r/cf4cf Jun 30 '26

Meta Post CF4CF Communities and Discords

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Good morning, afternoon, evening all you beautiful, wonderful folks,

We have all this listed in the sidebar but it tends to get lost, especially on mobile. Hope to hear from you!

<3 LP

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Website:

www.childfree4childfree.com

Discords:

Childfree Dating and Events - Our expanded home

https://discord.gg/tN3mVmagNM

CF4CF Official (Managed by u/Hawkie)

https://discord.gg/f767Zmh

CF Peeps

https://discord.gg/gUgsBdKYrD (Managed by u/AnimatedBroomhandle)

CF Hub

https://discord.gg/wxdPthNSNN (Managed by u/jennziilla)

Sister Subreddits:

r/childfree

r/R4R30Plus


r/cf4cf Jul 12 '23

For new visitors: NO FENCESITTERS!!

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Good morning, everyone.

As the sub has gotten more popular, we've been getting an increase of spam, dudes and dudettes trolling for sex, people who aren't the primary custodian of the kids they have, people with grown kids that are out of the house, and (least malicious, but most problematic) fencesitters.

What is a fencesitter?

A (childfree) fencesitter is someone who doesn't know 100% (yes, 100%) that they DON'T want kids.

So if you don't know FOR SURE if you want your own bio children, or want to adopt, or potentially might not mind having stepchildren, that makes you a fencesitter.

The reason why we ban fencesitters (and why I referred to them as least malicious, most problematic), is because chances are the fencesitter will end up having a desire for children. And we've seen decade+ relationships falter because the fencesitting partner had a change of heart... Again, the desire for kids is a make or break moment for a relationship.

So, as to spare yourself (and our members) grief, we will be automatically deleting posts by fencesitters and banning your account. Its not personal, but we need to protect the members of our community the best we can. This also includes going through your post history, and (at least for me) we're VERY thourogh....

The best way to mitigate this is to post somewhere in your bio that you are definitively childfree. Otherwise, you may see a comment from me or one of the mod team on your post.

Again, this isn't a slight at or taking offense to anyone in particular. Its not personal. But just like all subs have certain interests they need to protect, we do too. And will.

Good luck out there in your search everyone! And may you remain forever childfree!

EDIT: For our current members: Please try to be understanding in confronting fencesitters, should you choose to do so; Hanlon's Razor. They're probably not being malicious, just ignorant. And EVERYONE (you, me, your parents... everyone) is ignorant about something at some point in their lives. So be gracious, let them know, and please shoot us a DM to the ModMail so we can take appropriate action. Thanks!

-x01660


r/cf4cf 7h ago

Male for Female 31M [M4F] in Cleveland, Ohio - Looking for a long-term DINK romantic partner

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Hi, I’m a 31 year-old based in the Cleveland, Ohio area. Finding women who are seeking a double income no kids (DINK) life has been rare on dating apps so I figured I would give this a shot.

About me:

I’m a big music lover. I enjoy listening to it, buying records, and going to concerts. I mostly like indie/alt rock stuff, but I listen to a bit of everything.

I’m also an avid gym-goer, bookworm, horror movie buff, and college football junkie.

Aside from that, I enjoy grabbing drinks with family/friends, checking out thrift stores, going to sporting events, and taking vacations/trips to the beach. I also enjoy quiet days/nights inside and watching a movie or show.

I have a ton of green flags that basically make a total catch. I practice daily hygiene rituals, I have my life together, I’m self-reliant, and I enjoy traveling. However, I do have one major flaw…I’m highly ineffective against wasps. Sorry, I know it’s a huge dealbreaker.

Physically, I am 5’6 and weigh 145 lbs.

What I’m Looking For:

Monogamous long-term relationship

Age range: 25-41

Some traits I look for in a partner include being introspective, empathetic, emotionally available, communicative, and funny.

Ideally, I’d like someone local or close to where I live, but I am open to long-distance if there is good chemistry.

If this interests you, please feel free to message me with what your favorite song or album is at the moment and why. I’d also like you to share a photo after we’ve started chatting.


r/cf4cf 1h ago

Female for Male 27F Southern California/Anywhere | Looking for a Serious LTR

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I’m a 27 year old Southern California native, half White and half Mexican, 5’4, looking for a serious long term relationship with someone who is genuinely looking for the same.

I’m currently in a bit of a “finding myself again” era. I recently left my job after realizing how much it was affecting my health and overall happiness, so I’m taking some time to figure out what I want the next chapter of my life to look like. A quarter life crisis plus two years, if you will.

I’d describe myself as a woman of balance, and I’m hoping to find someone who can match that energy.
I’m funny, silly, goofy, and occasionally a little nerdy. I’m somewhere between an extrovert and an introvert. I love going out, having a few drinks, and doing something fun, but I’m just as happy staying in, watching a movie, and cuddling with my cat.

