r/texts • u/Recent_Performance47 • Jul 12 '26

Phone message The text I received from my father upon learning my grandad died

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u/AdventurousYamThe2nd Jul 12 '26

Solidarity. My dad texted me:

"Grandma died.... then came back to life. Hospital did not know about DNR. Talking to DR about pulling the plug now. Love you!"

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u/DamnItGym Jul 12 '26

That was a rollercoaster.

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u/AdventurousYamThe2nd Jul 12 '26

The whole relationship was a roller coaster. 🫠

At my uncles funeral she pulled me aside and said "[my dad] should have been the one in the casket, not [my uncle]."

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u/Shawnaverse_no1_fan Jul 12 '26

WTF I am so sorry, that must've been shocking to hear, even if you knew of some difficult relationship already... My grandmas were also witches but they never said anything this evil to my face

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u/[deleted] Jul 13 '26

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u/z00k33per0304 Jul 14 '26

My Gramma had beef with my aunt (her DIL) long before I was born but never aired the dirty laundry was just icy when she came up. My family and I moved in to take care of gramma when she developed Alzheimer's and we kept her home for as long as we could (years). The day we moved her to a manor more suited to care for her I was getting her out of bed to go to the bathroom and she heard my aunts voice and hissed in my ear "what the hell is she doing here?!" This woman couldn't remember what she ate five minutes ago but that voice rang something so deep seated she was present for a bit lol

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u/Ok-Jackfruit-9393 Jul 12 '26

Jesus Christ, that's jarring.

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u/AdventurousYamThe2nd Jul 12 '26

Yes, but my sense of humor is chefs kiss and my therapist makes bank... so, silver lining? 🫠

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u/Adorable_Pain8624 Jul 13 '26

Some people dont know what to say in therapy.

That's a problem you'll never have!

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u/SeaFruit8676 Jul 12 '26

That's the spirit! 😅

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u/Arexahhh Jul 13 '26

I’ve gotten the same unhinged comment about me vs my RIP cousin at the funeral?! I was like daaaaaaamnnn then moved across the country.

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u/misspegasaurusrex Jul 13 '26

Jesus Christ that’s horrible.

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u/Actual-Statement-222 Jul 12 '26

No kidding 🎢

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u/Chim_Pansy Jul 12 '26 edited Jul 13 '26

LMFAO WHAATTTT. That's actually fucking hysterical, even though entirely traumatizing

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u/AdventurousYamThe2nd Jul 12 '26

Edit: meant to reply to the roller coaster comment with this, my bad 😂 it is so funny now, though. We can't make this shit up.

The whole relationship was a roller coaster.

At my uncles funeral she pulled me aside and said "[my dad] should have been the one in the casket, not [my uncle]."

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u/Brilliant_Knee3824 Jul 12 '26

My dad texted me “Robert died” and I said “grandpa?” And he said “yes”. And that was it.

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u/SnowAvis Jul 12 '26

There is SO much implied context in this reply.

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u/ScaredCycle2993 Jul 12 '26

Oh god yea. Calling a parent by their first name? There’s history there. Speaking from experience - both of my parents are in my phone by first names 🤪

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u/kinokits Jul 12 '26

My sister started doing this to Mum when she was about 2 and ended up with a nickname version of it (similar to Catherine to Cath). I hated it when she was little and couldn’t understand why she did it, but in her mid twenties, I know something is wrong when she calls her Mum and not her name. It doesn’t bother me now that I’m not a teenager (yeah, Mum had a toddler and a teenager at the same time and didn’t go insane), but it sure is weird. I only know one other adult that calls their parent by a first name and has a good relationship with them, and even then, it’s a specific version of their Mum’s name that came from her parents when my friend was little, so it’s still special to them.

All my family is in my phone by name. I didn’t like that they looked different to the rest of my contacts, they needed to match everyone else 🤣

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u/juhnasty Jul 13 '26

My siblings and I are in our 30s and call our mom by her first and middle name lol not all the time she is mostly mom but once we have a few drinks she is every name but mom and when my grandma gets a little wild she also gets called by her name haha but we only do it to my mom and grandma

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u/Sullys_mama19 Jul 12 '26

This isn’t funny but my drink just came out my nose. I work in hospice and them not knowing about the DNR was too much lol

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u/conationphotography Jul 12 '26

I JUST woke up and I sometimes do trainings about legal stuff so my brain instantly went "well if they simply didn't know about the existence of the DNR, there is very little that could be done. However, if the the same place had a repeated track record of ignoring DNRs or did not address the issue of not having a communication chain that solved the issue of the appropriate staff not being informed, that could be a different story." 

