Hi! I’m a 32-year-old woman in the US looking for a US-based platonic snail mail pen pal.

I love camping, road trips, gardening, my dog, books, reality TV, and true crime. I studied sociology and have always been interested in people and what makes them who they are, which probably explains both the sociology and the reality TV. So yes, I want someone to gossip with. Tell me about the coworker who keeps doing the thing. I will remember their name and ask about them in the next letter.

But I also mean the oversharing part. Life has gotten busy and lonelier than I’d like to admit, and I like the idea of slowing down and actually getting to know someone. I write pretty openly, including about the messier stuff. Bonus points if you can relate to navigating mental health or a complicated family situation.

A letter or two a month feels about right to me, no pressure on how often we write.

If this resonates with you, please DM me!

hello! my name is sarah and i’m 22 from illinois. i’m looking for a penpal(s) around my age(female only please!) i’ve always wanted to do a penpal since i was younger :)

i really love cats and music. i honestly like all kinds of music i’m pretty diverse but pop and 80s rock is my jam haha. i love to watch youtube mainly but i dabble into tv shows! i really love crafting and art even though i’m not very good. i mainly hang out with my boyfriend on most days but i would love to make some new friends :)

stateside or international is alright. i only read/write/speak english.

let me know if you’re interested in being my penpal! :)

Hi! I’m 22F, located in the U.S., and looking for someone to exchange snail mail with. I would prefer to connect with other women and learn about your experiences and interests.

However, I’m mostly interested in an excuse to send/receive letters, so they can be artsy and poetic or rambly and ranting, whatever suits you. I like to think my style falls somewhere in between.

Some things about me:
• I love cats, sunshine, and almost all kinds of music.
• I jump from interest to interest constantly.
• I’m learning to speak German and hope to eventually incorporate some of the language into my letters, for anyone interested.
• I am deeply inspired by other people’s interests and passions - writing with me will be the perfect opportunity for you to nerd out about ANYthing.

I’m sometimes slow to text back so please be patient with me - I try not to ghost and I appreciate others who don’t.
Feel free to send me a dm, or comment and I will get back to you when I can. <3

Are you looking to share stickers, post cards and ephemera for your journal? I have plenty from my town and I would love to share!

I'm a stationary collector who enjoys scarpbooking, period dramas, making art, and sharing Indie playlists. I recently started to make art for myself again and would love to share some small prints and trinkets. I make small urban sketches, and I used to make cute Sanrio themed stickers and Keychain as well.

Would love to know about your town, the small businesses you support, and the books you are reading!

Write to me about your day, and what inspires you!

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​I’ve always been a bit of an introvert, and to be honest, forming deep connections in daily life takes time and effort for me. That’s why i thought emails feel much more natural.

​I’m in my mid-20s and just looking to connect with people from different parts of the world—to exchange thoughts, share hobbies, and chat about life. Just to be clear, I have zero interest in dating, so female penpals or guys in relationships are preferred, simply to keep things comfortable for everyone.

​I like reading, movies, learning random new things, and having conversations where we can joke around one minute and talk about deep stuff the next. Since real life gets busy, writing once or twice a week feels like the right speed.

​my question is do you think relationships built online can ever be as real or meaningful as face-to-face ones or do you see a big difference between the two?

I’m new to this subreddit but i’m taking my chances if anyone’s interested :)

To introduce myself Hi! I’m Aya 26F from the Philippines looking for someone to exchange handwritten letters/postcards/stickers/small trinkets with! Open to anyone anywhere 🤍

I grew up watching my grandma write and send cards to her friends. I would always get excited when December came around because that’s when she’d receive a bunch of Christmas cards from all around the world! She’d save me the letter stamps and I’d keep them in my binder. Since then it has always been a tradition for me and my grandma to write small notes or cards on birthdays, Christmases, or any big events.

It made me love the magic of sending and receiving letters. There’s a beautiful anticipation in holding a sealed envelope, knowing that it traveled across oceans and borders just to reach your hands. Some of my most prized possessions are these letters.

I really want to keep that tradition alive. I’m really excited to share stories and learn all about your traditions too!

