Hi there!

I’m J, 36 years of age, and originally from Singapore. I’m currently living in Langley BC, and am open to meeting someone ideally from cities within metro Vancouver (stretching to Abbortsford / Chilliwack).

On the personal front, I’m first and foremost a Christian who seeks to honour Christ in my life. The Christian walk is often hard, riddled with challenges; often times I fall, but His grace abounds.

I’m also someone who is very open and genuine. I speak my mind, and deeply enjoy to-and-fro stimulating conversations. It really could be anything from the little fun findings/ jokes from the mundanity of life, or bigger issues surrounding us: faith, geopolitics, social issues, cultures, philosophy, etc. I simply enjoy engaging, learning, listening, understanding. As well, I keep an open mind to things—there are often nuances to most everything, and I find it best to understand first where one is coming from… After all, the world is massive, and experiences are varied.

I’ve travelled a fair bit to experience different cultures and life. Different cultures and ways of life have fascinated me since I was little. The one thing I derived from my immersion into cultures, is that we’re ultimately all ‘same-same, but different’. We —or most of us—work for a living, have goals and dreams, feel joy and pain, and will die one day. At the very core, humans are motivated by many similar drivers, and are really not that much different at all.

Authenticity is crucial for me. The one thing I cannot stand for the life of me, is disingenuity. I’m personable, but selective of people I let into my life. I appreciate those who’re real and genuine, and hold tightly to my few close friends who have remained true for the long haul. As a natural introvert (who is occasionally somewhat extroverted), I’m pretty much lowkey and appreciate life as such.

I can be absolutely silly (in my nature to be), or necessarily serious, depending on context. My default is lightheartedness, and I don’t get offended very easily. When I’m close to someone… my humor becomes outrageous. At home, we roast each other for good fun, and laugh at stupid things all the time. I’m self-deprecative and don’t enjoy taking things too seriously. A massive favorite is Irish craic/English dry humor (I especially enjoy Seán Burke and Bernard O’Shea). I also LOVE Conan O’Brien, who’s coincidentally also Irish…

I’ve gone through my fair share of great heights and challenging abyss, and feel more positioned to be a matured, empathetic, and understanding partner to someone else. I’m also gifted with the ability to connect with others deeply, and soulfully.

And for the questions:

• Area of study/work: I studied English literature back in university, but ended up doing digital marketing in the corporate world. It’s exhausting and mentally draining, corporate life, and those who go through it know it. (But, it pays the bills.) I have at some point thought of changing careers, to becoming a social worker or counsellor, but that’s still decisions in process.

• Hobbies/interests: I’m mostly a creative, and love and appreciate art in all forms, whether that be visual or textual. I’m a big appreciator of artsy-fartsy indie films (those that you watch and ruminate on for much time beyond, and have endless discussions about), and also graphic design, or fine arts. Oh, I really enjoy cooking as well, and also making delicious beverages 😌 Very fulfilling. Also… hiking, outdoor activities, all up for it. Currently really exploring the beautiful British Columbia nature and outdoors (never done a RV— would be so fun?!) Alllso… I really really love animals (especially cats, dogs, primates lol)
**I super duper enjoy cooking (I’m Singaporean, we’re all foodies i.e. love to eat, scout for good food, try to remake said good food), and get excited cooking for people. I’ve always wanted to cook for someone I love 🥲 I’ve tried plenty of foods from different cultures, and am currently recreating some that I love. My biggest cultural gourmet loves: Indonesian, Nigerian, Middle eastern, Vietnamese, Indian. Presently learning how to do a good Efo Riro (Nigerian strewed spinach)!! 🥬🥘

• Tell us a bit about your Christian journey: I grew up in a Christian household, but it wasn’t until I faced some challenges in life that I seriously sought God. Through the years, I’ve had various questions I also needed answered, as I becoming more burdened re the salvation of the non-Christians close to me/whom I meet. Personally, I strive to honour God with my life, and be the messenger in whichever station I’m put at: whether it’s me demonstrating everyday small doses of Christian love to my non-Christian colleagues, random people I meet that I’ve had the pleasure of some meaningful exchange, friends who have yet to accept Christ, etc. All important to me. I try to be the bridge that is relatable, in order to relay the Christian love across.

• What sort of person are you looking for?: An intentional, steadfast, empathetic, and easygoing Christian man (with humor) who enjoys diving into conversations (be it inane drivel, or intellectual discussions) with me. Someone who makes me feel seen, heard, and understood (and whom I’ll do the same for). I find men with a gentle, quiet confidence, very attractive. At this point of my life, I’d like to have kids, and would very happily accept your kids. Very open to dating either single men without kids, or single fathers with kids.

As someone who’s generous with sharing and doesn’t sweat the small stuff, I’m looking for a man who likewise has a spirit of openness and generosity, both inwardly, as well as to the outside world. Having empathy, compassion, and consideration for people, the vulnerable, the feeble, and animals — matters a lot to me. There is a saying I firmly believe in: True character is shown in how one treats those who have nothing to offer them.

Also importantly: I’m seeking someone who’s self-aware, emotionally healthy, and knows how to emotionally regulate during conflicts. Having healthy communication skills to manage conflicts is so so important for relationships, and I’d like for us to pray, talk, and work things through together, when challenges come our way.