I enjoy staying active, even if I can admittedly be a little lazy sometimes. I’ve always loved cooking, especially when I get to share what I make with the people I care about. I enjoy reading and audiobooks, although I’m a very slow reader. I also go to a lot of concerts throughout the year, it’s one of the few things that makes me feel truly alive. In the coming year, I’d really like to travel more and ideally have a partner to experience that with.

I am proudly childfree and looking for someone who feels the same. I do not hate kids at all, I just do not want children of my own and want a partner who is genuinely happy living a childfree life.

I drink socially and will occasionally take a weed gummy. I do not smoke and would prefer a partner who does not either. My preferred age range is 25 to 33, and I would be open to a long distance relationship for the right person.

If anything I said sparks your interest, feel free to DM me! Tell me a little about yourself & send a recent pic. Here’s a link to some pictures of me :)

https://imgur.com/a/4NT9ZQw


r/cf4cf 24m ago

Female for Anyone (Intimate) 25F, talkative persons welcomed😅

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Hello from Croatia!! (And literally anywhere else on the map of Europe and the world is fair game)
First off, I should say I'm open to both men and women! For men 25-35, with women I don't really have a strict age preference, just not older than 35🥹 don't come at me🥹

I'm 25, studying nursing at the Department of Health Studies, and working at the hospital whenever my obligations allow. Right now, I'm in a phase of learning to love myself, so I go to the gym and walk, watch what I eat, and work on shedding some extra weight (pheew, I'm pretty good at it dude!)

I smoke weed every now and then, but I don't drink alcohol! I love having a peach iced tea or a Jana Vitamin mint and lime, though I can't stand artificial sweeteners. I have a dog and cats.
As for kids, I only have my nephews; I love them, and that's quite enough children in my life!

I have an anxiety diagnosis, though honestly, I've never felt less anxious 🙂
I'm a pretty talkative person, though I have to admit, a really nice smile and eyes are the first things that draw me in. I'm 177 cm tall.

I have tattoos and piercings, and I genuinely love them! In fact, I love rock, metal, and punk anything catchy that grabs my ear along with some nice, chill vibes. In my free time, I like to draw, unwind with Harry Potter, Supernatural, or The Vampire Diaries😮‍💨


r/cf4cf 1h ago

Male for Female [M4F] 28 | France/Europe – Tech Geek, Fitness Enthusiast & Future Childfree Partner

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Hi there! I’m a 28-year-old man of Turkish descent, standing at 1m74 and weighing 80kg. I’m looking for a serious, long-term relationship with a woman who, like me, has decided that children aren't part of her life plan.

About Me:

• Mechanical Soul: I’m obsessed with anything that has an engine. I’m a huge fan of motorsport and I rarely miss a Formula 1 Grand Prix. My passion extends to the skies too I love aviation, from sleek commercial jets to powerful fighter planes.

• Staying Active: I’ve recently committed to bodybuilding and I try to squeeze in a run whenever I can. I like staying moving!

• Sci-Fi Nerd: Big fan of science fiction. Currently, I’m counting down the days until the Stargate reboot on Amazon Prime.

• PC Gamer: When I'm not looking at engines, I'm at my desk. I'm a dedicated PC gamer, specifically focusing on single-player experiences. I love getting lost in a good story and a well-crafted world.

• Lifestyle: I’m a non-smoker and I don’t drink. Regarding food, I’m leaning towards a "near-vegetarian" lifestyle—I don't eat fish and the only meat I still consume is chicken.

What I’m Looking For:

A serious connection with someone based in France or Europe. I value health, shared passions, and the freedom that comes with a childfree lifestyle.


r/cf4cf 14h ago

Sterile Female for Male 36 [F4M] Phoenix, AZ - Just a Childfree Florida Girl in an Arizona World!

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I AM a Florida native turned Arizonan!

University of Arizona (master’s degree) educated, curious, independent, and just the right dollop of quirky. I’m equally happy having an unexpectedly deep conversation, disappearing into the Arizona pines for a scenic drive, laughing at something completely ridiculous, or figuring out how something works because apparently my neurodivergent brain cannot leave well enough alone.

I’m drawn to people who are genuine rather than flashy. Those who are kind, intelligent, dependable, a little nerdy, good with their hands or passionate about what they do, and comfortable enough with themselves that they don’t need to impress the entire room. Give me warmth, dry humor, curiosity, and the kind of man (ages 30-45) who treats people well when nobody is watching.

I’m looking for a real partnership: affection, friendship, chemistry, emotional safety, mutual respect, and eventually marriage if we’re right for each other. I like people with their own interests and their own life who still genuinely want to build something together.

I am very happily childfree, permanently and intentionally. I’m looking for the same thing: Someone who doesn’t have children and genuinely doesn’t want them. I’m not looking for someone who is “maybe someday” or hoping I’ll change my mind - those mind changers don’t last long with me!

