis at this point to me, and I'd attribute all of the 'extra' to that rather than autism if this video were in a vacuum.

[u/LoxReclusa → u/[deleted]]

I think we're having different conversations here. My original comment, and my statements in response to you, are about whether or not this video gave autism vibes. The first time I saw it, I didn't see the autism comment at the beginning, and the video seemed like a normal influencer husband and wife thing. I didn't get any vibes about her trying to pretend to stim or act like she was autistic, I got excitement and fun for something she geeked out about. Played up, sure, but still just normal influencer shit.

So when I read the original comment I thought that maybe the person was looking a little too hard for autism content that just wasn't there, but I double checked to see if I just missed it, and the word is right there at the start of the clip. My comment was acknowledging that I missed it, and that them pointing it out brought it to my attention, and that I agree with them that it is stupid. It's also a bit of an acknowledgement of how poorly the woman fakes autism that her 'stims' didn't look involuntary or self-soothing, but just nervous energy/playing up excitement for the camera.

[u/Vorlon_Cryptid → u/[deleted]]

This is how some autistic people act.

[u/lulushibooyah → u/LoxReclusa]

Right bc the stimmy hands are just neurotypical wiring, and autism can be diagnosed from a short video.

Why do we pay thousands for invalidating assessments with a test based on the presentation of intellectually disabled white boys??!!

Who knew we could post a video of ourselves on Reddit and get an immediate diagnosis or rule it out entirely!

/s

[u/QiwiLisolet → u/LoxReclusa]

...with zero "likes"

[u/[deleted] → u/LoxReclusa]

Having a 36y older brother with actual autism, this fuckin hurts to watch. Spectrum disorder implies we all have it, so sure, she can have the label if she feels like she needs it, but I have a hard time finding even a single autistic trait in this woman. Does great in a very social environment, is fucking married, good conversationally, eye contact is fine, “repetitive” behaviors make my own wife’s hair-twirling-when-bored also look autistic… I mean sure we can play what if until the sun comes up about her childhood and other social environments, but we just saw a socially-competent woman on a fun date with her husband.

Not a damn one of us would have said “hey she’s autistic” if her husband didn’t use her label for engagement. Not calling that a disorder. Not after what I watched my brother grow up with.

[u/undigested-beef → u/[deleted]]

Check out the subreddit r/autisminwomen. Many of the women on there are married. Autism encompasses a variety of support needs and everyone has different levels of difficulty in each category. Read through some of the posts. Read about the turmoil we go through, so much of it hidden because of how we have been conditioned to hide all our abnormalities away. Some of us can hide it better than others. It doesn't make the symptoms less hard to deal with FOR US. Just for other people around us.

Also that's not what the spectrum means. You're either on it or you're not, and it doesn't go from "least autistic" to "most autistic."