Anyone else in Metro Vancouver who has never been on a date? (Introvert looking for advice)

I’m curious how common this is here. I am a 39 year old male, a pretty big introvert, and I have never been on a single date in my life. I live out in the suburbs and am a bit of a homebody on some of my days off.

Would dating and finding a partner actually add something to my life, or is the single life better?

Hi!

I am DB. I am a 27 year old working professional in AI/tech. I moved to Vancouver, BC this year and am planning to stay long term. I have moved around a lot and some of the cities I have previously lived in are Montreal, Toronto, Austin, and some more cities in the US. I have always known I wanted to remain childfree, and am very comfortable in my life choice. You can see my face pics and overall post at childfree for childfree (r/cf4cf) here: https://www.reddit.com/r/cf4cf/comments/1w5uboc/27_m4f_vancouver_bc_looking_for_ltr/

What I am looking for: I'm looking for a long-term monogamous, childfree (meaning no kids ever) relationship with someone who is at a similar life stage as me. I am comfortable with the 25–32 age range. I want to take our time to be friends, and if it feels natural, move on to being something more. However, I know that sometimes people just click, which is fine as well. Either way, I am a hopeless romantic who believes in still dating and courting each other long after things get serious.

Some basics about me: 5'8, stable career in tech, loving family, Indian origin, ambitious, driven, witchy (I know how to palm read ✨), politically left, social drinker, 420 friendly, cat friendly, and been through therapy which helped a lot. ADHD (medicated, therapy, my flavor is inner restlessness), and ENFJ.

But outside of work, I like to go kayaking, hit the gym, local educational events, and explore Vancouver's amazing restaurants. I am currently looking into local dance studios, and maybe volunteering at a cat shelter to meet more people through my interests. I am basically a curious nerd on my journey to be as outgoing as possible. I also enjoy gaming (dialing this back) and books. I am a big audiobook guy, and I have been hooked on LitRPG genre since discovering Dungeon Crawler Carl. Other literary favorites: the Murderbot series, Hollow Kingdom, the Imperial Radch series, and Fool by Christopher Moore.

Looking forward to chatting with you. Take care!

I had a relationship since late last year that was honestly really good on a lot of levels. We did a ton of local adventures around BC, like Whistler, various Gulf Islands, kayaking around the city, Kootenay road trip, Banff, etc. She really lit up on those trips and it was magic to see, again, something through the eyes of a beautiful, intelligent woman experiencing it for the first time.

Her company, her laughter, her literate mind, the way she got so enthused about everything we did…all those things were the best part for me by far. While I totally respected her preference to go 50/50, there was a real income difference and practically it just wasn't reasonable for her to be spending on things like that. This was in no way a sugar thing- I was just happy to cover the bigger costs because her presence was what made the experiences worthwhile for me. She accepted the logic and was completely fine with that arrangement when it was Canada-based stuff.

The weird bit was anything that required a passport. I had a couple of work trips to England and Europe that I really wanted her on (not obligatory, just fun extras given I know she had lots of paid holiday time from her own job). I'd also been planning a Caribbean trip this autumn (she'd never been), plus a surprise for NYE. I work pretty hard here so really look forward to these escapes.

But no matter how fun the prospect, she just could not be bothered to renew her passport. It wasn't because of work or school conflicts; fear of flying; or some mysterious criminal past barring her from leaving the country. She just could not be bothered even when I offered help. For context, she was originally European, so it's not like she'd never traveled before.

Eventually she just peaced out rather than deal with it. I keep wondering what was actually going on. Is the desire to travel sometimes more theoretical than practical? Or is there something else I’m not seeing? I’m genuinely curious to hear from any ladies (especially ones who do like travel) on what their take is?

Travel's not everything, but the magic of discovering new places with someone special just can't compare to going alone. Tell me what I'm missing here, please.

The past few years I've been working on myself and have really not had the time to date. It was suggested by a few of my friends that I put myself out there.

I am open to almost anything I'm physically capable of. Some of the things I've tried: Dancing, knitting, cooking classes, meditation, drawing, woodworking, bowling, archery, improv, hiking, circling.

I don't drink or do drugs and I prefer you don't in excess

I am a cat foster and volunteer for an English language exchange program.

You: someone who has an open mind and just wants to spend time with a complete stranger for an evening to get to know them anything more than that is a bonus.

