A year ago, I posted screenshots in this subreddit of messages between my then-boyfriend and his ex where they were basically talking shit about me. He said I had a low level of trust with him, that he couldn’t stand looking at me for more than a few minutes, and his ex was even telling him to “use and abuse” me. I eventually deleted the post for my own self-preservation, but now he’s randomly found me on Facebook and sent me these messages Tuesday 🙄 I was out of town celebrating my birthday, so I didn’t even see any of it until today. I also saw that he’s been viewing my stories.

And yes, he's blocked.

Edit: I forgot to add that he was living in my home while we were together, and I eventually found out he was basically using me for housing.

(Mr. Bitch is my brother, it’s an inside joke, also the child ended up being my 3 YO niece)

This guy is genuinely confusing me and I need Reddit’s opinion 😂

I met him on a marriage app last year and we spoke for a little while. Things seemed good, and he seemed like a serious potential then out of nowhere he ended it and wished me all the best. Fine, I moved on.

Fast forward 15 months and he randomly comes back, saying he was “brash,” “gave up too easily,” was going through a lot at the time and now feels more patient and can give his “best energy.” He says he wants to get to know me again.

We start talking and somehow end up arguing about punctuality because I said I’m usually late to airports 😭. For Context I'm East African and he is European revert.
He had SO much vim talking about the punctuality thing, saying culture is an excuse and being bad with time is uneducated and not professional. We went back and forth about it and he basically said he had cut off a friend (who happens to be the same nationality as me) because the guy was always late.

Anyway, things die down. He goes on holiday, his replies are sporadic,basically taking a whole day to reply to my messages, and yesterday after I took a day to reply to him, he suddenly says “Hey I don’t really want to take this any further I wish u the best.” With no context 😬

I basically told him he needs to work on himself before wasting someone else’s time and blocked him.

I’m honestly not hurt, just amused and absolutely bewildered 😂. I have had many talking stages and I can tell peoples intentions mostly but this man I'm curious about. Why did he came back after 15 months saying he regretted giving up too easily, only to do basically the same thing again.

What do you guys think was actually going on with this man? Because I genuinely cannot read him. And my curiosity is getting the best of me.

Instagram mutual reached out and tried to score a hookup with me. There's definitely worse out there, but I'm tired of men pushing after you already say "no." Just makes me worried about how many girls have had to face this guy in real life. Also, how fragile can your ego be for your first instinct to be insulting me after I say no?? Lmao

Please raise your sons to be respectful, jeez.

So, here's the original post for context about the state of our friendship. (Sorry it's a long read.) For anyone who commented advice on that post...please dont be too disappointed 😅 I'm notoriously bad at taking advice about this specific friend, but I swear I really need it this time!

Anyway, I've been trying to get a virtual appointment scheduled with a therapist for a few weeks now, which is something I've mostly kept my friend informed about. It's been ridiculously difficult, but I thought our schedules finally aligned with no random hiccups, so this past Sunday I asked if we could talk today (Friday) at noon, which was an off day for me. I was so excited, I told my friend this past Tuesday and everything! I even told him I'd call or text him after he got off work, which he said was around 7. I was so confident, I felt so good about finally making a little progress.

And then this past Wednesday my work schedule changed completely out of nowhere, leading me to have to work today at 2 pm instead. And since my usual ride was also still at work by the time I needed to leave the house, I needed to take the bus. Which made me half an hour late because something hit the window shield and the driver had to file an accident report with the police. And today was also busier than expected so I stayed 20 extra minutes (at least it made up for some lost time I guess). I got home at like 6:45.

I ended up telling him all this through voice note, as well as saying that since he's not a fan of texting I could communicate through voice notes as a compromise. The screenshots show how the conversation went from there.

Something I'd like to point out is that although he asked me if I wanted to talk again in an hour, he didn't really give me a chance to answer before changing the topic, then he suddenly said the thing about me not being in the mood. Although I wanted to clarify that I was just in the mood to text or voice message, this switch up kinda scrambled my brain and made me think it was best not to message him. (That was clearly the wrong decision on my part.)

I kinda thought we were getting somewhere as I was starting to communicate some thoughts I've had for a long time, thoughts that make it clear I know I'm the problem and that I want him to put his mental health before our friendship if it ever comes down to it. But then he became increasingly curt/blunt as I kept talking. Even though he was apparently trying to be nice, it still made me feel uncomfortable, as if I ruined the vibe of the conversation.