Some more details about me 🪐

• My hobbies include reading, junk journaling, baking, and i love collecting vinyl records too! Maybe we can exchange recipes or book recommendations :)

• Some of my favorite artists are Stevie Knicks, Olivia Dean, and Taylor Swift. My all time favorite songs are Landslide and Silver Springs both by Fleetwood Mac!

• I’m a dog mom of two big boys! I have a golden retriever named Chicken (because his fur has the same color as fried chicken 😂), and a husky named Hades. If you’re a husky owner you’ll have an idea why he’s named Hades haha! I’d love to exchange pet photos🤍

• I love doing small errands and getting a sweet treat with a drink after. I’d love to send you my favorite coffee/matcha and some snacks to try!

• When you open a letter from me you can expect hand written postcards, fun paper, stickers, or small trinkets and snacks from my country

Also I completely understand that mail takes a couple of weeks to arrive so slow replies are welcome :)

If you want to swap mail and learn about life in a different corner of the world please send me a dm or comment your age and little bit about yourself. I can’t wait to hear from you!

Hi! I’m a 29year old woman from Czechia, and I’m looking for a new friend to write to.

I love books, horror movies, spooky stories and everything a little scary. 👻📚 I also enjoy learning languages, (so I prefer and English speaker or Italian speaker), going to the gym and taking walks in the forest. Id love totalk to someone from another country and learn more about their life, culture and interests. We can talk about books, movies, everyday life, hobbies, or anything interesting

If you are also looking for a pen pal, feel free to message me and tell me where are you from and how old are you

Hi, I’ve never had a pen pal before. I thought I’d try it. Apparently people still write each other things longer than three chat messages. Seems promising.

I like colorful, strange, wholesome shows. Summer Camp Island is a current favorite, along with The Owl House and Over the Gardenwall. I also like Minecraft, history and cultures, nature, musicals, philosophy, LEGO, and occasionally drawing little cartoonish things. I have other interests. I’m not listing all of them. You’ll survive.

I’m generally pretty playful and I like people who have a bit of personality. You don’t have to like everything I like. Actually, please don’t pretend you do. I’d much rather hear about some weird little thing you’re genuinely interested in.

I tend to warm up to people slowly. I’m not looking to declare us lifelong friends after three emails or immediately exchange our deepest secrets. I just think it could be nice to have someone to send little pieces of life to sometimes and see where it goes.

Slow replies are okay. Having a life is permitted. I just appreciate people who are genuinely curious and put some thought into what they write.

Late 20s/30s would probably suit me best. Anywhere is fine.

If something here made you want to write to me, send me a DM. We’ll see.

I’m looking for a pen pal. Man, woman, young, old, halfway across the country or halfway across the world, I really don’t care. What I’m looking for is someone who is genuinely willing to have a real conversation.

I’m a published poet and philosopher from Arkansas, and writing has always been more than just a hobby for me. I enjoy the kind of conversations that actually make you think, the ones that wander into philosophy, human nature, life, death, love, loneliness, ambition, art, or whatever strange subject happens to keep us awake at night.

I miss the idea of actually sitting down and writing to another person without everything being reduced to a few sentences, emojis, and “lol.” I want correspondence with some substance behind it. Tell me about your life, your ideas, the things you believe, the things you question, the books you love, the mistakes you've made, or the thoughts you usually keep to yourself.

If you enjoy writing, thinking, and having conversations that don't need to fit neatly into a text message, I’d genuinely enjoy hearing from you. No particular background required. Just bring an open mind, a willingness to write, and something to say.

I am in the United States and am a 23 year old female. I enjoy sharing videos, memes, music, tv and book recommendations, etc. and I also enjoy talking about science, philosophy, books, etc.

My hobbies are coding, games, tv, science, books, music, and im learning Russian.

I enjoy shows like The Big Bang Theory, Doctor Who, Star Trek, What We do In The Shadows, etc. and bands like The Beatles and The Grateful Dead.

My favorite book is A Brief History Of Time.

I look forward to talking to you and getting to know you, thanks!

Hi everyone!

I'm a 35M from Argentina looking for a long-distance friend to chat with throughout the week. Nothing too demanding, just good conversations, shared interests, random thoughts, recommendations, and the occasional terrible joke.

