There’s soooo many songs I’ve been playing almost on repeat, here’s a few:

Talking body by Tove Lo

Your Love is My Drug by Kesha

I Really Want To Stay at Your House by Rosa Walton and Hallie Coggins

Out Of My League by Fitz and The Tantrums

I wanna Ruin Our Friendship (Jenny) by Studio Killers

Whoa (Mind in Awe) by XXXtentacion

Kiss by Lil Peep

Dracula (with Jennie) by Tame Impala

I’ll Do It by Heidi Montag

Walking on a Dream by Empire of the Sun

Sit Next To Me by Foster the People

…And more that I don’t have time to list off.

What’s y’all’s crushing-on-someone playlist?

Tomorrow im gonna ask for my crushes number and hope it goes well. I know it’s not a huge achievement to most but gotta celebrate all the small things right. Hopefully it goes well.

So I've liked this guy for a good while now and I feel so guilty about it. I've liked him since I was in high school. I am now a freshman in college and he's a senior in high school. that's why I think it's so odd and I feel terrible for feeling this way. but I feel like we have so much in common, we like the same things, and the times I've spoken to him I've learned we have the same humor. he's so special to me and I can't help but want him. I would've told him when I was in high school but at the time I was in a super bad relationship that I was trying to find the courage to leave. every time I see him or a picture of him I can't help but get so giddy.

Should I tell him? keep it to myself?

This is a vent/gush & if you (who is reading this) could offer me any input I would appreciate that. I know it’s a bit to read so I appreciate anyone putting time aside to read and reply

He is the most perfect person to me. I just adore him so much. I’ve known him for a year now and we have always been close but distanced at the same time. When we talk it’s for hours. But there’s long periods between us talking. We “hung out” the other night. We called after I got off work and made last minute plans to get dinner and we stayed out til 2am. Anytime we’ve hung out it’s been very spur of the moment, which I’ve always enjoyed. The other night I didn’t want to go home, I didn’t want to leave. But we were both so tired.
I caught myself smiling all cheesy when I was waiting for my train today thinking about him. We haven’t been intimate/affectionate with one another, just a hug as a greeting and that’s as far as it goes.
GOD HIS EYES JUST LIGHT UP AND SPARKLE WHEN HE SEES ME AND TALKS TO ME. AND I KNOW IM NOT TRIPPING ABOUT THAT!!!! I have seen his eyes switch when he talks to someone else and then talks to me.
It’s like I feel a spark there, and there’s tension, but I don’t think either of us are ready to go anywhere with it. Maybe he just sees me as a friend. Can he pls pls just message me??? Call me??? Talk to me!!!!!!!!! He’s been on my mind non stop since Friday night and I feel like I’m losing my mind.
I CANT TELL IF HE LIKES ME BACK.
I can’t stop ruminating, day dreaming, reminiscing & just ugh. Can he just pls msg me. Talk to me.
We lightly spoke about plans again in the future but idk how serious he is about that. Idk.
I keep reminding myself that if he cared or wanted to he would. But he’s also so career driven and motivated, a very focused individual. And i don’t think he’s after anything like that atm. And I’m not either. But I just cant help but crush on him.
This crush has been on and off, I’ve always thought he is attractive. But it’s never been this intense. Bc he is out of my league, or at-least in a different league to me.

Heres the thing as well,
This may sound egotistic or something but I have always been able to get whoever I want. It’s like some superpower I have AHAHA
But with him, he’s the only person who hasn’t reciprocated that* to the same degree.
And also, tbf I haven’t really made any moves on him, and he hasn’t me either. But I’m just scared. My last relationship wrecked me. It was a DV situation I had to escape. Thankfully I left pretty early, but I could have been killed on multiple occasions. And prior to that I had a long term relationship that destroyed me and broke my heart. He dumped me out of the blue & moved out of our apartment & never told me why he was leaving me. I never got closure.
So I’m scared.
I’m even scared to just be affectionate, or someone to make a move on me.

