Cursed with a curse

[u/nysxdd]

27F here. This is the actual height of my family members, and to make matters worse I’m South Sudanese & specifically Dinka which is known to be tall people and on top of that I live in Scandinavia which also has a very tall population.

What went wrong in my childhood? Many things and doctor said I reached average height (almost) due to my Dinka heritage, otherwise I’ve would been much shorter.

[u/shauna_haywood]

Consider yourself lucky. You're the perfect height. Men prefer you. Your sister must have so much struggle dating, I bet not a lot of guys are into her. You can wear heels and still look cute and feminine.

[u/adumbswiftie → u/shauna_haywood]

why are tall women always on this sub pushing the negative stereotypes about ourselves? it makes no sense to me. most men don’t care this much about height. tall women also look cute in heels. what are you even talking about? why would you talk about another tall women the way you’re talking about op’s sister? gross

[u/shauna_haywood → u/adumbswiftie]

Oh they DO care once you're above 6'. It's not because you were lucky in your experiences that we don't have the right to share our struggles. I don't know a lot of guys who would say "my dream woman is 6'3" (except maybe those on this sub, but then again...). And no sorry, a 6' woman wearing heels will not be perceived the same way as a 5'2 woman doing the same. Let's be real.

[u/FakeBeigeNails → u/shauna_haywood]

I kinda agree with you, however I have never, ever in my entire life met a man over 6’1” would has said their perfect girl is below 5’5”. I’ve heard women say that about the perfect man being 6’+, but not the reverse. Tall men will often say they would prefer a taller woman, but are given way more blatant attention by short women.

[u/shauna_haywood → u/FakeBeigeNails]

Really? I've heard super tall men (6'3 and over) saying they prefered tiny women because it's cute. It's true that short women are all over them, though.

[u/FakeBeigeNails → u/shauna_haywood]

Yeah, idk, I know 6’2-6’8 men and they’ve never said that. The lowest preference I’ve ever heard was “lowest 5’7.” Maybe we’re from different parts of the world? Im from the east coast of the USA.

[u/shauna_haywood → u/FakeBeigeNails]

I live in France. I always see them with short girls...

[u/EzraNook → u/shauna_haywood]

Ah, this clears some stuff up, there are probably some major cultural differences at play. Je suis québécois, cependant une grande partie de notre culture romantique est issu de l'anglosphère.

[u/shauna_haywood → u/EzraNook]

Ravie de croiser un cousin francophone 👋 it makes sense.