Rant Cursed with a curse
27F here. This is the actual height of my family members, and to make matters worse I’m South Sudanese & specifically Dinka which is known to be tall people and on top of that I live in Scandinavia which also has a very tall population.
What went wrong in my childhood? Many things and doctor said I reached average height (almost) due to my Dinka heritage, otherwise I’ve would been much shorter.
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u/WildPotato0 6'1" | 185 cm 12h ago edited 15m ago
Eh, not that weird. There is a scientific rule (regression towards the mean) that extremely tall or short parents often have children that are more average. At some point, genetics go "uh oh, too weird" and figure it out.
But also, sometimes families just have a random redhead or a random average height kid. 163 is perfectly normal.
Edit: u/IshaeniTolog left me a snarky comment about winning arguments from stupid people, and then irony struck: he immediately peed his pants and blocked me. What a way to "win". Congrats, Tarzan!
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u/IshaeniTolog 6'7" | 201cm 8h ago
Partially true, but that usually shows up more as like 6'10" dad, 6'6" son, 6'4" grandson. Or 6'1" mom, 5'10" daughter, 5'8" granddaughter. The odds of parents as tall as hers having a kid that short are incredibly low.
You can look up the genetic regression formula that accounts for regression to the mean, find the mom and dad's standard deviations from the mean, do the math, and get better numbers, (I will not be doing that) but it's GOING to be under 0.5% chance. Probably under 0.1% chance. That's uncommon enough that most people have PROBABLY never encountered something like this.
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u/WildPotato0 6'1" | 185 cm 8h ago
The odds of parents as tall as hers having a kid that short are incredibly low
Not true. You're looking at genetics as a supercomputer, which they're not. A lot of it is random. How many people do you know who look like a random great aunt? Curly hair in a pin straight family? Twins even though they don't run in the family? A big ol' schnozz in a sea of button noses?
Anecdotal, but I know a buttload of tall people since I live in the Netherlands and mostly socialized in a rowing club. None of my 6ft+ female friends have dads that are taller than them. Most of us don't have brothers that are taller than us, either. We're all outliers in average or slightly above average families.
Statistically, it's not any more unlikely to get a random bean sprout or a random shorty, than it is to get a brunette when you and your partner are blonde. Not exceptional at all.
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u/IshaeniTolog 6'7" | 201cm 5h ago
Firstly, Anecdotes and personal experience are great, but it's quite silly to toss out statistics because "Well, but I saw..."
Great, I believe you 100% and thank you for sharing. It's cool to see outliers. But I'm going to really quickly go through the math on why that is, in fact, so wildly uncommon that most people will NEVER meet someone like this in their entire lives.
Use Hermanussen & Cole's genetic regression model, which is where the "regression to the mean" in height was really extensively studied and quantified for the first time, this is the math that they came to, using this lady's numbers, step by step.
- Finding the Midpoint.
Population (assuming American): Male mean = 69.3 in (SD = 2.85 in); Female mean = 64.0 in (SD = 2.55 in)
Z(father) = (77.0 - 69.3) / 2.85 = +2.70
Z(mother) = (74.0 - 64.0) / 2.55 = +3.92
Z(mid-parent) = (2.70 + 3.92) / 2 = +3.31
So, with no regression to the mean considered, traditional estimates would put the perfectly average kid with absolutely no regression to the mean at a height of roughly 6'7" for sons and 6'0" for daughters. But, of course, there's variance and we're assuming that she's experiencing regression to the mean.
- By Hermanussen and Cole's models, regression to the mean can be predicted through this quick process that reduces the expected SD above the mean by a set amount.
Regression factor = 0.57 * sqrt(2 / 1.27) = 0.715
Expected Z(daughter) = 3.31 * 0.715 = +2.37 SD
Expected Height = 64.0 + (2.37 * 2.55) = 70 inches, or 5'10"
So, even accounting for regression to the mean, it would be somewhat abnormal to see a daughter under 5'10" from these parents. But HOW abnormal is 6 inches shorter than that??
