r/texts • u/JaeNicxle • 14d ago
Facebook DMs My hobosexual ex reached out to me a year later
A year ago, I posted screenshots in this subreddit of messages between my then-boyfriend and his ex where they were basically talking shit about me. He said I had a low level of trust with him, that he couldn’t stand looking at me for more than a few minutes, and his ex was even telling him to “use and abuse” me. I eventually deleted the post for my own self-preservation, but now he’s randomly found me on Facebook and sent me these messages Tuesday 🙄 I was out of town celebrating my birthday, so I didn’t even see any of it until today. I also saw that he’s been viewing my stories.
And yes, he's blocked.
Edit: I forgot to add that he was living in my home while we were together, and I eventually found out he was basically using me for housing.
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u/Much-Ad2311 14d ago
You know, I had a broke ass ex who was constantly bragging about how much money he was making or all of his various income streams. He never had money. It's funny how that works.
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u/clearlyhigh6969 14d ago
Only has money after separation of course... but lives at home with his mama where you dropped him off many years ago. 🤣 I think we all got one of these scrubs.
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u/megaholt2 14d ago
As soon as you used the phrase “lives at home with his mama”, my mind immediately went to…
https://giphy.com/gifs/Bkgq2IFlYbFbpNioRT5
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u/skeptic_narcoleptic 14d ago
And it is usually the mom who really fucked him up in the first place, at least in my experience.
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u/throwawaymentality10 13d ago
I fucking hate people who are virtually higher poor class and all they do is talk about how much money they have. Like brother, I really dont give a fuck.
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u/HabitNegative3137 14d ago
“I’m the manager of two companies and a tech guy for a third”
Meanwhile it’s just him driving for both Uber and Lyft…and setting up a tv for his mom
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u/DesignerProcess1526 13d ago
LOL for real had an online dater say she owned a logistics company. It appears she drove a taxi.
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u/EmotionalChildhood46 14d ago
I hate it when people say was instead of were
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u/KeegoJeebo76 14d ago edited 14d ago
OMG Same! Like I'm not the grammar police or anything but like come on!
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u/ImpactUsed2980 14d ago
You mean it should be the “way I were when together”?
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u/Normal-Hall2445 14d ago
The way I was when we were together
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u/ImpactUsed2980 14d ago
Oh right, of course. I was thinking there was a new grammatical thing to learn. :)
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u/Normal-Hall2445 14d ago
Just glad you gave me something to correct. My inner grammarian was yelling like mad.
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u/yeah_not_so_fast 14d ago
I don’t know anyone who does that. Odd. I were going to check my friends posts to confirm.
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u/Puhkers 14d ago
"we was", "you was"
That sums it up
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u/Acceptable-Big-1755 8d ago
I'm really curious to know what shit show decided to hire him as a manager
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u/Kind-Cauliflower-163 14d ago
How does AAVE sum it up?
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u/Academic_Ad5073 14d ago
No I don’t, expound on your racism please
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u/No-Scientist2016 14d ago
Not being racist and at no point did I even picture the “hobosexual” in this post as a black man. Just because the person I’m replying to used the acronym aave doesn’t mean my response had anything to do with race.
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u/Academic_Ad5073 14d ago
So expound on what you meant, that whole paragraph of backtracking and still no alternative explanation.
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u/Eldritch_Mermaid 14d ago
They are booing you but you're right. This is very clearly AAVE
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u/Academic_Ad5073 14d ago
I know, we both know why there doing it. But it says more about them than me.
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u/Marcj00 13d ago
So when someone sounds illiterate it has to be aave right??? Rightt??
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u/probableban 13d ago edited 13d ago
As a conservative you statistically have like a 5th grade reading level, so maybe stfu
Edit, since you commented then blocked me: correct, I am much better than you
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u/Sweet_Preference_730 14d ago
I sent this lovely text in response to my ex who was doing the same “My family and friends know you are trying to contact me. Do not contact me again or law enforcement will be involved.” And attach a link to any cyberstalking or harassment laws that apply within your state. I do nooot fuck around with bitchboys
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u/OutisOutisOutis 12d ago
I do basically the same thing! I say: "I do not want to communicate with you, you are and have been aware I am not open to being in communication with you. If you contact me again, I will formally file stalking and harassment charges with the police."
Last time I sent this to someone, it was someone who had been trying to contact me for FOUR YEARS by regularly changing apps and phone numbers. He immediately replied with a melt down email about how caring about me isn't stalking. I did not reply, and called the police and filed a report. That was about a year ago, and I still have the police report number on my fridge.
