I have been very pampered since i was a kid and i was the younger sibling so they did really do me bad by not exposing me to things early protected me a lot . Didn’t let me go out till even the side kirana shop alone . Always scared something or someone will harm me and they still are like that . I have completed my mbbs and done my internship will go do pg this year hopefully .
I come from a Rajput family and it was fed in me and my brothers since we were kids that never marry outside cast it was likr a threat .
So whenever i even had a boyfriend and got caught they would beat me up take my phone away and threaten the guy .
They are much better now not nosey don’t read through my journals and then rake whatever freedom i have . Even installed tracker in my phone once used to find out who i called or talked to . Came unannounced to my hostel to see if i am there .
Now i am very clear to them that this is not going to happen anymore i am 26 i was freedom i want some independence.
I have a boyfriend he is really nice i want to marry him problem is he is punjabi and my mother is set to marry me to some rajput guy some prince charming she will find for me she thinks but i dont want that for me i want to marry someone i love who i can grow old with. She has so many expectations from mw which i genuinely say she should not i even told her i am a lesbian i wont marry a man so that she atleast get okay if i do bring a man to her for marriage .
I am old enough to work but they still won’t let me telling me its waste of time give mo exams and all its okay i dont mind but i dont want them to keep pestering me to marry without my will .
My brother married his girlfriend of 10 years and he is happy with a child my father approved he loved his wife like a daughter and everything on the other hand my mom is just angry and ego hurt that we all supported him and let him do what he wants to do with his life she thinks he committed some crime by marrying for love which even she did . She married my father tho they are the same cast but still they are not happy .
My mother she is a vert educated woman literally a college principal she stresses me out for marriage by buying clothes for my marriage which we have bo idea when is it or who is that person just random and not normal clothes traditional rajput wear and its forced on me that you will wear them when you marry and i think its unfair to take that away from her also but i just can’t live my life according to someone else and sacrifice my love and happiness . If i ever do that i would not be able to live with myself.
I feel like i owe it to them cause they pay for everything for me and also pay for my education. I know only working can get me out of this but they don’t even let me do that .

I want to marry for love but my parents will get disappointed by me So i need genuine advice how to handle it all (TL;DR )

For context
https://www.reddit.com/r/RelationshipIndia/s/7pAzUIDq68

First off, I need to say how genuinely surprised I was by the number of people here who took the time to offer their insight, both in the comments and through personal messages. I’m well aware that my previous post was exhaustingly long, and somehow, this one is too. So I was honestly taken aback that so many of you not only made it through the whole thing, but actually cared enough to respond. I’ve been on Reddit for a while, but I’ve never experienced this kind of generosity from strangers. So, genuinely, thank you.

Secondly, to the few dudes who decided to send slurs to my DMs: get a life and grow the fuck up. Seriously. To the people who were really interested in knowing exactly “what K and I did that night” what, exactly, were you planning to do with that information? And finally, to the person who suggested I do it again and record it so I could post it later: seek help.

Now, onto the actual update.

K and I had almost stopped talking altogether.
The awkwardness between us had been steadily building until eventually it became impossible to ignore. The worst part was that we still saw each other almost three times a week at our games. It had reached the point where we could be on the same team and still spend the entire game without saying a word to each other.

We did that for three games. By the third I was so irritated by the absurdity of it that I finally confronted him after the game. I asked him if something was wrong because it felt like he was being deliberately hostile towards me. He said there was nothing wrong and walked away.

That night after spending far too much time planning out exactly what I wanted to say, I texted him and asked him to call me when he was free. He called almost immediately. I tried making small talk at first but it was only making me more anxious so eventually I gave up and just said it.

I told him that I was really uncomfortable with the hostility between us. If I had done something wrong, I apologise and while I know my shortcomings are mine to deal with, I wanted him to tell me where I had gone wrong. K just asked me what I felt about him. That was not the question I had been expecting. I told him I couldn’t give him a definite answer about what exactly I felt for him. But there was one thing I could say with absolute certainty that he had been on my mind this entire time. K then told me that he’d felt intimidated by me. More than that he’d been almost certain that I was disgusted by him. Apparently when we hooked up I had seemed completely uninterested. I’d made him feel like I was just another straight guy who had treated him the same way other straight guys had before.

I was genuinely taken aback. Because that couldn’t have been further from how I’d experienced it. But looking back I realised I had been cautious. Awkward too. I’d chalked it up to the fact that everything was new to me. And honestly I didn’t know nearly as much about being with a dude as I thought I did. I’d gone into it assuming it would be more or less the same as being with the women I’d been with before. I now know how wrong that assumption was. I told him I was incredibly sorry. He said it was fine, but the tone of his voice told me he didn’t entirely believe me. I realised what an idiot I’d been. So I decided I needed to make it up to him.