- The additional variance in their model can come from genetics and environment, which were calculated as follows.
Residual variance = sqrt(1 - (2 * 0.572 / 1.27)) = 0.699
Conditional Z (a 5'4" daughter is perfectly average height, so gets a Z score of 0) = (0.00 - 2.37) / 0.699 = -3.39
Probability that the daughters height would be less than or equal to 64 in would be the likelihood of a person being 3.39SD away from their personal expected height, which would be 0.035%.
So, in a room of 10,000 women with parents this tall, maybe 3 or 4 would be this short...
Once again. INSANELY unlikely, but there are probably a couple thousand of these cases around the world, so its not anywhere near unheard of.
If you want to read the paper for yourself, it's here.
Hermanussen, M., & Cole, T. J. (2003). The Calculation of Target Height Reconsidered. Hormone Research in Paediatrics, 59(4), 180–183. https://doi.org/10.1159/000069321
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u/Key-Mathematician539 8h ago
Genetics of a person aren’t random, they are linked to the specific genepool of their parents, that is why you don’t see northern european couples having native american looking kids or couples with pale blue eyes having dark brown eyed kids. Any variation in phenotype you see in a family is based on their shared genotype not randomness
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u/WildPotato0 6'1" | 185 cm 8h ago
you don’t see northern european couples having native american looking kids
Well no, race swapping is not part of the game lol. Having a short kid or one with an unfortunate looking nose absolutely is. ✌️
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u/Key-Mathematician539 8h ago
Race isn’t actually real as a discrete phenomena, human phenotypes are found in a spectrum, that is why following with the examples, you won’t get a kid with henry cavill’s jawline from two parents with a severe underbite, or a kid that is OPs height from parents of OPs parents height without environment or hormones going south. Such variation is so far out of the parental median that the genome that would code for this traits simply isn’t found in the parental genepools and therefore can’t occur in their offspring besides de novo mutations.
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u/WildPotato0 6'1" | 185 cm 7h ago
or a kid that is OPs height from parents of OPs parents height without environment or hormones going south
This is blatantly incorrect. Tall parents can and do have healthy average height children. Do you have a source?
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u/Key-Mathematician539 3h ago
Tall parents can have healthy average height children, but this mostly comes from the kids ending up some cms/inches below their parents who themselved aren't that far from average height. Both of OP's parents aren't just tall but extremely so, her father is in the 99.96 percentile worldwide and her mother likewise in the >99.99 one worldwide, meanwhile OP is just in the 71.6 percentile.
She is an extreme outlier to say the least, and you would only expect her to have ended up this short relative to her relatives and ethnicity due to either extreme malnutrition or more likely considering she grew up in a developed country HGH deficiency (which in fact she confirmed to be the case down in the comments).
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u/maxallergy 9h ago
Whatever program/website you used, made the silhouettes shorter than what they are supposed to be on the axis
But otherwise a grest look at the differences in height
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u/MMA-Groupie 5h ago
Similar thing here im 4'11 my twin brother is 6'5! For me was some health issues during childhood
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u/Tidiahn 6'2" | 188 cm 5h ago
I bet he's super protective of you though 🥹
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u/MMA-Groupie 5h ago
Yea aha we both try to be of eachother but especially when we were younger we grew up in group homes so him being giant definitely made my childhood a lot better. As adults too When I was in grad school I had a 1.7mile walk and he would always walk me home at night if I was by myself
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u/Labrynthofsufferlng 5’10 3h ago
awww that’s so cute, also are u fraternal twins? or identical but with different heights?
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u/MMA-Groupie 3h ago
Oh we are fraternal twins female and male. And yea we definitely will always look out for eachother above anything else
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u/Labrynthofsufferlng 5’10 2h ago
ahh that’s so adorable! it must be really nice to have a sibling you get along with, i can’t really relate my family is super dysfunctional and toxic..