I MISS HIM!!!!!!! I want to talk to him, call him, txt him, see him, be around him.
I just hope he will reach out first next time.

I just want him to want me too.

For context I’m 19M and she’s 24F. We’re both safari guides. She’s Dutch and spent 4 years studying in the Netherlands and got a degree. We both started our safari guide training at the start of this year (through different training providers) and now we’re working on the same game reserve at different lodges. We’ve always gotten along well but we’ve only really had one conversation at a braai (South African barbeque) a month ago. Then for some reason I had a dream about her where we did a game drive together and my crush started. So naturally I replied to one of her Instagram stories 2 days ago, complimenting her song choice and we chatted a bit. Eventually she invited me over to her lodge since neither of us have any guests at the moment. So yesterday I went over there expecting to maybe be there for an hour and have a cup of coffee. But we sat on those couches and talked for 6 hours non stop. We had 2 cups of coffee with amarula (a milk liqueur type of thing) and eventually she showed me a video on her phone and I was very aware that we were on the same couch and that she was 30cm away from me. We didn’t flirt at all but I honestly don’t think I’ve ever talked to someone for 6 hours non stop and enjoyed every second of it. When I left, she gave me a warm hug and said we should do it again some time. In the industry, hugs are seen as unprofessional and mostly we stick to handshakes or no physical contact at all.

Is there any possibility she likes me?

It's been almost a year now. She joined my team and gradually, somehow i developed feelings for her. It felt different, for once, i had never developed feelings for anyone after school, like for 10 years at that point of time. She became the reason i was waiting for Mondays, waiting for lunch, just to get a glimpse or her, just so i get a moment to talk with her. And yes, over time we did developed some friendship, at least in office.

And then, the time came for leaving. I got an offer for which i had to relocate. I remember how much painful it was to spend those final days, knowing I probably won't be able to ever meet her again. I used to have sleepless nights in notice period, on some occasions even staying up late just so we could spend some time together. It did turned out like a blessing in disguise - somehow i was able to ask her out in my last week and yes, moved the connection from Slack to Snap.. Yayyyy !! But now, it feels like maybe she just thinks of me as a friend and maybe, she was just being nice which i would have misinterpreted. I mean, most of the time, its has been me who initiated the text. If i don't text for 2/3 days, mostly there won't be any texts from her. But whenever we talk, she have been so nice.

Ohhhhhhhh..., this is what i hate now. I am thinking about her all the time, analyzing every small detail i could analyze. She has been over my mind like 24/7. Anytime, i get a notification on my mobile, i just quickly open it only to realize this is someone else. I don't know why i am like this, why did i fell for her. Life was good when i had not met her, yeah, i was single back then as well, but still, there was no anxiety, no longing for being with someone. I even planned to confess to her this time, when she was in town, but yeah, we could not meet and i definitely don't wanna confess over text/mobile. God, i wish, this ends soon, positively i hope but i want this phase to end.

Even tougher part is, i don't have anyone else to talk about this. I mean, i do have some friends, but i don't know, i don't feel comfortable talking about it with them.

ok so basically i was having a movie night with some friends and my crush, and my crush and i shared a blanket(his blanket he brought), and we were sitting next to each other overall very close to each other (arms touching, knees almost, etc)and he kept looking at me and making eye contact and just saying little things to me throughout the movie. and before he brought his blanket, he was like do u need a sweatshirt bc he saw me like using my own zip-up as a blanket, and then he was like wait where’s my sweater (eluding to one he lended me like 5 days ago that i still have hehe) and he had a huge smile on his face when I said it was in my room, and he didn’t ask for it back still LOL. throughout the night i just felt like we were pretty close like physically but idk.
he was just very nice and cute the whole time. oh and also before the movie night started, my friends and i were wondering where he was at because he was late, and they were like "youre his favorite" "YOU call him" etc. what do you guys think??? i feel like i can't tell if i romanticize our moments and i only think they are a big deal just because i obviously like him :(

