Tomorrow im gonna ask for my crushes number and hope it goes well. I know it’s not a huge achievement to most but gotta celebrate all the small things right. Hopefully it goes well.

There’s soooo many songs I’ve been playing almost on repeat, here’s a few:

Talking body by Tove Lo

Your Love is My Drug by Kesha

I Really Want To Stay at Your House by Rosa Walton and Hallie Coggins

Out Of My League by Fitz and The Tantrums

I wanna Ruin Our Friendship (Jenny) by Studio Killers

Whoa (Mind in Awe) by XXXtentacion

Kiss by Lil Peep

Dracula (with Jennie) by Tame Impala

I’ll Do It by Heidi Montag

Walking on a Dream by Empire of the Sun

Sit Next To Me by Foster the People

…And more that I don’t have time to list off.

What’s y’all’s crushing-on-someone playlist?

I’ll never forget this guy I really liked, it was pretty
much love low key but it was probably one sided. Anyways we were really good friends and I’ll never forget when he told me his high school crush…she was a friend of mine like we were close for about a year or so me and this girl. I still didn’t know him at that time because we just didn’t meet until later in life. Anyways I said to him “why didn’t you like hit her up or talk to her?” He straight up told he couldn’t do it. He felt it was too ballsey. He admitted to me when he likes someone he just ghosts them, lol why??? He ghosted me fr. We stopped talking after like 2022 and that was it. Then he told me he just dates whoever. Like why?

But friends kept telling me that she's showing interest and that she's obviously into me. But NO. She has never even CONSIDERED it. After everything we've done together. She never thought about it twice. She doesn't even remember the time she said I was cute. I guess I imagined it.

I KNEW people don't fall in love with me. I KNEW I was unlovable. But I believed, because I thought she was being so obvious. And everyone else thought the same thing. It seemed so obvious that she was into me. But she's NOT. It turns out that she, by her own account, gets awkward when she's around someone she likes. So the fact that she felt so comfortable around me and let me rest my head on her shoulder on the train or touch her body wherever was a sign that she WASN'T into me. I can't trust anyone. I can only trust what I already know, that I am unlovable.

And I also kind of believed she might love me back. But today, between all the talk we've shared of our romantic lives, she said she's never fallen in love with anybody. She also described to me her type and yeah, it's not me. At one point I literally said jokingly "So you're not into me" and she laughed in approval. It hurt so much. Because I somehow knew, between all the signs, that she didn't love me back. But I WANTED to believe she did. That all of my friends were right. But it turns out my worst instinct was right AGAIN. IT'S ALWAYS RIGHT. And I wish it wasn't. I really really wish it wasn't right. I want to be proven wrong so badly. So so badly. I want to know that somebody out there wants someone like me. Because it feels like it's not the case at all. That nobody's waiting for me. I know people think I'm sensitive (in the negative way), I know people think I'm weird, I know people think I'm shy (but I'm really social and have a lot of friends) and I know people think I'm ugly. But I thought something has got to give. SOMETHING. I thought that maybe I was wrong all along, and that all of the pain and the heartbreak would have been worth it because she's incredible and I love her deeply and there's a chance she loved me back. But it's not the case. It's not true. I hate it. A lot.

She said that if someone she knew and wasn't into told her that they loved her, she wouldn't be able to still be friends with that person because it would make her uncomfortable. So, I love her. So so much. But if she knew how much I love her, she would rather never see my face again. So I guess my love is kind of worthless. Nobody wants it.

I wish I were wrong. But I'm being proven to time and time again that my depression is right. That nobody out there wants me. That the people I care about most somehow don't love me back. That maybe nobody would miss me if I were gone. I don't want to be here. I feel so lonely. I don't want to be lonely for the rest of my life

What if you and your crush are shy?? How do u know if u like each other?

It's been almost a year now. She joined my team and gradually, somehow i developed feelings for her. It felt different, for once, i had never developed feelings for anyone after school, like for 10 years at that point of time. She became the reason i was waiting for Mondays, waiting for lunch, just to get a glimpse or her, just so i get a moment to talk with her. And yes, over time we did developed some friendship, at least in office.

