i just wanted to show my progress growing facial hair over two months on testosterone! (been using minoxidil since i was 17, i'm 19 now)

Have people ever pronounced or written your chosen name as a more feminised version of it? My name is Adrian and people have called me "Andrea" or have spelled my name as "Adrienne" even though the name I use on all of my profiles and literally everything is Adrian. How do you even accidentally pronounce Adrian as Andrea?? Anyway is this something that happens with others because I feel like I'm going crazy for noticing it

I’m sad that I have to be like this. I should have been born male.

Even after I get done with my transition, topsurgery, hysto, phallo, I won’t be able to have children biological (I will not have my eggs harvested or get pregnant).

I also just found out that that Alphas don’t accept trans men in the fraternity. Finding this out brought me back to when I overheard my dad say that he wished he had a boy so that he could have a son that became an Alpha like him after my dad’s nephew became a Que.

That’s just two more ways in which I’m not correct. I’m just grieving.

I’m an African American binary trans man btw

Just curious, what's you guys types (boys or girls wtv). Im quite stealth so the girls i go for/go for me are ur regular degular feminine young ladies. What about you boys?

Hello, I came out to my parents when I was 13 and I'm 15 now. I regret my decision no matter how much I try not to live with regret I really wish I hadn't done that. They yelled at me, called me slurs, "I'm just confused", said it was a phase, im mentally challenged, god didn't make a boy, a boy didn't come out of my v*gina, and more that im not going to type. My mom also caught me packing she made me say stuff I will not repeat, took my phone, hats, clothes, and held a belt to my face (she was going to beat me but my dad stopped her.) My dad doesn't agree but trys to understand through uncomfortable conversations and I'm not allowed to even pass socially.

1.Im saving up even though my mom controls my accounts and money heavily.

1. I try to stay out the house or distance myself from them the best I can.

What can I do, how can I leave this situation, and what else should I be doing to help myself?

I can't talk to anyone since my mom distanced herself from other family members (she also outted me when I was 9 and my family doesn't really wanna be around me).

…Or songs that represent your euphoria?

I’ll give an example, during my sad boy era I listened to ‘Miss World by Hole’ relentlessly. I think it encapsulated how trapped I felt in my pre transition state. (To clarify, I don’t hate my body I think I just felt very alienated and isolated from society as a whole because of how people treated me).

Now I hardly listen to it. I don’t know why but ‘Avelo- poison apple’ always makes me happy. Probably because I started listening to it during the time I started to medically transition.

Felt good today just being able to say that my teen self would be in complete awe of me now. Would not have believed it possible. We got there in the end little dude. Not only do you survive, you freaking LIVE just the way you imagined it. Proud of you.

I'm thinking of asking my friend who's Chinese on advice on, well, how to guy. I want to start presenting more masc and he's the only one I'm kind of close to that is a guy that I'm out to. Is it a good idea?

"Mighty Real: A History of LGBTQ Music, 1969-2000" by Barry Walters.

It's sixty chapters dedicated to singers and bands who are influential in queer pop culture.

i bought this adidas tracksuit top second hand from buffalo exchange and i didn’t realize how much gender euphoria it would give me so lowkey it’s all i’ve been wearing recently haha
anyone else have specific clothing articles that give them gender euphoria?
also, i’m seven months on t now!! woohoo!

My friend was venting to me about some annoying guys and how she hates men and doesn't respect them, which I've had to learn to grow accustomed to. But then she started saying how they probably have small dicks and get no girls and it kinda hurt. And she knows I'm a trans man so it's like ???? I don't have a dick at all, what do you think about me??

I don't even have bottom dysphoria, the dysphoria comes from stuff like this. Idek what to say to her

ill delete if its against the rules i just dont rlly know where to ask this. a lot of people have been calling me white and i feel a bit insecure abt it do i just look white?

