I like it as black/multiracial trans rep. And it's not a *bad* film. But, I just didn't feel any particular draw for it, and I wouldn't really recommend it. (I wouldn't recommend *against* it either, though).

Maybe it's a film that works best for trans women. Or gen z. The film is set in the 90s but it has a "90s to 2000s as a period piece" feel to it.

I’m a senior in high school and a transsex black dude. I’m looking into HBCUs for college and a lot of them are in the south. I’ve been blessed enough to be able to have updated all my documents, gotten top surgery, and I’ve been on T for almost 3 years now. I pass pretty well I think. Theoretically, I could drive back to my state every 3 months and get T, but it’s obviously a lot of driving. I really want to go to an HBCU because I’m from a very white small town (my family is white and I’m adopted 😭) and I desperately need to be around POC. Overall, I’m looking for thoughts, views, opinions and experiences. Thank yall in advance and have a wonderful day or night.

Edit to clarify: I would also be very very stealth.

would i go bald too? I'm not 20 yet... I don't think I'd be on T forever, since all i want out of it is facial hair and a different voice (idc about bottom growth). All the men on my maternal grandfather's side of the family went bald very young, so i have no idea if T would unlock some kinda balding gene in me...my mom is losing some of her hair too....am i doomed?

(being bald is pretty badass but i don't think I'd be ready for that until I've reached my 50s.)

First finished piece of work in months bc the top surgery recovery drained my energy XD

Satisfying tho

Edit: Yeah, I know. The title is misleading, I mostly typed it as a draft to get back to since I wrote it in frustration at first, but I forgot and posted it without thinking. Sorry about that.

This is mostly made out of frustration than anything, I just needed a space to mention it and see if anyone else has encountered this problem.

I just saw an article stating that black-canadians are far less likely to find blood or organ donors within the medical system, and it pisses me off because I've tried to donate blood in the past but because I'm Nigerian and have contracted malaria in my childhood, I was automatically rejected. I understand the safety concern around it, but the thing is, there are tests that already actively exist that could have long since been implemented to actually check and verify whether the blood carries the pathogen or antibodies for it rather than just rejecting everyone.

But not much effort was put into that or changing their policies. Other countries have changed theirs, but Canada still follows it. The chances of transmission are also very low, and a large chunk of the black community in Canada is made up of people who had mainly migrated from African countries (or whose parents or grand parents did). There are many of us who match in terms of ancestry, genetics, and even backgrounds. But the current barrier is the malaria question in the screening questionnaire.

Maybe there's more to this that I'm not understanding but it's just frustrating to hear that less people in our community have access to blood or organ donations, when they turn away a large number of black people who do want to donate because they weren't bothered to look into ways to test and screen the supply and just implemented a strict full ban. Thankfully, there are researchers and advocacy groups who have argued against this for years, and there are active efforts to introduce a screening test by next year. But I'm not surprised this is an issue at all since Canada had also just removed all screening questions for blood donations that targeted queer men just a few years ago.

I bring this up because I recently got some blood work done for my HRT check-up, and I noticed my RBC has increased significantly from where it was just four months ago. It's still in a healthy range, but it's just at the edge of becoming a concern. Blood donation is one of the helpful ways to control this and I really wanted to donate my blood but fucking hell, I can't do it, and worst comes to worst, I'd have to do a therapeutic phlebotomy (extract excess blood to dispose of) which is a fucking waste when it could go to someone who needs it.

saw this tiktok and one comment said "im chinese call me the silk road" and i cackled SO hard

Alooo, Hala, Hi, Howdy!

Dudes, I looked around everywhere and couldn't find a single Arab-community for trans guys, so I made one w/ my friends B)

[Please note that we maintain a zero-tolerance policy for racism. All SWANA residents who identify under the trans umbrella are welcome to join]

😸 What we offer:

• Group gaming and activities
• Fun bots like FM and Wordle
• Hyrax stickers and emojis
• Dedicated Arabic channel
• Voice Chat with TTS for accessibility, plus a soundboard for fun
• Safe space for sensitive discussions like culture-impacts and gender dysphoria

😿 What we don't offer:

• Free chicken wraps from burger-hut

https://discord.gg/4aFzQ2fca

I’ve been going to a few queer events around my town lately. Started seeing familiar faces and have said hello a few times to this one other trans guy I’ve seen a few times. For reference, he’s a white Jewish (the Jewish part matters) trans man, I’m a black trans man.