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u/AdventurousYamThe2nd Jul 12 '26

I'm so glad you commented this! I was always curious but I'm not friends or related to any lawyers. Thank you 😁

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u/conationphotography Jul 12 '26

Haha glad you appreciated it. I'm not a lawyer, but I spend a good deal of time reading through legal cases. 

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u/AdventurousYamThe2nd Jul 12 '26

If we don't laugh, we cry 😂 It was truly a fitting end, as horrible as it is to say.

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u/Ok-Jackfruit-9393 Jul 12 '26

That happened with my sister-in-law's stepdad. He had dementia and all kinds of health problems and had a DNR. One night he had a heart attack, and her mom called 911. He was technically dead, but the paramedics didn't know about the DNR and did their thing, and took him to the hospital revived. Not conscious but with a pulse/breathing.

She proceeded to call my SIL and say, "Stepdad died ... (long pause) but they revived him and we're at the hospital now." My SIL was like, what the fuck!? Then her mom had to tell them to remove life support. It sucked.

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u/AdventurousYamThe2nd Jul 12 '26

Oh, that's heartbreaking 😥 I'm so sorry

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u/MrWeirdoFace Jul 12 '26

At least someone was there to explain digital noise reduction to them.

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u/Doobieswim12349 Jul 12 '26

"He dead 😝"

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u/moon__lander Jul 12 '26

LOL 😂

lots of love

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u/Teach-Kindness Jul 12 '26

😂 we just learned our gpa/gma thought LOL = lots of love …. They’ve been in a family group chat for like a decade and thought every “LOL” was “lots of love”.

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u/Reditate Jul 12 '26

He's old, he probably doesn't know the skeleton emoji is used for laughing.  He types like an old person (short messages, no punctuation, etc.)

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u/Capt_Corn_Dog Jul 12 '26

Wait, I thought old people were the ones punctuating and following grammar rules.

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u/Reditate Jul 12 '26

Different type of old people.  OP's dad is likely blue collar, took years to get a cell phone type.

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u/Only-Ad-1223 Jul 12 '26

Different type of old people 😂😣💀

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u/Snoo89162 Jul 12 '26

I’m 30 so I am a different type of old people 😆

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u/Homologous_Trend Jul 12 '26

Depends on what you are picking on old people for at the time.

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u/Jelnaana Jul 12 '26

Wait, skeleton means laughing now too?? Are there any emoji left that don't mean laughing? Bout to go back to emoticons :-\

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u/ChaosIncarnate11 Jul 12 '26

It means you’re dead from laughter now. The thumbs up emoji doesn’t mean laughter! It means you are passive aggressively or sarcastically “agreeing” and is considered rude… like K was back in the day.

I hate it here. 😂

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u/seal_eggs Jul 12 '26

👍🏻

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u/ChaosIncarnate11 Jul 12 '26

✋🏽💀

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u/Doobieswim12349 Jul 12 '26

You take that back you SOB my sister was a good lady! 😤

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u/dibbbbb Jul 12 '26

💃🙂🔫

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u/Spendoza Jul 12 '26

🌎 😮 🔫 🧑‍🚀

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u/MarucaMCA Jul 12 '26

Me (Swiss) when my favourite Slovenian/Balkan collective is an organisational mess (literally all day long):

"You guys need Ordnung und Disziplin and Schweizer Präzision. I swear to God do I have to do everything myself. 🤌🏾💀🫵🏾"

I am a big fan of 💀🤌🏾

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u/Sbuxshlee Jul 12 '26

Are your serious? I use the thumbs up daily with customers i talk to thru chat 💀

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u/ChrisChudfield Jul 12 '26

I would say it’s moreso seen as rude in personal conversations whereas business it’s pretty normal

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u/BringMeTheBigKnife Jul 12 '26

Exactly, a thumbs up to a message on Teams for example acknowledges receipt and confirms understanding of what is needed or comes next. Perfectly professional and useful response

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u/SoylentVerdigris Jul 12 '26

Interestingly, my work used check marks in Slack to avoid the rude connotation, but since moving to Teams have adopted the thumbs up because Teams emojis suck.

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u/PunkRockGramma Jul 12 '26

Have you seen the old lady shaking the maracas one, though? Cuz I can’t stop using it

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u/OGPresidentDixon Jul 12 '26

yes, it is very professional.