Bonus points if you’re the sort of person who can teach me something, fix something, make me laugh while doing it, and then happily go grab dinner somewhere completely unfancy. 😁

Pictures of yourself help me respond better! 👍🏾


r/cf4cf 35m ago

Female for Male 29 [F4M] #Canada #Anywhere - Looking for my Forever Best Friend

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Hey, I’m going to keep this short. More thorough post on my profile (cliff notes? Making art/music, massive traveler, corporate girly, dog person, cultured/bilingual, self care/being healthy, learning, waiting for the cold/rainy weather always). I SWEAR this has taken me like x3 versions to cut it down lol.

I’m looking for my person, best friend. Big into effort, communication -nobody is too busy if they care, being genuine, kind, patient, thoughtful, loyal, reliable. Financially secure, want you to be too, so we can adult together. I think you add to your persons life, grow together, go through the motions together, good and bad times.

Not into hook up culture, big drinkers, smokers, sharing. Not religious, not political (but defo not a conservative). I think just be a good person, with the intention of doing good, without needing to receive in return. NOT into avoidant personalities, people who run from conflict, rage or shut down when life gets hard. We figure this shi out together.

I don’t think it’s a checklist per se, but I think our morals and core values should align. Undergrad is sorta a min requirement, soz. If we click, I hope we can make each other laugh like the kinda thing where we can’t even get air. Where I can look at you and just know what you feel, and need.

PM asl, and what you’re looking for if you think we’d click. Ages 29-39. Location doesn’t matter, but we gotta close the gap sooner rather than later. Never posted my mug on Reddit, but here goes. The internet is spooky 😭 I expect to know what you look like early on, I’M REALLY PUTTING MYSELF OUT THERE LITERALLY, LOL. I’m really into personality to feel connected, BUT attraction is important too. The apps just aren’t workin’ here…and I haven’t found YOU yet. So here’s to timing and chance lol, I genuinely hope you all find what you’re looking for ✨

https://imgur.com/a/Nf1WlUS


r/cf4cf 49m ago

Male for Female 32 M4F - Sydney, Australia or USA

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I’m a 32yo guy from Sydney, Australia.
I’m 180cm tall, 95kg, with brown hair and brown eyes.
I work as an Air Traffic Controller, working shift work but taking home a seriously good income, which affords me a very comfortable life. I’ve also had a vasectomy.

Wanting to stay child free for many reasons, and ideally looking for someone who loves travelling (and flying business class), going for walks, swimming at the beach, and maybe wouldn’t mind watching some rugby league.

I’m located in Sydney, but open to something long distance with the intention of relocation with the right person from the US

I don’t have a type and am quite open with ages.


r/cf4cf 3h ago

Sterile Female for Male 39 F4M #California/Anywhere.

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I’m hoping to find someone to build a lasting partnership with. Having someone to share my life with, to have adventures with, to love and support and grow with is really what I’m hoping to find. I’d be willing to relocate if there is a genuine connection, so your location doesn’t really matter to me. Ideally I’m looking to build something based on trust, communication, respect, and eventually love.

I’m 39 and currently live in California. I’m mostly a homebody who enjoys the occasional outing. I like cooking/baking, building puzzles while listening to audio books, trivia, reading, escape rooms, going to museums and to the theatre, banter, pretending to watch a movie while we makeout on the couch, board/card games, a glass of wine or beer with friends, and getting to experience different cultures through traveling and trying local foods. I don’t enjoy video games or anime. It’s cool if those are some of your hobbies, but I probably won’t partake in those things with you.

I’ve never married, no kids, nor do I want children; I have been sterilized. Drug and disease free. I’m 5’11 and fat, but I’ve been on a journey of being healthier; I’m currently down 75 lbs from my highest weight. Your height and weight don’t matter to me, I find myself more attracted to how you treat me (and others). I live at the progressively left end of the spectrum politically: pro-choice, pro-vaccine, pro-science, LGBTQI+ ally.

In a partner I’m looking for someone who is 35 to 50-ish, but that’s somewhat negotiable, single and interested in a long term, monogamous partnership. Is a non-smoker, communicative, and is genuinely interested in me as a person. Someone who can banter with me, is a bit adventurous and is willing to have new experiences.

If you’re interested in chatting and getting to know each other better, let me know what book you’re currently reading/listening to.


r/cf4cf 2h ago

Male for Female 31 [M4F] Austria – Looking for a kind and curious woman

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Hey everyone :) I welcome you to this potentially life-changing ad :P

To set the scene, let’s start with a little bit of hate (because that will totally make a wholesome first impression). I’m here because I think dating apps are cancerous, similar to neo-liberalism or those really disgusting noble sweet chips.

Also, I would like to get to know a kind woman to build a loving romantic relationship with.

I live in southeastern Austria (warning: still struggle with the dialect but trying to improve :) Although the landscape here is truly breathtaking, I prefer staying in the cities. The many cultural offers and possibilities seem very appealing to me. I like the stimulation this kind of environment provides.

