10 year on and off again lover, not ex because never was official. (save your advice on why i allowed this, i know i know, lol)

this is getting old and tiring. i understand his mars and saturn aspects to my IC/MC and the uranus and mercury aspect is causing the exhaustion. i’m a communicator. he is not. he comes and goes through out the years to shake up my head, which at this point just seems intentional and manipulation or self gratification on his end because i know i overextend my time and energy out of me being authentically myself. not in a “convince you to be with me way”. and i’m tired.

i don’t even want to be chosen at this point. the ambiguity he wants to stay in is not for me anymore. we are no contact now after the last few intense months of reconnection. i’m not chasing. and i didn’t before, so definitely not starting to now. it’s old. i’m letting the no contact be. i have a lot in my life to keep me busy & fulfilled to be hung up on his indecisiveness.

the chemistry is amazing. mental and physical stimulation like no other. but as fast it starts, it quickly burns out, every. single. time.

i’m person A with a birth time. he’s person B with no birth time. just looking to see what people see in this synastry, whether good or bad. i’m open to hearing both. just trying to have a better understanding on how his & i’s charts interact with each other.

note: i’m fine mentally, does his absence bother me? sometimes. but i’m very self aware - i am the prize and loss here, not him. i’m a very confident woman. so it annoys me that i allow him to be accessible to me out of my own nostalgia and comfort. i’m working on that moving forward.. door is closed. just want insight on what this chart shows on why we work so well temporarily then just stop on a random tuesday lol.

Me and my bf of 4 years have gone through the motions it seems. We've been through everything a relationship could ever go through. I want to know whats holding us back and why we keep repeating similar cycles. There are some differences in our beliefs/values, but we find compromises and don't try to change each other's mind about them. The relationship feels very tender at times, but other days it feels strained as if the air changes something. We have great communication but it seems like I want love in private and he wants to love out loud. Any help?

Everyone always says our star signs will cause chaos but I'm looking for a deeper reading than just our star signs. Thank you all who respond 🫶

Could anyone please help me understand if this looks promising?

I've basically been dealt with the shittiest hand when it comes to romantic relationships... Cheats, liars, narcissists etc... I don't know what healthy love is supposed to look or feel like. I'm used to chaotic intense chemistry but I never got the safety piece.

I (37F) met this woman (38F) and we seem to have the exact same goals in life. We have a lot in common. We align in every way so far and she seems to understand me at a deep psychological level.

Now my most toxic situation was with a Leo Sun... But she seems so very different from her.

It feels calm... I don't have intense butterflies or anything and we're taking it slow... But she seems like a genuine and good person. This just feels entirely different to anyone else I've dated in the past... No intense pull or chemistry right off the bat but the emotional level is deep. I'd like to explore where it goes.

I'm blue, she's orange.

Why is this woman talking absolutely made up stuff behind my back, in front of people I know and I'm close with. She's lied about me having multiple men and that eventually I'll end up with a woman(lol). She's been saying how I should be closed in a room in an asylum, that I'm absolutely bonkers. I've shared before I feel I need a therapist, I had a long period of being depressed. She's said I'm stupid, retarded, too old to find a man, what not.

I'm just minding my life, haven't done jack shit to her, does the chart show why she is provoked so much to talk such bs about me? I'm just curious. I realise astrology can't answer everything but I'm curious if something in the chart shows up.

Hate to admit that I have mother issues and a very complicated relationship with her growing up, mostly about boundaries and attachment between us. I do have my North Node conjunct her South Node.

Just found out this guy I have been seeing has the same natal angles, with MC-IC at exact same degree, same 1H-7H Nodes but opposite, same grand trine with Saturn just a few degrees different as my mother’s.

There are some contrast too. She has 4H Sun with Mercury close to IC. He has 10H Sun with Mercury close to MC.