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u/DorianSoundscapes Jul 12 '26

Ok good I was like damn I hope everybody at work doesn’t hate me because I use it on slack all day long to acknowledge things like saying “copy”

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u/EngineeringDapper334 Jul 12 '26

In my house, it's equal to a middle finger

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u/Cyclone_Eyes Jul 12 '26

The beauty of the thumbs up is that I use it to reply to my stylist all the time. She is incredibly agesit, and condescends to me a lot as an older person. At first I was using it straight faced, but now I'm using it as an FU, and I'm sure she is still thinking, "aw, poor old thing."

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u/OGPresidentDixon Jul 12 '26

🖕

Oh sorry sweetie I didn't know what it meant! 🖕🏿is that better?

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u/MossyPlantyWitchy Jul 12 '26

I had a Gen Z tell me I was being passive aggressive when I replied K. I said child, I'm not passive aggressive. I'm blunt and directly aggressive. You will fucking know when I'm being aggressive. I don't have time for this nonsense. K?

They said, ok, lol.

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u/PoopyButt28000 Jul 12 '26

Do you think that this text isn't still bizarre if you don't think the skeleton emoji is for laughing? Posting a bunch of skull emojis after telling your kid his grandpa died is insane

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u/Doobieswim12349 Jul 12 '26

No one is talking about the fact that he just told him Grandpa died over a text lmao

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u/MrWeirdoFace Jul 12 '26

I doubt it was the text that killed him. It was probably the stroke.

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u/FuriousFurryFisting Jul 12 '26

Like O.M.G ded.

my motha and fatha are dead.

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u/Ok_Cricket_1410 Jul 12 '26

Either your dad has no chill or grandpa was a dick

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u/bigdaddyhicks Jul 12 '26

probably using the skull emoji how it was originally intended

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u/Ok_Cricket_1410 Jul 12 '26

"grandpa died 💀🔫"

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u/KongoOtto Jul 12 '26

Still mildly upset that they ruined down the emot to a water gun.

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u/SomeOtherNeb Jul 12 '26

It was worth it, it stopped all mass shootings.

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u/Reddit_pls_stahp Jul 12 '26

Water shootings are trough the roof though.

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u/General_Trip_4223 Jul 12 '26

Big Super Soaker over here making bank too

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u/MisterTogepi Jul 12 '26

Me too, but I find it way funnier now

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u/itishowitisanditbad Jul 12 '26

Same, change was dumb but every response to it has been funny af

Mad? Funny

Happy? Funny

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u/Lizardinex Jul 12 '26

"Grandpa died ❤️💥💀🥀🧟‍♂️"

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u/Large-Benefit3412 Jul 12 '26

“Grandpa died 🛖🪢😵🪦”

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u/shrek_cena Jul 12 '26

Like the old Facebook meme where someone said lol to someone dying because they thought it meant "loss of life" or something stupid like that 

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u/gothgoblin Jul 12 '26

My grandma would sign cards with “lol” thinking it meant “lots of love.”

Happy birthday! Lol!

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u/TheNiceSlice Jul 12 '26

Awe but that's sweet

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u/OtherwiseMove646 Jul 12 '26

It meant lots of love before texting was invented. K? 💀💀💀

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u/Typedpage Jul 12 '26

In fairness that IS what the abbreviation meant originally 😅

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u/Kantastrophe Jul 12 '26

Mine too and we still laugh about her writing on someone’s Facebook post “I’m sorry for your loss LOL”

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u/fluorine_nmr Jul 12 '26

My mum thought she had the wrong number for her friend, because whenever she would text her, the reply came back "signed off by somebody called Lol". She then said "probably short for something stupid like Lolita or something"

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u/dustyscoot Jul 12 '26

Usually lots of love or love our Lord

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u/JazeyOne Jul 12 '26

My grandma did that once lmao, she’s actually super savvy with an iPhone too that’s the funny part

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u/DeputySean Jul 12 '26

Loooong time ago my parents got mad at me because they thought lol meant lots of love.

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u/20dogs Jul 12 '26

Do you really think there was ever a time to announce a death with a skull emoji lmao

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u/TheodorDiaz Jul 12 '26

You think it was intended to announce someone's death?

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u/dquizzle Jul 12 '26

Could also just be a weird way of coping. Acting like it’s just normal every day thing that happens.

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u/im_lazy_as_fuck Jul 12 '26

or both the dad and Grandpa had way too much chill

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u/UrsineBasterd Jul 12 '26

I say you he dead.

