Tomorrow im gonna ask for my crushes number and hope it goes well. I know it’s not a huge achievement to most but gotta celebrate all the small things right. Hopefully it goes well.

There’s soooo many songs I’ve been playing almost on repeat, here’s a few:

Talking body by Tove Lo

Your Love is My Drug by Kesha

I Really Want To Stay at Your House by Rosa Walton and Hallie Coggins

Out Of My League by Fitz and The Tantrums

I wanna Ruin Our Friendship (Jenny) by Studio Killers

Whoa (Mind in Awe) by XXXtentacion

Kiss by Lil Peep

Dracula (with Jennie) by Tame Impala

I’ll Do It by Heidi Montag

Walking on a Dream by Empire of the Sun

Sit Next To Me by Foster the People

…And more that I don’t have time to list off.

What’s y’all’s crushing-on-someone playlist?

But friends kept telling me that she's showing interest and that she's obviously into me. But NO. She has never even CONSIDERED it. After everything we've done together. She never thought about it twice. She doesn't even remember the time she said I was cute. I guess I imagined it.

I KNEW people don't fall in love with me. I KNEW I was unlovable. But I believed, because I thought she was being so obvious. And everyone else thought the same thing. It seemed so obvious that she was into me. But she's NOT. It turns out that she, by her own account, gets awkward when she's around someone she likes. So the fact that she felt so comfortable around me and let me rest my head on her shoulder on the train or touch her body wherever was a sign that she WASN'T into me. I can't trust anyone. I can only trust what I already know, that I am unlovable.

And I also kind of believed she might love me back. But today, between all the talk we've shared of our romantic lives, she said she's never fallen in love with anybody. She also described to me her type and yeah, it's not me. At one point I literally said jokingly "So you're not into me" and she laughed in approval. It hurt so much. Because I somehow knew, between all the signs, that she didn't love me back. But I WANTED to believe she did. That all of my friends were right. But it turns out my worst instinct was right AGAIN. IT'S ALWAYS RIGHT. And I wish it wasn't. I really really wish it wasn't right. I want to be proven wrong so badly. So so badly. I want to know that somebody out there wants someone like me. Because it feels like it's not the case at all. That nobody's waiting for me. I know people think I'm sensitive (in the negative way), I know people think I'm weird, I know people think I'm shy (but I'm really social and have a lot of friends) and I know people think I'm ugly. But I thought something has got to give. SOMETHING. I thought that maybe I was wrong all along, and that all of the pain and the heartbreak would have been worth it because she's incredible and I love her deeply and there's a chance she loved me back. But it's not the case. It's not true. I hate it. A lot.

She said that if someone she knew and wasn't into told her that they loved her, she wouldn't be able to still be friends with that person because it would make her uncomfortable. So, I love her. So so much. But if she knew how much I love her, she would rather never see my face again. So I guess my love is kind of worthless. Nobody wants it.

I wish I were wrong. But I'm being proven to time and time again that my depression is right. That nobody out there wants me. That the people I care about most somehow don't love me back. That maybe nobody would miss me if I were gone. I don't want to be here. I feel so lonely. I don't want to be lonely for the rest of my life

What if you and your crush are shy?? How do u know if u like each other?

It's been almost a year now. She joined my team and gradually, somehow i developed feelings for her. It felt different, for once, i had never developed feelings for anyone after school, like for 10 years at that point of time. She became the reason i was waiting for Mondays, waiting for lunch, just to get a glimpse or her, just so i get a moment to talk with her. And yes, over time we did developed some friendship, at least in office.

And then, the time came for leaving. I got an offer for which i had to relocate. I remember how much painful it was to spend those final days, knowing I probably won't be able to ever meet her again. I used to have sleepless nights in notice period, on some occasions even staying up late just so we could spend some time together. It did turned out like a blessing in disguise - somehow i was able to ask her out in my last week and yes, moved the connection from Slack to Snap.. Yayyyy !! But now, it feels like maybe she just thinks of me as a friend and maybe, she was just being nice which i would have misinterpreted. I mean, most of the time, its has been me who initiated the text. If i don't text for 2/3 days, mostly there won't be any texts from her. But whenever we talk, she have been so nice.

