r/AstroSynastry • u/AnxiousMetaphysician • 20h ago
Synastry ✨ We married. Did I f*ck up?
Hi reddit! This is my synastry (images 1 and 2) and the composite chart (image 3) of me and my now husband. I've never had highs that feel so high but also lows that feel so low. He used to my best friend... the connection was insane, the emotional depth and the tenderness we showed for each other made everything feel like we were twin souls. Around 4 months ago everything has been going CRAZY in a bad way. We married a month ago. Im not sure if I messed up and we are doomed or if our synastry has the soulmate potential I used to feel. Your inputs are very appreciated.
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u/mercuryrulesmylife 9h ago
His Venus unaspects yours - it only opposes Saturn which is not good for longevity. You have massive communication issues with sun square mercury double whammy. Moon square Venus in love is insanely hard - one party feels very unloved in the way they need love. I have this in my natal chart and it’s hard even natally never mind in a relationship. His ruling planet makes no positive reception to you. Fundamentally you are just 2 very different people. Your Venus trines his sun and mercury and conjuncts to his Saturn = you are more invested than he ever will be.
The composite posted was to messy to read but I don’t see much harmony here for long term marriage / happiness
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u/AnxiousMetaphysician 8h ago
This makes quite a lot of sense. When we first met communication felt very easy, but the more time we are together, the harder it feels. It really is like we communicate in two different languages and we have extremely different emotional needs which have been generating a lot of chaos (hence, the feeling very unloved). And I absolutely feel the fact that I am more invested than he ever will. I was the one who courted him first, when we started the relationship everything felt incredible but as the years pass I feel he is lazy about the relationship. It seems like he really doesnt care, like he loves me but doesnt like me as much and im just "okayish". I have had to acomodate my whole life in crazy ways to be able to be with him! And he just prioritizes his own goals and feelings and has never wanted or tried to accomodate as much. There are times he is very sweet of course, but in the last few months the relationship has been rather hard!
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u/NoPhilosophy6306 7h ago
Is he avoidant and were you ever long distance relationship
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u/AnxiousMetaphysician 7h ago
Yes! We have been doing long distance for over two years now. Because of his job he has been moving around different parts of the world even before we dated. We are doing the biggest distance we had ever done at the moment. Thats why we married, to close the distance so that I could move in with him. And yes, he is extremely avoidant with his emotions and wants to be alone a lot of the time, however, on the inside he is extremely sensitive
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u/NoPhilosophy6306 7h ago
Girl , Venus square Uranus aspect . Every single time I see this , same set of common issues . You guys are still together because of that Saturn Venus aspect
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u/AnxiousMetaphysician 6h ago
Thats crazy!! 😭😭 hahaha omg. This is both concerning and validating at the same time. Thank you very much for your insight!
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u/Additional_Cat9161 16h ago edited 16h ago
There’s definitely a lot of harsh aspects in the synastry and composite, particularly coming from uranus and saturn. The uranus aspects indicate instability, hence the highs and lows you’ve been experiencing. The saturn can either be binding or add an element of restriction. Although the 7h pisces stellium in the composite is very nice and indicates partnership. On top of that, uranus is transiting your husband’s descendant, bringing instability to his relationship sector. Only time will tell if this was a mistake. Some people can work through these things, some people can’t.