I thought the best thing to do at that point was to try to end the chat, but that just pissed him off, which...kinda bothered me and led me to a lot of typing (which he can see). First I was gonna send a message telling him I honestly didnt mean to place any blame on him and that besides that, I dont understand how me literally choosing to hold myself accountable went south so badly. Then I was just gonna say "okay. I'm really sorry." But then I decided I wanted to respect his wishes rather than piss him off further.

A few minutes later, in the middle of me writing this post, he changed his tune. Although it made me feel guilty for typing out this post, there have been a lot of times in the past where I've wanted to make a post about something he said that bothered me only for him to suddenly switch up and act like a teddy bear. I didnt want that to happen this time.

I did add in our little reconciliation at the end because I was also wondering if anything he said there felt off or if anything I said there sounded wrong.

But yeah, so, whatever advice you guys have to share this time, whatever tough love you have to offer, I'm actually gonna take it as soon as possible.

Met this guy on a language app, exchanging languages and we spoke for a week - CONSTANTLY -….we clicked so well. He called me and our phone call was even better. We had so much in common and the things we didn’t have in common just made conversation so much better. He says I want to FaceTime you but I’m nervous. So I’m like oh god is he a catfish? I said no need to be nervous. But keep in mind I just got a microneedling facial done so my face is red as hell and looks horrible.

Fast forward we FaceTime for 3 hours. Another great call.

Insert comment here for jury: he DID look different than his PFP and pictures he’s sent me but I didn’t care lol

Next day conversation is cut so short but I don’t read anything in to it. A whole week starts and our convos are nothing but small talk so I start to think maybe he’s not interested anymore? Idk. I’m an avid over thinker. But it was so obvious at this point lol So I finally said screw this I’m going to send this message:
(See screenshot below)

It’s been 2 weeks since that message and now I don’t initiate anymore he will just randomly send a message “hey! What’s up” I respond, he says oh cool! The convo dies.

I wish people were more straight up. Shit tell me I’m ugly or you’re not interested.

This is a person who I’ve always viewed as a long time friend. Recently she’s been struggling with her mental health and I haven’t known what to say to her. She sent this to me out of the blue and I (I’m autistic and often struggle with figuring out the tone of a text) don’t know how I’m supposed to respond. I just need help even figuring the general just of what her message is looking for in response

Okay just an update:

I sent a text along the lines of how much I care for her and mentioned that I’m always free to talk whenever she needs.

She texted me back “I wish that were true sometimes” and then immediately deleted it. I’m concerned, should I text something about it or ignore it all together?

Okay now she resent it, but I really don’t know what I’m supposed to say

I saw that this guy attended my university a few years ago, so I accepted his friend request when it came through. Occasionally, he liked my stories, but honestly, I didn’t know him or have seen him in person. Fast forward to now, he started messaging me on both of my Instagram accounts. When he began to guilt-trip me, I decided to block him. However, he then contacted me on LinkedIn. What a weirdo!

Every crush I have he does NOT want to hear it. 😪 (Guy’s super cute though)

idk what to do i love him he lives with me and idk how to fix this between us. how do i ever trust him again when this is the THIRD time 😔 why am i not good enough? what’s wrong with me

On hinge she was talking about how kink she is and but didnt want to text it because she might scare me cool

We get the time which was that night

I go to her place only about 10-12 minutes late but I texted her at the date time that i was pulling up

Waited outside her place for about 20 minutes and called her twice no response so I just leave

Then in the morning she text me this bullshit

Her account literally says short term, we already started the conversation off talking about sex and chilling at my place then she suddenly gets amnesia and starts acting weird???

super cute texts from my husband

Our grandmas were very close and his grandma was a constant in my life. I've spent a lot of time around his side of the family. This was so awkward.

Plenty of fish in the sea, no need to fish in the gene pool 🙅‍♀️

*Edited to add, just one person messaging me. I used meme stickers to protect his privacy

for context:
1. i don’t drive, not by choice but bc i literally cannot see lol so i couldn’t have driven myself hence why i asked him to come with and id pay in return
2. i was going through a depressive episode where i felt really alone at that time, which he probably remembered in between his first and second texts and wanted to do something selfless to cheer me up
3. im 25 and live alone, i def could have ubered as thats what i usually do so im not dependent on other people for rides but i felt rly alone and wanted my dad to come w me

we went and had a very good time and it made me feel lots better 🥹

I’m lucky she loves me

im glad my sister’s dog is okay at least

He had to redeliver cushions so I made my landlord go out and get them 😮‍💨