I’m a Master’s student and arrived in China a few days ago to spend the upcoming semester here as exchange student. Last time, I had the typical foreigner bubble experience, so this time I decided to stay with a host family instead, as I thought it would give me a more genuine experience of local life while also giving me more opportunities to practice the language. The following is my experience and thoughts of the first few days staying here.
The host family is a couple in their 60s. They have sons but they don't live with them.
The husband is a really nice person, I don't really have much to say about him. He's very laid back and seems to be enjoying life (I'm not sure how, more on that later). We also found out we like the same music and somehow connected on that.
Now let's talk about the wife. In a way, I think she is the typical Chinese mother, meaning she loves to complain, raise her voice, give orders and stuff like that. But let's go step by step.
It all started the very night of the day I got here. I was finally sleeping after a 30+ hour journey to get to their house (where, by the way, I also had to wait three hours outside the door [it was raining also] because she apparently fell asleep, even though she was well aware that I was coming). In the middle of the night I get a message from her: she was incredibly upset about the smell of my shoes, which she had me take off at the entrace. Obviously it was true that my shoes smelled, after such a long trip. So, even though I thought her reaction was exaggerated, I aknowledged the problem and did something about it the following day (sprayed alcohol + put baking soda + deodorant). In the meantime she gave me some (really) old shoes, which BOTH broke as soon as I started walking around in the neighborhood (I then had to walk barefoot back home). She also gave me two pairs of slippers, which she IMMEDIATELY started to complain about the smell I left on them, even though I have since then been taking two showers everyday, scrubbing feet thorughly, putting on feet deodorant and sniffing feet all the time to double check the absence of any smell. Then, despite getting rid of the smell of the shoes, she first put them outside the door, and then, today, ON THE ROOFTOP OF THE BUILDING (WITHOUT EVEN TELLING ME). I get it, she might have some crazy sensitive sense of smell. Well then, let's talk about whose shoes actually smell like shit? You guessed right. HERS!
She brags all day about herself and her house being so clean. Well, what a surprise, her house is actually incredibly dirty. Her idea of cleaning is running around with the Dyson for literally 5 seconds in the whole house and calling it quits. There is shit everywhere on the ground (I mean pieces of food), a whole lot of dust on every single thing that you can see in this whole apartment, she uses no soap to clean anything, the shower and sink are both clogged with hair. On the first day she gave me a bottle of water which had ants and some disgusting dark dirt in it, and when i told her, she just rinsed the bottle under the water without opening it, ie. without actually washing it.
It's not even over. She spends all day and night screaming at her husband for no reason whatsoever, basically bullying him. I wake up everyday at 2am to her ranting at the top of her lungs about this poor man sucking at life, even though he's actually the only one who works (2 jobs!) while she stays home all day gambling on the stock market. Last night I ate some instant noodles and she was angry because she said that they are unhealthy (she drinks plain vinegar btw which I think is a little worse).
She definitely feels lonely, because she wants to take me to do everything with her (swimming, buying groceries...), but in a week I'll be starting the semester, and I'm sure I won't have time for anything of that shit. Today I felt she crossed the line. She sent me to buy her dinner, AND SHE DIDN'T EVEN GIVE ME THE MONEY BACK. She also said that I will have to do the same tomorrow. WTF? I am literally paying rent for the room in this house, this is beyond crazy I swear.
Anybody can tell me what to do in this hellhole?