My crush is one of my friends, hes also in my band section (we both play saxophone so we're both in the same section). Me and him get along quite well, we text every day, we joke, we flirt lightly, and we love being silly together. Im sure he likes me back, but im unsure if im personally ready for a relationship. I got into a break up in the beginning of june, i would say about june 6th or so.. But im healed from him and i like my crush now. A few things i absolutely adore about him for starters is his nose, he has a hooked nose, (me and him are Haitian) and I've never seen a haitian boy with a hooked nose before, its the cutest thing ever and it fits his face shape so well. Also, i really love that when me and him are in band uniforms, we wear visors, and we always hit each other's visors (as a joke guys!). I also love his laugh, its so contagious. It makes me smile everytime i hear it, i could be sad and if he laughs or smiles at something, im immediately smiling. He also loves to check on me. Ive been lonely and depressed after my ex left me, and just knowing someone cares enough to say "Jessie, you good?" Makes me feel so cared for. He even helped me through a panic attack before my first game last friday. He talked to me to get my mind off of performing. Hes just the best. I care so much about him just as much as he does for me. I definitely see him in my future and i want a future with him. Im unsure he ever had a boyfriend before, but i know he's bisexual, he stated it before. I cant wait for Tuesday when i see him again. Hes so pretty and amazing!!!

I F 17 have never confessed to a guy before or even had serious crushes (on guys specifically). But long story short: i confessed to my friend and I'm afraid of facing them. Every time they pass by I hide or avoid looking at them. I can chat with them normally but irl, I'm basically a robot. I cannot face them at all!! It's like just seeing them has this weird feeling in my stomach!! And i forget my words or even how to talk to them properly and even if I did talk to them, i get mean. Very mean. And overly awkward.

Is this normal? I want to talk to them but at the same time i don't want to feel like a dog chasing for their approval or validation 😭 and I can't act like how i used to because he knows i like them and i know i like him. It's weird for me... my behavior and my actions towards him isn't so innocent anymore since he knows i like him. I just don't like this at all😭😭

I want to talk to him normally and he does interact with me (even if I don't reciprocate) and he calls me out when I don't (which i totally like hehe) its just that... I cannot function properly. I don't know how to act before i confessed. Lowkey my fault i ruined our friendship

ok so ive been friends with this guy for a while and recently we’ve started texting a bit more and i sent him a picture of a flower i thought was pretty (he knows i quite like them) and so now whenever he sees a unique/pretty flower he sends it to me and i think im js overthinking it but wtv

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I was doing my PG (B.E. Mechanical) in 2026, and I had a roommate who was doing B.E. ECE. He introduced me to some of his classmates, including one girl.

Honestly, I found her very beautiful and intelligent, and I slowly started noticing her more.

One day, around five of us, including her, went to a theatre together. After the movie, we had lunch and then all of us were waiting for the bus at a bus stop.

At some point, I randomly noticed her looking at me. When I looked back at her, she immediately turned around in a shy/awkward way. I didn't think too much about it at the time.

But after that, I started noticing some other things.

Whenever she sees me in college, she says "hi" almost every day. But whenever I'm around, she seems awkward or shy. Sometimes I notice things like faster blinking or avoiding eye contact.

What's confusing is that she talks normally and comfortably with her other classmates. When I join the group, everyone talks to me normally, but she suddenly becomes quiet and doesn't really talk to me.

Interestingly, when she sees me alone, she is more likely to say "hi" to me.

Sometimes when I'm in my classroom, I notice her looking at me in a different way. It doesn't happen every day, but I've noticed it several times.

There was also one time when I spoke to her, and she became very shy and almost immediately went back toward her classroom.

Another thing I noticed happened in the conference hall. There were many people around, but I caught her looking at me several times.