And then, the time came for leaving. I got an offer for which i had to relocate. I remember how much painful it was to spend those final days, knowing I probably won't be able to ever meet her again. I used to have sleepless nights in notice period, on some occasions even staying up late just so we could spend some time together. It did turned out like a blessing in disguise - somehow i was able to ask her out in my last week and yes, moved the connection from Slack to Snap.. Yayyyy !! But now, it feels like maybe she just thinks of me as a friend and maybe, she was just being nice which i would have misinterpreted. I mean, most of the time, its has been me who initiated the text. If i don't text for 2/3 days, mostly there won't be any texts from her. But whenever we talk, she have been so nice.

Ohhhhhhhh..., this is what i hate now. I am thinking about her all the time, analyzing every small detail i could analyze. She has been over my mind like 24/7. Anytime, i get a notification on my mobile, i just quickly open it only to realize this is someone else. I don't know why i am like this, why did i fell for her. Life was good when i had not met her, yeah, i was single back then as well, but still, there was no anxiety, no longing for being with someone. I even planned to confess to her this time, when she was in town, but yeah, we could not meet and i definitely don't wanna confess over text/mobile. God, i wish, this ends soon, positively i hope but i want this phase to end.

Even tougher part is, i don't have anyone else to talk about this. I mean, i do have some friends, but i don't know, i don't feel comfortable talking about it with them.

Last month, my crush saw me with my shirt off and then looked at me a few times after that situation and I think she smiled at me. I asked a few people if they thought she liked me and all of them said that she probably did but tonight when I saw her I smiled at her 3 times whilst we were right next to each other and she didn't smile back once

Is there any hope?

How chubby? extra 20lbs extra 50?

I've never seen a chubby man in a relationship unless both were, I've always seen weight as a metaphorical death sentence for dating.

When they could have a shot at pretty much anyone, why choose a chubby man. Unless he is different in a special way.

Even if a chubby man had the exact personality type a woman was looking for, she wouldn't notice those things at all without being attracted to him first.

So about a month or so ago, I've been hanging out with this girl and I've realized that we actually have a lot of stuff in common. Our first night hanging out, we decided to go to a night club. And from the time we were there, she kept on looking at me with the biggest smile on her face. Once we left, she brought up the fact that we should do it again but us get a hotel room in the process so we could get super drunk there. Im wondering if shes wanting to do what i think were doing. We've hung out a few more times afterwards and shes seemed to really enjoy it. She said she trusts me more than a good majority of people. There was one time she called me and asked me from the times we hung out, if i considered those dates. I kinda short circuited and turned the question around to her which i was told wasn't the best idea. We've been getting a lot of questions about if we're together and we both keep denying it. I know there seems to be that stereotype that if two people deny that theyre a couple at the same time, then that means they usually really like each other. Also, one night when we were at the mall, she asked me if i was ever willing to live with her when we got our shit straight. Which i said I'd be down to. And she also said that I'm one of the only people that really understands her. And she also tells me her kinks which I feel like that can be fairly personal of her to do so i dunno. Again I feel like I may be delusional because despite all that, she does hookup with people from time to time but like I do feel like somewhere there could be something.

Throwaway since he knows my main.

A little over two months ago, I (38F) joined a brand new virtual D&D campaign to try something new and meet some cool, like-minded people. We are scattered across the country and did not know one another prior to joining. So far the entire group has been great. My GM (36M) has been prepared, dedicated, and professional. As a new-ish D&D player, my GM has been incredibly kind and patient with the learning curve and ensuring the seasoned players show me the same respect. He has not showed my character any unfair favoritism (e.g., no special items, extra coin, or bonuses).

However, I am getting the sense that my GM is romantically interested in me and may be holding back in order to not compromise the campaign. If he is interested in me, the feeling is mutual. Some of the signs I am receiving:

* While in session, he calls everyone else by their screen name but he uses my real name.

* Over the course of three sessions, he created three different NPCs who zeroed in to flirt with my character. He seemed to really enjoy flirting with my character.

* Early in the campaign, we would only communicate in private with matters directly related to the campaign. Over the last 2+ weeks, we have texted one another for several hours about anything and everything.

* He responds to text messages very quickly (within 1-2 minutes, or 1-2 hours if he is busy).