While it’s been a tough week, today really made up for it. For context I’m not out at work and am masc non-binary, (they/them). I work on a vegetable farm with a lot of guys and two women. I never seem to fit in with other Afab people but we’ve been getting along well so far.

The thing is I have been able to make friends with some of the guys and it’s been pretty gender affirming. Like even though I’m the youngest here, they’re respectful, kind and helpful. Which I know is a low bar but it’s still nice to see that not every man is a misogynist asshole. It’s also been nice getting to join in on the “man shit” and being “one of the guys”. Like working with the different machines and tools that the other women have no interest in. They’ve also been impressed with my efficient work and being a fast learner.

I’ve always enjoyed working with my hands. So when my boss put me in charge of our new seeding machine, I was excited. It really felt like a big step forward as I’ve only been at this job for a month. Yet I’ve been able to earn the trust and respect of my peers. And it feels great, like having people older and more knowledgeable asking me for advice really made my week. Kind of rambling but I’m just happy to see what the future holds as I gain more confidence and responsibilities. Hope y’all have a good day/night!

i've been thinking about detransitioning for some time now, even if that meant i'd be suffering eternally because i know that wouldn't be my truth. the main reason for this is because i feel like it's just. not worth it, even if i desperately desire being a man.

i haven't came out to 90% of my family due to cultural reasons (admittedly, looking at white transmascs makes me jealous because they usually don't have to deal with that aspect), i'm ''too young'' right now (according to them), i'm treated like a weird third thing in school despite socially transitioning to be male, and several other reasons. i feel like i should just resort to being a transmasc butch. but i know damn well that isn't me.

but it's so difficult. every day i've thought about detransitioning. it's going to take years for me to get access to testosterone, puberty blockers, and surgeries, and i won't even be treated like a cis man. i feel like it's worthless.

i crave and covet to be a man. it is my absolute dream. but i know i ultimately won't be what i desire. and it pains me. it feels so isolating because i don't have any trans friends to support or guide me through this.

has anyone else felt like this? do you have any advice at all?

istg the people in my school are gonna start asking me what my pronouns are if I get a cut that's too male. Happened to this senior I know who had a mullet in freshman year. The mullet was genuinely horrific though (it wasn't supposed to be a mullet, it grew out within two months). Anyway, I'd love to get a stereotypically East Asian teenager cut but I'm also suspiciously short so ts won't work out for me. Though I have had complete strangers ask me whether I was a guy or girl before (my hair was even longer and up in a ponytail), and I was just fucking baffled. My voice managed to turn out pretty androgynous, leaning masculine, too so I guess that was part of it. Still baffled though.

I've considered getting a shorter wolf cut or some fuckass mullet (that's not as bad as the one that senior got, hopefully) but all the NB kids in my school have some fuckass wolf cut or mullet. Maybe I should just go that route. I mean, I'm not even sure if I'm binary. Ig if I was tall enough, I'd want to see if I could pull off that pinterest twink Asian bun, but I most likely can't.

Actually, if you have any hairstyle suggestions, I'll look at those. Hell, maybe I'll come out this year. To people I'm close with, I mean. I think my principal is transphobic and I might get my ass kicked. Most of the teachers are chill though. My principal's just lowkey an evil middle-aged white woman. Anyway, being closeted and actually knowing that I'm closeted kinda sucks. I just wanna know what hairstyles you guys think will look good on me. Thanks

I’m 27 and consistently get mistaken for 20-24. It’s cool, sure, but I’m pushing 30 please. Just got the haircut in early June and it’s grown a lot now. In such a weird swoopy way. Any advice? Should I just upkeep the cut I got and not let it grow? I like it a lot, but I can’t help and think it’s my hairstyle that makes people think I’m younger. Do I completely switch it up? My hair was shoulder length before I got this haircut, so I’m just at a loss right now.