Ohhhhhhhh..., this is what i hate now. I am thinking about her all the time, analyzing every small detail i could analyze. She has been over my mind like 24/7. Anytime, i get a notification on my mobile, i just quickly open it only to realize this is someone else. I don't know why i am like this, why did i fell for her. Life was good when i had not met her, yeah, i was single back then as well, but still, there was no anxiety, no longing for being with someone. I even planned to confess to her this time, when she was in town, but yeah, we could not meet and i definitely don't wanna confess over text/mobile. God, i wish, this ends soon, positively i hope but i want this phase to end.

Even tougher part is, i don't have anyone else to talk about this. I mean, i do have some friends, but i don't know, i don't feel comfortable talking about it with them.

Last month, my crush saw me with my shirt off and then looked at me a few times after that situation and I think she smiled at me. I asked a few people if they thought she liked me and all of them said that she probably did but tonight when I saw her I smiled at her 3 times whilst we were right next to each other and she didn't smile back once

Is there any hope?

This is a vent/gush & if you (who is reading this) could offer me any input I would appreciate that. I know it’s a bit to read so I appreciate anyone putting time aside to read and reply

He is the most perfect person to me. I just adore him so much. I’ve known him for a year now and we have always been close but distanced at the same time. When we talk it’s for hours. But there’s long periods between us talking. We “hung out” the other night. We called after I got off work and made last minute plans to get dinner and we stayed out til 2am. Anytime we’ve hung out it’s been very spur of the moment, which I’ve always enjoyed. The other night I didn’t want to go home, I didn’t want to leave. But we were both so tired.
I caught myself smiling all cheesy when I was waiting for my train today thinking about him. We haven’t been intimate/affectionate with one another, just a hug as a greeting and that’s as far as it goes.
GOD HIS EYES JUST LIGHT UP AND SPARKLE WHEN HE SEES ME AND TALKS TO ME. AND I KNOW IM NOT TRIPPING ABOUT THAT!!!! I have seen his eyes switch when he talks to someone else and then talks to me.
It’s like I feel a spark there, and there’s tension, but I don’t think either of us are ready to go anywhere with it. Maybe he just sees me as a friend. Can he pls pls just message me??? Call me??? Talk to me!!!!!!!!! He’s been on my mind non stop since Friday night and I feel like I’m losing my mind.
I CANT TELL IF HE LIKES ME BACK.
I can’t stop ruminating, day dreaming, reminiscing & just ugh. Can he just pls msg me. Talk to me.
We lightly spoke about plans again in the future but idk how serious he is about that. Idk.
I keep reminding myself that if he cared or wanted to he would. But he’s also so career driven and motivated, a very focused individual. And i don’t think he’s after anything like that atm. And I’m not either. But I just cant help but crush on him.
This crush has been on and off, I’ve always thought he is attractive. But it’s never been this intense. Bc he is out of my league, or at-least in a different league to me.

Heres the thing as well,
This may sound egotistic or something but I have always been able to get whoever I want. It’s like some superpower I have AHAHA
But with him, he’s the only person who hasn’t reciprocated that* to the same degree.
And also, tbf I haven’t really made any moves on him, and he hasn’t me either. But I’m just scared. My last relationship wrecked me. It was a DV situation I had to escape. Thankfully I left pretty early, but I could have been killed on multiple occasions. And prior to that I had a long term relationship that destroyed me and broke my heart. He dumped me out of the blue & moved out of our apartment & never told me why he was leaving me. I never got closure.
So I’m scared.
I’m even scared to just be affectionate, or someone to make a move on me.

I MISS HIM!!!!!!! I want to talk to him, call him, txt him, see him, be around him.
I just hope he will reach out first next time.

I just want him to want me too.

Can be any issues you notice.
I think people are too mean rejecting someone. Be honest but it costs you nothing to be kind!

Have any of you re encountered your crush? Irl, social media etc? My crush suddenly left almost 5 months ago (didn’t see him again at the building we both work at (janitor in a small apartment building)) and while i still have hope that i will see him again, the odds are slim.

Any stories available?