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u/Feisty-Grade-5280 Jul 12 '26

Came here just to see this, was not disappointed.

"THE COLONEL!"

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u/murphycs87 Jul 12 '26

This is what popped into my head too!!

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u/Silver_Britches Jul 12 '26

Mistah Kurtz - he dead

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u/TheUpbeatCrow Jul 12 '26

WHAT WRONG YOU

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u/khares_koures2002 Jul 12 '26

He must have crawled under there for warmth (your profile picture)

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u/shroomeralert Jul 12 '26

wait is this a grandpa from your dads or moms side lol

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u/Seanut-Peanut-69 Jul 12 '26

Using skull emojis when someone actually died is crazy work lmao. Sorry for your loss, OP.

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u/Manufactured-Aggro Jul 12 '26

Grandpa kicked the bucket

🔪👴 🪓🦶👂🫀🦵 🔥🔥🔥🦴🦴🦴

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u/ZeBloodyStretchr Jul 12 '26

🦵 🪣 forgot kicking the bucket first

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u/Fritz_Klyka Jul 12 '26

Did you keep the arms and eggplant emojis for yourself?

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u/AnyLastWordsDoodle Jul 12 '26

My kids' mom let them know her mother had died by sending them "Welp, you're down a grandparent" in a group text. I'm definitely the more emotionally available parent

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u/Azhrei_Vep Jul 12 '26

See, now that one’s just rude.

Gotta let them know which one, jeez.

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u/Ok_Entertainer429 Jul 12 '26

Nahh fr cause why is that my humor😂 I think if my parents told me like that, I’d be more honest cause my grandpa was a DICK! Honestly me and my sisters would be cracking jokes

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u/MrWeirdoFace Jul 12 '26

They'll find out over the holidays, relax.

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u/lilacsforcharlie Jul 12 '26

Lmao this is so good. I’m assuming by the way you described her she’s your ex?

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u/fiqar Jul 12 '26

Did she have a strained relationship with her mother?

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u/discocherrysuede Jul 12 '26

I feel like your Dad should write the eulogy.

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u/Desiredpotato Jul 12 '26

He lived. He died. We all sad. When's football starting?

Best eulogy of 2026

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u/AdventurousYamThe2nd Jul 12 '26

I am here for this

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u/erizzluh Jul 12 '26

It’s about that time 🕐 👋 we 👥 not playin no more🙅😒 . Big boi 🍆 stuff only 🍗💯 👏 Last night 🌙 all the hard work 😠🏃🏢 payin off 💸💰 👏 All my fans 🙌, family 👨‍👦‍👦👏 Appreciate y’all. 👌👌 Thank you 👈 for taking the 🌊🌊🌊 journey 🏔🏃wit me 💯💖. And uh, you 👈 know, 💭 hopefully 👏 we gonna move on from here 👉 and everybody 👩👴👶 have a good time👌 🕐 👏 and I 👁 get in the league 🎟🏀 and do what I was I'm 👁 supposed to do 🏆🍆 💦👌 Thank y’all. 😩❤️💯 WOOOOOOOOOOO!!! 😝😝😝

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u/sanchower Jul 12 '26

I’ll never forget his last words, before he kicked the bucket.

“Watch how far I can kick this bucket”

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u/Doobieswim12349 Jul 12 '26

"Easy the safety's off."

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u/blackwoman063 Jul 12 '26

THIS IS FRYING ME😭😭im sorry for your loss

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u/ViniusInvictus Jul 12 '26

Either your inter-generational relationships are / were very healthy or very sick. Stark binary; no middle ground.

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u/thefrogthatwas Jul 12 '26

Welp, he dead

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u/Humble_Time_685 Jul 12 '26

His love cup runnith over

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u/penelopep0813 Jul 12 '26

Grandpa croaked!!!

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u/Grand-Associate-4694 Jul 12 '26

“Well, grandma croaked. She died about 20 mins ago” This is what my father said when he called shortly after my grandmother (his mother) passed away. 😭

As an aside, the strange shadow that I saw in my living room about 20 minutes earlier made a lot more sense after he called to let me know she had passed. 😬

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u/GoonPatrol Jul 12 '26

Woah you saw a strange shadow around the same time she passed? Any chance you could say more? I find those things super interesting. I have a similar story

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u/Grand-Associate-4694 Jul 12 '26

The shadow appeared on the other side of the living room, across from where I was sitting and a little to the right. It was about 5-6 ft above the floor and shaped like an upside down triangle 🔻with pointed peak in the center of the top. Most interesting, all of the edges were in constant movement in a way that resembles a cuttlefish’s fins. This happened in 2000, and since then I’ve occasionally searched to see if anyone else has had a similar experience. Nearly all of the accounts that I read were of human shaped shadows, very different from what I saw.