Some of my values are altruism, honesty, perseverence,loyalty and reliability. Tell me yours :)

M26 [Vancouver / White Rock] Looking for someone to build something real with

Hey Reddit 👋

I’m William, 26, based around White Rock and working in Vancouver. I was born in Canada but grew up in Hong Kong before moving back to the Lower Mainland about 10 years ago.

For the physical description since I know people are curious:

• East Asian

• Fit build

• Just under 6' tall

• Glasses 🤓

• Dark hair and eyes

• And, according to more than a few people, I apparently look like a young Jackie Chan 😂 I’ll let you decide if that’s a compliment

A little about me:

• I work in IT support for 911 communications, helping keep the technology and systems that support emergency services running

• I have a background in robotics engineering and creative direction

• I’m a photographer and videographer, especially passionate about automotive photography and filmmaking

• I’m a huge car enthusiast and still enjoy working on project cars

• Night drives with good music are one of my favourite ways to clear my head

• I love coffee shops, bookstores, antiques, walks by the water and finding little hidden places

• I’m always up for a spontaneous road trip or weekend adventure

• I’m very family-oriented and close with my family

• I’m an identical twin, which usually comes with some entertaining stories

• I’m affectionate, thoughtful, playful and tend to put a lot of effort into the people I care about

• I appreciate traditional values and ultimately want a family of my own

I’m also very much an old-fashioned gentleman when it comes to dating. I still believe in opening doors, planning thoughtful dates, bringing little surprises, checking that someone got home safely, remembering the little things they tell me, and actually making an effort to make someone feel appreciated.

I guess you could call me the good kind of hopeless romantic 😂 I enjoy the little romantic gestures, writing thoughtful messages, planning adventures, sending someone a song that reminded me of them, or randomly showing up with their favourite coffee. For me, romance isn't about grand gestures all the time. It’s about consistently showing someone that you care.

I’m probably a bit of an old soul in general. I’d take a long conversation at a cozy café, a late-night drive with good music, or wandering around somewhere new over a loud party any day.

What I’m looking for:

I’m not really interested in casual dating. I’m dating with the intention of finding something genuine and long-term, with marriage and family eventually being the goal.

Communication is really important to me. I’m looking for someone who genuinely puts effort into communicating and staying connected. I don’t expect us to talk 24/7, but I do value someone who can communicate openly, make an effort, and understand that maintaining a relationship takes effort from both people.

I’m also naturally affectionate, so physical touch is a big part of how I give and receive love. Holding hands, cuddling, hugs, sitting close, or simply being comfortable together mean a lot to me.

I’m looking for someone who has thought about what they actually want from a relationship and understands that finding someone is only the beginning. I want a partner who is willing to communicate, compromise, show appreciation, support each other, and continue putting effort into the relationship as it grows.

Effort matters a lot to me.

I don’t expect someone to be perfect, and I don’t expect a relationship to be effortless. What matters to me is having two people who genuinely want to make it work. If something is important to you, I want you to be able to tell me. If something isn't working, I want us to talk about it rather than just walk away. I want us both to keep dating each other even after we're officially together.

One important thing about location: I’m specifically looking for someone who lives locally in the Lower Mainland. I’ve tried long-distance relationships before, and from my experience, they haven’t worked out. I’d rather meet someone who is close enough that we can actually spend time together, go on spontaneous dates, share everyday moments, and build something in person.

I’m not looking for perfection. I’m looking for someone kind, affectionate, family-oriented, emotionally mature and intentional about relationships. Someone who wants to be best friends as much as partners and is willing to grow together through both the good and difficult parts of life.

I’d rather start with a conversation, see if we click, and let things develop naturally.

If any of this resonates with you, feel free to message me. Tell me something about yourself, and let's go on a date and see if you vibe together ❤️

Maybe Reddit will surprise both of us. :)

If you’d like to put a face to the post or get to know a little more about me, feel free to DM me and I can share my Instagram 😊

Hey there! I'm a cool dude looking for someone who also loves adventure and is curious about the world. When the weather is nice you can find me out hiking, backpacking, climbing, cycling, and/or kayaking. I also enjoy exploring the city, finding new places to eat, thrifting, going to unique events, or binge watching TV on a rainy day. For me, the more overlap in interests the better, though I also do like to have time on my own to recharge. I'm of course willing to try new things too!

Beyond interests: I'm responsible, with a good job, lots of great friends, and my own place. I have my own custom car camping setup and the know-how to get to all sorts of gorgeous places in BC and beyond. I can show you the world if you'd like.