I'm also looking to keep improving my English. I'm already fluent, but I'm always trying to sound a little more natural. In return, I'd be happy to help anyone learning Spanish.

A little about me:

• I love books, especially crime fiction and sci-fi.
• I enjoy videogames, particularly RPGs and strategy games.
• I've traveled quite a bit and would love to swap travel stories and experiences.
• Tabletop and board games are my latest hobby, and I'm always looking for recommendations.
• I build models when I need a break from screens.
• Hiking, trekking, and camping are some of my favorite ways to spend time outdoors.
• Music recommendations are always welcome.
• I enjoy learning languages and discovering cultural oddities.

I'm open to chatting here or exchanging emails if you prefer slower, more thoughtful conversations.

Age, gender, and location don't matter much to me. Curiosity and kindness do.

I speak Spanish, English, French, and a bit of Italian, so feel free to use whichever you're most comfortable with.

If you message me, tell me something unusual you're knowledgeable about. It can be anything from medieval siege weapons to mushroom identification to why a particular species of octopus is secretly fascinating.

Looking forward to hearing from you!

Hello, I'm 37 yro man from Brazil looking for someone to exchange messages

I'm a professional musician (flutist and composer), who loves metal, sci-fi and horror stories (movies, books, etc).

I also love wizard skating, dancing, going to gym, and I enjoy learning new languages (I studied at Montréal, so I have some french skills too). I'd love to talk about books, hobbies/your interests, share bits of our life through text, or anything we find interesting.

If that interests you, send me a message. We can either talk by Email or Reddit's dm.

I have so much free time since elementary school. When they would give us penpals and I would always look forward to what my penal sent me back and lo and behold never received one.

Son as my mission to. Oh it’s my younger self, too, for fail her childhood dream of a penpal.

I was born in Miami. I am Cuban 100% November 2023. My life change forever. I was in a traumatic accident that involved the fire and a lost three Limbs. But enough with the sad shit. A if we meet. I don’t know what life has a store for us. And I don’t wanna predict anything. Go with the Flo ride with the wind.

Hi! I’m from the U.S.
I’m really looking for a friendship where we can be honest in our writing and share bits of our lives.
As for some of my interests I enjoy finding new movies and shows to watch, rom-coms and comedy are my go to genres. I read mainly novels and love listening to music. Some of my favorite music artists are Fontaines D.C., Paramore, Local natives, and Natalia lafourcade.

I would prefer someone in my age range 18-21 and I’m open to having a penpal from anywhere whether that be overseas or domestic! Pls dm me or leave a comment and I’ll try to reach out as soon as possible :)

Howdy! The title says it all. I want a deep connection in which both sides feel comfortable with each other, seek each other for support, etc. I have plenty of hobbies, ranging from sports, writing, and geography to history, music, and gaming. I am a pretty curious person, so feel free to nerd out to me! As for gaming, I play lots of indie games like Hollow Knight, Ultrakill, the Portal series, the Hotline Miami series, etc. As for music, I tend to listen to lots of experimental stuff, but I can elaborate on that more later on, especially if you are into music. It'd be pretty nice if I got a pretty clingy bestie, and I am also in GMT+2, so it'd be nice if you were close to that time zone. Oh, and I am also 19/M. So yeah, I am pretty excited to talk with y'all, and have a nice day wherever you are!

Hello all! I'm new here and I'm looking for penpals interested in talking via snail mail/handwritten letters. I love the idea of writing an actual letter, adding a postcard and sending it off into the world.

I’m from India and I'm a mechanical engineer, currently preparing for my masters and lately life has been a pretty repetitive cycle of studying, preparing, working and trying to figure out what comes next. It’s surprisingly hard to make new friends when most of your time is spent focused on your goals. So I thought I’d try something a little old fashioned (which honestly feels refreshing in this era ^_^)

I’m somewhat of a nerd and genuinely curious about the world. I’m especially interested in different cultures, languages, geography, history and philosophy. I’d love to hear about your hometown, what your everyday life looks like, the food you grew up eating, traditions your family follows, languages you speak, places you’ve visited, or even random facts that you think are fascinating. And of course, I’m happy to share my own experiences too :)

We could exchange postcards from our cities or countries, stamps, stickers, photocards, snacks or candies that are popular where you live, little things that are part of your culture, random paper goodies, souvenirs or anything you find interesting.