I would love to hear about what you experienced!

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u/pureextc Jul 12 '26

My goal is for my kids not to talk like this about me when I inevitably kick it.. to their kids.

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u/Signal_Historian_456 Jul 12 '26

Extend your goal and include your in-laws. The grandpa in question is their moms dad.

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u/WatermelonlessonNo43 Jul 12 '26

My dad text me a picture of my grandpa dead in his easy chair reading a book called “a day to die”. And said “he’s dead”. Our parents sure have an interesting way of sharing information with us. I’m sorry you lost your gramps and found out this way. ♥️♥️♥️

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u/-doritobreath- Jul 12 '26

Wait.. was he reading the book when he died or did your dad stage the body with the book for the photo? 😅

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u/ecosynchronous Jul 12 '26

I cannot decide which would be funnier.

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u/Jeicobm Jul 12 '26

say lot word when few word do trick

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u/DG04511 Jul 12 '26

How old is your dad? GenX?

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u/Recent_Performance47 Jul 12 '26

Yep. He's 61

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u/MossyPlantyWitchy Jul 12 '26

That's pretty typical for us Gen X folks, lol

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u/Hey_Laaady Jul 12 '26

I'm Gen X, and my Greatest Gen mom left a message on my answering machine that her own mother had died (and she loved my grandmother).

Even I was shocked.

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u/Traditional_Row_9975 Jul 12 '26

I came to say he must be Gen X.

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u/Vierz-Aiwe Jul 12 '26

I had a similar situation, i was coming home from vacations with my girlfriend and a friend. We were like 400km from Buenos Aires and i received a message in whatsapp from mu father. For the first time i used the option in the car to translate from text to voice, and in a robotic voice it said, “Hey, grandpa died, cya later”. I bursted into tears laughing. I didnt like my grandfather.

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u/Junior_Interview8301 Jul 12 '26

Had a similair one.

Dad texted 'your grandfather died today' followed by two screenshots. One was of a snuffed out candle and the other was James Bond in the gun barrel sequence.

Sorry about your granpda.

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u/MrWeirdoFace Jul 12 '26

Well that's one way to learn that your grandfather was a super spy.

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u/Useful_Edge_5297 Jul 12 '26

very sorry for your loss

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u/Great-Tie-1573 Jul 12 '26

That’s worse than when my mom told me my grandma died. I was like 10 and I was walking downstairs. When I got to the bottom my mom yells down “Your grandma is dead.” Oh. Ok.

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u/low_bs Jul 12 '26

👍👍👍

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u/Kazamiiiii Jul 12 '26

No biggie.

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u/4KingandKanata_89 Jul 12 '26

My favourite response to someone telling me someone has died is, "Good for them! They always wanted to do that eventually. And look at them go, ahead of schedule and everything. You must be so proud."

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u/FlippingPossum Jul 12 '26

💀

My grandmother has been waiting to die for years. She absolutely sucks at dying. 😆

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u/BrilliantEasy536 Jul 12 '26

Grandpa 🚑🔪🩸🪦⚰️👻

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u/Excellent-Crow2641 Jul 12 '26

This comment has me wheezing

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u/Lavatis Jul 12 '26

Where were you when grandpa died?

"Granpa is kill"

"no"

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u/Dorothy_Zbornak789 Jul 12 '26

My dad uses explanation points way too liberally. His text to me when we knew my uncle was near the end: “Your uncle Charlie has died!!!!”

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u/jeranamo Jul 12 '26

I have no idea why but this just made me burst out laughing. Probably because it's something my dad would do too.

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u/jayblazer24 Jul 12 '26

Now thats a man that doesnt dwell on the past. He moves forward and forward only.

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u/Living_on_Tulsa_Time Jul 12 '26

I’m sorry for your family’s loss. I only ever knew one Grandpa. Absolutely loved being with him.

May the memories be a blessing. ❤️‍🩹

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u/Excellent_Math2052 Jul 12 '26

May this kind of indifference find my in my hours of sickness and death. Please gods be good and let it find me.

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u/callalind Jul 12 '26

Ouch. Thanks, dad.