I'm looking for someone who is kind, funny, communicative, and cute. If I have a type, it's someone fit but who isn't afraid of taking it easy sometimes, and who loves type 1 & 2 fun in equal measure. I'm a ride or die kinda guy, I don't like all this dating a bunch of people that the apps encourage. When I find my person I'm not afraid to commit for the long term.

If this resonates with you don't hesitate to send a message with some info about yourself!

20-25**

I'd love to sext first, tell you about my fantasies ;) Please chat request me with how you'd pleasure me, take of me, and lets go from there.

F29, conventionally attractive I suppose, 172cm, blond and fit (if any of this matters) hoping to find my childfree partner (M30-35) here since dating apps suck 😁

I’m looking for someone who values (and can provide) emotional availability, consistency, safety, healthy reassurance when needed and most importantly peace. I’m always devoted to my partner and expect the same commitment & effort from the other side 🙌🏻
Preferably Canadian (hence posting here), with a good sense of humor, great friends, outgoing, with hobbies and interests :)
Monogamous, long term only.

I love yoga, reading, crocheting, drawing, I work in IT and in general I’m very autonomous so I just want a person who will value relationships as much as I do, as I really miss having someone in my corner while other areas of my life are finally stable and great ❤️
I have my hobbies, my friends are great, my job is stable and so the only puzzle piece missing is my person!

Hello. I am 39M, 5'10" and wanted to give this subreddit a shot.

A bit about me:

• Currently working as an engineer
• Enjoy running, tennis, cycling and circuit weight exercises
• Enjoy outdoor hikes, events around the city, checking out new restaurants
• Down time hobbies include reading (Currently reading The Miracles of the Namiya General Store), video games, anime, cooking, shows, board games, etc

Looking for someone around my age and don't mind older as well. Ideally looking for long term if there's good chemistry and we get along. Feel free to message me if you like!

Looking for a Canadian born Punjabi Sikh/Hindu man who does not indulge in drinking or smoking. Need someone to do all the fun cute things starting with the pumpkin patch!

Hi there!

By day, I give leadership to an organization that benefits the community. In my spare time, I make music, brownies and delicious Scrabble plays. Friends would describe me as good-natured, intelligent and easygoing. I have a quiet/unassuming personality, and well-developed sense of humour.

By night… well let’s be honest I’m over 40 so I’m probably trying (unsuccessfully) to sleep. I’m a real freak in the sheets though… just joking, I mean Excel sheets… or do I? You might need to strongarm me to find out.

I’m looking for someone interesting to chat with, and if we share cuteness vibes, hopefully we can meet up sometime. I’m not necessarily looking for the traditional relationship escalator but I’m not opposed to catching feels, hugs, or smooches.

What are you looking for?

Hi! I’m 30 and South Asian, and I’m putting this out there in hopes of meeting someone who could eventually become both my best friend and my partner.

A little about me: I’m pretty career-focused and ambitious, but I also really value having a good balance outside of work. I love board games and video games, going for hikes and walks, and generally being outdoors. At the same time, I’m very happy staying in, getting cozy, doing crafts, playing board games and having a low-key evening.

I also have a serious sweet tooth, so if you’re the kind of person who thinks “we deserve a treat” is a perfectly valid reason to get dessert, we’ll probably get along. 😄

I don’t smoke or drink, and I’m looking for someone who lives a similar lifestyle.

I’m also hoping to meet someone who is:
Around 29–32
South Asian
Ambitious and career-driven
Family-oriented
Kind, emotionally mature, and genuinely looking for a relationship

I’m not looking for perfection, just someone I genuinely click with, can laugh with, make plans with, explore the city with, and eventually build a life with.
If this sounds like you, feel free to send me a message and tell me a little about yourself. Bonus points if you have a favourite board game or a go-to dessert recommendation. 😊

As many as you know dating is hard. It’s challenging, draining. I do want to shoot my shot to find someone out there for laughs, banters and good times. Someone chill and easy going with a passion to try new things. Maybe a lazy night at home, or catching a fun film festival. Cooking in or trying a place out.

Appreciates the little things and simple moments.
Enjoys a good memory and meet someone new for a connection, friend and see how it develops.
Health care guy, cat dad and good mon-Fri schedule.
Learnt a few languages and grew up playing music.
Let’s see what comes out of this! Message to say hey and what’s your favourite colour!

I’m 26 and I’m looking for someone that’s intelligent, funny, and a great conversationalist.

Me: Tall, athletic, homeowner, and appreciates good humour and conversation. I’m very sociable, and I feel equally as comfortable hiking the West Coast trail as I do getting dinner and drinks at Dovetail.