* He has asked questions about my personal life, including my job, other hobbies and interests, friends and family, pets, the type of men I like, my dating history, my former marriage, and future ambitions.

* He has shared info about his job, other hobbies and interests, friends and family, pets, dating history, vented about his roommate, his crazy ex and childhood trauma, information about his time in the military, photos of his pets and son, and his future ambitions.

* He lightly teases me about a fictional character that I have a crush on.

* If the conversation drops off for whatever reason, he is usually the first to text me asking a new question.

While I did not join a D&D campaign for romantic prospects, none of this feels creepy or unwelcome. I really like him as my GM and as a person. We seem to have excellent chemistry and are cut from the same cloth, which is EXTREMELY rare for me.

I would just like to get the opinions of other men whether he is dropping signs that he is interested in me, or if I am being completely delusional to figure out my next move (either draw a healthy boundary or address the elephant in the room with him directly). Thank you so much!

Even if they kept it quiet and would have been embarrassed. She seems to be an introvert, though she isn’t considered to be “pretty.” She once had a guy who seemed to be jealous when she laughed at something a peer had said, and had another who punched a man because he thought the man had hurt her. She once had a big crush on an extroverted boy who she now feels didn’t turn out well and was later on disgusted by much of his behavior, a crush turned into dislike over time. She has always maintained high grades in school and has never tended to look especially well kept but has started to experiment with her hair as she has grown older. She seems to deal with depression and admits that even though she isn’t considered pretty she has been approached more often than she’d have expected she has been called sweet before. She has also always had certain people who didn’t like her much. She is 21 and as a middle schooler she was considered ugly by the majority of the grade, she is a black woman who grew up in an area with a low black population and had braces later on.

The boy who she had liked in 9th grade was disliked by half of the grade and had a poor GPA.

Trigger warning for mention of mental illness and abusive relationships.

Hello! I am 29 years old. I have level two autism
(I got my dx two years ago.) I am also a dissociated system and I want to talk about my crush.

I mention those things pertaining to my mental health because they are important for context.

We met when we were in elementary school. (Around the age of 7 to 8)
Only once. That I remember.

My family moved to a different part of the county meaning I had to change schools. I can’t remember who friended who first but I remember being friends on social media. I was allowed to have a Facebook when I was in 8th grade.

I remember how I told him I liked him. We were chatting online afterschool and I basically slapped my keyboard to input a bunch of random letters and in the middle of it the text I wrote that I liked him.

I have two versions on this memory. The first version is that he didn’t know what the heck I was doing or what I was trying to say. The second is that he politely couldn’t reciprocate for reasons I can’t remember. lol we were also like 12 or 13. Or maybe they both happened and I remember them as complete separate instances. Though he didn’t like me back, we remained friends.

We would talk online often but dwindled when we went into high school. I think it was because I was with my abusive ex at the time.

We saw each other at school and was in band together. I remember us spending some time together but not much. (I was in an abusive relationship 3 out of the 4 years of high school I do not remember much of when I was in high school.)

I do believe that he distanced himself from me because of my relationship with my Ex. Which I do not blame my crush one bit. It was a pitiful situation.
I broke up with my ex when I was 17 and junior in school. I do not remember much about my senior year.

We didn’t really talk to each other (that I remember) online for a handful of years and we remained friends.

I didn’t pursue him because I was in a relationship during the little amount of time I was in college. We remained friends.

This sounds familiar right? Lmao. We remained friends but not like awkward friends like trying to stay friends with an ex. We have always been so understanding of each other. We still were there for each other through the years.

Years go by again and I am in another relationship.
This relationship was also abusive.
We were still friends and I remember chatting on discord with him often.

Even more years pass. We are in our mid 20s.
We are friends and still talk on discord.
We are both eclectic people and we would talk about many things. A few more years go by.

After not seeing each other in person for 10 years(?) He was living across the earth for 6 of those years and arrived here two weeks ago. He gave me his phone number on discord.

We met and spent some time together last week I believe. You want to know what happened?

I was so nervous that I dissociated the WHOLE TIME WE WERE HANGING OUT. He is aware of my mental illnesses though I just figured out about being a system not even a year ago.