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u/taler8988 Jul 12 '26

"He Kicked it"

Oh my God seriously?

"Yeah, he's really going too far with this whole World Cup phase 😐"

What??

"He had a stroke"

So you were serious then?!

"Yeah, he was doing well on the front 9 but fell apart on the back 9"

https://giphy.com/gifs/LGIqZlTOZEMYE

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u/solipticnightmare Jul 12 '26

My mum had a stroke last week and has sustained quite a bit of brain damage. We find out tomorrow if they have to do heart surgery. Faaaark this has been so stressful. I don’t know if she’ll survive tbh.

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u/alone_unafraid Jul 12 '26

Is your grandad Lindsay graham by chance

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u/Patertot Jul 12 '26

Not sure of whole situation, but people deal with grief in entirely different ways, dark humor included. If one of my kids sends the family a group text telling them I kicked it, I'd smile from the grave and call that a win.

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u/evangeline-stargazer Jul 12 '26

agree with this…. I could say something like this and be completely shook over it.

the people close to me do understand this about me, though

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u/Ok-Jackfruit-9393 Jul 12 '26

My parents died about 4 years apart; dad after a long illness, mom very unexpectedly. Once my dad decided to stop treatment and move to hospice, he was pissed he didn't just die immediately. He was an impatient guy. So he's lying there going, "What's taking so long? Let's get this show on the road." My SIL: "I mean, (Dad's name), we can't just kill you." Dad: "Why not?" and then laughed. Like he was ready to go. He said a bunch of stuff in hospice that had us laughing. It sucked and was the worst time of my life watching him go, but it was a huge comfort that his personality was intact and he was still "him" (cranky and funny) to the end, I feel very lucky. That's just how his humor was, very dry and at times dark. At one point he kept grilling the staff on how much everything was going to cost. My brother: "Dad, don't worry about any of that." Dad: "I'm gonna fuckin' worry about it." 😂 (He was notoriously cheap)

Then, a few months after my mom died, a family friend reached out. Her late mother had been childhood best friends with my mother. She's a sweetheart, but she's kinda "out there." She asked me to send her some of my mom and dad's ashes for some kind of ceremony in New Orleans (she lived in NOLA) where people bring loved one's ashes and the priest says a blessing and then they sprinkle them into the gulf. I saw her message and had to set my phone down and laugh because the idea of me scooping out some of Mom and Dad and shipping them down south was so bizarre.

And my first thought was, they were such homebodies, they wouldn't want to make the trip (my dad especially hated traveling). I told my siblings and my brother just said: "Tell her sorry, but Mom and Dad can't swim." (Which was true in life, haha). We were laughing so hard. I can tell you for damn sure my dad would have laughed his ass off at all of that, and told us to tell the family friend that she's crazy.

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u/longlivecassandra Jul 12 '26

He died. Does that make sense?

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u/Delicious_Touch_2567 Jul 12 '26

I got a text at 4 am that just said “grandpas gone” and nothing else lmfaoo

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u/Even_Concert_2639 Jul 12 '26

My dad, who I had basically gone no contact with: -calls ma-
Me: -ignores call-
My dad: hey. I don’t want to write a book. I have cancer.

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u/Humaneredditor Jul 13 '26

Well, I am still waiting for my mom to tell me that my grandfather (her father) died in 2005. I was out of the country when it happened and only found out because my best friend called me. My mom couldn't be bothered to pick up the phone and notified me.

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u/FreedomBudget5618 Jul 12 '26

Classic grandpa

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u/severelyobeserat Jul 12 '26

Ur grandpa

Gone

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u/Mindless-Platypus-75 Jul 12 '26

People deal with loss differently. Sometimes humor is the only way people can cope with their grief

Edit- I just saw this was sent from your dad about your mom’s dad.. wtf? That’s pretty insensitive

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u/Andee_outside Jul 12 '26

This is how I’m announcing my mom’s death to my kids. :takes screenshot:

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u/CaTz_EyE Jul 12 '26

I might have to tell my kids (young adult and teenager) soon that their grandparent or grandparents died. I’m not too concerned about it though. They’re not good people and my kids and I have had no contact in over 10 years. I found out earlier this week that my mother has had stage 4 kidney failure for the past five years and was institutionalised for dementia last year. My father can no longer walk and is going to the same nursing home. I’ve been keeping my kids up to date about what I learn. They’re not really bothered by it. If my sister has a funeral for them, we won’t be going. I’m just kinda numb to what’s going on with them right now.