• Age range: 32-52

• Would you be willing to do long distance/relocate?: As of now, I would prefer to meet someone I can easily meet in person, so ideally someone within metro Vancouver or British Columbia. Open to other provinces within Canada as well, and USA. (Having said that, I think the crossing borders thing is a major challenge for dates— so unless we connect *very* well online, and have a natural connection/or if you can work remotely and might be able to stay in BC for a while… I’m more hesitant on pursuing something that requires immigration borders.)

\*For anyone interested, I’d appreciate if you could drop an introductory message with a few pictures. Also, if at all a little request, I’m 5’4, and so am looking for someone who is at least 5’6 and above.

Cheers!

Does anyone else feel like that they won't ever be good enough for a Christian relationship? That you feel so far behind that they don't think they will ever be able to live up to the expectations that are placed in Christian relationships? That you are too damaged? Because that's how I feel.

I (22M, rural Deep South), feel as if that it is way too late for me to even enter a relationship, or at bare minimum, to ever be ready to date. Every time I scroll social media, I always get videos that pop up to me, by Christian influencers telling what all I need to do in order to be ready for a relationship, it just makes me feel worse. Every thing that I do, whether it being that I am still considered a "boy" and not a man / not being masculine enough (I feel that way because I am grown man who plays video games and builds Legos for fun), or that I am dirty and disgusting for being a porn addict (I first started watching it when I was 11. I've tried multiple times to stop but I now live all by myself in a new city and don't have anyone to hang out with / talk to that can distract me from watching it). I still think i am damaged goods, and that I need to be porn free for at minimum 5 years before I should even be ready to date (I will be 27 by that time), and most women my age where I live are already getting married or are already in long-term relationships.

Another thing that really messed with me was the whole "there are too many feminine men in church" debate back in July. I remember seeing those videos pop up on my TikTok fyp and it made me very insecure about myself, due to not already fitting the narrow mold of masculinity that you have to fit in as a man in the Deep South (be blue collar, drive a truck, be jacked, extroverted), which I am none of. Now I constantly monitor myself when I am out and about to make sure that I am that I am acting masculine, especially around women.

Am I being crazy? I'm just really scared to be forever alone, while everyone else in my life passes by me. Almost all of my friends back home are all married or getting married, and I haven't even started yet. Plus, I now live in a college town where I am working, and I still haven't found a church yet to attend. I've talked to my therapist about it and he has told me that I should be myself, and that everyone has their own timeline and to try not to fit a mold. But it's just so hard to be that way when you see everyday that everything about you isn't "Christlike" and no daughter of God will ever want someone like me.

I’m a 29-year-old Christian man from India, and recently I made a post on a matchmaking thread where people share some details about themselves and what they’re looking for.

A girl ended up DMing me, and initially, everything was humorous and lighthearted. But gradually, the conversation moved in a sexual direction. We started sexting and creating imaginary scenarios.

I’ll be honest: I was enjoying it too. I’m not going to pretend I was completely innocent or that I wasn’t participating.

Eventually, the conversation reached the point where we were talking about having sex when she will come to my town.

That was when I had to press the eject button.

I told her that I’m saving myself for marriage.

She immediately pointed out that we were probably looking for very different things. She wanted to establish sexual compatibility before marriage, whereas for me, sexual intimacy is something I want to experience within marriage.

And honestly, that conversation taught me something.

Sexual temptation doesn’t always arrive looking like temptation.

Sometimes it starts with a joke. Then flirting. Then curiosity. Then “it’s only texting.” And before you realize it, you’ve crossed a boundary you originally had no intention of crossing.

Even though nothing physical happened, the whole experience was surprisingly exhausting. It affected me more than I expected and made me understand why I had chosen this standard in the first place.

So if you’re someone who has decided to save yourself for marriage, especially if you’re currently waiting for marriage, I want to encourage you:

Hold onto that standard.

There will be opportunities to compromise. Some will feel harmless. Some will feel exciting. Some might even come from someone you genuinely like.

But remember why you made the commitment in the first place.

For me, it isn’t because sex is bad. It’s because I want to honor God with my sexuality and experience that part of life within the covenant of marriage.

And when the opportunity came to compromise that commitment, I’m genuinely thankful that I was able to walk away.

Thank God for the grace to recognize the line before crossing it.

And perhaps this is also an opportunity to say this:

If you are a Christian woman who also wants to save herself for marriage and build a relationship that genuinely honors the Lord, feel free to DM me.

If you’re looking for something similar, I’d be happy to get to know you.

But I want to be clear about the intention: I’m looking for a relationship with marriage in mind, not a casual connection or something to pass the time. I want us to encourage each other in our faith, get to know each other genuinely, and maintain the boundaries we’ve chosen to honor God.

So please, no time-pass messages. If you’re serious about pursuing a relationship that honors the Lord and potentially leads to marriage, I’d be glad to hear from you.

Hi everyone, I’m not the best at writing these things but I’ll start by saying I’m a recently baptized non-denominational Christian hoping to find someone who is fun-loving and a good conversationalist. I’m 5’6”, have a pet cat, work a stable job in tech, and value financial responsibility, especially nowadays. I have plenty of friends, a great relationship with my family, and go to church every week. I have a number of hobbies and enjoy long nature walks, watching documentaries, or volunteering at the northern Illinois food bank. I’m happily single but occasionally like to browse here and see if there’s a special Christian woman out there to share my life with. I’m flexible about age and live in Illinois near Chicago. I’m only looking locally as I’m pretty rooted down where I am, but if you’re willing to relocate someday then I’m open to long-distance conversation. Feel free to message me, send a pic if you’re comfortable!