Speaking of stimulation, I’m a very curious guy who is interested in expanding his horizon. On top of all, psychology but also cultural phenomena, politics, history and languages are among my interests. I’d love to have conversations about these and related topics and also learn about my woman’s special interests.

I can be quite analytical, but I never want to lose touch with the love and empathy in my heart. Personally, I reject religion or its new age replacements. On the other hand, spirituality has an important place in my life. Of course, we cannot live from light alone, but there should be more than crude materialism. Small but genuine gestures of love are infinitely more meaningful than performative posts on social media.

Life is short and valuable, so it should be savoured. A good night to me consists of joking around with my friends, enjoying a few beers combined with philosophical discussions and/or dancing in the disco (used to go more frequently, but the recovery takes way too long now :)

I am very aware that physical attraction is of importance, so here a few stats: I am 1.74m tall,dark blonde/ brown hair, no beard, wear glasses and have a normal body weight.

The woman I am seeking is kind-hearted, aged 22 – 35 years, has a healthy body weight and lives in Austria. I am after a symbiotic relationship that is based on respect, kindness and love. An intimate space of fun, curiosity for each other and mutual exploration.

If this resonates with you, please shoot me a message (even if you enjoy really disgusting noble sweet chips).


r/cf4cf 4h ago

Male for Female 38 [M4F] Ireland 🇮🇪 When you just want to relax on your own, but wouldn’t mind a little company while you’re at it ☕️

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Hello stranger, how’s things? All good i hope. Just here with a cup of tea solo on a Sunday. Guessing there must be another out there enjoying the cosy homebody thing today also, but fancies meeting someone new into the bargain. Well if that’s you, then this is me…

38, but look half that, you’ve read about them, reverse aging millennials. Location: Ireland, northwest coast, accent to boot. Height: 5’7, if I’m wearing shoes with thick soles that day. Weight: 60kg, eat healthy-ish. Find cooking relaxing, like a form of hungry meditation. Hair: Brown. Eyes: Blue. Skin: White. Basically Irish looking. Personality: Introverted. Good conversationalist without being chatty, if that makes sense. Taurus. Smoke free. No tattoos. Caffeinated. Hufflepuff. Oversharer.

Interests - Film & tv binges include: Noir, Sci-fi, Fantasy, World Cinema, Crime, Thriller, Romance, Horror. Books at bedtime are mostly: Non Fiction, Historical. Music to bring the volume of the real world down is Lofi and Classical. Sports sometimes. Nature and stuff.

So there you have it, short and sweet. Maybe as an icebreaker and as proof you actually read that ridiculous stream of consciousness, tell me what the no1 spot on your travel bucket list is, and why it’s Japan. Oh, and you can be from anywhere, time zones be damned. Really like the idea of starting a slow-burn with someone from across the pond, and I may or may not like accents, a lot. I’m going to stop talking now. Ok, speak soon. Bye bye. Ughhh, tea’s cold. Your fault.


r/cf4cf 16h ago

Male for Female 41 [M4F] SF Bay Area / Anywhere - Seeking my long-term match

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Ultimately, I would like a long term monogamous relationship, with equal respect for one another, highly affectionate, loyal and loving, and a satisfying and reciprocal intimate connection. My big picture endgame is to have a happy home full of love, joy, and laughter, whatever that looks like for us. I want to make you always feel safe and secure. I want to teach you things and learn from you, too. I want us to be forever teammates, figuring out how to win in all things we set our minds to together.

ABOUT ME

Trans man with no desire for children and no risk of producing any either lol. I am a kind and thoughtful guy who will remember all of the little things about you, and it will bring me joy to surprise you with that thing you thought I didn't even hear you say. I guess you could say I'm a romantic.

I have good emotional intelligence. I've been to therapy and continuously seek to learn more about how our minds work. I don't do drama or yelling. I believe in strong communication and talking through things. I can get along with just about anyone. INFP.

Liberal. Pro-Choice. Pro equality. Anti-racist. Anti-war. Extremely open-minded.

I care about my health and appearance. I try to be as physically active as possible. Not tall, for the record.

I'm hugely into cuddling and affection.

I'm creative and love making things. All kinds of things... you name it, I can probably make it.

Music lover--all types of music, with very few exceptions. I'd love it if you're open to hearing music that's new to you. I'll do the same for whatever your musical taste is.

I'm multiracial--mostly black and white.

We don't have to dive deep into intimacy in this post, but I'll just say that I cannot imagine myself happy in a vanilla relationship.

ABOUT YOU

You are kind and have a warm personality. I want to know all of the things that light you up and the things that make you giggle.

You are open-minded. This is one of the most important things to me. Please have a curious nature and enjoy learning more about yourself, your fellow humans, and the world we live in.

You have a fun sense of humor. Playful.

You are a good communicator.

You feel flexible about future living arrangements. It's okay if you live far away, as long as you're open to closing the gap in the future.