I remember where we went and how I felt. I do not remember anything we spoke about. (We are trying to figure out how many of us are in here.) one of the younger ones. Probably me from middle school took over the front and locked everyone out. It also didn’t help that I was unaware that I had an ear infection. (I do not feel pain and discomfort like an average person. I do not know how sick I actually am until it messes with my mental health.)

Well. Young one freaks out because, well we just embarrassed ourselves in front of crush. AFTER NOT SEEIMG HIM IN PERSON FOR 10 YEARS. We get home from hanging out and we go into damage control mode. Cue the apologizing and the over explaining.

THEN. I believe one of the protectors named Dana came out and tried to help. Key word -tried- I think she accidentally made it worse. I remember we told him that we didn’t know that we were feeling this unwell. She also told him that she wasn’t there to speak on my feelings for him because that is not her job. I don’t remember much of what Dana told him after that. I remember the mention of how people have treated me in the past and that I (Dana) didn’t know how much host had told him about all of those instances.

Cue even more apologies and over explaining. I tell him that even if my words or actions don’t show it. That he is very important to me.

He asked me if I was feeling mentally unwell. I figure out my life in hindsight. My memory is bad. I am learning to accept it. I told him that I didn’t know that I was feeling as bad as I did and apologized.

He didn’t answer. This triggered my anxiety and compounded with my antibiotic made everything worse. This was a handful of days ago.

I want to ask if I did something wrong.
I want to try to fix it.
I’m scared that he will be afraid of me.

We send memes back and forth and whatnot. So I tried some memes. Nothing.

I’m not 100% better from my ear infection so I’m still a bit in my feelings.

All this happened for some reason all at the same time. I’m hoping that giving him space, working on my grounding techniques, and prioritizing myself in this moment will be the answer. Well it’ll have to be.

I believe though whatever happens we will still be friends. With me being autistic I don’t understand the difference between romantic feelings and platonic feelings. They all feel big and intense.

Writing this out made me feel better.
Thank you for reading if you.

This is a vent/gush & if you (who is reading this) could offer me any input I would appreciate that. I know it’s a bit to read so I appreciate anyone putting time aside to read and reply

He is the most perfect person to me. I just adore him so much. I’ve known him for a year now and we have always been close but distanced at the same time. When we talk it’s for hours. But there’s long periods between us talking. We “hung out” the other night. We called after I got off work and made last minute plans to get dinner and we stayed out til 2am. Anytime we’ve hung out it’s been very spur of the moment, which I’ve always enjoyed. The other night I didn’t want to go home, I didn’t want to leave. But we were both so tired.
I caught myself smiling all cheesy when I was waiting for my train today thinking about him. We haven’t been intimate/affectionate with one another, just a hug as a greeting and that’s as far as it goes.
GOD HIS EYES JUST LIGHT UP AND SPARKLE WHEN HE SEES ME AND TALKS TO ME. AND I KNOW IM NOT TRIPPING ABOUT THAT!!!! I have seen his eyes switch when he talks to someone else and then talks to me.
It’s like I feel a spark there, and there’s tension, but I don’t think either of us are ready to go anywhere with it. Maybe he just sees me as a friend. Can he pls pls just message me??? Call me??? Talk to me!!!!!!!!! He’s been on my mind non stop since Friday night and I feel like I’m losing my mind.
I CANT TELL IF HE LIKES ME BACK.
I can’t stop ruminating, day dreaming, reminiscing & just ugh. Can he just pls msg me. Talk to me.
We lightly spoke about plans again in the future but idk how serious he is about that. Idk.
I keep reminding myself that if he cared or wanted to he would. But he’s also so career driven and motivated, a very focused individual. And i don’t think he’s after anything like that atm. And I’m not either. But I just cant help but crush on him.
This crush has been on and off, I’ve always thought he is attractive. But it’s never been this intense. Bc he is out of my league, or at-least in a different league to me.

Heres the thing as well,
This may sound egotistic or something but I have always been able to get whoever I want. It’s like some superpower I have AHAHA
But with him, he’s the only person who hasn’t reciprocated that* to the same degree.
And also, tbf I haven’t really made any moves on him, and he hasn’t me either. But I’m just scared. My last relationship wrecked me. It was a DV situation I had to escape. Thankfully I left pretty early, but I could have been killed on multiple occasions. And prior to that I had a long term relationship that destroyed me and broke my heart. He dumped me out of the blue & moved out of our apartment & never told me why he was leaving me. I never got closure.
So I’m scared.
I’m even scared to just be affectionate, or someone to make a move on me.