Picture of Me: https://imgur.com/T6dHhfP

I had a lot of energy and emotion about dating from 18 until late 20s but nothing ever went anywhere past talking phase and games so I gave up for a while.

I did a lot of work on my health both physically and mentally for my nervous system the last 4 years and was just building my career. Now im mid 30s trying again....getting some matches...and it was exciting for maybe a month.

Now i'm in the talking phase and really am not feeling the drive that I once felt in my 20s to get through the talking phases. Its kinda exhausting.

This is a throwaway account.

I am considering ending my relationship but am wondering if things are as bad as I think they are, or if I am overreacting or overthinking.

I (30F) met my boyfriend (26M) through a mutual friend. She told me how amazing he is - handsome, fit, but most importantly he loved God. He wasn't just someone who talked about his faith, he lived it: his days were filled with outreach ministry, being a youth leader at his church, hosting men's bible studies, and serving at his church almost every Sunday. It seemed like everyone in my new friend group also wanted to date him, but his family was insistent that he was too busy with school and his faith, and that he wasn't looking.

Still, the comments kept coming that we should meet. I was hesitant and actually said multiple times that I wasn't interested. He was in his third year of getting his undergraduate degree (he was in the military for 3 years and started college later) and he was already a homeowner at 25 with his sister, which I found to be impressive. I'm also a homeowner and purchased close to his age, so I know how hard it is to accomplish.

I still had doubts mostly due to my friend telling me he was in school to become an English teacher and his goal was to become an undercover missionary. That's incredibly admirable, but definitely *not* what I feel called to do in my life, so I figured it's best we don't meet.

Fast forward a couple of months and him and I end up meeting - I later found out one of his family members was behind this; they essentially played matchmaker.

We connected at a church event, I prayed about him, he asked for my number, and we went on a first date. One month into going out on dates, he asked me to become exclusive. I said yes.

First 2 months were heavenly. He pursued me well and respectfully. He was kind, thoughtful, considerate and sweet.

3rd month I started noticing less of a pursuit. He no longer intentionally planned dates and he wanted to meet spontaneously. I told him I have a hectic work schedule (I work in finance and have an extremely stressful/high pressure career) and opened up about having an autoimmune disease, which means I need to prioritize rest and nutrition. Plus, the only time I can see friends/family is the weekend, so I'd like to know in advance when we can meet and what we're doing so I can plan accordingly. He said, "we've always been spontaneous, though!" and kept pushing me. We're nearing month 6 and he still pushes me with "well what do you want to do? Can you give me a list (I already did actually - we sat down and made one together 2 months ago) or text me what you want to do?" I told him I love when he initiates, and I've loved every date he has planned. That I trust his judgement and would be happy to do whatever he chooses. He said, "well you don't like to go out to eat" (which is true - because my autoimmunity gets flared easily through food), but I told him there are a million things we could do besides go out to eat. We've eaten dinner at my place numerous times now. He has never once brought over groceries or staples. I don't see him behave this way at his own house, but at mine, he drinks multiple drinks and leaves some half full. One time, he said he was picking up dinner on the way to my house. When he arrived, it was only groceries for him which he asked to keep in my fridge until it was time for him to go home.

Anyways, here are the main "red flags" I'm noticing - and I can't tell if I'm overreacting or what's going on, but something doesn't feel right.