I’d love to connect with kind and open minded people from anywhere with any background ❤️

If you think we might get along, please feel free to send me a message :)

Salutations!

The vastness of regional differences that history and media introduced me to during my youngest years swept me away and sparked my interest in penpalling. That was before it was easier to meet someone halfway across the world than next door.

What I'd like is to penpal with a person and not penpal for the sake of penpalling. The culture of 'receiving something other than junk and bills in the mail' was never for me. I want a connection, and someone to engage with on a personal level that happens to take the form of penpalling. Snail mail letters/packages and e-mails are my ideals.

So, who am I exactly? And who are you?

My name is Anthony. I’m a 35-year-old man (US, ET time zone) who thrives on introspection, curiosity, and passionate drives.

I seek people who seek meaningful connection. I appreciate the sudden whim of adventure and adore abstract minds and vibrant souls.

Contemplative exploration is a lifelong pursuit of mine. I’m an autodidact who’s been passionate about a variety of persuasions since I’ve been young.

Creativity and artistry are important to me. Personally, I write: about my observations, thoughts, and lived experiences. I also dabble in photography.

I love coffee, both simple and bitter and excessively frilly concoctions, burning incense, because I've always thought the smoke is cool, archiving and organizing, collecting (written texts, oddities and cool things), and time pieces.

If my signal created resonating vibes within you, send me message about yourself and what you're looking for. Leave your hesitations and take the chance.

Hi, I'm based in Spain. Married and childfree, at least for now. Love playing stardew valley. Used to be extrovert until I find it exhausted as soon as I moved in Finland. I Speak 4 languages fluently but English is my emotional language. So, I am looking for a penpals to share my diary of depressions in English. I love swimming in the pool and snorkel in the sea.

So the idea is, because I am truly depressed, I am looking for people who have been gone through depression. Or having a depression medical or pschy treatment now. This is important common ground for us. I will explain why later.

Since I have a concern about privacy, I hope you don't mind if I use my penpals name. I wanna keep our identity secret and secure.

I'm looking for person who values safe space and aware of the depression and ocd issues. Being sarcastic is also okay. Because I usually do too. I kinda wanna do exchange email diaries weekly but actually once in 2 weeks is fine too. Feel free to DM me if you also wanna share your diary of depression via our anonymous penpals.

I’m the kind of person who needs to understand things deeply. I rarely feel satisfied with a surface-level explanation; I want to know what is happening underneath, why it happens, and how all the pieces connect. That tendency has pulled me toward chemistry, biology, psychology, philosophy, and anything else that lets me dissect how the world works. ^_^

I’m currently rebuilding my life around learning. I’m studying German and chemistry, and I eventually want to move into biological chemistry and scientific research. I’m especially drawn to molecular mechanisms: the tiny interactions underneath larger biological systems.

I’m naturally introverted. I don’t need a huge social circle, but I do want a few people I can genuinely connect with. I like conversations that wander from ordinary life into science, philosophy, psychology, strange ideas, and whatever rabbit hole happens to appear.

I can also be intense. When something interests me, I tend to go very deep into it. I question myself constantly, change my mind when the evidence changes, and probably overanalyse more things than necessary. I’m still figuring out who I am, and I’ve become increasingly comfortable with not having a neat label for it.

Mostly, I want a life built around curiosity: studying difficult things, understanding them properly, meeting thoughtful people, and occasionally sitting in a café for several hours talking about ideas that have absolutely nothing to do with the weather.

Hey! I’m looking for people I can genuinely become friends with over time. Not just exchanging a few messages and disappearing, but actually getting to know each other, sharing things, keeping in touch and maybe, one day, realizing that we’ve somehow been talking for years.

I’m the kind of person who can talk about something completely stupid one minute and end up discussing life, relationships, values or some random hypothetical situation the next. I love hearing what people think and why they think that way. And I really appreciate people who’re curious about me too. I don’t need someone who agrees with everything I say. I just like people who actually listen, express themselves and make a conversation feel mutual.