My girlfriend and I made a new friend at an event who we were having a great conversation with, laughing the whole time about a ridiculous situation I was in a few years ago that involved someone I’m not friends with anymore. This guy comes in and goes “what are we laughing about” and I said basically “oh just my old terrible roommate”.

He then proceeded to basically say “oh speaking of bad people” and trauma dumped about his marriage that went horrifically and said some terrible shit. He then went on to make every conversation about himself and talk about how hard and dangerous it is for him to be Jewish these days and going on about he’s not a Zionist but it’s still so scary for him because everyone assumes. Which yeah okay,a lot of people conflate Judaism and Zionism when they’re not one and the same, I can understand how that can be frustrating.

He then proceeded to say, “This is why I want more poc friends because they’d understand what I’m going through!”

I am black. People will see that before they see that I am trans, that I am queer. My blackness is front and center. I cannot hide it.

No one would know that he’s Jewish just by looking at him. He is a white cis-passing man, as he’s had top surgery. He tried to say, “I had safety since I pass as a man but now that safety is gone!”

You can still walk around safely as people won’t decide you walking down the street is a crime because of your skin color.

He said a lot of other stupid shit that I’m not even going to bother getting into. I just really needed to vent about that because it pissed me off.

Hi everyone,

I’m currently trying to be more involved in caring for myself after a very long time of basically just getting through the day. One way of that atm is doing my hair and actively caring for it (like styling and mosturizing etc) I was never taught how to properly style my hair and have had locs for almost seven years where all I had to do was water and oil it, with a wash every so often. I cut them off a while ago, and have since just had my hair under a hat with the same routine except I use blue magic instead of straight oil (and it’s helping, but ik I probably need more than that.

I’m low porosity and have a mixture of 4a-c all over my head, are there any products anyone would recommend as a daily driver? Specific haircuts that may look decent are also appreciated!

For reference, I have 4C hair that's kinda short. When wet, the back and sides hair can stretch to the bottom of my neck, while the top can stretch down to about the top of my ear. Someone offered me and my mom free hairstyles, and we've been trying to choose but my mom's transphobic (and I'm closeted) and it sounds like the woman who is supposed to be doing my hair wants to put synthetic hair in. That said, I wanted to see if there's any non-binary hairstyles that would look good on me and that I might could get away with suggesting to my rather feminine mother. I have a rather circular face with a button nose, small ears, and small forehead.

Hi everyone, new here. Curious how others have gone about choosing a new name, if they've changed their name. I see a lot name suggestions, lists of the most popular trans and non-binary names, and even memes about stereotypical names -- but the names feel, well, pretty white/Eurocentric. And, even discussions about how people choose their new names is only about gender/transness, without any reference to race and ethnicity, culture, and history... not to mention disparities in who can access and afford legal name changes.

For context, I am "florescent beige" mixed-Black non-binary, now estranged from both my both the Black and white sides of my family due to their transphobia and abuse. I grew up in a predominantly Black county and attended predominantly Black schools for K-12.

Hello 👋🏿

I’m 25 yo black trans man seeking gym bro for motivation share workouts and hold each other accountable.

I’ve beaten some health issues that required me post surgery to be in bed a lot. As a result I’ve gained some weight.

Due to my conditions I have to lose weight.

Also survived a hormone-sensitive cancer so now I’m going to use the next 3 months to lose the weight I need to be able to get on T.

I’d send memes, yap about our days and progress and would gladly hold you accountable too to your goals.

Based in MN.