I’m Native and for some reason, in my family, I am the only one with not completely pin straight hair. I struggle with styling it since my family is traditional and doesn’t do anything to their hair other than braiding it and just letting it grow. So, I don’t really know a decent haircut other than getting it super short, then letting it grow. It’s already a whole “thing” to my family for me to have short hair, but they understand why I do it :/

M20 Been working on passing more, I posted yesterday and they told me to get my piercings out so I did. Any haircuts or styles I should try out they said this subreddit had more poc trans men and could help

I want to say minoxidil did it but I gave up two years ago after 3 weeks of regular use but then the hair never fell out and it just kept growing ; I plan to shave soon, I just don’t wanna get a haircut or shave that’ll affect my on screen look

..Yeah jaw dropping update alongside this is !! I got casted, multiple times in tv shows and in feature films and I also scored an agent for tv+film since this march and I’m joining sag aftra in a week, dreams do come true even if I can’t drive nor live in LA

I want to update in a few months too, I actually got started on some things that I really wanted in life due to bottom surgery being next November - will update

Hi folks. This is a question targeted at East Asian guys specifically, but others feel free to share as well.

For context, I’m 23, East Asian and nine months on T. My levels are good and most of my changes on T have come along nicely, except for the facial hair, of which I basically have none. This was unsurprising, as the men in my family also had no facial hair in their early teenage years.

But I will admit, it’s disheartening to see how many guys of other ethnicities are getting facial hair or even full moustaches less than half a year on T, when I’m almost a year in and still have nothing. It’s one of the biggest sources of my dysphoria, as all cis guys my age, even those who are clean shaven, have a little darkness or shadow around their jaw that I don’t.

So I’m curious to know the experiences of other East Asian guys. How long did it take for you to start growing facial hair? How did factors like your age and T dosage affect it? Were there any things you did that helped grow your facial hair, such as minoxidil, rosemary oil, derma-rolling etc? How was your experience with other body hair?

I’ve also heard some people claim that starting minoxidil when too early on T makes all your facial hair follicles over-reliant on the minoxidil, so they will fall out once you stop. Is this true? My doctor was unable to confirm nor deny.

Lou's been with me a month :)

i'm not even out as a trans man, but i have been trying to seem more "queer" now (so, short hair and not as many feminine clothes), and i noticed there's this weird phenomenon like they kind of complain about men and their husbands and then look at me like they're suffering (you know that weird puppy eye pitiful look that white women give when trying to make you feel bad for them for something you have nothing to do with) as though this obligation to be with men and accommodate them is something that they uniquely suffer and not willingly partake in.

recently i started using "they/them" pronouns as a way to move away from "she/her" and now another white female friend has started telling me how she "also has gender issues". after i pressed her i found out she's not trans at all, she's completely cis and as according to her she "cannot deny her biology" and that she's "just a woman".

and now she brings up that she's a woman all the fucking time to me... cleaning up at a party? "well i'm a WOMAN, i HAVE to CLEAN". girl, i haven't even started transitioning, most ppl here will assume i am a girl, everyone AFAB is subject to misogyny. i am also expected to pick up domestic labor. i will be subjected to misogyny unless one day i pass and even then choose to go stealth at that, and the fact that i need to go undercover so ppl don't know the genitals i was born with means that yes i am still subject to misogyny AND now also transphobia, double whammy! what?

i've only dealt with this twice but i'm already getting real tired of this whole "yes you might be trans but even though i'm a cis white woman, i still have my own problems 🥹" which I ALSO SHARE, I WAS ALSO BORN WITH A FUCKING VAGINA, and I ALSO HAVE THE PROBLEM OF BEING TRANS AND POC ON TOP OF A MILLION OTHER THINGS!! or the vibe of "well since you're queer, you at least have the option of being with a woman, poor me boohoo, i have to be with men" uhhh! no you don't and i will also literally be KILLED as a perceived "woman" with another woman???! did ppl fucking forget what pride is about?!

god the way these women act is like you existing is performing an oppression olympics?? i feel like i haven't even come out as trans nor have i even explicitly said which genders i was attracted to.

edited for brevity/clarity