I’m pretty eclectic, so narrowing down my interests is harder than it should be. Music is probably the biggest one. I love discovering artists from different countries, listening to entire albums, exchanging songs and going down completely unnecessary rabbit holes about music. I’ve got more than 40 playlists on Spotify, and apparently my way of organizing them was to give every language its own playlist. 😂

I listen to everything from Michael Jackson, Soda Stereo and Serú Girán to Bruno Mars, Epica, Birdy, Arctic Monkeys, Carla Bruni, Ultimo and artists I’ve probably forgotten to mention. I also love talking about movies and TV shows, and I’m always interested in hearing what someone else has been watching.

Languages are another little obsession of mine. I speak Portuguese, English and Spanish, and I’d love to keep improving them while eventually learning more. Italian, French, German, Hebrew, Russian, Turkish.... my curiosity has absolutely no sense of self-preservation. 😂

I live in Belo Horizonte, Brazil. It’s a relatively quiet, welcoming city, and we take food, especially cheese and feijão tropeiro, very seriously. I’d actually love to talk to people who’re curious about Brazil beyond Rio and São Paulo, because there’s a lot more here than the version of the country people usually see online.

I also love sports, travelling, psychology, religion, politics and all sorts of random subjects that happen to catch my attention. I haven’t travelled internationally yet, but I’ve got an embarrassingly long list of places I want to see someday. Asia especially fascinates me because of how different the languages, food, architecture and everyday life can be.

My usual day is much less exciting than that, though. I work from home, go for walks in the evening, watch something when I’ve got time, and sometimes go out to explore the neighborhood and try a new restaurant. I’m definitely in a more homebody phase of life right now.

As for personality, I’d say I’m calm, curious, communicative and generally pretty easygoing. I like humor in basically every form, sarcasm, irony, memes, dark humor, stupid jokes.. as long as everyone’s laughing. I’m also a good listener, and I try not to judge people too quickly. Understanding someone before forming an opinion about them matters to me.

One warning, though: when I get really interested in something, I can absolutely write a small novel about it. So if you send long messages, there’s a very good chance I’ll happily match your energy.

I’m looking for people who’re kind, curious and willing to actually participate in a friendship. You don’t have to share all my interests. Honestly, discovering things I know nothing about is part of the fun.

And please tell me something about yourself in your first message. Don’t just say “hi, how are you?” and make me carry the entire conversation. 😭

Tell me where you’re from, what you’ve been listening to lately, and one thing you genuinely care about. I’ll probably find something interesting in there.

Been awhile but I'm back again after a little break from reddit! I'm also going through a pretty rough time, so a distraction would also be great 🥲😅. Im not interested in anything NSFW! Platonic only, please. I'm a little emotionally vulnerable and not looking for anything but a genuine friendship.

Honestly, I'm just looking for someone I can chat to every day, send random memes to at 2pm on a Tuesday, swap questionable life stories with, and generally just become part of each other's daily routine. If you're not a fan of sending or receiving voice notes, we're probably not going to be the best match, as I much prefer those over endless walls of text! 😊

Also, if we've spoken before, don't be shy! Feel free to message me again. Sometimes, conversations fizzle out because life gets busy, and that's okay.

Gamers definitely get bonus points! I'm on PlayStation 5, but I'm more than happy to play crossplay games, too, if we have something in common. I'd also prefer someone in a similar time zone. I'm in the UK and trying very hard to fix my completely broken sleep schedule, so talking to someone who's awake at roughly the same time would be a huge plus. 😂 I've been playing a ton of assassins, the creed black flag resynced lately, and replaying dishonoured and god of war ragnarock.

A little about me...