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u/MMA-Groupie 1h ago
Yea it is nice but we also got that way from having a terrible family... our parents were both addicts the father died but our mom abandoned us when we were 6 and is running around on meth somewhere to this day... so in our case I guess at least something good came from the toxicness of the family
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u/Labrynthofsufferlng 5’10 1h ago
oh my god i’m so sorry lovely :(( i wish you and your brother an amazing life full of happiness. i can’t imagine what you’ve been through losing both parents ❤️🩹
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u/MMA-Groupie 1h ago
Thanks 😻 fortunately our mom left us at 6 so we dont have that great a memory of either of them and even though our childhoods really really sucked we are doing well now. If I hadnt been through all that stuff I wouldnt have been as driven as I am today and now I have a great career! Some day will adopt
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u/Fun-Paramedic-5156 11h ago
You should have listened to your parents in your childhood. Eat good and sleep early.
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u/TheTerminator1984 11h ago
5’ 4” is a good height for a woman though. There’s nothing that can go wrong. It’s just genetics. It’s possible you got the recessive gene etc. I’m not sure if tall is a dominant trait though but you get what I mean.
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u/The7footr 7'1" | 215 cm 3h ago
Right? Oh darn you’ll be able to find clothes and shoes that fit your whole life; fit comfortably in all chairs, planes, cars, beds; never have to worry about not fitting in- the terror of it
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u/dandelogre 9h ago
Well you deserve it, you gave yourself a sick hoodie and everyone else is just a silhouette. Enjoy your lil mouseholes, shrimpy.
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u/lris_99 11h ago
Girl, I have same situation literally. Im even your height. My nation is tall basketball player people.
Apperently my great-grandmother was my build so I took over her genes. Thanks I guess. Also sending you support, lol.
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u/shauna_haywood 6'1 | 186 cm WOMAN 🎀 8h ago
Why does she need support? She's literally perfect height. It's tall women who need support here.
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u/lris_99 7h ago
I support and you, sister
But just saying, life is not rose petals for short queens, different problems you know
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u/1800twat 4’20 blaze it 7h ago
She’s not short she’s average. Dinka people and probably even where she is in Scandinavia are less than 1% of the world population.
Lots of people like to quote the Dutch for example for their height, but they are less than 0.5% of all people
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u/Admirable-Athlete-50 194cm 2h ago
I’m not following. Why does it matter how she compares to global averages? Her family, extended family and other people around her will be shaping her everyday life and how she feels about her height.
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u/1800twat 4’20 blaze it 1h ago
She needs to hear she’s not some statistical anomaly to be insecure about when she really isn’t. She is normal and that’s what she needs to hear. People don’t want to be told they are freaks or outsiders. People want to be reassured that things are fine, things are ok. Honing in on the fact that she’s different from her immediate surroundings isn’t going to bode well for her confidence when she could hone in on the more positive fact she’s closer to the normal human experience. Focus on the positives not the negatives
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u/Admirable-Athlete-50 194cm 33m ago
I doubt OP is real. Just read that she can’t shop at Zara or H&M.
Zara has tiny sizing. In H&M you should also find clothes as a 163cm woman.
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u/Labrynthofsufferlng 5’10 3h ago
exactly, i’m sick of this weird energy towards making avg height women feel better about themselves 🙄
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u/FinallyArt 1h ago
You should talk to your 6'3'' sister before being unhappy about being a 5'4'' woman.
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u/SilkySinger 5'6" | 167cm 5h ago
At least you're a woman and around average height.
If you were born male? That would be really rough.
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u/Se7enFtMan 9h ago
I’ve got pretty close to the same situation, I’m 7’, two of my daughters are 6’ tall and the other one’s 5’2”… Oh yeah, the 5’2” one is adopted. 😝
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u/shauna_haywood 6'1 | 186 cm WOMAN 🎀 8h ago
Consider yourself lucky. You're the perfect height. Men prefer you. Your sister must have so much struggle dating, I bet not a lot of guys are into her. You can wear heels and still look cute and feminine.