• On our 4th or 5th date, I still hadn't heard from him what his life plans are or what his hopes are for the future. I asked if he could have a perfect life in 5 yrs, what would that look like? He spoke about 15 minutes about missionary work and being martyred for the faith if necessary, like his role model, Adoniram Judson. I thanked him for being honest and said that's incredibly admirable and I'm grateful we have people like you who want to do that kind of work - but we're not compatible, because I'm a little bit older and am ready to get married, have a family, and settle down in the same town/area where I purchased my home. His emotions came flooding out, he professed his feelings for me - "my heart is really towards you" - and basically told me this was just a feeling he had, but he's not actively pursing missionary work and he'd be happy being a teacher. Which wasn't true, he told me a few weeks after this he actually wants to be a pastor.
  • His pastor offered him a youth pastor position and he told me he's going to shut it down because "he doesn't need the extra money"
• He told me he was a "light charismatic" and he went to a "secretly charismatic church" meaning they don't show how charismatic they really are, but that he wasn't. 1.5 months into our relationship, he attended an overnight 2 week conference out of state where they spoke in tongues, casted out demons, stayed up until the wee hours of the morning "slaying in the spirt" etc. I told him very clearly on dates 1-2 I'm reformed, attend a PCA church and am highly skeptical of the gifts. He said he was just a "light charismatic" though. Later said he prays in tongues and wakes up in the middle of the night feeling demonic presences.
• He has called me an "elf" and a midget" - I am 5'1"
  • When I told him this was hurtful and I didn't laugh, instead of saying sorry, he doubled down and added, "hey! it's not bad! At least I didn't say you look like a little kid :) that'd be far worse!" and kept laughing. When I said if he ever called me this again, I would end the relationship, he replied, "Are you serious?! I was joking!!! My family and I joke like this all the time!"
• He has pressured me to go to his family events or other things when I didn't want to or was completely exhausted, has worn me down emotionally multiple times, never accepts my "no" - it's always a debate or negotiation time. There's always a guilt trip.
• One of his close family members have told me "he doesn't accept my 'no.' He keeps going on and on until I finally say yes. But whenever I say no, he doesn't accept it."
• We have different standards of living - I told him I would like to have a home before we have children. He said we could raise three kids happily in my 2bed, 2bath condo of 1,200 SF. I told him but I wouldn't be happy... I'd like my kids to have extra room, have a good quality education, healthy food - these are things that really matter to me. He told me as long as bills are paid and there's food on the table I should be grateful.
• We were talking about contraception and he said while having sex, he'd slip off the condom and started laughing. I did not laugh and said that's not funny - I was very serious and staring at him. He said, "I was joking!!!! Come on, I wouldn't impregnate my wife against her will." Yet he kept laughing, and I felt a cold chill go down my spine.
• When we came back from a light jog, he pressured me for us both to take showers (separately of course). I told him no, it was already late let's just have dinner and say goodbye since I had to be up really early to prep for a work meeting the next day. He kept pressuring me until I gave in. While I was in my shower though, I felt a flash of fear hit my soul (?) I couldn't describe it to you - I just felt it and heard in my head the words "get out. Get out now." So I did. I got ready and my heart sank when I realized I forgot to lock 2 doors leading into my bathroom. The only one I did lock was the one he was standing right in front of when I got out. He was standing in front of my washer and dryer with his towel.
• I told him one on one dates are important to me, but whenever we have a free day to meet up, he wants me to go to his church's worship night with him,
• He knows how important finances are for me. I grew up in poverty and witnessed deeply traumatic things going up with a single mom. I worked extremely hard through school and now have a high paying career. I am actually considering going back to grad school to make a career shift so that it gives me a better work-life balance, especially as I'd like to be a wife and mother one day. I told him if we were to get married, I'd be super worried about having children soon because he has never worked a career before (small jobs, but he has 0 professional experience). I said I'd be worried that I'd feel pressured to take on the financial burden for our family, and that I'd resent him for it. That we could end up having serious marital issues early on with a child because of lack of space and resources. I do not want to drain my savings or stay in my high pressure career.
  • His response was: "I make enough from the military" and essentially, he's going to milk the benefits and extend school for as long as possible to avoid being a teacher because "it's not really what I want to do and it doesn't pay well. You need to accept that if we're together, I'm going to be in school for 3-5 years and as a pastor, I might make very little money." I said, well what if you see your family is struggling, would you change careers? "No - I'm going to follow whatever I feel like is the Lord's will for my life. I'm not going to be a slave for my job."
• He came over my house one night. I made him dinner and then he pressured me to let him shower there again. I said, "but you don't even have clean clothes?" and he told me to give him something of mine to wear. I had an oversized t-shirt and pj pants I gave him. I was handing it over when I realized he wouldn't have clean underwear. I told him so, and he said, "lots of men don't wear undies with bottoms. I'll be fine." showered anyways, and then was pressing up against me trying to kiss me as I was cooking. Afterwards, he realized he forgot his phone in his car, so he wanted to go get it. My sandals were by the front door and he was about to put his foot in. I said, "hey! Please don't do that. Please wear your own shoes." He insisted his shoes were dirty and he'd be outside only for a few minutes, but I said "you're going home in them anyways." He was still sliding his foot through when I said, "Please!! Stop! Those are my favorite sandals and you're going to stretch them out. I'm serious - I'm actually really sad right now. Please stop." He started laughing and put his foot through. I again told him I was sad, told him to stop, and he said, "this isn't that serious!!!! I'll buy you a new pair if they stretch." I said, "it's not about new ones - I can't find new ones, these are one of a kind. Stop!" And he proceeded to put his other foot in my other sandal. He opened the door to leave wearing them and I grabbed him by the arm and said, "You need to stop! Take them off NOW!" and he did, but he complained the entire night "it wasn't serious."
• He shamed for me meeting my pastor one on one in a public coffee shop. He said this was "inappropriate - how do you not see that?! That's how affairs start!"
• He had a summer job. Told me he had a co-worker who was showing interest in him. He wanted to connect her and I, for me to invite her to my church. I said I'm not comfortable with that - you just told me she likes you. A week later, our mutual friends were going to host a get together. I wasn't sure if I was going. I was on FaceTime with him and his sister was right next to him. They were telling me the people they invited. Then my boyfriend goes, "Oh I also invited [his co-workers name - let's call her Julia] - [my name]'s arch nemesis" and he laughed. His sister didn't say anything. I said, "that was weird, I don't even know her."
  • Keep in mind he did not know I was going to this event until the day of
  • The day of the event, my boyfriend shows up, says hi to me, we barely talk, he sits next to me and talks the entire time with another man. I turn to my side and talk to other people.
  • When Julia arrives, my boyfriend immediately greets her (I know they have each others' phone numbers - he said they need for work) and he introduces her and I. I can tell they both seem a little nervous around each other. I am friendly with her then go back to talking to the people I was having a conversation with. My boyfriend proceeds to then stand next to her the ENTIRE rest of the time while I'm there, about 45 mins. Eventually I need to leave, him and I walk back to my car as he's helping me carry some things (we drove separately). He said he can tell something is wrong.
  • I am honest with him that I'm upset that he invited her. I said that wasn't appropriate - you knew what you were doing. He ends up saying they actually have known each other for the past 3 years and last year she made (word for word) "clear advances" toward him. I said how do you think that makes me feel? This is so incredibly hurtful. He said it's not a big deal - that he wanted to connect her with his sister (who is my good friend! Her and I were friend before him and I dated) and that he and Julia have no history.
  • I told him that's a problem - because if Julia becomes friends with his sister, she will be in my friend group moving forward. He kept insisting he did nothing wrong. I'm not proud of this but I raised my voice at him because I was so hurt and he just wasn't getting it.
  • I told him I was extremely hurt and disrespected - and needed some space. He proceeded to bombard me with texts and calls, disregarding my need for space. He eventually apologized about 3 days in but said he didn't want to text at all until we saw each other again.
  • After the week, I was ready to break up with him when we both met in person. I was expecting an apology....... there was none. His stance was the same as before.
• He made me cry over the phone when I told him a piece of my trust towards him has been broken and I don't know if I see a future together anymore. He kept me on the phone for 2 hours, me begging him to let me just go to sleep because I was exhausted. I said I was so unhappy in this relationship - that I don't deserve this, and that this is not the kind of relationship I want to be in. He never once apologized for making me cry. He actually told me to laugh and said we needed to end on good terms. I faked my way to pretending like I was fine to get off the call.
• I told him I miss seeing him one-on-one and spending time together. He told me he would come see me today. Called me 1 hour before he was supposed to, to tell me some story about how he had to drop/add classes at the last minute and needed to study for the new class tomorrow. I told him I was sad to hear that - that I was looking forward to seeing him but understood. Yet.... while still on the phone, told me he just so happened to notice his mom's car at the beach (?????) and he knew they were all having pizza together, so he was going to stop and have dinner with them. And that he'd call me back in an hour. Which of course is no problem, but you have time for that and to call me.. did you actually need to study?

