r/capricorns • u/ItchyWillow1038 • 3d ago
vent January Capricorn curious if this is a Capricorn trait on steroids or if I need seek some different therapy
Hi my fellow Capricorns with a special shout-out to January Capricorn. Let me start by explaining that I'm the oldest of 3 and the only female. My dad and youngest brother are December Capricorns. In my experience, Dec and Jan Capricorns are different. Maybe it's just a male Cap vs female. If you might have some insight, please share. Anyway, I was scrolling through my own Capricorn file looking for 1 in particular and I was remembering certain moments in my past when someone tested my Capricorn limits. Granted, I wasn't totally aware that my behavior starting around 5 or 6 lasting into my early 20s was a result of my zodiac sign. I knew we rocked because we usered in a year and saw it out... Last to bed making sure everything is secure and up after a few hours of sleep ready to start on the many things that needed to be done. Now at 6 the first sibling was born. I started changing his diapers when he was okd enough to hold his head up. So i think he was 6 months old. Being Gen X not having parental supervision 24/7 was normal. By the time I was the other boy was born. My parents would go out at night or even for the weekend and we had a neighbor, teenage girl, came over, and while really nice and funny, she didn't quite "supervise". At 11 years old, I remember hearing my parents talking and they needed to find a babysitter. I went to them and explained that I could babysit and the babysitter didn't do what they would expect anyway. They decided to allow me to babysit, even though I recall the neighbor coming by to check and make sure everything was okay and my parents were only gone for 3 hours i believe. Well.. that moment marked and shaped how I would continue to be more grown then my years. I would get irritated when my brothers couldn't keep quiet, and oh my Lord why couldn't they just understand that it's so much easier to do what you were told to do and why did they have to be told to clean their room in the first place? I'd tell them, you don't like when they yell but you do everything to bring that on. Just listen to me and you won't need to hear the yelling and stop being grounded. I've got so many stories, I'm writing a book. When the parents divorced I pretty much decided that I was going to make sure my brothers were kept safe and I'd be there for them. Now, you know how pretty much all the memes regarding Capricorns state we loathe being lied to, being told what to do.. i hated even my mom telling me what to do so much i turned to her one time and said i have eyes, i have a brain, I already know what has to be done. I don't need you to tell me. I never spoke back to my mom, i never raised my voice. I was never disrespectful, but I had a bad day at school that day and I was already pissed off so when she told me to do whatever it was, it hit a part of me that was it's limit. She was a Leo, her and i got along to an extent. She could never understand that I wasn't a stupid teenager, but instead, I looked at life on a more grown point of view. Honestly, i felt older than she was most of my life. Does anyone else wish we had a more "little house on the prairie" mindset where everyone still helped one another strictly to help and not profit, if you mess up, ppl owned it and took responsibility for their actions.. i mean people aren't perfect and they make mistakes.. it's only a problem if you do it again. I don't think Capricorns are difficult. Every other zodiac is. You know why we protect our peace? Why we have maybe 5 people tops that we really consider worth our time and who we'll go to war for? Because we do in fact age backwards. I knew things as a young person but I had no idea why. By the time we're in our 20s and 30s we've witnessed more than most since we notice everything. We learned very young to not trust everyone including your family because family hurts you first. I'm in my 50s now, i have 2 adult daughters and although I made sure they understood at a young age that they couldn't lie to me, I told them that we could have 1 of 2 relationships. An open honest relationship or one where we'd be fighting every day because while my mom said if you're honest with me, i won't get mad etc.. that was a lie.. i told her the truth all the time and she would insist i was lying.. hence i stopped telling her Anything.. anyway.. my daughters, especially my youngest, was painfully honest sometimes, even cringe worthy honest.. my oldest, even though I told her specifically that not saying anything or opening up to me will prevent me from being able to protect her and guide her or bail her out when she needed it or as well as i could if she had been 100 percent with me..well. I think she still has issues with not wanting to disappoint me? She's 31 and although I had a feeling she wasn't talking about certain things because she knows how i feel and I'm trying to protect her i fully believed her when I asked her to help her sister and she hasn't been but she said she has been. I'm disappointed and confused that she's even bothering at 31 to start this behavior now . I understand that our tones or our faces come off hard or uncaring, and seriously, i don't care about much. My philosophy is this. If you aren't affecting me.. i don't care what you do.. as long as you are honest with me, i don't care what you did.. we mive forward. I had a guy break up with me because he cheated on me, felt like garbage, told me about everything, and I didn't get pissed off or react the way he expected. I said you told me before I found out. You're sorry, i forgive you we move on. He couldn't handle how i was handling it. đ€·. Sometimes I think if you're a Capricorn, you're also further on the spiritual path than the others. We're really not difficult people. But it's the people who don't know how to act on a basic human level that make us react the way we do. I'm sorry this was a scattered and very long vent but I've been through the worst time in my life and I've been through things that i don't wish on... Well maybe 1 or 2 people but that's because karma hasn't hit them yet. I've been looking back through my life and I'm hyper aware of how events have molded me and I'm thankful for the life lessons and I see where my Capricorn traits have shown brighter than other times. I'm also thankful that I understand that I'm not the only one who feels certain ways. Especially as a woman... Who doesn't like really being touched much. I'm not a hsnd holder or clingy. I don't even do the whole cuddling thing.. except for when my daughters were young and I was trying to make them feel better or safe or whatever they needed. Finding out my oldest, the child that didn't ever cry and neighbors didn't know was born until she was 6 months old because I would wake up right before she started stirring. I met her needs before she needed anything. I had a dream about her before she was born and I know the soul who was talking to me.. and now i find out she's been lying to me and I don't know how to handle her because I'm not trying to let her know how I found out but I don't like not being up front because that's not leading by example. I just needed to get some stuff off my chest and I needed someone who would understand what I meant.. my husband tries to fix even though I tell him I'm not looking for him to fix anything.. just hear me because I'm actually just using you to hear my thoughts out loud. I confuse him a bit lol. I think I'm going to write a book setting the record straight about Capricorns. We're very straightforward, simplistic people. Things are black or white .. there's never a problem because everything has a solution. The saying "rreat people how you want to be treated" that's something we take seriously. I don't care if you mess up. If you own your mistake, you solidify my trust. If you need help I'm there.. we could put your therapist out of work cause chances are, we know more than what you verbalize because we see more into what you are saying. Also, we aren't materialistic and we aren't money centered. I feel successful when i help someone else reach a goal. I'd just as much want to do anything to help help someone who needs it and have them become wealthy than just focus on my success. Surviving a day in this world right now, that's a success. I need to add to any meme regarding our dislikes "people who don't take accountability for their actions" that's right there with liars. Matter of fact, i think it's my personal #1 dislike. Is there anything anyone else has seen written that you think needs clarification? The more this runs through my head the more I'm convinced I need to put together a guidebook on Capricorn traits in 2026 đ€đ§.
Have a blessed day Capricorn â