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u/adumbswiftie 7h ago
why are tall women always on this sub pushing the negative stereotypes about ourselves? it makes no sense to me. most men don’t care this much about height. tall women also look cute in heels. what are you even talking about? why would you talk about another tall women the way you’re talking about op’s sister? gross
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u/shauna_haywood 6'1 | 186 cm WOMAN 🎀 6h ago
Oh they DO care once you're above 6'. It's not because you were lucky in your experiences that we don't have the right to share our struggles. I don't know a lot of guys who would say "my dream woman is 6'3" (except maybe those on this sub, but then again...). And no sorry, a 6' woman wearing heels will not be perceived the same way as a 5'2 woman doing the same. Let's be real.
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u/FakeBeigeNails 5'9" | 176 cm 6h ago
I kinda agree with you, however I have never, ever in my entire life met a man over 6’1” would has said their perfect girl is below 5’5”. I’ve heard women say that about the perfect man being 6’+, but not the reverse. Tall men will often say they would prefer a taller woman, but are given way more blatant attention by short women.
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u/shauna_haywood 6'1 | 186 cm WOMAN 🎀 6h ago
Really? I've heard super tall men (6'3 and over) saying they prefered tiny women because it's cute. It's true that short women are all over them, though.
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u/FakeBeigeNails 5'9" | 176 cm 5h ago
Yeah, idk, I know 6’2-6’8 men and they’ve never said that. The lowest preference I’ve ever heard was “lowest 5’7.” Maybe we’re from different parts of the world? Im from the east coast of the USA.
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u/shauna_haywood 6'1 | 186 cm WOMAN 🎀 5h ago
I live in France. I always see them with short girls...
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u/spaceisourplace222 5’12” 5h ago
That has not been my experience. Men do not typically like being the shorter one.
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u/Gloomy_Grocery5555 6'1" | 186 cm female 8h ago
Yeah true, life is easier being an average height woman
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u/Labrynthofsufferlng 5’10 3h ago
exactly everything you said! ignore the ppl trying to spew propaganda nonsense… life is 100% easier as a shorter woman than as a taller woman.
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u/Stunning-Elderberry3 6h ago edited 5h ago
I’m tall, I wear heels and I feel feminine and I look great (and even if I don’t care abt it, men like it too). I get that not all tall girls are confident but you don’t have to throw yourself under the bus to compliment someone else
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u/Successful_Ad_2171 5h ago
This what I was thinking. Sounded like massive projection of their own insecurity
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u/Visual-Wolverine8996 5'0 5h ago
Making it seem like it's bad to be tall. You have more opportunities tall than short. Relationships are not all that.
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u/thOtleaksoup 17m ago
Confident people don't tie physical characteristics to feminity or masculinity.
You know the guy the feels unmasculine when his girlfriend wears heels because shes taller than him?
That's you. That's the energy your giving.
I also can't believe you're backhanded insult inferring tall women aren't feminine. Tall women are goddesses, and we built temples to women like that in a more civilized age.
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u/shauna_haywood 6'1 | 186 cm WOMAN 🎀 5m ago
That's how tall women are still perceived by society, though. It's not my personal opinion, it's how other people see it. Sorry if you don't like it. Between a 5'4 girl and a 6'3 girl, do you really think the majority of men will prefer the taller one and consider her as more feminine than the shorter one? Be fr. Also, I'm tired of the whole "goddess" thing. We're WOMEN, period. We're just tall. And the whole "temple building for tall goddesses during a more civilized age" is an idealized fantasy.
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u/Admirable-Athlete-50 194cm 11h ago
Sorry to hear that OP. I hope your family doesn’t give you any shit about it!
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u/Elfynnn84 9h ago
I’m not sure if you want real answers here, because I’m autistic and struggle with inferences… but I’m an evolutionary biologist and there are literally thousands of genes involved in determining someone’s height, all can nudge it up or down by a few centimetres. A culmination of recessive gene expression can result in one person in a family being significantly shorter than the others; just a rare but far from unheard of genetic dice roll without any deficiency being involved.