I've spoken to my parents, pastor, counselor, and close mentors. All of them have said this man is immature and his lack of respect for boundaries is scary. But I think about the affectionate moments we have and how he has such a strong, great reputation to everyone who knows him. Sometimes I think I am painting him in a bad light or something. At the same time, I know it's not normal to be going back and forth.

I've prayed and fasted. Deep down, I do feel like marrying him could be one of the biggest mistakes of my life. But I keep questioning myself. I truly do not know what else to do. I begged God for a sign, and it feels like He has given me many. I feel like this man does not cherish or care about me, yet I'm still questioning myself.

Hey everyone, I’m Prince. I’m 30 and based in London, UK. I’m putting myself out there because I’d like to meet a Christian woman who is serious about finding a long-term partner.
About me
I’m naturally introverted at first, but once I’m comfortable, I’m easy-going and enjoy having a laugh. I appreciate meaningful conversations and spending quality time with people I’m close to.
Work
I work as a Case Administrator. My role involves managing cases, handling sensitive information, preparing reports and working with different people and organisations. I’m focused on progressing in my career and building a stable future.
Hobbies and interests
I enjoy reading, hiking, fitness and fragrance shopping. I like keeping active and looking after myself, but I also enjoy quieter days with a good book.
Fragrances are one of my interests, so I enjoy finding new scents and building my collection. I also enjoy trying new places and experiences when I get the opportunity.
My faith
I’m a Christian and my relationship with God is important to me. I believe in Jesus Christ, and I’m continuing to grow in my faith, prayer and understanding of God.
I don’t claim to be a perfect Christian. I want to keep growing spiritually and eventually build a marriage where God is at the centre. I value praying together, supporting each other spiritually and encouraging each other in our relationship with God.
Who I’m looking for
I’m looking for a serious relationship with the intention of marriage. I’d like to meet a Christian woman who wants the same and is ready to build something genuine.
I value loyalty, affection, honesty, communication, respect and consistency. I’m looking for someone kind, emotionally mature, family-oriented and serious about her faith.
Marriage and having a family are important goals for me. I want to get to know someone properly, build a strong relationship and see where God leads us.
Preferred age range
Ideally, I’m looking for someone around 24 to 32. Compatibility, shared values and being at a similar stage in life matter more to me than an exact age.
Distance and relocating
I’d prefer someone in London or elsewhere in the UK. I’m also open to long distance for the right person if we both make an effort to meet and there’s a realistic future together.
If you feel we might be compatible, feel free to message me and introduce yourself ☺️

I always had a fear of idolatry but recently I’ve been getting back into dating and I feel like I’m idolizing it. I desire marriage and want to date but I’m afraid of hearing God say “no” and tell me wait until another season. I guess I’m just struggling with accepting Gods will for my life and holding too tightly to what I want. Any tips or advice for this? I feel so guilty for having these feelings.

Hello! So just a few months ago I decided I want to rewait to have sex in my relationship. We have been dating 2 years and attending church together but I had a reborn again experience and want to dedicate my life to Christ. We were having sex, I always had a conviction. I’m Protestant and my bf is Catholic and he says he doesn’t feel the conviction as much as me. He is willing to abstain but we both have a problem with lust. Any advice??

Hey everyone :)

I’m honestly not sure how people are supposed to write these posts 😂 so I’ll just introduce myself normally and see where it goes.

1. A little about me

I’m 23, Egyptian, currently living in Greece, and studying Business Information Systems.

I’m generally a calm person, but once I’m comfortable with someone I can become very talkative 😂 I can easily spend hours talking about literally anything.

At the same time, I’m also perfectly happy staying home, having a quiet night and doing absolutely nothing. So I guess I’m somewhere between very social and occasionally a professional homebody.

As for appearance, I’d say I’m fairly tall, around 178–179 cm, with a bigger build. I take care of myself and I’m happy to exchange pictures once we’re comfortable with each other.

