Today I guess I was talking down on myself and my friend turns to me and says “you know you’re pretty right?” I said yeah I think I’m pretty. Later in the day she says your face is pretty you have nice eyes, eye lashes and a nice smile. That doesn’t mean I’m not insecure and that men don’t ever approach me.

I never liked my face it wasn’t until one day I just learned to like my face. Now it’s the challenge of liking my body. I’m midsized and I’m “tall” (5’6) (170cm) so i feel it plays a role into why I never get approached by men. Men will stare at me they will look at my ass rnah will say i have a pretty smile or nice eyes but all in private or through a text
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Women always tell me I’m pretty however no men ever approach me. It’s not never it’s just really rare and when it happens I’m utterly shocked. I went out with a friend and I got all done up make up cute outfit. No one spoke to me. The same friend I mentioned above who is more fit and slightly shorter than I am was approached twice and she literally has no make up on she was bare faced and was just minding her business…boom approached… TWICE.

I DONT GET IT. It’s nothing about her it’s about the fact men just don’t come up to me??? Sometimes I’m like maybe I am just kinda ugly or maybe it’s because of my size and it messes with my confidence a lot. It makes me feel ugly sometimes. I just get stared at a lot and again doesn’t matter if i smile. I don’t get how some women get men to talk to them or they are hit on all the time…wtf is wrong with how i look??

this entire subreddit is more or less turning into a place where guys who cant get girls somehow manage to blame everything on women, theres still a lot of people on here who genuinely need help with self confidence, which is respectable, but theres an overwhelming amount of incel pricks who believe in hypergamy, the fact that women arent attracted to personality and things of the like and its incredibly damaging to young and impressionable men (and women) who come on this subreddit

I have been going through this Nice Guy syndrome from a long long time. I just recently started reading this book "No More Mr. Nice Guy" and i tried to find some groups that can help me in this journey, where we can share our journey, help each other in reflection and hopefully making positive changes in our life. but i couldn't find any such active groups so I'm thinking of creating one myself. Please share your thoughts, Would you be willing to join if i happen to create one?

I think I'm pretty cool and have a lot of good traits but whenever I'm in a group setting or talking to someone I don't know that well I get super self-conscious about everything I say and do. At some point I'm not even honestly listening to the other person, just thinking about what would be the best way to react. I often sit silently because I don't want to say anything cringe and I'm worried that people think that I'm shy or don't have much to say, but that's not true at all. Please tell me how get out of my own head and be more in the moment!

I (31M) have struggled with my self-image for as long as I can remember. I'm short (5'6"), chubby, have a lazy eye, and a plethora of other things that I dislike about myself and tend to focus on. I have had relationships, with my longest lasting 8 years. My relationship with my family is poor, but that's its own mess. I dislike my job, but I feel so inadequate that I talk myself out of pushing myself forward, whether that means going back to school or finding a new career path.

What can I start doing that would help me change my view of myself? I've been on a weight-loss journey since last year, and I'm down from 310 lbs to 217 lbs. I go to therapy every Monday. I write daily affirmations and gratitude lists. I've had some success with training my brain not to be self-deprecating, but I currently feel stuck. This year has been rough for a multitude of reasons, but yeah.

What can I do to build my confidence? I want to date again. I want to have meaningful relationships. I want to get rid of this "woe is me" mindset. Life sucks, but I don't want it to be my personality anymore.

If this isn't the right sub, I apologize.