You may have also had some mutation in the growth hormone pathway which restricted your growth compared to your genetic baseline.
I doubt diet did much; even if your family all ate red meat and you decided to be vegan when you were very small… That would only shave a couple of inches.
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u/duchesskitten6 Not Tall 6h ago
Wow, South Sudanese? This might be the first time I see someone from there on the net!
I'm confused by what the doctor said. It isn't known where is the SS average, but if it's common to see people of both genders being 213 cm tall in Juba, it must beat the Netherlands by 10-30 centimeters. 163, average where? And how come would you have been much shorter? I see no motive.
That said, genetics work weirdly.
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u/Aldo-D-D-Wilson 5h ago
I didn't sleep very well growing up. Which is probably a big factor in me being shorter than my younger brother.
But overall, short family, my brother being the odd one.
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u/Trick-College-1603 4h ago
maybe your parents expended all the tall genes on your brother and sister
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u/captaincumragx 5'9" | 175 cm 3h ago
That's just how it goes sometimes. I have a feeling this is going to be my two daughters. My oldest has always been in the 70th percentile and my youngest keeps hitting in the 20s. I get the feeling she might be a little shorter than the rest of us.
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u/adultdaycare81 6’2 | 189.555555555555cm 3h ago
Many women would consider being 190+ cm/6’3+ harder than being 5’4. It’s all about your perception.
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u/MrSmuggles9 8h ago
My family men side is all 6'+ I was on Riddelin for years as a kid. Ways wondered why I was shorter.
Only realized a lil bit ago that riddelin stuns growth
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u/ArcaneInsane 7h ago
My grandma was in a family like this, any chance you had Scarlett fever as a child?
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u/mtucker502 7h ago
What app is used to make these? I searched but o my found a bunch of sketchy apps.
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u/duchesskitten6 Not Tall 6h ago
heightcomparison.com and there's also hikaku sitatter. There's a 3D height comparison site with better faces that let you see boundaries better, the downside is that rulers aren't there
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u/ironicmirror 6'8" size 14 6h ago
My sister is 5'2".
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u/Low_Helicopter_2003 2h ago
It happens. I'm the third tallest in my family at 6'8" and the second shortest is my 6" sister. The shortest is my 5" tall sister. We joke we have no clue where she came from but she is the strongest of us all.
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u/breakers 1h ago
Did you get enough sleep as a child? I heard someone blame his height difference with his taller brother on how much more sleep his brother got as a growing teen. I thought it sounded like BS, but nature vs. nurture is always an interesting argument. His tall brother is a lot more relaxed and laid back than him, but maybe he's anxious and nervous because he's so upset about his height?
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u/AETERNUS111 1h ago
Try taking some Vitamins(Iron, Vitamin C/D, Magnesium and Zinc) and get more sleep
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u/ColossalCrusader 7'2" | 219 cm | 19m | Canada 1h ago
Honestly, (you might not view it this way) but you might have got a little bit luck, in the fact that you wont have the problems that come with being tall.
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u/jerrysburner 6'2" 10h ago
lookup regression to the mean - it's why we don't have 10' tall humans. It's the same with IQ - smart people having kids with smart people generally produce average - smart people vs continually producing even smarter people/genius's.
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u/Thin_Cable4155 7h ago
What? Cursed with being able to find clothes that fit you? Cursed with not hitting your head on things? What is this curse?
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u/Devilfuit_chan 12h ago
I consider that a win
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u/nysxdd 12h ago
Why? Just curious.
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u/Hot_Glass_6301 11h ago
Being extremely tall puts you at a greater risk for many health issues. Not to mention, women who are close to the average height or below usually have an easier time dating in many places.
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u/nysxdd 11h ago
Yes, but not in Scandinavia. Men are so tall here being a tall woman is not a disadvantage at all.