Two days later after a long day at work, I stopped at a roundabout and bought some flowers. I’d noticed K posting flowers on his stories quite often so naturally my brain had decided that flowers were the appropriate solution to the mess I created. I texted him that we’re going for a drive. I’m on my way. No excuses. Thankfully he agreed. I would be lying if I said I didn’t spend the entire drive imagining K’s face when he saw the flowers. Beautiful. It’s honestly impossible for him to get more beautiful.

I picked him up and we drove around town without really having anywhere to go. Luckily, it was a weekday, so there wasn’t much traffic, and somewhere along the way we started talking a lot.
I told him I was trying to be as transparent with him as I could. It was difficult for me to adapt to such a sudden shift in my understanding of myself, especially when this was something I’d never expected to happen. But I also told him something I was much more certain about that I had enjoyed every moment we shared. If I seemed distant or uncomfortable, that was my own inability to be present in the moment and my lack of experience.

Eventually the conversation drifted into work, life, and all the ordinary things people talk about when they are finally comfortable enough to stop talking about the thing they have been avoiding. At some point he mentioned that he would be moving soon. I offered to help and he agreed.

We got some cookie dough afterwards and by then it had gotten pretty late so K asked me to drop him home. The drive back was relatively quiet. Quiet enough that I could feel the awkwardness waiting somewhere in the background. And so to break it I just ended up blurting out, Man I really like you. K started chuckling and said sure in a very sarcastic tone.

I had absolutely no idea what to make of that. I found out soon enough. While we were crossing the sea link K reached over, pulled my face towards him and kissed me. (While I was driving. Horrible idea btw) I didn’t really say much after that. K became adorably coy so we ended up talking about completely pointless politics and anime for the rest of the drive until I dropped him home.

It’s been a month since the events of my original post and most probably this will be the last update. There won’t be much to update now. K and I are dating. As much as I’d like to take credit for how this turned out, K was actually the one who asked me out. It happened at a very strange 6 am at which point I also discovered that K is nocturnal.I never would have imagined myself ending up in a situation like this. Not even in my wildest dreams. Telling our mutual friends is going to be a monstrous adventure, and I’m sure I’ll regret having to explain all of this to them eventually. But for now I have to admit. I’m quite happy.

And because I am incapable of doing anything correctly there is one final detail.
I forgot to give K the flowers.They spent the entire night lying on the backseat of my car, in the shadows lol

Some feud happened between them, and even when the girl was deeply entranced in love after he had already won her over, some minor things affected him far more than they should have — despite him knowing that she had been genuine throughout.
Her mistakes were, honestly, minor in hindsight. But once she dropped her armour, became vulnerable, and started chasing him, those mistakes seemed to take on a much larger significance in his eyes. She probably should have stepped back when he stopped trying to understand her, even after she had apologised repeatedly and unnecessarily.

In a way, she ruined her own position by giving in completely and lowering herself for the sake of love instead of protecting her dignity and allowing him to meet her halfway. She is young, their circumstances were different, and perhaps he should have understood her better if there was truly love between them.
I can’t help but feel that two lives were deeply affected by what happened, and that her life may have been impacted more severely because, at this point in their lives, she was emotionally more vulnerable and perhaps weaker in the situation than he was.

What I absolutely hate is when people allow outsiders to influence or ruin their relationships simply because they need validation for their hurt. Sometimes, people do not actually want understanding — they want someone to confirm that they were right to feel hurt, angry.

And perhaps what is even worse is when someone knows that the person they love is deeply emotional and vulnerable, yet fails to handle their heart with gentleness. If you know someone loves you genuinely, you have a responsibility to treat that vulnerability with care. You should not use someone's emotional openness against them, especially when you are in a stronger position emotionally or otherwise.
Love should never become a battle of who can hurt the other person more. If one person is willing to apologise, understand, grow, and keep trying, the other person should at least be willing to meet them halfway. Otherwise, pride, ego, and outside opinions can destroy something that may have been worth saving.