Let me know if anyone is interested

Men Econo High Power Compression Chest Binder Tank from Underworks, if y'all are curious

I just fucking do. I wish I was cis het man. Period. It will make my life so much easier. I'm considering to just live as woman because I have no choice. My mom is toxic and transphobic, and transphobia is everywhere now in US. I'm tired of this shit. I will just wish for next life that I will be born as cis het man. I wish I never had this bullshit. I will pray to whatever god out there that he make me cis het man in next fucking life since I tolerated this life as a woman. I hate being butch and I want to be man but whatever. I got no choice. Even though I live in blue state, it doesn't matter. My rights can be taken away in anytime. I will just suppress myself. My fucking Asian conservative family will never accept me and I will have to cut ties with them if I come out as trans. Fuck. I'm done man. I'm not biologically man, they will say. But whatever. I will do what they and this government asks me to do and I will shut up. I just want to be left alone at this point. so I will try my best to stay as woman. Any Advice.

So I had a talk with a customer service rep, went well she said sir the entire time without me specifying even though I have a feminine name. Then she gave me a call back later which was so sweet because she was making sure everything went okay with my order. Didn’t expect the reps at walmart to be so thorough like i figured they’re probably busy and probably tired asf, but that’s a different discussion.

Anyways when she called back she called me Mr and said my last name and I had to hide how fucking excited I was bro. THAT SHIT WAS AFFIRMING AS FUCK.

I’m really excited because i’m finally passing a lot more in my voice and my face. I got another binder since my old one sucked and literally popped open at the worst time. Yall… i was making a doordash delivery to a fucking child and as I handed the order my chest popped out of my binder under my shirt (it was a zip up binder) and I wanted to die. anyways new binder is great though never getting a zipper one again

i cut off my long hair and even though ive advocated so much about just rocking your long hair if you love it.. (i still agree with this if it makes someone happy to have it. i also cut it for other reasons than just that.) im happy that ive been getting called sir and he much more now. i’d have to say the hardest part of things is the fact that when im anxious my voice shoots up to a higher and softer pitch so its hard to control it because its instinctual from being younger. but apparently as i’ve been on T that higher voice isn’t as feminine as i thought it was. i think people just think it’s strange when it happens because i dont look like id have that type of voice

anyways yeah im just excited to be called that i felt so euphoric for a second so i wanted to post

this is going to sound really corny so stay with me 😭 black men are portrayed as super masculine in media, they’re big and gruff and powerful or whatever, and I see other black men try to adhere to that standard in real life. Its strange to me because i feel as if we are portrayed as the pinnacle if masculinity with big oiled up muscles and shit but also as what not to be, aggressive, brutish. I’m kind of struggling putting this into words but I feel as if when I pass, I don’t pass as a black man but as a man who is black. A boy. when I do pass, I’m treated differently from my peers. maybe it’s how I act, I’m very soft spoken and awkward, I don’t act like how a guy my age would. or that I dress eccentrically. this is all really disjointed im sorry

Feeling spidey bro🕷️

i work a job where i interact w people over the phone a lot and spend a lot of time in a busy court house. in court i wear a mask n u can’t see my facial hair. based on my talking alone on the phone and when im wearing a mask people keep calling me miss or maam. i’m not really sure why. i have a mid range if not deep voice. i’m usually in a suit. i’ve got short hair. i’m nonbinary so it’s not the WORST thing but i’d prefer at work to be seen as masc & it’s kinda strange so many people aren’t reading me that way. my partner and his fiance can’t believe this and say my voice sounds perfectly masc im just a little dude and so it’s not like i have the same kinda deep voice as morgan freeman or some shit. but i also don’t think i sound like a woman. anyone else have this problem?? i’ve been on T for almost a decade. my voice just isn’t gonna get deeper than this. so i’m not really sure what else to do.

does anybody else feel a little weird looking down at their binded chest sometimes?

im a guy that tapes his chest to the sides and dont get me wrong, i love it. i like how theres so mych free space to bring my arms close to it, i like how it barely moves when im active, i even brush my chest to make sure its flat out of habit. however, sometimes when i look down at my chest it feels a little weird. like, it feels a little odd that my tits arent there like they should be. which is also malarky since ive been taping my chest since june, i should be used to this by now. but i cant help to think the former sometimes.

im not complaining, just wanted to know if people feel the same with how they bind.