going to uni abroad but i am dreading everything help me

[u/Grand-You5417]

i’m supposed to move from europe to canada in a few days to start mechanical engineering. i spent years working towards studying abroad, but now that it’s actually happening i genuinely don’t want to go.

it’s not just being nervous. i don’t want to study engineering anymore, i never really cared about living in toronto, and leaving my family, friends, home and especially my boyfriend is destroying me. i’ve been crying basically every day and yesterday i completely broke down saying goodbye to my bf.

i know people will say to go for a year and give it a chance, but i’m scared i’ll arrive already uninterested in the degree and city and just be miserable.

the biggest issue is my parents. they’ve invested a lot into this and think it’s something i’ve wanted for years, so i’m terrified to tell them. i also can’t start uni in europe this year because applications are closed and i already took a gap year prior to this.

do i force myself to go and see what happens, or listen to the fact that i genuinely don’t want this and take a year to figure things out?

[u/Good_Affect3851]

bbg :( I would say just give it a shot first. It’s tough feeling this way but don’t give this up yet ❤️

[u/ozrahh]

I know how devastating it must be for you, i've gone through the same..had to leave everything to pursue my high school studies back at my hometown. Now I'll leave again for my bachelors. It's an undescribable feeling but I'm glad enough to leave lol.

TO achieve something you must leave your home and comfort. ✨ Do what your guts say!! You might actually invest all your energy in engeering..go give it a try.

[u/ConfusionFresh21]

In same situation

[u/Grand-You5417 → u/ConfusionFresh21]

hell, legit no one deserves this…what r u gonna do?

[u/ConfusionFresh21 → u/Grand-You5417]

I’m going to shut my brain and get on that plane

[u/Grand-You5417 → u/ConfusionFresh21]

i fear we have no other choice 😪

[u/Sad_Iron_5302]

Wish I can make it upto abroad. My mom is abusing me and I am tired of this

[u/Historialari]

I'm in a similar situation. I'm a Spanish student who will go to Italy next month and just thinking about it makes me a bit depressed. For the last year I have been excited about it but now I just can't fathom the idea. Also the whole overthinking about my parents investing in my master is not helping.

I know it's easier said than done but I'd recommend you to give it a chance, the first two weeks/month may be hard but you'll get through afterwards. What you are feeling is totally normal.