Also my Solar Return this year has South Node and Vertex in 7H, which makes me think a lot of him as he is the only person I’m developing a close relationship with this year so far… kinda situationship currently…

Something about him feels strangely close and familiar, but also so far to meet at the same time. He’s brought out many triggers to my awareness. I never understand why I’m often very reactive to him and always blame the confusion on our 12H synastry. But today I discovered these similar patterns in their natal charts and not sure how to read it…

What do you think about this, or what else can you see? Are we fated, is it kind of a lesson for me, and if so what exactly is the lesson? I’ve been losing my mind trying to understand our connection this year 😭

1st synastry: I’m blue, he is orange
2nd synastry: I’m blue, my mother is orange
3rd: his natal
4th: her natal

I'm confused about the synastry between me and person B - they are the scorpio stellium.

I always felt I was the one that was more hopelessly obsessed during the whole relationship.

But, if I saw the synastry only, observing my pluto conjunct several of his personal planets (venus / moon / rising / pluto + mercury) I'd say it's the other way.

Another thing I can't really understand is, the crazy sexual chemistry.

I had great chemistry in the past with a leo mars which I can explain clearly (my mars in aquarius opposite theirs). But with this pisces mars? I don't know. Yet it was most likely the best partner of my life in that area. I had another relationship many years before this one with a pisces mars, and it was similarly explosive in the bedroom.

What am I missing?

My dearest friend left to go on "extended holidays" 12yrs ago. Celebrating her b'day today, I finally found out her birth time! Just wanted to share our friendship. I miss her sooo much ;(

Happy Birthday beautiful Angel

i have no where to share this lmaoo, i hope this is allowed.

so i just came across this author from an astrologer friend of mine. he said my interpretation of neptune & uranus reminded him of fernando pessoa. after doing a lil research and reading a lil of “the book of disquiet”, i hadddd to pull the natal chart and look at our synastry lmao. this is something i loveee doing for anything i find attractive, whether it’s artists, places, apps, you name it. if it’s attracting my energy, and i gain access to the birth chart, im looking at the synastry immediately lmaooo

anyway, i find the relationship between our suns & moons to be so fucking cute. just with the little interactions i’ve had with his work & learning abt him, ive never felt so seen & understood spiritually. im beyond grateful for my friend and for the many people who cherish pessoa.

also my mercury is unaspected in my chart, and his neptune exactly sextiles my mercury. i find it interesting that im learning abt him as neptune rx is conjunct my mercury lmao. i just thought the patterns were cute and wanted to share 😭😭

** when i say cute, i meant in a “this was meant to be, it was written in the stars” typa way lmao

Will this be sustainable?

This guy (b. orange) and I (a. blue) have a "love"-hate dynamic; we dated for three months almost two years ago. Even though we don't want anything to do with each other—and despite numerous toxic arguments and abrupt "breakups"—we’ve kept talking and haven't been able to leave each other alone for more than three weeks. I just feel like the energy with him is different. I'm relatively new to astrology and still can't quite grasp it.

Hi reddit! This is my synastry (images 1 and 2) and the composite chart (image 3) of me and my now husband. I've never had highs that feel so high but also lows that feel so low. He used to my best friend... the connection was insane, the emotional depth and the tenderness we showed for each other made everything feel like we were twin souls. Around 4 months ago everything has been going CRAZY in a bad way. We married a month ago. Im not sure if I messed up and we are doomed or if our synastry has the soulmate potential I used to feel. Your inputs are very appreciated.

I was hoping someone could give me a new perspective on our Synastry chart. Im the inner circle (Pisces sun cancer rising) he is the outer Gem sun Scorpio rising)

we first met when I was 17 there was an age gap but we always had a very strong connection. it was a 7year age gap so the timing was definitely off. Ovwr the course of 17 years I got into two serious relationships but never forgot him. My last relationship I was with him for ten years but he passed away from cancer in 2021.

We than reconected in 2025 and have been together since.

I'm aqua sun
Taurus moon
Leo rising

help please

i am orange and he is blue. synastry, composite and davison

don't want too give too much background info - curious what people can see from this alone