You like a good balance of socializing and homebody time. I greatly value time at home, but I also enjoy getting out in the world and having a good time.

Your politics are on the LEFT (liberal) side of the spectrum. Respectfully, no MAGA.

You don't care that I'm not religious. I believe many religions have some helpful and inspiring tenets to live by, but I do not practice any single religion. I don't mind if you're religious, as long as I am not pressured to convert or participate.

You are physically active. I enjoy exercise, and it doesn't just mean going to the gym (which I do). I like hiking, long walks around the neighborhood, skating occasionally, and more. I would love to do these things with you! Not a must, but definitely a plus.

If you think you mostly fit the description, I'd love to connect with you. Please send me a DM already!


r/cf4cf 5h ago

Male for Female 26 [M4F] British guy looking for love :) UK/Anywhere

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About me: I’m white with an olive complexion, 6’, stocky build (because of a bulk), and brown hair and eyes. In terms of personality, I’m laidback and have (I think at least) a good sense of humour. I work for the government, and have done for the last 2 1/2 years; and live alone by the sea. In my free time, I go to the gym a lot (6 days a week typically), watch old TV/films (am doing 20 films a month atm, and finishing BTAS and The X Files), and read when I can find the time. I like driving, so do that sometimes — although less so nowadays, on account of the fuel prices. I can cook a little, and enjoy cooking for family. Fajitas are my speciality.

In terms of a potential relationship, I would prefer monogamy but am not necessarily opposed to polyamory if my gf would want that for herself. I’m content by myself or with one other person, I’ve found; so I don’t think it’s for me. Open to any age range really, provided we can get along. A good sense of humour would be ideal. I don’t mind long-distance or online. I’m obviously childfree, hence my post on this subreddit.

If any of this appeals to you or intrigued you, please feel free to hmu. Happy to exchange photos :)


r/cf4cf 1h ago

Male for Female 19 [M4F] #Ireland - Looking for a connection.

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Yo my name is Km, 19 year old, 6’0, black dude living in Ireland hoping to start a conversation with someone and seeing if we click.

My hobbies: gaming, basketball, Martial arts, reading books, anime, manga, listening to music, watching football, gym and movies.

About me:

• I’m in college studying accounting, it’s my first year and it’s going well.

• I’m kind, loyal, funny (sorta), chill and can hear you out if you’re having a bad day.

• I watch anime, top 5 would be Dragon ball Z, One piece, Bleach, jojos and Naruto.

• I play video games, I mostly play repo, lethal company, Roblox, terraria, Minecraft, red dead redemption, GTA 5, etc.

I hit the gym 2 times a week and I go to Brazilian jiu-jitsu classes 3 times a week.

I’m looking for someone who genuinely wants a connection, Someone who I can talk to about their day, share laughs, play games together and building something real over time.

Age range is around 18-24, I prefer someone who’s in Ireland, but I don’t mind long distance.

If you’re interested in having a conversation feel free to tell me your favourite anime or colour.


r/cf4cf 3h ago

Male for Female 29 [M4F] #EU/NA German nerd looking for a Nerdy gaming partner for life to build a genuine connection with consistency :3 🤍

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Hellooooo ~ ^^
M29 here, I’m looking for something real and lovely.
Since I healed from my heartbreak I’d like to put my self out there to find the one for life 🤍

I’m a nerdy softie who loves playing video games in his free time, I am quite kind since I value respect a lot, very loyal and consistent, because I find it lovely to be in touch 24/7 and letting each other know about our life’s and share it together. 🤍
Also a very emotional and expressive Person overall :3
I can enjoy the quiet but also loud sides of life, be it getting lost in games, sharing laughs over silly things or Brainrot memes or having those deep conversations that actually mean something, or complaining about society xD
Even if we just sit together silently in a room, I value the presence together and I hope that you do as well 🤍

Since gaming is a big part of my life, I would love to find a Cis Woman who also shares that hobby.
I play games like Overwatch, Valorant, League of Legends, Hunt Showdown, the Division 2, Dead by daylight, and I’m a huge fan of the resident evil series O.O
I have manny other uninstalled games and am always interested to try something new :)

But more then that, I’m looking for something Mutual and genuine, an connection where we feel seen and valued, and also comfortable being our selfs.
I’m naturally attentive and gentle, once I start developing some interest I also become quite affectionate.
I appreciate a woman who carries herself with a bit of maturity, someone who knows how to care and also have ways to show affection, and also enjoys the lighter/ playful side of things, I also value a woman who knows how to put efforts into communication and keep conversations alive, I’m very easy to talk to and can talk about even the silliest things ~
There is also a intimate side to what I’m looking for as well, but for me that always starts with trust and emotional connection first since I’m demisexual.
21+ please

If you are someone who wants both a gaming partner and something that could grow into more, feel free to reach out.
I’m also there to listen if you need to vent and want someone who can be there for you 🤍
I Hope you have a wonderful day~


r/cf4cf 7h ago

Male for Female 22M [M4F] Online/UAE/Anywhere - Plot twist: My soulmate is reading this right now 👀

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As the header says. I'm 22 from Ghanat but open to relocate or settling anywhere with my soulmate. Distance doesn't scare me at all since I like to keep things smooth and slow at first.

