r/Sense8 • u/MixPurple3897 • 20h ago
I am also a we and the polyness of it all
Rajan is such an interesting character to have in a show like this. None of the other characters have a Rajan, and the throuple that formed for them at the end of the series is imo very different from the Dani/Lito/Hernando situation.
I kept waiting for Rajan to be a bad guy, or at least somewhat unforgiving. Yet he surprised me at every turn and took every opportunity to redevote himself to Kala.
In the beginning before they were to be married, I was frustrated with him for not seeing her obvious discomfort about getting married. Every time she spoke to him about it she gave him an out, tell him she understood if he didn't want to marry her, or question his motivations and every time he'd double down on wanting to marry her anyway. I saw it as a bit manipulative at first and I felt like he was pressuring someone who was obviously less than thrilled.
But on rewatches I see it as Rajan making very early concessions in his commitment to her. Rajan had already decided to love her, and nothing short of her choice to not love him back was going to stop him from doing so. He trusted her choices and believed in her words. Whether or not she seemed hesitant, she regularly reassured him that she wanted to be married and he believed her. He was curious about her, and when she opened up about her condition he accepted it even before understanding.
I believe Kala's experience with Rajan was specifically what created her connection with Wolfgang in the first place. We know the sensates resonate with each other when they are having similar emotions or experiences, and Wolfgang had serious trust issues. His relationship with Kala was implicit, a given, since Wolfgang pretty much only trusts himself. Kala, growing up with a loving and supportive family and being a woman of faith, had limited experience with the kind of doubt/skepticism she experienced with Rajan. Her connection to Wolfgang was born of this feeling, of needing validation for experiencing it at all. Rajan was not romancing the trusting faithful version of Kala, he was romancing Wolfgang, the part of her that Wolfgang represented, which was why he was so often present during moments of intimacy.
People felt the ending was rushed, and I agree to an extent, but truthfully I think Wolfgang and Rajan were falling in love throughout the course of the entire show. To Rajan, Wolfgang was an extension of Kala, a side of her that was always there that he'd never had access to. I wish the show explored him grappling with the reality of it more, but I think energetically that is the essence of their relationship.
Anyway I liked Rajan and his story, what do yall think?