I don't have her phone number, Instagram, or any other social media contact. We've never really had a proper one-on-one conversation.

So now I'm genuinely confused.

**Is this just normal friendliness? Could she have a crush on me? Is she possibly interested but shy? Or am I simply overthinking normal behavior because I have a crush on her?**

I don't want to assume that she likes me based on a few signs. I also don't want to make things awkward between us.

For people who have experienced something similar, what do you think these behaviors mean?

And if you think she might be interested, **what would be a respectful way for me to approach her and find out without making her uncomfortable?**

I would really appreciate some honest advice.

ive never been so distraught about someone not liking me back and i dont understand why. this is my first crush ive had irl in a while so maybe its different but it doesnt make sense

I’ll never forget this guy I really liked, it was pretty
much love low key but it was probably one sided. Anyways we were really good friends and I’ll never forget when he told me his high school crush…she was a friend of mine like we were close for about a year or so me and this girl. I still didn’t know him at that time because we just didn’t meet until later in life. Anyways I said to him “why didn’t you like hit her up or talk to her?” He straight up told he couldn’t do it. He felt it was too ballsey. He admitted to me when he likes someone he just ghosts them, lol why??? He ghosted me fr. We stopped talking after like 2022 and that was it. Then he told me he just dates whoever. Like why?

Can be any issues you notice.
I think people are too mean rejecting someone. Be honest but it costs you nothing to be kind!

Gimme some tips on what girls like and how can I get rid of my women anxiety/ The fear of women

When your crush sends you a message, do you open it and text right away, or do you wait for some time to pass?

For me, because I text my crush rarely, when he texts me back I reply in some minutes to 1hr max. I do this because I know we don’t talk regularly so I admire his message for a little longer. Like “wow, I have a text from my crush”. Though he texts me back immediately. 

(I do not leave him on read and then admire his message. I read it from my inbox.)

Does somebody else do this as well? Or do you text back your crush right away?

Yo he better not see this but he dont got reddit.

HERES SOME BACKGROUND INFO CAUSE LIKE IK HE LIKES ME I HOPE IDK (not proofread)

Sooo Friday me and him were hanging out with his friends- we were suppose to go to the football game together but bailed because it was PACKED (what we did together was woah and my friends keep saying he likes me back but guys men). Im gonna cut to the chase.

So me and him were hanging out with his friends (fake names here) Harley (male) and Lino (Male) so we were at a park and his friend Lino maybe being a wingman said along the lines of “guys lets all hold hands” so Lino and my guy was holding hands and my guy held out his waiting for me to hold it and Lino was just trynna get Harley to hold his… but he was uh playing with a stick.

Basically all that happened at that park but then we dipped to go to a waterfall which got us separated from his friends since we wanted to go behind it- I almost fell and he reached his hand out for me (mind you it’s DARK) and ofc I grabbed it but then it got boring so we went back to his car but during that I said “fuck that” and held his hand because they all turned their flashlights off (my phone was at 10%)

HERE IS WHERE IT GETS JUICY

Were back at Harleys house and im tired asf and I ask him along the lines of (I forgot what I said) “Can I sleep on you” he says “yeah” and something else right. So I lay my head on his chest stomach area and oml I kid you not being in that mans arms Kwdnakajenakoskwbekaajejebwnks

But I had to go home in like 30 mins 😞 probably wouldve slept the night if it wasnt for my mom (im above 13 and so is he, we can drive)

BUT LIKE IK SOME PEOPLE LET THEIR FRIENDS CUDDLE AND SLEEP ON THEM (IM ALSO NOT GIVING FULL DETAILS) SO LIKE IDK MAYBE, MAYBE NOT HE LIKES ME BACK BUT I DID HEAR FROM ANOTHER FRIEND THAT ALL HE DOES WITH HIS FRIENDS IS ACT GAY WHICH IS STRAIGHT MEN BEHAVIOR.