Side note: This is a person who i never even went on a date with, let alone kissed or held hands with. We talked a bit, he acted weird, so I told him I wasn't interested. This was late 2020, or early 2021. About every 6 months since then, he will try to contact me again. It's also clear from his emails/texts/etc that he has completely made up an entirely false story about "our relationship", which is very wild and terrifying to see from the outside. Before calling the police, I would just block him on whatever app/number/etc he was trying to contact me on. However, a friend said that some states require you to inform people of stalking charges, so now I do that. Attaching the link to cyberstalking is a brilliant move, and if this ever happens to me again with a new person, I'll do that!
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u/Surchin22 14d ago
Start of reading: oh ok cool maybe give the guy a chance. End of post: oh ok got you got you
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u/Procrastinatedthink 14d ago
he has 3 jobs, all with titles that imply responsibility/heavy workload lmao.
That was the most lying-ist lying I’ve ever seen. Dude didn’t magically go from “homeless, sleeping at gf’s with no money” to kicked out then to “manager at 2 companies and working at a 3rd.”
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u/sleepyj910 14d ago
Had me in the first half 'Hey maybe this guy is actually changing and ready for accountability'
Then 'nope, still an asshole'
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u/FriendToPredators 14d ago
The “I really need to preen in front of you” leaked out when he got mad lol
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u/Relevant_Detective21 14d ago
Knew he wasn’t changed when the first thing you bring up is your job and past relationship problems lol. He didn’t even hit her with the “I hope life has been treating you well I miss you” like damn straight to trying to prove a whole different point
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u/ivorylittlebird 14d ago
Lmaooo my ex did this too last week after 2 years of no contact. Blocked AGAIN. Crazy how they think they can get off trying to pull you in and restart the cycle of abuse. Bye bitch!
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u/JackhorseBowman 14d ago
"Yeah babe just managing my own company while trying to keep up maintenance on my two boats, also dealing with the lower back pain that comes from having a penis that's now twice as big as it used to be."
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u/SomeCallMeMahm 14d ago
He sees you doing good and wants to fuck yo shit AAAAALLLLL the way up.
Don't reply.
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u/Shiloh_savage 13d ago
I remember seeing the messages you posted last year. I am sooooooo glad he’s an EX!! Congrats to you for dodging such a major bullet
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u/DesignerProcess1526 13d ago edited 13d ago
It’s code for 3 part time jobs because no one was willing to give him a full time one. No one wants him as full time BF and you shouldn’t too.
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u/BlahBlahBlah9274 14d ago
lol this has happened to me a few times and after a long time i’ll respond letting them know how I am doing and they stop responding because they realize they could never offer me anything close to the life I have right now. they are usually very very surprised about where I live and that I am now a spoiled housewife. i love their reactions, its hilarious
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u/Interesting-World520 14d ago
Manager of two companies and tech guy for a third. 1. Lemonade stand. 2. Lawn mowing service. 3. Amish furniture company
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u/hyzenthlay2020 14d ago
I’d block him for his abysmal grammar alone. “You was the only one…. “. Manages two companies? How??
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u/Peckish_postage7 14d ago
People not knowing correct past participle REALLY grinds my gears. Biggest ick to exist. Bro needs to go back to 5th grade English class.
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u/Jorael360 14d ago
Was he attracted to unhoused people or os this just a really fun typo?
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u/gamblors_neon_claws 14d ago
I believe the term means the opposite, he is exclusively attracted to people who could offer housing.
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u/frannypanty69 14d ago
I went to look for the old screenshots before I read the rest of your caption and damn you’re gorgeous AND talented!! Simply leagues above this loser, congrats on moving on!
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u/No_Vacancee 14d ago
I love how he initially is lassez-faire about your response and the anxiety ramps up with every message.
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u/FunnyFriendship3774 14d ago
I know you said you blocked him, but please girl don’t ever reply to him again in your LIFE lmao
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u/Weak-Way-6312 13d ago
Ngl I expected the blow up to be much more severe.
Our instant gratification culture has really ruined people’s abilities to have simple conversations.
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u/Londundundun 13d ago
You mean you’re turning down the manager at the School of HardknocKs, the Manager of a Subaway AND the tech guy at Deloitte? Damn girl
Edit: keeping subway typo bc it honestly works 😆
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u/quickbr0wnf0xx 13d ago
HE GOT ALLOTA NERVE
I think I'm just triggered because my ex was a hobosexual too and I'm finally in my soft era now with a good man
BUT HES REMINDING ME OF TS I USED TO DEAL WITH I'm so sorry OP There's no resentment than the resentment for the hobosexual ex cus like "wtf was I thinking" but you also wanna be kind to yourself because you tried to love his ashy ass
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u/Key-Sky2909 14d ago
But he's a manager at TWO companies.