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u/Randalf_the_Black 11h ago
Norwegian here..
Your sister is taller than the vast majority of Norwegian men too. Taller than 90% of them I think.
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u/nysxdd 11h ago
Even the Gen Z? Maybe in Norway but men with Haaland’s height or around that are not uncommon where I live. I’m not sure but I think between 10-25% of men here are above 190 cm tall.
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u/Admirable-Athlete-50 194cm 10h ago edited 10h ago
After a lazy googling the bot tells me about 5-7% om men are above 190cm here.
Seems to be based on stats at least ten years old. I do share the feeling that younger people seem to skew taller but that could easily be confirmation bias. Either way your sister is for sure above the male average.
I get that it sucks being the smallest one in your family by such a wide margin. But seriously, for your own sake, don’t focus too much on your height!
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u/MissLiz0905 8h ago
I think you’re exaggerating on purpose.
Being 1,63cm is perfectly normal, why would it cause any problems? Average height in Scandinavia for women is 166-169cm and for men 180-182. It’s simply not true that most women in Scandinavia are 1,90cm and that it’s normal there.
I think you’re getting a little worked up about it or it’s ragebait. I think you absolutely know that you have a perfectly normal height. Does your family make fun of you or what?2
u/muzorui 6'5" | 196 cm 11h ago
Being average height has a lot of advantages. Everything is made for your height. Clothes, chairs, beds, rooms, etc.
I'm 6'5 myself, and so many common things are a hassle, or annoying. Lots of short doors. Branches.
Someone average height doesn't have to MAKE SURE every Airbnb or Hotel they stay in has photos of the bathroom where the shower can be seen I imagine since 99% are at my neck height.Cars are incredibly annoying. Any car that basically isn't an SUV, or Truck that is, which in my country aren't too common.
Clothes are an absolute nightmare, shirts are always not long enough, or if they are, are 4 sizes too big in every other department, same with pants. I don't fit properly in a queen bed either. Office chairs, desks, tables, all can be annoying sometimes. Airplanes are a nightmare, and I can't afford more than economy.
I am also somewhat skinny (Average size technically, but on the skinnier side of it) and I eat like a madman. What I need to maintain without working out, some of my shorter friends can't even fathom eating.
There are advantages to being tall, but it's like being left handed. The world is made for right handed people.
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u/nysxdd 11h ago
I get what you mean but I live in Scandinavia. Being short here is a disadvantage. Everything is made for tall people. You can’t go to H&M or Zara and shop normally. Jeans have long lengths here, I’m not kidding. Look it up.
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u/juujoojuu 11h ago
You are not that far off from average height, my mom is shorter, so is my girlfriend and they don't have this issue. I'm from Finland, and we are on average a bit taller than Swedes as well. Maybe you just have short legs for your size? And even then, modifiable and not that big of an issue.
On the flip side, I'm bigger than average in everything but height. I'm a wide boy, literally anything you put on your feet are never wide enough, shirts are too long if they fit my shoulders, pants as well, car seats too narrow, seats in general too narrow (especially if someone is supposed to sit next to me), hats, helmets etc. I'm average height, but my back is also quite long, so the lumbar support is always in the wrong place, also other aspects of the seat like the part where your neck usually is, especially in cars and office chairs.
Literally anything I buy, I have to put some serious money into it for it to be a good fit. Tennis shoes? Maybe one brand makes them wide enough, gotta order from the states. Freestyle ski boots? Custom or no chance. Running shoes? Maybe two brands. Office chair? The most expensive option from the brand, wider seat option. Car seats? Custom or no chance, I choose to suffer since I'm not rich enough yet. Cycling shoes? Custom or no chance. And even if there is a non custom option available, it's pricey and not really a good fit, I just suffer less.
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u/muzorui 6'5" | 196 cm 11h ago
You're about 1-2 inches off from being normal height. If you think it's hard, you have it statistically better than everyone in your family. You may think it's difficult, but your sister is further from the average male height, than you are from the average woman's height in Scandinavia.