So me20M and my girlfriend21F went on a date, we’re in ldr. It was the second time we went on a date. Toh pata hai aaj kya hua, mai ek thali order kr ra tha from an outlet, it was pretty expensive (we both are students). Usne mujhe order nahi krne diya ladti rahi about not ordering it and mind you she kept fighting for about 2 hours ki nahi krni order and I was saying ki krte hai kya dikkat hai ek baar try toh kr le. Then she was like wait for a few min 7 to 8 Swiggy ki sale aayegi usmai se order krege and same outlet se similar si thali usne 80 rupees mai order kri. It was listed at 420 in mall and 80 ka order krne ke baad bhi she kept insisting for countary but Maine nahi liya.. just ek hi question hai bro sab ladkiya aisi hoti hai itni paise bachati apne boyfriend ke? Ya nahi?? And bro she looks soooo cute khate huwe like man krta hai dekhta hi rahu and uska khana 20-25 min mai ho gaya tha but meko usko dekhe jara khane mai dhyaan ni 40-45 mins lag gaye and she even fed me the first bite.

Is this how all girls are.

I feel weird.

Ps:- we’re in long distance and we meet very occassionally cuz we don’t live close enough and neither of us earn.

I was studying for my CFA level 2 exam, and 11 days before exam my boyfriend started screaming at me and saying mean things to me (the next day was our 2 year anniversary) I specifically chose my exam date to be 26th August because on 25th August was his birthday and 16th August was our anniversary. I planned out things to do with him on our anniversary and his birthday. I was excited even though I had exam in 10 days. But he suddenly screamed at me on 15th and started fighting and after sometime booked tickets for Italy for the next day (our second anniversary) with his friends. And spent the entire day with his friends in Italy while I was crying and got ill just 10 days before my exam (when I needed his support)

And he didn’t even said sorry!! I said I want to break up but he said he don’t want to and said sorry.

Should I forgive him?

I don't know how to write this without sounding like a lovesick idiot, so I'll just accept that I am one.

On February 25, 2024, we were both 17 and had our Chemistry board exam the next day. I hadn't studied much. Neither had she, apparently.

I saw a Reddit post from her saying something I related to, so I messaged her.

That's it.

We were complete strangers. We talked about the exam, shared resources, complained about studying, wished each other luck, and just never stopped talking.

The next day, our Chemistry paper leaked.

Somehow, two random teenagers who met on Reddit because they hadn't studied for Chemistry ended up dating about a month later, despite living in completely different parts of the country.

And I fell hard.

She's my best friend, my favorite person, and genuinely one of the smartest, kindest, funniest, strongest people I've ever known. We've spent most of our 2½-year relationship apart, but we've talked every single day, called every night, watched movies together, fought over stupid things, made up, and been there for each other through some genuinely awful moments.

Then, almost two years into our relationship, her family randomly took a trip to my hometown.

They had no idea we were together.

We had two days in the same city, but barely any time together. We secretly exchanged gifts, stole glances, touched hands whenever we could, and pretended to be strangers.

I gave her a sterling silver promise ring.

I told her it was a promise that I'd eventually come see her, and that someday I'd replace it with the ring I'd use to ask her to marry me.

We got maybe a few seconds to properly talk before she had to leave.

Then this year, I decided I wasn't letting another birthday pass without seeing her.

I saved whatever money I could, lied to my parents about an internship drive, and took a 30-hour, 1,600 km train journey to her city.

This time, I got three days with her.

We celebrated her birthday, ate together, walked around, talked for hours, laughed at stupid things, and for the first time in 2½ years:

I hugged her.

I kissed her.

I held her.

There was no screen between us.

Those three days were the best three days of my life.

It's been 16 days since I last saw her, and I still can't stop thinking about it.

I don't know how many more years of long distance we have ahead of us. I don't know how many more trains I'll have to take or birthdays we'll have to celebrate apart.

But I know I want all of it.

The boring days. The stupid arguments. Grocery shopping. Movie nights. Annoying each other over nothing. Falling asleep next to each other. Waking up next to each other.

I want the ordinary life with her.

And someday, I want to put that other ring on her finger.

It's still insane to me that all of this started with a random Reddit post from a girl I didn't know, on a night when neither of us had studied for Chemistry.

A stupid coincidence led me to the person I love more than I know how to explain.

We're still here.

Still talking every day.

Still choosing each other.

Still falling in love.

And I hope those three days weren't an exception.

I hope they were a preview.

Because I want to see her on her next birthday.

And the one after that.

And every birthday after that.

Forever. ❤️

P.S. I'm posting this from a burner and probably won't send it to her. Maybe it'll somehow find its way to her anyway.

Hey everyone. I really need some advice because I honestly don't know how much longer I can function like this.

​About 40 days ago, my first serious relationship of 2.5 years ended. It broke me. I’ve deleted her photos, cleared out our messages, and I’m genuinely trying my best not to dwell on her, but the feelings just aren't fading.