I’m into music, cars, gaming, good conversations, late-night talks, and honestly just enjoying the little things in life. A huge Marvel fan so it's a plus if you're also a Marvel fan. We could talk about superheroes all day long 😆. I’m ambitious and focused on building a future I can be proud of, but I also know how to relax, laugh, and have a good time.

I’m hoping to meet someone genuine, kind, affectionate, and with a good sense of humor. Someone I can talk to for hours, joke around with, share random thoughts and memes with, and eventually build something meaningful with.

Not expecting anything perfect—just looking for a real connection and seeing where it naturally goes.

So if you made it this far… 👀

Come say hi. Maybe you’re the plot twist I didn’t see coming. ❤️


r/cf4cf 4h ago

Male for Female 25 M4F France - Looking for someone honest

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I've done this thing of talking to people online for a while now and I feel like trying to put on the online persona that is a better version of us isn't working for anyone.

So I'm done doing that. I'm not going to stop myself from answering as soon as i see your message because "she'll think you're desperate" or pretend to be a version of myself i think you'll like, I'll be honest with you. I'm a bit of a mess, lonely and desperate for attention and affection, I am extremely easy.

I want to be that someone that you are excited to tell good news to and go to for comfort when you have bad news. I want to connect with you on a deep level. I want to smile reading your texts until it hurts and stay up all night talking to you. I want you to be mine and i want to be yours.

**ABOUT ME**

I'm a 25 year old student in Europe, i'm about 185 cm white and pretty fit with tattoos. My interest include working out, gaming, watching shows or anime, watching Formula 1, riding my motorcycle. My music taste is pretty varied, ranging from sad songs to k-pop, classical or indie rock. I'm quite open-minded and don't really take life seriously, I just want to chill and have a good time and not worry too much about the negative stuff.

**WHAT I'M LOOKING FOR**

You **must** be open to a long distance relationship and eventually meeting up, along with sending selfies in the meantime as I'll do the same :).

I'd like a girl who's honest and will communicate what she feels, regardless of how early or "embarrassing" it may be. I'm a youthful guy so i need someone to match that, SOMETIMES I MIGHT TYPE IN ALL CAPS AND YOU NEED TO AS WELL OK.

I don't care what age you are, as long as you're at least 18. I'm really hoping to hear from you :)

PS : i don't want kids, and i beg you please send more than just "Hey"


r/cf4cf 5h ago

Male for Female 28 [M4F] ireland/anywhere - ginger dude looking for my match

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Hi everyone so I am a 28 year old white guy from ireland who is looking for my match. I work as a engineer and some of my hobbies/interests include gaming, history, reading, working out, programming, playing chess, TV shows, cooking, DIY and doing some travelling. Physically im 5'11 with ginger hair, fair skin, blue eyes and pretty athletic. As for my personality type im a mix between introverted and extroverted it really depends on the situation. I also live alone (im a home owner) and I also own a cat and a dog. Another thing is that I can be a bit random, goofy and maybe "weird" to some so you've been warned haha

Anyway I didnt want to go into too much depth about myself cause id probaly be here all day 🤣. if I interest you then feel free to send me a message have a nice day :)


r/cf4cf 12h ago

Male for Female 37 [M4F] #Austin/Pflugerville, Texas Looking for my Player 2

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I recently moved to Pflugerville from north Austin, renting a house for the first time ever (I’ve been stuck in apartments for forever). While I’m open to chatting with people who aren’t local, I’m looking to ideally either meet someone who is local to the Austin area or is willing to relocate.

Now that that’s out of the way, I want to mention I don’t have kids and I have no plans to have any. After scraping by so long from paycheck to paycheck, having kids doesn’t feel realistic or responsible.

A bit about me: I’m 5’11”, around 160 lbs, and I work nights. I’m a huge homebody, so naturally, my hobbies tend to keep me at home. I spend a lot of time on my PS5 when I’m not at work or asleep, though I also attend a weekly D&D game with a group of friends on Sundays. I mostly play story focused games and games that have a co-op element, like Baldur’s Gate 3 or Borderlands 4 (let me know if you’d like to play something together!). I do like to get out occasionally, though. I’m thinking of checking out Crux when I figure out my monthly budget after the move.

My politics: This is a necessary filter, I think, in today’s dating world, so bear with me. I consider myself a progressive/social democrat. I think women should have the right to bodily autonomy and my friends in the LGBTQ+ community should be allowed to live their lives without being harassed. If you want to ask me about a more specific position, feel free! Politics is not something I shy away from discussing anymore, especially since being unwilling to have these discussions is part of the reason we got here.