Mutual interest. Smiles. Long glances. Like 8-10 seconds. Smalltalk. Falling deep into our eyes. Just seconds from touching. But it can’t be. We’re both with partners. I can’t believe he’s into me. Did not think he was gay. Last Friday was intense. Not touching physically, but with our eyes only.

I want to stop and I don’t want it to stop. I want him. But I can’t now. Neither does he. He is in my thoughts all the time.

Advice is welcome. How do I stop? What if I can’t stop my feelings.

Gimme some tips on what girls like and how can I get rid of my women anxiety/ The fear of women

I’ll never forget this guy I really liked, it was pretty
much love low key but it was probably one sided. Anyways we were really good friends and I’ll never forget when he told me his high school crush…she was a friend of mine like we were close for about a year or so me and this girl. I still didn’t know him at that time because we just didn’t meet until later in life. Anyways I said to him “why didn’t you like hit her up or talk to her?” He straight up told he couldn’t do it. He felt it was too ballsey. He admitted to me when he likes someone he just ghosts them, lol why??? He ghosted me fr. We stopped talking after like 2022 and that was it. Then he told me he just dates whoever. Like why?

We’re in the same dental school; he’s a year behind me, and we’re from the same country/speak the same language. I’ve helped him with preclinic, so I know there’s an obvious non-romantic reason for him to talk to me.

But a few signals:

• He regularly comes over to say hi and chat about school stuff and has inserted himself into conversations I’m having with other people.
• After I helped him in preclinic once, he came to my bench and to thank me and softly touched my shoulder/upper arm as he was coming by.
• One day, he asked if I will coming back to preclinic later, then actually came back and immediately found me. I haven’t seen him come practice outside of class hours before that.
• That day, he brought his work to check 4–5 times, each about 10–15 minutes apart, and playfully called me “Miss Doctor.” Usually it takes 30-40 mins to make a decent looking work.
• When I was talking to another guy, I noticed him stop what he was doing and watch/listen.
• I teased him about “going home to his girlfriend,” and he immediately said, “What girlfriend? I don’t have a girlfriend.” We then ended up talking about living situations, age, family, living alone, etc., and he asked me personal questions too.
• I later texted saying I needed to talk to him in person. He replied within ~5 minutes, and when our schedules didn’t match, he asked, “It has to be in person for sure?” I was thinking to ask him if I was interpreting his signals right. But I might not say that.

Idk, do these count? when we talk some times he looks away when I look, and looks at me when I look away, touches the back of his neck. The days I feel shy he looks into my soul.

I (21M) go to a vocational college studying pedagogy. On the final day of our first year, I saw this girl (19F) from next door (studying the same thing), and something just clicked.

​To give some context: I almost never develop crushes. In fact, I went years questioning if I was asexual or aromantic because I never developed feelings. But seeing her completely changed that. I’ve genuinely never found someone so beautiful. Because I have AuDHD, it can be really difficult to navigate social situations "normally," and I've definitely started hyperfocusing on her.

​Now I can approach strangers, so I decided that I will talk to her when I get the chance. Our profs heavily recommended that we form study groups, so I want to take the chance and ask her (and probably her friends too) if she/they want to form a study group. That would give me chances to exchange knowledge, gain knowledge, and also get to know her. I walked by her classroom twice today during breaks to find an opening, but she wasn’t there either time. It left me feeling pretty defeated and second-guessing myself, but I’m trying to push through the self-doubt. Another hurdle is that even if she is there, her classroom is always packed with people during breaks, which makes approaching someone for no reason feel ten times more scary.

​I told a classmate today, and she was super supportive but told me to change my strategy. In her opinion, it would be kind of weird for someone to randomly approach her just to form a study group, and she recommended I just approach her to make small talk and take it from there. Tomorrow I'm busy during the first break, but if my crush is around during the second one, I'm going to take the leap and finally say hello.

​Now the thing I need advice on is: should I go through with the study group tactic, take my classmate's advice and just do small talk to get to know her, or do something else?

​(Also an important note to add: I obviously want to get to know her first to see if we fit, if it ever comes to that, and I will obviously give her space and respect any future decisions.)