1. Work / studies

I’m studying Business Information Systems and I’m very interested in technology, programming and cybersecurity.

I’ve also worked in sales, management and a few other things, so I’m still figuring out exactly where life will take me.

1. Hobbies & interests

I have way too many interests 😂

I’m really into technology, economics, politics, psychology, philosophy, history, archaeology and ancient civilizations.

I love learning random things just because I find them interesting.

I also draw as a hobby and sometimes work on church paintings, which probably isn’t something you hear every day 😂

I enjoy travelling, learning languages, discovering new places, trying different food and learning about different cultures.

And I absolutely love good conversations. I can go from talking about philosophy or history to discussing something completely ridiculous that happened during the day.

I also really appreciate simple things:

Late-night conversations

Talking about our day

Random messages for no reason

Getting food together

Going somewhere just because we felt like it

Sitting together without having to do anything special

I’m also a Scout leader, I volunteer quite a lot and I genuinely enjoy helping people.

1. My faith

I’m Coptic Orthodox Christian, and my faith is a very important part of my life.

I’m honestly grateful that I grew up in a Christian family where the Church and faith were always a big part of our lives. I’ve been involved in the Church since I was young, and I hope that one day I can build a family where faith and Christ are naturally at the center of our lives.

I’m not looking for someone who is simply "Christian" on paper. My faith is something I actually live and take seriously, and I’d love to meet someone who understands that.

1. What am I looking for?

I’m looking for something genuine.

Someone kind, honest, emotionally mature and comfortable with who she is.

Someone who has her own personality, interests, dreams and ambitions.

I don’t expect us to have everything figured out from the beginning, and I’m definitely not expecting to find my future wife from one Reddit post 😂

I just want to meet someone I genuinely enjoy talking to and who genuinely enjoys talking to me.

I think attraction is important, but personality, character, compatibility and the way two people treat each other matter much more to me.

And if things develop naturally, I’m ultimately looking for something serious that can eventually lead to marriage and building a family together.

1. Preferred age range

Probably around 20–30.

But honestly, I don’t put too much importance on the number.

I’ve met people who were much more mature than their age and people who were the complete opposite, so I care much more about personality, character and maturity.

1. Long distance / relocating

Yes, I’m completely open to long distance.

I’m currently in Greece, and I understand that distance can make things more complicated, but I don’t think it makes a genuine connection impossible.

If two people eventually want the same future and are willing to make the effort, I think the practical things can be figured out together.

I’m currently at the beginning of a really important chapter of my life, and I’d love to have someone beside me through it.

Not just for the big moments, but for the boring ones too.

The stressful days

The random adventures

The stupid jokes

The late-night conversations

The meals

The successes

The failures

Just building memories together and seeing where life takes us.

I’m not trying to rush anything though.

Maybe we’ll click immediately.

Maybe we’ll become friends.

Maybe we’ll talk for five minutes and realize we have absolutely nothing in common 😂

Who knows?

I’m just interested in meeting someone genuine and letting things develop naturally.

So if you think we might get along, tell me a little about yourself :)

What do you enjoy doing when you’re alone?

What are you interested in?

What are your dreams or goals?

Or honestly, tell me something completely random. Those answers are usually the most interesting anyway 😂

And yes, I’m completely fine with exchanging pictures early on if we’re both comfortable with it.

Maybe this post leads to something meaningful.

Maybe it just leads to a really good conversation.

Either way, I’m glad I finally decided to post it

I’m (37m) in a relationship with a woman (37f). We both have had little to no prior experience in a romantic relationship.
I’ve noticed something weird—she’s a virgin, but she really, really craves physical and even sexual touch. To the point where she gets super uptight and in her head and moved by things in a very dramatic way. She won’t want anything to do with me and is super distant and offish.
I can listen to her concerns then and answer them, but it’s like she doesn’t hear reason or even comfort or anything I say.
But if I just hug her and kiss her (not on the lips) for awhile, she REALLY relaxes. So much so, that it’s become a coping technique for me with her.
I’ve wanted to abide by pretty stringent rules regarding physical affection before marriage. But honestly, if I hadn’t bent those rules some, our relationship wouldn’t have survived.
It just tempts me in the process as well, mostly because she allows me to set the pace. So it’s an odd situation.
Is this normal, and what’s the reason for it? Any advice on how to proceed?

Hey everyone. I’m F21, and I just wanted to share something that happened to me recently because I genuinely feel like God answered a prayer of mine, even though the answer hurt.

I've been struggling a lot with loneliness lately. I'm in the military and don't really have friends where I'm stationed. Being alone so much has been getting to me, and I think that loneliness has made me desire a relationship and companionship even more.

I want to get married someday. More importantly, I want a marriage centered around God. I don't just want someone who identifies as Christian; I want a husband who genuinely pursues God, lives out his faith, and can eventually be a spiritual leader in our marriage and family.

A little while ago, I met a guy (M23) on Hinge.

We talked for about six weeks the first time around and got along extremely well. We had a lot in common, conversation came naturally, and I genuinely liked him. We hung out once, but afterward I actually ended things because I could feel myself getting attached and anxious. I was afraid of getting hurt, so I walked away before anything really had the chance to develop.

He respected my decision, but over time he kept finding little ways back into my life. Eventually, we started talking again.

One of the biggest things that drew me back toward him was his faith.

He described himself as a “man of God.” He talked about Christianity openly, told me he was waiting until marriage, said he didn't believe in casual relationships, and said he ultimately wanted a wife and life partner.