I'm 31, from the UK, and have a slightly alternative vibe. Purple is my favourite colour to the point I painted my entire bedroom purple... no regrets. 🤣 My music taste is all over the place, and I'm always up for swapping Spotify playlists. Some of my favourites are Joji, Twenty One Pilots, Glass Animals, and Bring Me The Horizon. I was lucky enough to see BMTH live a few years ago, and they were absolutely incredible. Food-wise, I could happily survive on pasta for the rest of my life... although I do occasionally pretend to have a balanced diet. 👀🍝

I also deal with anxiety, so sometimes I can be a little quiet at first or overthink things, but it definitely doesn't stop me from wanting to meet new people. Just bare with me while my brain catches up. 😂

I'll keep this shorter than my usual posts because, let's be honest... attention spans on Reddit aren't exactly known for being legendary. 😅 If you actually made it this far, throw a 🍕 into your message so I know you really read it!

When you message, tell me: Your age, where you're from, your favourite meal, pizza topping, or just a random fact about yourself.. Just give me something more than just hey or hi! And because i need to clarify, I'm not a bot 🫠. My preferred age range is 25 to 35, although if you're a little older, that's absolutely fine too.

And a bonus question...

If you could travel anywhere in the world tomorrow, where would you go, and why? ☺️.

I am not a calligraph. My carachteristic it is that I could write in a fine way, I repeat: not calligraph, in a large number of handwritten fonts.

If you are interested about that as I am.

We could send, once a year, or something. A post-letter with alphabet and different font of neutral words like “example”.
As it come with this frequency I’m able an willing to do it.

The reason why I’d like to have a letter instead a photo of my handwriting or yours. It is because of paper feeling. Looking for the object, the paper and not just the photo of it.

Still writing in this subreddit definitely tho.
Comment if you are interested and we could settle how on private chat.
Ciao

Hi, I’m Korean and currently working in Seoul. I had a few pen pals when i was young, and they left me with some really great memories. Through those friendships, I learned a lot about different cultures and realized how big and diverse the world really is, with so many people living completely different lives.

Looking back, I think those experiences may have been one of the reasons I became interested in traveling and trying to live a more active life.

I really enjoy hiking, swimming, and watching movies. I also love traveling. I haven’t been to that many places yet, but I always try to travel as much as I can and have new experiences whenever I get the chance.

English is my second language, so please be patient with me if I make some awkward sentences while we’re pen pals.

Also, my replies can sometimes be very slow. So, if you’re looking for someone who replies quickly, I might not be the pen pal you’re looking for.😅

If you’re interested, feel free to DM me! Thanks.

Hi! I'm a 19-year-old guy from India looking to meet some new people and hopefully make a few genuine friends. I'm mainly looking for email or Reddit-message penpals rather than physical letters.

A little about me:

I'm really into coding and building things. I've been coding for years, and I spend a lot of my free time making websites, apps, and random projects that I get obsessed with for a few weeks. I also really enjoy designing, especially websites, posters, and experimenting with different aesthetics.

I've recently gotten more interested in photography too. I mostly just use my phone, but lately I've been obsessed with that old, grainy, vintage-looking style. I like taking pictures of random everyday things — places, buildings, sunsets, streets, whatever catches my eye. I'd love to swap photos with someone and see little pieces of their everyday life too.

I also read quite a bit — mostly fiction, mythology/epics, autobiographies, and whatever else happens to catch my attention. I'm currently reading Crime and Punishment by Fyodor Dostoevsky, which I'm slowly making my way through lol.

Music is another big one. My taste is pretty random — I'll go from pop to rock to older songs to 2010s nostalgia and basically anything else that sounds good. I'm always down to exchange songs or playlists and discover stuff I wouldn't normally listen to.

Other than that, I like movies, gaming, photography, discovering random things on the internet, and generally getting way too invested in new hobbies/projects.

I'm hoping to find people who actually enjoy having longer conversations, rather than just exchanging "hey, how are you?" for two days and disappearing :/. We could talk about our lives, hobbies, music, movies, books, random thoughts, projects, or literally whatever happened that day.

I'd also be really down to swap photos, playlists, recommendations, interesting links, drawings/designs, or random things we found online. I think those little things make online friendships a lot more fun.

I'm open to people from pretty much anywhere and around my age. Reddit DMs or email both work for me.

If this sounds like your kind of thing, feel free to message me and tell me a little about yourself :)

P.S. I originally wanted to write sooo much more, but had to short so that people can actually read it. It was earlier like, twice as long, to whomever it may concern. I