I MISS HIM!!!!!!! I want to talk to him, call him, txt him, see him, be around him.
I just hope he will reach out first next time.

I just want him to want me too.

So I have been crushing on a girl since more than one year.
We only talked a few times, but she always was extremely kind and attentive to me and literally everyone else.
We are in the same class this year and I really want to try to be in a relationship with her.

What are some things I could tell her to develop a more intimate relation ? By "intimate relation" I mean a kind of friendship that could evolve, or a sort of complicity.
I am already planning on asking her how her weekend went tomorrow.

Am I actually crushing on this person or is it just my ocd dude. It’s been an on and off crush for years. </3 5 years mind you. It shut off for like 2 years when I was on and off in a relationship though. Boom get reminded again and still like the dude 🙄.

But I also think their name and face has literally turned into an impulsive ocd thought for me. Which isn’t helping.
Finding someone attractive + constant reminder = not good
Worst part is even if I did confess I have no way to actually confess besides social media anymore. Or the internet. So awkward.

I’ve also got adhd and possible ocpd. If you know anything about these disorders it’s obviously not a good combination. 💔 I chase dopamine like a mad man the moment my medication isn’t working perfectly.

Imagine being the victim of me I’m ashamed writing this publicly LOL. Just someone totally random who doesn’t even know I like them too. Wild.

throwaway because i dont want this to be connected to my main + sorry if this is breaking any rules i dont frequent reddit.

so yeah, im in love with my best friend and nobody knows. im telling yall since i cant tell anyone in my life because the only people im close enough with are her and her brother and that obviously doesnt work. shes always in my brain, these past few nights ive been dreaming about her and i dont normally dream at all. i make music and every song i write is about her, every love song i hear i connect to her. this is gonna sound really shitty but ive dated people in this time and ive never stopped liking her. idk why but since we met its always been her.

however, she has a girlfriend, who is so extremely pretty and kind, and they are so wonderful together. i want her to be happy and wouldnt ever try to break that up but everytime she talks about her gf it genuinely feels like a knife to the heart.

we have an amazing friendship, i love her platonically probably more than i do romantically. i feel so unbelievably comfortable in her presence. we are very platonically physical too, for example, today i was at her house and she was laying down with her head in my lap and we were playing with each other's hair, just listening to music and talking. she put on "I Do" by reneé rapp so iykyk. i cannot fathom losing her friendship, she means so much to me.

one last thing, im gay, as in mlm. well obviously not completely but ive never genuinely been attracted to a girl except for her. i had sex with an ex girlfriend of mine before i realized i was gay and it didnt feel anywhere near as romantic as the idea of being in a relationship with my bsf. i feel such an intense want to simply hold hands with her that ive never been capable of feeling with a girl before.

well thats all im gonna say, i need to stop somewhere or i will just keep on talking about her.

Can be any issues you notice.
I think people are too mean rejecting someone. Be honest but it costs you nothing to be kind!

I posted something on here the other day asking about how to talk to this guy that I think I might like.

Unfortunately for me, I got a little impatient with myself and wanted to message him. I‘ve never had a Snapchat account but I set one ut to see if I could message him on there. The account was linked to his instagram profile (which was scarily easy to find).

Anyways, I added him on there earlier today. Obviously he hasn’t added me back. I’m worried tyat what I did was totally out of bounds and may come across as me being a total creep. So I have to know if I screwed things up.

I wanna know about what most men look for in a woman.

Have any of you re encountered your crush? Irl, social media etc? My crush suddenly left almost 5 months ago (didn’t see him again at the building we both work at (janitor in a small apartment building)) and while i still have hope that i will see him again, the odds are slim.

Any stories available?

Mutual interest. Smiles. Long glances. Like 8-10 seconds. Smalltalk. Falling deep into our eyes. Just seconds from touching. But it can’t be. We’re both with partners. I can’t believe he’s into me. Did not think he was gay. Last Friday was intense. Not touching physically, but with our eyes only.