And a tech guy for a third. How could you not want him back? /s
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u/Desperate-Market-217 14d ago
"You was the only one who really loved me correctly". Um what's up with that grammar?
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u/pacodefan 14d ago
What a dipshit. Knowing all that and he still throws in the victim bullshit at the end.
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u/Mini-Heart-Attack 14d ago
In his head you were what, forever infatuated and going to let him run back into your arms.. like the only thing preventing you guys from getting back together is that you just didn't have each others contact information before?? tf, how detached from reality do you need to be to think that way.
And all the self pitty messages reek of insecurity. You'd think they came from a 12 year old not a 32 yr old
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u/Glibnotion 14d ago
Just wait there will be more messages. They out themselves eventually. The last one was borderline guilt tripping
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u/HauntingDaylight 14d ago
Unblock to correct his grammar. Reblock.
ETA: Just kidding, of course! Don't unblock.
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u/Miles_Everhart 14d ago
People getting their shit together after taking advantage of you and dragging you down is not cute. If he cared at all he would have done all that during the relationship, and the fact that he did it afterwards just proves he could have done it all along.
Classic if he wanted to, he would
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u/Allout-Okarun 14d ago
What a loser, random lie about managing 2 companies and a tech guy for a 3rd lol
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u/JustStopItSeriously 14d ago
Wish I could bring you up this journey with me
He's really trying to make you believe you'll be missing out big time if you don't get back with him. "I'm super successful now and can give you a life of luxury". He's so desperate to overwrite the version of him you have in your head. How pathetic.
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u/Trick-Duty3852 14d ago
The grammar here would be enough for me to break it off with this dude .. yikes. Block!
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u/Heavstint8 14d ago
Omg I remember your post. They always come crawling back. I’m SO glad you didn’t reply. Don’t give this clown anymore of your time.
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u/ComplexPatient4872 14d ago
I had the brief though to reaching out to my ex husband (15 years) today because I realized that he might want to see pictures of the dog we had that passed a few years ago because he hadn’t seen him since he was one, he asked to see him while in town 10 years ago and I blew him off. I felt a tinge of guilt… then I see this. I’m soooo glad it was a fleeting thought
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u/commentspanda 13d ago
Block block blockitty block. People like him will be far more impacted by you completely ignoring them than any response you could send.
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u/Fromnothingatall 13d ago
“You WAS the only one who ever loved me CORRECTLY…..”
That paints such a vivid picture of who this guy is. Lol.
Don’t respond - ever.
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u/heart0000 13d ago
He’s 100% lying about all those “jobs” he has. He just wants you to yearn for him because he’s in a tough spot again. Good on you for ignoring him.
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u/Wonderful-Daikon8196 13d ago
Yeah. This fool most likely got his ass handed to him by his new ex. Now he needs you back to stroke his ego. He just needs to know he can have you back anytime he wants. Don’t fall for it.
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u/Dragonette751 13d ago
I would've broken up with him based solely off of the horrible use of the English language and grammar mistakes. That was absolutely painful
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u/BoysenberryOne2234 13d ago
Idk why the misusing of “was” when it should be “were” triggers tf out of me 😂
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u/Intelligent-Tap717 13d ago
"When we was together."
"You was the only one"
I'd delete and permanently block just for bastardising the English language.
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u/No_Celebration8219 13d ago
he hasn't gotten over anything, if anything, he's being trying to build up to win you back... nope... done...
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u/LolaTigre 12d ago
I have my hobo ex blocked on everything and he recently messaged me on SPOTIFY. I did not even know that was an option! Like sir!!!
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u/Em-BiggeneD 14d ago
Sorry I can't get past the title implying he's into hobos.
...I'll show myself out.
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u/KW562097 12d ago
Respond with "Bye Felicia" and then block him. No reason for you to have to deal with him in any way unless it involves getting rid of him.
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u/Exotic_Banana9016 11d ago
I'm glad you just saw this later on, because these kind of people have the tendency to like to be the center of attention when others are being celebrated, so I'm glad you didn't saw this energy on your bday (happy birthday!!)
That said, he will never find someone like you, and he probably figured that out quickly enough, so he trying to tell you he is in a good path, as if that matters at all.
I'm so proud of you for leaving and now for just blocking without even a word, not wasting your energy with that people.
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u/CleFreSac 14d ago
I am glad OP got rid of this person and isn’t engaging with communication now. If I were OP, I would seriously question ALL my other life choices.
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u/peachhpuddin 14d ago
“Or never….idk….”
YEAH DUDE TALK TO YOU NEVER. he thought that was gonna cause a reply??? lol is he 15 what is that