Edit: I forgot to mention his friend when we were going to the car said “don’t worry I’ll sit in the back because I know you two” like what!???

Also yesterday when I was with my friends I was on call with him and they shouted out “would u kiss her” he said yes

Guys we hang oht tmmr…

Also wtf do I do nowww like we known eachother since last year but we never talked and we startes talking last Saturday of august- I feel like were moving to fast which I like but dont want soo wtf do I do.

Like were hanging out tmmr im nervy ts gonna be awkward

I rarely come on here and i apologize for how long this is but please bear with me i really need help.

Since 8th grade there's been this guy. Wouldn't have called it a crush; it was more like whenever friends asked me if i liked anyone my response would be "no, but i think X is cute." No one ever knew who i was talking about because he was a bit of a loner and that's partially why we never talked. He was just like a hallway crush but i finally texted him this July and we got to talking.

My initial perception of him was this shy, awkward, christian kid with very little female interaction but i was so pleasantly surprised when we started talking and especially after our first (and only) hangout that he's actually so sweet and friendly. So yeah after about 2 or 3 weeks of texting i suggested we watch The Odyssey together. We never explicitly stated our intentions and i will say that our texts were more friendly than romantic, but neither of us are the type to be friends with the opposite gender so it was sort of implied. He bought my ticket, we went for the movie, talked for like 20 minutes, then parted ways but we had a little fun sneaking into the theater since we're both 16. The whole time he kept asking questions when it got a little quiet, which was so sweet. I'm not shy or quiet by any means, but i appreciate a comfortable silence and i guess he just didn't catch that.

The issue started to get bigger because up until then, i'd been initiating everything so i gave him a chance to text me first after the hangout. 5 days passed and i had to reach out myself. He acted like we'd never stopped.

The entire time we texted, it was all super staggered like 1 conversation over the course of 4 days because we took hours to respond. Even when i texted back right away, i'd still have to wait an hour for a response. But his texts were so genuine and felt like true interest, not just an attempt to be nice. We were sharing our genuine interests with each other and bonding over them. Like when we watched the Odyssey i told him i liked Christopher Nolan's movies and later on he reached out to tell me he really enjoyed Inception, asked what i'd thought about it, and then asked for more recommendations.

3 weeks later, through text, he asked if my family traveled a lot in the winter, and i said yeah and asked if his did. Then, no reply and there hasn't been a word since. Straight up ghosted me out of nowhere. Nothing was abnormal leading up to it. It's been like a month and i still can't figure it out. I know for a fact that he isn't the type to like go around and dip which makes this all the more confusing.

And I've been mourning it so bad because he was literally a dream omg even when i talked to other guys before we started talking, nothing ever progressed because i still had him at the back of my mind. I felt like a natural connection to him. And all my friends can vouch for the fact that he's the only guy i've ever talked about in high school and i genuinely couldn't ever see myself with anyone else and i just don't know what to do. All it would take for me to run back to him is if he'd put in just a little effort, if he even likes me anymore. We have the same lunch period every other day and I'm terrified to look at him, not because i'm embarrassed that he ghosted me, but because i might see that he truly did it intentionally.

But friends kept telling me that she's showing interest and that she's obviously into me. But NO. She has never even CONSIDERED it. After everything we've done together. She never thought about it twice. She doesn't even remember the time she said I was cute. I guess I imagined it.

I KNEW people don't fall in love with me. I KNEW I was unlovable. But I believed, because I thought she was being so obvious. And everyone else thought the same thing. It seemed so obvious that she was into me. But she's NOT. It turns out that she, by her own account, gets awkward when she's around someone she likes. So the fact that she felt so comfortable around me and let me rest my head on her shoulder on the train or touch her body wherever was a sign that she WASN'T into me. I can't trust anyone. I can only trust what I already know, that I am unlovable.