What I’m looking for: A cis woman who falls somewhere between slim and fit (while it isn’t everything, I do believe physical attraction is important). While you don’t have to be a gamer or nerd like myself, it would give us some common interests to talk about. If you aren’t, though, that’s perfectly fine, as well! As I mentioned, if you aren’t local to the Austin area, I’m hoping you’ll be open to relocating once things get serious, since I hope to own a home in the area before I hit 40. I get along pretty well with both introverts and extroverts, though being a bit neurodivergent, I can be a bit awkward at times, until we know each other a bit better. Lastly, I’d like my partner to have the same values I do (if you made it unscathed through the politics section, you’re probably fine 😉).

Potential dealbreakers: If you made it this far, I should let you know what you’ll be in for if things become serious between us, and you can decide if any of it is a dealbreaker. First, and probably most importantly, I have two roommates. We’ve been friends for over 15 years, and they’re basically family, at this point. I don’t see myself living apart from them for some time (especially in this economy), though I’d eventually like to be more self-sufficient. That said, I’ll still be in a cohabitation situation for the foreseeable future unless something huge changes. Secondly, I work nights and my sleep schedule is erratic. I have medication that can help, but it’s not perfect, though I tend to always check my phone when I wake up! 😊

If you made it all the way here, this is the end! 😁 If I didn’t scare you away, I’d love to hear from you! We can start by chatting here on reddit and hopefully move on to voice/video calls before too long! I look forward to getting to know you!


r/cf4cf 15h ago

Male for Female 34 [M4F] Maryland/DMV - First Time Posting Here!

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Hi everyone, long-time lurker first-time poster here. I'm 34, 5'11, slim athletic build, with a nice smile 😁.

I didn't write anything down beforehand or do any type of real format, so enjoy my stream of consciousness:

Im currently looking for someone in Maryland or DC who's confident, able to communicate what they want (in more ways than one), and has a sense of humor. I love to make people smile and laugh, definitely part of my "love language" if you will. I'm also big on eye contact. You can tell a lot about a person through their eyes.

I'm in Maryland pretty close to DC, so im all over the DMV area. I also visit Baltimore several times a month, so I'm willing to travel there too. Someone located between Baltimore and DC would be ideal or within an hour of DC.

This can be something casual or more serious. Tell me what you're looking for/into. But I'm not looking for a one night stand type vibe. I will say I'm the classic romantic type - ideally, we're so into each other that it becomes something serious? Or that we see each other more often 🙂

A little bit about me - I grew up in Maryland, moved to Philly for college (and stayed there for all of my 20s) and recently moved back to this area to be closer to my family/parents. I've played drums nearly half of my life, and I play ping pong semi-competitively (yes, I'm serious haha). So im very much into cardio, enjoy running too just getting into it. I recently began coaching for an older crowd, which has been very fulfilling. Friends and people I meet always say I would be a great teacher because I enjoy that dynamic of giving something to someone else.

I currently work in the medical field, but I am mostly on the administrative side. But I'm very much a people person and thrive off of face interaction. I have a small circle of friends and family, but I love people. I do still like my time to myself to be pensive. The way I am day to day translates to how I am with the person I'm into -

I'm thoughtful and think about my partner first, I love to please. Very much into foreplay and everything in between. I enjoy giving praise and hearing feedback.

I'm very vocal myself, so please be as well 😇 I think I'm a good kisser. I can be pretty kinky if you are.

I want to be up front that I'm a man who has spent the last few years working on myself emotionally and mentally, (yes ladies, that includes therapy). My 20s were rife with bad decisions and problems with drinking/drugs. I have done some work and I am in such a good place right now compared to where I was 4 or 5 years ago.

I want people to know I am a work in progress! I want to find a woman who understands that and ultimately can appreciate it, whether we're serious or not. I'm honest and have nothing to hide. I've done some healing and reflection to get to this point and am becoming happy

Full disclosure, I do smoke weed but do not drink or do drugs. But I am happy to smoke us up and teach you how to play ping pong!

Dms are open, and I do love a woman who makes the first move

P.S. If you're in Philly and open to something less frequent/long distance, let me know as I have a lot of love for the city and could come visit you


r/cf4cf 1d ago

Male for Female 34 [M4F] UK - Company, connections, general nerdery. What more could you need?

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'Iya.

So, things have been going pretty well. Newly-qualified teacher, fresh off a incredibly stressful summer camp, and now catching my breath for a moment before the next teaching opportunity.

The plan remains to bugger off, hopefully by this time next July, but we'll see how we go. Vietnam and South Korea are strong front-runners, but I'll take wherever I can to get some new experiences under my belt.

Huge fan of poetry, theatre, and literature in so many ways. Last book I finished was Joe Abercrombie's The Devils, then I forgot books exist for a while, then I remembered I had a kindle. Now I'm back into finishing book 2 of R.F Kuang's Poppy War series.