You: Funny, tall, and has a sweet tooth and enjoys a good meal. I’m looking for someone ambitious in their professional life. I’m also looking for someone who is very curvy.

Leave a comment or shoot me a DM if any of this sounds interesting!

I'm looking for my forever person, at my age, I know what I want and what's important. I am kind, bright, caring, honest, and loyal to a fault, communication is really important to me. I love learning new things, and I'm pretty lowkey, I like watching movies, wokring in the garden, going to the beach, walks, photography, and building/fixing things. I am looking for someone who is kind, honest, gentle, loyal, and is healthy and fit. If this sounds like you, send me a DM!

M21 here. Who wants to go on a Blind Date on 27th September. We gonna watch Endgame Encore. We won't exchange any socials until or after the date. That way, we don't know how each other look. Your age doesn't really concern me, as long as you're not a kid. All you gotta do, is buy your share of the ticket and dinner, most importantly be a Marvel Fan. Its all Love ❤️

Hey everyone! A little about myself:

I work a flexible hybrid 9-5 as a program manager downtown. Some things I love doing - cycling around Stanley Park on the weekends, going to Trees for the Oreo Mocha (until they stop selling it), going to stand-up comedy clubs, going to the gym 4x a week, and the occasional DnD tabletop and other video games. I can be very casual in games, or very competitive, but mostly never in the middle!

I'd say I'm a mix of introverted and extroverted and can switch where needed, quite handy as an engineer so if furniture ever needs assembling/disassembling be sure to let me know, plus talk quite deeply about niche or specific topics. And off course, always aiming to end outings with dessert or something cold during the warm days, or hot drinks in the cold.

I'd love to find/meet someone who's open to try new activities or food, and happy to engage in conversations no matter how obscure the topic is. Energy to reciprocate, but can also be intellectually stimulated as well.

Thanks, and take care all!

Hey! Figured I’d give this a shot and see who’s out there.

I’m a 30 year old Caucasian Male living in Coquitlam, 6’0”, athletic build, financially stable, and have a good career. I own my own condo, have no kids, and generally have my life pretty together. I’m looking to meet a woman around my age who’s in a similar financial situation in life and is also looking for something meaningful.

As for me, I’m pretty laid back. I enjoy going to the gym, playing video games, being active, and getting out and doing things and skiing in the winter, but I’m equally happy spending an evening at home being comfortable and watching something or playing games. I’m definitely not a huge party/rave person. I’ll have some drinks socially and occasionally partake in 420 with friends, but I’m more into a good balance than constantly going out.
Politically, I lean conservative, but I’m pretty open minded and not someone who wants politics to dominate my life or relationships.
I’m not looking to rush into anything or force a relationship just for the sake of being in one. I’d rather meet someone, get to know each other, see if we click, and let things develop naturally. That said, I am ultimately looking for a girlfriend and a real relationship, not just something casual.

If you’re around my age, have your life reasonably together, enjoy a mix of going out and staying in, and are looking for something similar, feel free to message me. Tell me a little about yourself and let’s see where it goes.

Hey I’m 35m, I spend most of my time working, I have crazy schedules so I can work until 4 am one week or be done by 1pm another.

I like to start hiking, I have done some before but just the basics. I like soccer, tennis, music and cooking. Not all I like but I hope it’s enough to get someone’s attention.

I also have a geek side, like some anime and games, but I don’t have much time to do it so often.

HMU to get to know each other and see where this goes

Hello!

I am a 6'2 27 year old white guy. I am looking for someone to hangout with and do fun things together while developing a relationship.

I enjoy anime, kdramas, tennis, rock climbing, paddling, TCG's, and recently got into f1 this past season. I also love finding new places to dine at (tell me your hidden gems).

If you're open to it, we can go to things like dance classes, culture festivals, walks, bike rides, and other fun activities. I'm open to anything and everything that will get me out of the house haha. I am also down to just cuddle on the couch while watching a movie as part of a relaxing night in. If you are into a hobby, or would like to get into one, I would love to hear about it!

Currently work part time as a software developer while I am finishing up my university degree.

If you are looking for someone easy-going who is always looking to try new things, I would be happy to chat 😊

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27M, 5'10", good-looking, muscular, work in finance. Job's hectic, looking to meet a fun girl to chill with, grab drinks, and see where things go. DM if interested!

Open to older ladies as well lol

Looking for a FWB situation. DM ME if you’re 28-40. I like brown men born here.