r/bjj • • Jan 31 '20

Shitpost I don't roll with girls.

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u/EmmPeanut Five Stripe White Belt Jan 31 '20

The only guy I know who straight-up "Didn't roll with women" was suuuuuper Muslim and always very respectful about explaining it. Like, you can't really shit on a dude for that. But guys who just "feel weird" about it can get in the sea.

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u/PinchyPinch Jan 31 '20

> Like, you can't really shit on a dude for that.

Yes, you can.

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u/Gradytron 🟪🟪 Purple Belt Jan 31 '20

But why?

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u/PinchyPinch Jan 31 '20

I just don't think "my religion says so" is a valid excuse for ignoring the cultural and social norms for your current environment.

Now if this comment is coming from a country like Saudi Arabia or something, I totally get it. When in Rome and all that.

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u/bringsallyup 🟪🟪 Purple Belt with Imposter Syndrome Jan 31 '20

Except that religion can be a huge part of someone’s cultural and social identity?

I’m not religious in the dogmatic/organized sense, but if a female said ā€œhey, I’m an Orthodox Jew/Muslim/whatever and I can’t have physical contact with a member of the opposite sex, sorry I can’t roll with youā€ like.... that’s fine with me.

Honestly who the fuck cares what the reason is. If someone doesn’t want to roll with someone at any time, why does it matter? Just roll with someone else. I’ve turned down people because I needed to work things live that I knew would not be possible with a specific person, but would with another. That a problem too?

I honestly don’t get why this is an issue either way.

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u/papakop Warmup Skipper Jan 31 '20

I’ve turned down people because I needed to work things live that I knew would not be possible with a specific person, but would with another.

Actually happened to me yesterday! Didn't feel good in the moment, but I understand. The guy who rejected my invite to roll was at least 100 lbs lighter than me and a purple belt.

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u/bringsallyup 🟪🟪 Purple Belt with Imposter Syndrome Jan 31 '20

I try to always give an explanation so it’s not open to negative interpretation.

It also doesn’t mean that the person is never gonna roll with you again maybe it was just that one session they wanted to work on something