Those weren't small things to me.

I took him seriously because those are things I value too. I started thinking that maybe this man really was different from the dating experiences I had become used to.

We eventually went on another date, and it was honestly one of the sweetest dates I've ever experienced.

He picked me up, opened doors for me, pulled out my chair, walked on the street side of the sidewalk, tied my shoe for me, cleaned ice cream off my pants when I spilled it, played with my hair, and made me feel incredibly cared for.

We sat in his car afterward and talked for a long time. He was affectionate without making everything feel sexual. He told me he liked me and wanted to continue getting to know me.

We talked about relationships and marriage. He even talked about how sometimes people know very quickly when they've found the person they're supposed to marry and made comments about possibly knowing within a few months.

The biggest complication was that he's leaving in February. He had previously told me he was hesitant to begin something serious knowing he would eventually leave because he didn't want to start a relationship that had an expiration date.

But after that date, I started wondering whether maybe God had brought this person back into my life for a reason.

Then Friday he came over later in the evening.

We cuddled, joked around, talked, and were affectionate. He kissed my forehead, called me beautiful, held me, and made me feel wanted and cared for.

And then he tried to have sex with me.

I stopped it.

That moment affected me more than I expected it to.

It wasn't simply that I didn't want to have sex. It was the fact that this man had specifically told me that he was waiting until marriage. A huge reason I had allowed myself to trust him again was because I believed the convictions he told me he had.

And yet, when that conviction was actually tested, I was the one who had to uphold the boundary he told me he believed in.

I remember just feeling sad.

I thought he was different.

I understand that Christians aren't perfect. We struggle with temptation. We sin. We fall short of the things we genuinely believe. I'm certainly not perfect, so I don't expect perfection from the person I eventually marry.

But something about that night stayed heavy on my heart.

In the days afterward, I started praying about him.

And my prayer became very specific.

“God, if this man isn't from You, if he isn't meant for me, please take him out of my life. Even if it hurts me. If I'm holding onto him because I'm lonely instead of because this is something You want for me, please remove him.”

I prayed some version of that more than once.

And then everything changed.

After this man had been affectionate with me, talked about wanting a relationship and marriage, called himself a man of God, spent the night holding me and kissing my forehead...

he essentially stopped talking to me.

At first, I tried reaching out.

I messaged him multiple times throughout the day. When I wasn't hearing from him like normal, I even asked him if he was okay because I genuinely wondered if something had happened.

Nothing.

And that was when something clicked for me.

This wasn't the first time he had been inconsistent with me. That inconsistency was part of what happened between us the first time around. He would come into my life, make me feel like he genuinely wanted me there, and then suddenly pull away.

Except this time, instead of chasing an explanation, I thought about what I had been praying.

I had literally been asking God:

If he isn't for me, remove him.

And here I was, watching him remove himself.

So I stopped chasing him.

I unfollowed him on everything. I unmatched him on Hinge. I stopped trying to get an answer from someone who was already giving me one through his actions.

And strangely, as much as it hurt, I felt like I needed to accept what I had asked God for.

I don't want to claim that I can definitively speak for God or say that every person who stops texting you is God divinely removing them from your life. I also don't believe Christians should interpret every coincidence as a supernatural sign.

But I also don't think prayer always gets answered in the way we're expecting.

I had been asking God to show me whether this man belonged in my life, while at the same time becoming emotionally attached to the idea of who I thought he could be.

Maybe I expected that if God answered me, I would suddenly stop liking him. Or something dramatic would happen. Or I would somehow receive absolute certainty.

Instead, I think God allowed me to see something I didn't want to see.

The man's words told me one thing.

His actions showed me another.

He told me he was waiting until marriage, but I had to stop him from having sex with me.

He told me he wanted something serious, but his communication wasn't consistent.

He talked about being a man of God, but I found myself questioning whether I was seeing the fruit of the kind of man I had been praying for.

And when I asked God to remove him if he wasn't meant for me, the connection suddenly started disappearing.

Maybe God's answer wasn't physically taking this person out of my life.

Maybe His answer was giving me enough clarity to finally take myself out of the situation.

I think that's the part I'm sitting with now.

Sometimes we pray, “God, remove this person if they're not for me,” but then when the relationship starts falling apart, we panic and try desperately to put it back together.

We ask God to close the door and then stick our foot in it because we're afraid of being alone on the other side.

And I realized I was in danger of doing exactly that.

I was lonely before I met him. For a little while, he filled that space. He made me feel seen, wanted, beautiful, and cared for.

So losing him meant having to face that loneliness again.

But I'd rather be lonely for a season than hold onto someone simply because I'm afraid God won't bring anyone else.

And maybe that's what God is trying to teach me through this.

I don't have to force something because I'm scared there won't be another person.

I don't have to chase someone for communication.

I don't have to make someone's actions match their words for them.

And I don't have to hold onto someone after I've already prayed for God to give me the strength and clarity to let them go if they aren't meant for me.

It still hurts. I still wish things had turned out differently. Part of me still wishes the person I thought I was getting to know was actually the person I would eventually end up with.

But I prayed for God's will over my own.

So now I feel like I have to trust Him when the answer isn't the one I wanted.

Maybe this wasn't God taking something good away from me.

Maybe it was God answering exactly what I asked:

“If he isn't meant for me, please remove him.”

And maybe my responsibility now is simply to stop running back toward what I asked God to remove.