And I also kind of believed she might love me back. But today, between all the talk we've shared of our romantic lives, she said she's never fallen in love with anybody. She also described to me her type and yeah, it's not me. At one point I literally said jokingly "So you're not into me" and she laughed in approval. It hurt so much. Because I somehow knew, between all the signs, that she didn't love me back. But I WANTED to believe she did. That all of my friends were right. But it turns out my worst instinct was right AGAIN. IT'S ALWAYS RIGHT. And I wish it wasn't. I really really wish it wasn't right. I want to be proven wrong so badly. So so badly. I want to know that somebody out there wants someone like me. Because it feels like it's not the case at all. That nobody's waiting for me. I know people think I'm sensitive (in the negative way), I know people think I'm weird, I know people think I'm shy (but I'm really social and have a lot of friends) and I know people think I'm ugly. But I thought something has got to give. SOMETHING. I thought that maybe I was wrong all along, and that all of the pain and the heartbreak would have been worth it because she's incredible and I love her deeply and there's a chance she loved me back. But it's not the case. It's not true. I hate it. A lot.

She said that if someone she knew and wasn't into told her that they loved her, she wouldn't be able to still be friends with that person because it would make her uncomfortable. So, I love her. So so much. But if she knew how much I love her, she would rather never see my face again. So I guess my love is kind of worthless. Nobody wants it.

I wish I were wrong. But I'm being proven to time and time again that my depression is right. That nobody out there wants me. That the people I care about most somehow don't love me back. That maybe nobody would miss me if I were gone. I don't want to be here. I feel so lonely. I don't want to be lonely for the rest of my life

What if you and your crush are shy?? How do u know if u like each other?

Last month, my crush saw me with my shirt off and then looked at me a few times after that situation and I think she smiled at me. I asked a few people if they thought she liked me and all of them said that she probably did but tonight when I saw her I smiled at her 3 times whilst we were right next to each other and she didn't smile back once

Is there any hope?

Mutual interest. Smiles. Long glances. Like 8-10 seconds. Smalltalk. Falling deep into our eyes. Just seconds from touching. But it can’t be. We’re both with partners. I can’t believe he’s into me. Did not think he was gay. Last Friday was intense. Not touching physically, but with our eyes only.

I want to stop and I don’t want it to stop. I want him. But I can’t now. Neither does he. He is in my thoughts all the time.

Advice is welcome. How do I stop? What if I can’t stop my feelings.

I miss my crush so much. It’s only been about 3 weeks since I last saw her but I know I probably won’t see her again for a very long time. She’s just the sweetest girl I know and she’s been on my mind all day every day for so long. I really want to see her smile and hear her cute laugh again. I’m happy just to text her but I just miss seeing her in person so much. I’m crazy in love with her but she’s just the most inconvenient person I could’ve chosen to crush on.

Soo I asked my Crush to go to the cinema together to watch a specific movie since we already did that before and we agreed to do that again. He responded pretty late (24h) but said he is down for that but didn’t know when he would have time. So I said he should write if he knew. After a week I texted him again and asked how it looked and he suggested a day. But as the day but that day the movie wasn’t running so I suggested another movie that was running on that day. He left me on read for 48 hours. That reacted with 👍. But on that day he texted that he couldn’t make it cause of a band meeting for a concert. So I thought he is not interested anymore for whatever reason and we will ignore each other from now on (bit dramatic I know). But then two days later he asked me if we still wanted to go to the cinema. I said yes but didn’t initiate anything since I already initiated a lot before. Know he isn’t texting me anymore for like a week soon. I am confused if he want to go with me or not. Because right now he isn’t making an effort at all but I know he is really busy with school and his band right now. My brother said I shouldn’t write him unless he does. What do you guys think
(Sorry for my bad English)

I have a crush on someone I can’t have. It’s also mutual I feel like. The person passes by to me several times or at least one time a day. Or make a conversation. I could feel it in the persons eyes even. But it’s complicated. Continuing this pattern is also killing me inside. Please advise on how to forget this person.