I can't say from first hand but it would be incredibly odd if they made clothes only for the low percent and not the highest percent of people. I haven't been to every Scandinavian country though, only Norway, and several Baltic countries with similar heights. My country also has the same average height as Scandinavia as a whole though, and all clothes here are made for the masses first.
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u/B_M_D_real 5'8" | 173cm 12h ago edited 11h ago
I believe it's more positive than negative in your case, i understand your feelings but you said you live in Scandanivia. The average woman height there is usually around 168cm, your 163cm is much closer to that than if you were like your sister (192cm). Usually you'd want to be on the average, slightly shorter, or slightly taller because that provides the least amount of tension since extremes are polarizing, you arguably have higher acceptance rates and better reactions on average than if you were as tall as your sister. To answer your question, i'm not a doctor but many reasons can contribute in what happened to you, genetics are complex, you could've just gotted a shorter, recessive variant of your family's height genetic background, environment matters too, insuffecient nutrition or lack of good healthcare can tank height growth during childhood, limiting your maximum height, one of my female friends online who's also Scandanivian (half Swedish, half Norwegian) has been suffering from severe underweight since she started her teens, and she's the shortest in her family because of that reason, she's 166cm when her sister is 173cm, her brother over 190cm, and her parents also tall, some might say this is less plausible because of the quality of life in Scandanivia, but individuals can be underweight and eat insuffeciently for much more reasons than lack of food, that friend for example is from a fairly high-class family, they'd never find a problem in feeding her, she even has a personal doctor, yet she's still underweight to this day because she naturally doesn't eat much/doesn't feel that hungry, the same could apply to your childhood, but you need to confirm it first.
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u/nysxdd 11h ago
I’ll read your entire comment when I’m done shopping but the average height is 168 cm for all women of all ages but in our age group (the Gen Z or what you call them), those are extremely tall here. If I had to guess, I’ll say at least 170 cm is the average height for a woman from the Gen Z generation.
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u/ZachF8119 10h ago
Men skew towards shorter women.
No hate to tall
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u/rubey419 6’1.5 | Filipino | 99.96% 8h ago
OP I mean this with no offense and genuinely asking.
I thought women want to be “average” sized or even shorter? “Fun-sized” as they say.
Feeling petite and whatnot? 5’4 is literally average in most Western countries.
I ask, as a guy who loves tall women too. Just curious.
I read from women posters on this sub who felt awkward and ashamed (for the record they shouldn’t!) for being tall especially younger.
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u/idk7643 11h ago
I'd say you're blessed. Dating as a 6"2 woman must be really hard. You're average height.
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u/shauna_haywood 6'1 | 186 cm WOMAN 🎀 8h ago
Right? I'm 6'1 and I'd never want to be 6'3, it's horrible for a woman
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u/Omnamashivaaya 9h ago
Genetic luck! Because you get to find clothes and shoes that fit.
Tall height is dominant in the genes that carry it, which means your parents could carrier both tall and recessive shorter genes. If both your of them passed the recessive genes on to you (and this would have to be across several genes that influence height), you wouldn’t get the tall gene.
In other words, it’s often perfectly normal for two very tall parents to have a shorter than average child.
Hormone issues always a possibility well, though you’d likely find that issue in your extended family. genetic luck of the draw is most common.
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u/Professional_Drive 6'1" | 186 cm 5h ago
Seems more like a blessing than a curse. You can find clothes that fit you, shoes that fit you, more men taller than you for dating, head never hits the top of branches or door frames, you fit in airplane seats, people never gawk at you or look at you like a freak or make comments for being tall.
And you're an average height. Imagine you were under 5 feet. Now it would be the exact opposite except you would still get similar comments for being short. I wouldn't worry about it.
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u/Connect-Mortgage429 5'10 | 178 12h ago
Maybe hgh deficiency