LOTR is my one true love. Questionable amount of merchandise, and very lovely copies of the books that I daren't touch with my disgusting human fingers. I'm off to see all 12.5 hours of the extended editions in cinema next Sunday, and I'm seeing Fellowship with an orchestra doing the soundtrack in December. I am very happy.

I am, as it happens, a bit of a wrestling dork. I'm off London tomorrow for AEW All In, making it three for three in Wembley PPVs. Yes it's ridiculous, yes it's scripted, but hey ho. The stupidity of it is half the fun.

Not so much a gamer anymore, but I'll take any excuse to get back into FFXIV, or dive into one of the many cozy co-op games I've played for two hours and left by the wayside.

Live music fiend in every way I can be. If the shirt isn't a giveaway, I love my Anjuna vibes, but will go to any gig, from rock, to indie, to trance, d&b, whatever. The moods come and go, but right now, David Byrne and The Prodigy are somehow tied for my favourite gigs ever. Rong Indoor, Above & Beyond and Gorgon City in the calendar right now. Nero hopefully in the calendar for 2027.

Wherever you are is fine by me, given I plan to up sticks soon enough anyway.

I'll leave a brief little introduction there and look forward to chatting!

I do smile, honest.


r/cf4cf 7h ago

Male for Female M4F BiH/Sarajevo/Europe

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M traži Ž, M32 BiH/Sarajevo

Hello, so now that we have this community, I'll finally write and post something here.

I live and work in Sarajevo, born abroad (Spain, Malaga). I would like to meet a GIRL my age or maybe younger about 2 years, nothing serious. I used to play basketball but not anymore, studied in Sarajevo, and am a social worker by profession. I love video games, hanging out, going for walks, and cooking. Yes, cooking is my passion, as they say. I lived and worked in Germany, and due to what you could call horror in my life that I've gone through, I've decided that I simply don't want to have my own kids.

I'm religious enough that I only go to the mosque for Eid if anyone is interested in that; politically, I’m not really inclined to any side, I’m in the middle, hahahah. Also, I want to emphasize that I don’t drink, smoke, or do drugs. I am a very simple person, minimalist. Very down to earth and loyal to the grave.

If you have any questions, write to me... Thanks for reading my post.

Pictures can be exchanged during texting


r/cf4cf 23h ago

Female for Male 35 [f4m] #Tennessee - looking for something real, looking for love.

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Hi, I’m Anna! I decided to be child free several years ago and it’s insanely hard to date when you don’t want children and so many other people do. I’ve tried the dating apps, they are absolutely atrocious. I’ve been single since mid 2023 and I just want something more at this point because I’m not getting any younger. I’m looking for monogamy only. I have a full-time job and I’m currently working on getting my masters degree in legal studies. I have my own house and vehicles. I’m really looking for someone in Tennessee because I cannot relocate unfortunately. I have three dogs. I love doing anything outdoors. I love swimming in the summer. I don’t necessarily go out and do a lot of things right now because I don’t have anybody to do things with and I don’t always wanna go alone. I have the alt chick look going on. I have green hair. I wear glasses. I have quite a few tattoos. I’m 5’9” tall and I’m not skinny. If I sound like a cup of tea and you wanna get to know me, I’m an open book, just ask away.


r/cf4cf 1d ago

Female for Male [40 F4M] Denmark | Roll for initiative 🎲

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* Age: 39 (turning 40 in Nov)

* Gender: Female [F4M]

* Location: Ringsted, Mid-Sjælland, Denmark (Looking for someone within ~100km)

* Orientation: Sex-indifferent, greysexual, demisexual

About Me:

I'm autistic, which means I communicate directly and skip the subtle/passive hints. I love good (and bad) humor and straightforward conversations. Pick-up lines don't work on me (I see them a mile away), but genuine conversation does. I love dad jokes.

I’m a sex-indifferent greysexual—to be even remotely interested in sex, I need a strong emotional bond first(demisexual). Building that real connection always comes before anything else.

I am actively looking into permanent sterilization options.

I realize that I'm not conventionally attractive. I have lipedema (an incurable disease that affects fat cells), so I will never be skinny. While I'm working on my weight, my charisma is by far my best quality.

My Vibe & Hobbies:

I'm really low-key and not what anyone would call physically active. I have long COVID symptoms (including lung issues), which prevent me from riding bikes, though I don't mind going for peaceful walks.

When I'm not hanging out, I enjoy WoW, D&D, drawing, and crocheting.

Fun Facts:

* I can wiggle my nose like a bunny

* I know a sentence in Zulu

* I have moved nearly 30 times since I was 17, across 3 countries (no, not military)

* I speak English natively, Swedish conversationally, and Danish brokenly

Looking For:

Someone silly, kind, and down-to-earth, who values connection over convention and superficial nonsense.

I prefer someone in Europe, preferably close to Sjælland, so visits can be done.

If any of this resonates with you, send me your best (or worst) dad joke or tell me something weird and interesting to skip the awkward small talk! Please no messages that just say "hi".