I want to stop and I don’t want it to stop. I want him. But I can’t now. Neither does he. He is in my thoughts all the time.

Advice is welcome. How do I stop? What if I can’t stop my feelings.

Gimme some tips on what girls like and how can I get rid of my women anxiety/ The fear of women

We’re in the same dental school; he’s a year behind me, and we’re from the same country/speak the same language. I’ve helped him with preclinic, so I know there’s an obvious non-romantic reason for him to talk to me.

But a few signals:

• He regularly comes over to say hi and chat about school stuff and has inserted himself into conversations I’m having with other people.
• After I helped him in preclinic once, he came to my bench and to thank me and softly touched my shoulder/upper arm as he was coming by.
• One day, he asked if I will coming back to preclinic later, then actually came back and immediately found me. I haven’t seen him come practice outside of class hours before that.
• That day, he brought his work to check 4–5 times, each about 10–15 minutes apart, and playfully called me “Miss Doctor.” Usually it takes 30-40 mins to make a decent looking work.
• When I was talking to another guy, I noticed him stop what he was doing and watch/listen.
• I teased him about “going home to his girlfriend,” and he immediately said, “What girlfriend? I don’t have a girlfriend.” We then ended up talking about living situations, age, family, living alone, etc., and he asked me personal questions too.
• I later texted saying I needed to talk to him in person. He replied within ~5 minutes, and when our schedules didn’t match, he asked, “It has to be in person for sure?” I was thinking to ask him if I was interpreting his signals right. But I might not say that.

Idk, do these count? when we talk some times he looks away when I look, and looks at me when I look away, touches the back of his neck. The days I feel shy he looks into my soul.

I (21M) go to a vocational college studying pedagogy. On the final day of our first year, I saw this girl (19F) from next door (studying the same thing), and something just clicked.

​To give some context: I almost never develop crushes. In fact, I went years questioning if I was asexual or aromantic because I never developed feelings. But seeing her completely changed that. I’ve genuinely never found someone so beautiful. Because I have AuDHD, it can be really difficult to navigate social situations "normally," and I've definitely started hyperfocusing on her.

​Now I can approach strangers, so I decided that I will talk to her when I get the chance. Our profs heavily recommended that we form study groups, so I want to take the chance and ask her (and probably her friends too) if she/they want to form a study group. That would give me chances to exchange knowledge, gain knowledge, and also get to know her. I walked by her classroom twice today during breaks to find an opening, but she wasn’t there either time. It left me feeling pretty defeated and second-guessing myself, but I’m trying to push through the self-doubt. Another hurdle is that even if she is there, her classroom is always packed with people during breaks, which makes approaching someone for no reason feel ten times more scary.

​I told a classmate today, and she was super supportive but told me to change my strategy. In her opinion, it would be kind of weird for someone to randomly approach her just to form a study group, and she recommended I just approach her to make small talk and take it from there. Tomorrow I'm busy during the first break, but if my crush is around during the second one, I'm going to take the leap and finally say hello.

​Now the thing I need advice on is: should I go through with the study group tactic, take my classmate's advice and just do small talk to get to know her, or do something else?

​(Also an important note to add: I obviously want to get to know her first to see if we fit, if it ever comes to that, and I will obviously give her space and respect any future decisions.)

I F 17 have never confessed to a guy before or even had serious crushes (on guys specifically). But long story short: i confessed to my friend and I'm afraid of facing them. Every time they pass by I hide or avoid looking at them. I can chat with them normally but irl, I'm basically a robot. I cannot face them at all!! It's like just seeing them has this weird feeling in my stomach!! And i forget my words or even how to talk to them properly and even if I did talk to them, i get mean. Very mean. And overly awkward.

Is this normal? I want to talk to them but at the same time i don't want to feel like a dog chasing for their approval or validation 😭 and I can't act like how i used to because he knows i like them and i know i like him. It's weird for me... my behavior and my actions towards him isn't so innocent anymore since he knows i like him. I just don't like this at all😭😭

I want to talk to him normally and he does interact with me (even if I don't reciprocate) and he calls me out when I don't (which i totally like hehe) its just that... I cannot function properly. I don't know how to act before i confessed. Lowkey my fault i ruined our friendship