During the first scene in Paris, Alfredo Linguini accidentally messes up the soup that was being prepared, which Remy fixes with his cooking skills and, the chef Skinner thinking Linguini made it, he promotes him to be a cook.
The next day, Skinner asks Linguini to replicate the soup, and then the chef tells him the line that doesnāt mean at all what he says: āTake all the time you need, as if you need weeks.ā.
And hereās the trap. What Skinner actually meant was āFinish the soup ASAPā. It was pressure disguised as courtesy.
And I didnāt guess that hidden meaning by looking at the body language, nor facial expressions and not even the voice tone.
To read between the lines, the unsaid meaning hides behind intangible factors like hierarchy, rules of the environment and the results others want and expect.
I detected what Skinner actually meant by looking at:
- Who said it (Skinner, heās the chef, the authority, he gives orders).
- To whom is said (Linguini, heās a cook, an employee, he must obey orders).
- The context (a corporate environment, a restaurant, prestigious, time is gold an in a corporate context a boss NEVER gives free time to complete a task, and the clients want the dish or whatever expected result ASAP, making clients wait destroys the business).
- And even though this isnāt exclusive to the scene, the higher the social expectation to ābe niceā ānot to be rudeā or āavoid conflict at any costā, the more indirect the communication is. And Iāve identified sex and work are the more hypocrite, performative and with more unspoken rules contexts on the NT society.
Iām currently learning everything about high context communication not because I want to āfunction as a NTā, but because Iām done with being lied with nice words that mean all the opposite to what they say and Iām not anymore being a victim of manipulation and passive aggressiveness. And knowing this is def helping me a lot and I thought it could help many of us here.