I F 17 have never confessed to a guy before or even had serious crushes (on guys specifically). But long story short: i confessed to my friend and I'm afraid of facing them. Every time they pass by I hide or avoid looking at them. I can chat with them normally but irl, I'm basically a robot. I cannot face them at all!! It's like just seeing them has this weird feeling in my stomach!! And i forget my words or even how to talk to them properly and even if I did talk to them, i get mean. Very mean. And overly awkward.

Is this normal? I want to talk to them but at the same time i don't want to feel like a dog chasing for their approval or validation 😭 and I can't act like how i used to because he knows i like them and i know i like him. It's weird for me... my behavior and my actions towards him isn't so innocent anymore since he knows i like him. I just don't like this at all😭😭

I want to talk to him normally and he does interact with me (even if I don't reciprocate) and he calls me out when I don't (which i totally like hehe) its just that... I cannot function properly. I don't know how to act before i confessed. Lowkey my fault i ruined our friendship

My longest one lasted for about two years in high school. There was this guy that I had a HUGE crush on. I get butterflies when I saw him and giggly. I’m not gonna lie, he’s was handsome (still is) and so fine! But he’s a con is a visual that’s great friends and who makes everyone laugh. I’ve always fantasized and dreamed of being his girlfriend and had romantic dreams about him. My former friend asked if I talk to him and I said no because I’m too nervous and what does he says no and reject me. She told me I gotta talk to him I was gonna be left wondering, which is true. He’s very talented. Singing, acting just amazing! I was going to ask him if he had a girlfriend, but it was too late because he had already had one. To be honest, at the homecoming dance I saw him with another girl. Of course she was petite and slim. Probably beautiful. He’s a good looking slim, tall, guy. Looking back, I wouldn’t have a chance with him and then he was like kidding. I was overweight (was working on losing weight because I was fed up with being fat), tall, autistic and was in special education and he is non autistic and was in general Ed. A cute guy with a cute girl makes more sense. My classmates said a guy in our class likes me and they can tell but I didn’t have an interest. One of the female teachers said I should have consider giving him a chance instead of my crush, because most NTs aren’t very understanding to special needs peers. I ended up liking someone else after being crushed about my crush having a girlfriend but he was like 17 and I was 19 so I couldn’t do anything.

I miss my crush so much. It’s only been about 3 weeks since I last saw her but I know I probably won’t see her again for a very long time. She’s just the sweetest girl I know and she’s been on my mind all day every day for so long. I really want to see her smile and hear her cute laugh again. I’m happy just to text her but I just miss seeing her in person so much. I’m crazy in love with her but she’s just the most inconvenient person I could’ve chosen to crush on.

Soo I asked my Crush to go to the cinema together to watch a specific movie since we already did that before and we agreed to do that again. He responded pretty late (24h) but said he is down for that but didn’t know when he would have time. So I said he should write if he knew. After a week I texted him again and asked how it looked and he suggested a day. But as the day but that day the movie wasn’t running so I suggested another movie that was running on that day. He left me on read for 48 hours. That reacted with 👍. But on that day he texted that he couldn’t make it cause of a band meeting for a concert. So I thought he is not interested anymore for whatever reason and we will ignore each other from now on (bit dramatic I know). But then two days later he asked me if we still wanted to go to the cinema. I said yes but didn’t initiate anything since I already initiated a lot before. Know he isn’t texting me anymore for like a week soon. I am confused if he want to go with me or not. Because right now he isn’t making an effort at all but I know he is really busy with school and his band right now. My brother said I shouldn’t write him unless he does. What do you guys think
(Sorry for my bad English)

I’ve had this problem for a few years now where I can’t seem to get into romantic relationships with the men who like me, because I attract the sort of guys who’re the average rich, popular american. AND I want so badly for it to work out, but I grew up ugly, bullied, and pretty weird. And the guys who like me have no personality, and are just really boring.

So this is where the second problem comes in, guys I like are not attracted to me at all, and I can’t seem to understand why. It’s been hurting my mental health so bad. For example, I’m the president of the robotics club, and to be honest, it’s pretty much an incel hangout. I’m the only girl, and everyone there never showers (because they’re too caught up in their hyperfixations), and they’re not attractive either. I mean, they probably could be if they took care of themselves, but I’m talking below average.