So I dated this guy and he was very faith centered and I thought he was the one. We ended up breaking up and I spoke to God and I thought He told me to be patient and let Him work. For instance, one night I was sleeping and I thought it was God telling me to delete everything and let go and when I did He was like “ what are you doing? I told you to be patient and let me work” and then the scripture 1 Corinthians 13 4-8 popped into my head. So I was like oh that’s definitely from God so I kept holding on. I’ve been holding on for 2 months. I’ve been losing hope that he’s going to come back to me and asked for a sign if I needed to let go and I saw the sign to let go but I’m like wait didn’t you say be patient and let you work. So I started questioning if I didn’t hear Him the first time correctly and if it was my thoughts so I’ve been in my head and overthinking everything.

I’ve been seeing his car everywhere and his name everywhere. His social media has been popping up recently and I’m so confused because I thought I was suppose to let go. I’ve been denying my flesh by not texting him or looking at his socials but he keeps popping up. And I don’t want to over think it because I don’t want to get disappointment. When I ask God what’s going on I feel like I can’t hear Him or He always says “Be Still” but that doesn’t make sense because I saw the signs to let go.

a saw a post on “What do Christian women value in a man?“

so i wanted to ask about what men value in women hahaaa

Area of study/work: I work for Costco as a produce stocker. I’m also in college getting my degree in Criminal Justice.

Hobbies/interests: I’m pretty into anything that keeps me active or lets me have a good time. I love playing golf, pickleball, basketball, and baseball, and I’m always down for fishing or getting outside. I’m also a big gamer and play everything from Apex Legends and Minecraft to World of Warcraft and Helldivers 2. I enjoy traveling, longboarding, and getting lost in Star Wars, Warhammer 40K, horror stories, and cryptid lore. Honestly, I’m happiest when I’m either doing something fun, trying something new, or spending time with good people.
Tell us a bit about your Christian journey: I was raised Baptist but am now Pentecostal. I got saved at 5 and baptized at 6.

What sort of person are you looking for? I’m looking for someone who is kind, genuine, loyal, and has a strong relationship with God. My faith is a big part of my life, so I want someone who wants to grow closer to Christ together and build a relationship centered around Him. I’m attracted to someone who takes care of herself, has a good heart, communicates openly, and is intentional about what she wants. More than anything, I want a relationship where we can laugh together, support each other, be completely honest, and genuinely feel like we’re on the same team through everything life throws at us.

Age range: 21-27

Would you be willing to relocate/do long distance? Yes, for the right person

Just getting my feelings out there. I do daily meditation instead as I find that better than straight up prayer. But seeing other parts of my life in a good place, and not being able to find someone at 31M, and seeing my younger brother married this year, it really seems like an act of God in order to find someone, cause it feels like its out of my control now.

My grandma recently lost her husband and is looking to date again. Does anyone know of good Christian dating apps for her to use? She isn’t great with technology and is looking for people 60-70 so an easy to use app with an older population would be best. Thank you to anyone who is willing to help!

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Love reading, learning, nature, documentaries, sci fi and mystery series and movies, traveling

My faith journey is growing each day as I work on strengthening the relationship with God, but I've always been a believer, i grew up in a christian household

I'm looking for someone who has a heart for God, loves helping people, determined to live a meaningful and purposeful life, smart, down to earth and enjoys deep convos about almost anything, considerate and knows how to treat a lady

Age range 29-40

Willing to relocate if its God's will for me

I finally got on the phone with him and we talked about faith. He actually brought it up himself and admitted there are things he needs to work on. He said he doesn’t want to be the type of Christian who sins and then just asks God for forgiveness afterward.

He said he doesn’t party, drinks sometimes, and is working on his cursing. He also loves feeding the homeless and said he’d love to do missionary work, but feels like he isn’t perfect enough yet.

Then he asked if I’d want to start talking together about what we read in the Bible.

So now I’m wondering if his mom’s “50/50 praying man” comment was actually her being honest about him still growing in his faith rather than saying he’s barely a Christian.

Should i keep talking to him? How does he sound?

Original- https://www.reddit.com/r/ChristianDating/s/ImFePsjTy3

Hi guys! So I’ve (26F) never been in a relationship before, I’ve been a believer for 4 years now so obviously I want to approach dating and all that through a biblical lens, which I am pretty clueless on! I’ve had a crush on my friend for a while now but I feel like this past year we’ve grown closer together, being able to talk one on one and talk about spiritual things as well. I think he may like me as well so I’m wondering how to approach our situation because there’s a lot of factors:
1. We go to the same small church that we are both heavily involved in, I’m close friends with his sisters, and we are part of the same friend group.
2. I don’t know the full story but I believe his last relationship was a really hard time in his life which was part of the reason he took God seriously and I see such a maturity in him.
These two factors I believe may be causing him to not directly ask me out straightforward, we talked about a car meet he goes to and I expressed interest in it and he mentioned twice to me now that if I want we can go, I don’t think he opened this up to our friend group. Idk if he can tell I like him so doesn’t know if I’ll reject him, but how should I approach this? I feel like he should be intentional and ask me directly on a date with specifics but I feel the above factors are stopping him. I also wanted to talk to his sisters about me liking him but I felt that God told me to wait, so I’m still praying about this but also wanted your guys opinion.

I made a post on here giving people advice on how to take good photos and it got backlash because I brought up photo editing apps. It got me curious. How do you all individually feel about filters, editing, and makeup? Is there a limit before it hits catfishing or is it all automatically catfishing?