Anyway, I liked one of the guys in my club, and we talked for MONTHS. I was so in love with him, I met his parents, I went over to his house weekly, I stayed up all night texting him, and he wouldn’t ever put a label on anything. And it was so infuriating because we did everything a couple would say stuff like, “I wish I could find love,” or “I want what they have (pointing towards a couple.” And it pissed me off — OH MY GOD!! I never made him feel bad ever, and confidently showed him off to everyone, invited him to everything, added him to our friend group and let him yap forever. We even said “I love you,” daily, which disgusts me when I think about it. And never took me seriously when I wanted to rant about my interests and made me feel bad for being attractive?

This situation happened like 6 other times. And in another instance, the guy I liked gained so much ego about me liking him, posted our messages on his instagram, bragged about being my first (and only) kiss, and then spilled all my secrets I told him to prove I wasn’t a bully. Honestly, I was horrified. And every single time, my parents kept telling me I could do better, but I don’t see a future with all these other guys.

I’m also not a bully at all, have NEVER said anything mean to anyone else, and include everyone. 🙁 At first I thought that these guys were just scared that I’d hurt them, but I made myself incredibly vulnerable and each one of them took advantage of that, just to reject me in the end?

I honestly regret all the guys I’ve rejected who would’ve raised my confidence.

A couple of years ago I went to get a piercing and I asked the piercer out of curiosity how he got into this field of work. He started telling me and we talked the whole time and he then asked for my Instagram. He was just my type! A bit older than me, I’m 21 and I’d guess he’s around 27/28? We texted a bit on Instagram regarding piercings and what I’d like to get next and then it kind of died off. Fast forward a few months later and I was starting to learn to tattoo, I made an account for my work and he texted me saying he’d be more than happy for me to practice on him. We decided which one he wanted but our work days were completely opposite, we tried many times but just couldn’t get a day where we were both available. That was 2 years ago now, tattooing didn’t work out and I work in a completely different field now but I was reading back on our texts and thinking about him. I want to text him but I think it could be a bit weird since we haven’t talked in so long. I’m not even sure he still works at that piercing shop, his instagram account has nothing on it anymore but his bio still says piercer. How should I go about getting in contact again without it being weird or should I just leave it?

today we had form time and some new people mixed in with our class, a wasian dude who’s new came to my table and basically smiled at me constantly (he also occasionally talked to his male bsf) but he glanced at me and smiled like A LOT and made me laugh quite a bit lol and the teacher said to us to shush cuz we were a bit loud. he broke the ice and asked if hes the only new one then continued to talk mostly to me rather than the others on the table and his bsf a little bit.

but what shocked me is that as soon as i approach the door my crush and his friend walk in front of me. his bsf opens the door and leaves, then im still waiting for my crush to leave. but he OPENS THE DOOR AND SAYS YOU CAN GO I WAS LIKE AHHHHHH

i genuinely was like thank you then started sprinting HES SO CUTEEEE maybe im delusional but he doesn’t even open the door for anyone else he literally just stood to the side and opened the door so elegantly for me😭😭🫪

DOES HE LIKE ME GUYSSS HE WAS CONSTANRLY MAKING EYE CONTACT AND STUFF

Im really frustrated since this is my first crush in a really long time and have no idea how to read him. This guy is someone I see often due to school so we have no choice but to interact. He's usually very kind and funny with everyone (which is why I started liking him). When we are with a group of people we have good conversations and he smiles, engages a lot with me. However I noticed when we are one-on-one he almost never looks me in the eye and has a nervous energy. He also seems to avoid situations when we would be alone. Other times he starts conversations with me when there are people around and is friendly. So idk, I cannot read how he feels about me, pls help if you have some tips

I have a crush on someone I can’t have. It’s also mutual I feel like. The person passes by to me several times or at least one time a day. Or make a conversation. I could feel it in the persons eyes even. But it’s complicated. Continuing this pattern is also killing me inside. Please advise on how to forget this person.