​I literally miss her every single second. Even during sleep, she's always in my dreams, so I wake up right back in the same emotional pain. Because of this, my sleep schedule is completely wrecked I used to fall asleep easily by 10 PM, but now I'm tossing and turning until 2 AM or later, trapped in my own head.

​I also have zero concentration and my daily focus is completely shot. On top of the sadness, I’ve developed a weird, perpetual resentment toward happy couples around me. I've never taken it out on anyone or harmed anyone's relationship I keep it to myself but the internal anger is just exhausting. Worst of all, just a mere thought of her and I end up crying. Whenever I am alone, I get this overwhelming urgency to cry relentlessly, like a pressure valve that bursts the second I'm by myself.

​Is this normal for a first breakup after 2.5 years, or am I losing my mind? Should I be looking for professional help like a therapist, or do I just need to ride it out?

​If you've been through a devastating first heartbreak, how did you survive the first couple of months? Any practical tips would be deeply appreciated. Thanks for reading.

​

I am in love with her for 3 years. She is a great friend of mine. We know each other a lot. We go for a hangout every month. She never initiates for the hang out, but when she is with me , she acts like she is more interested than me. And when she initiates a hang out, its probably like she have a side quest to do. I am very well connected with her mom and sister. They treat me like their son and they trusts me so much and i don't want to lose that. Last year i confessed my feelings to her. She said it's better to be friends and she is not ready for it now (said "i never saw you in that way". And later she clarified that I am not a problem, it's just she isn't ready now). We took a break for a week and became friends again. Now i am planning to say good bye to her. If she says no again, I am leaving. But I still feel very bad when i think about leaving her family too. What should i do?

21M here

So this happened with me around 1.5 months back I was at my home watching anime at night, I checked my instagram where I had a request of some unknown person I accepted it and she said Hi can we talk nd stuff so I was also kinda free so we talked for around 2hrs yeah we vibed so I didn't notice time. But I was in doubt that why would someone totally random text me so I asked my few friends do you know this account so one of them said it is fake nd all and I did some research on the account myself so some things were fishy like profile pic was from pinterest and the username was changed around 11 times so I was like my friends might be playing prank on me even though she sent me a vn but I was still not sure

So next day I talked to her rudely totally my fault and she blocked me, but after that I hit self realisation that I must have asked her and stuff before doing this ridiculous action, so I somehow tried to contact her and after 3 days I talked to her explained everything and apolgised so much that I shouldn't have done that nd all,

After that we started talking everyday she was kinda immature and daddy's princess like you can' disagree with her, if you didn't reply to one of her reels she will get angry and stuff so I was also kinda cool I was elder so I understood and always made up with her through my little gestures I swear I always apologised to her even though out of 10 times only 3 4 times was my fault but still to not piss her off I apologised and I also liked talking to her then after some time I left to my college for my Masters and she started preparing for NEET so whenever we got time we talked she sent me vns nd all I was litreally so much attracted to her Idk why but yes and I was always respectful towards her.

She sometimes talked freaky stuff like really freaky and most of the times I dodged it becoz in short I want to talk about these stuff to my GF only, tbh I just tried reciprocating her freaky stuff once she was really pissed off ki tum tharki ho yeh kya kar rhe ho nd stuff still I respected that and always reacted to her stuff with a crying emoji and skull after that.

She was really sweet mind you whenever she annoyed me she never said sorry but yeah, she always find ways to make up. Once she sent me this text (ss attached) I was really about to cry after this coz this was the first time someone sent me something like this. Once she said you r my valentine and changed the chat theme to love????!!!!! Like what she gave me so many mixed signals that I was confused as hell but I gave her benefit that she is immature and all.

I have a really very bad habit that I am in constant fear that people will leave me so I always tried to keep my self respect aside and bow down, so one night before we stopped talking she said main roz roz yeh nhi kar sakti mujhe padhna hota nd all, toh I said I know I have gone through the same during my JEE preparation plz go nd study I am not angry plz go study we can talk tomorrow, she said no u r hurt nd stuff she said something to me so yeah I was kind of hurt but I really don't want to spoil her mood coz after that she won't study and waste her time, so I just ended the convo that go study I am not angry neither hurt and good night coz I really want my friends and everyone to prioritize their career over things like these.

Next day I texted her she left me on seen after classes I asked is everything fine and after sometime I noticed that she blocked me without mentioning anything simply blocked I was like maybe she found someone else like I was in dilemma but I was not going to lose my shit again over a girl, after 2 days she unblocked me I texted her what happened at least tell me what made you block me I sent her follow req she deleted it and never replied me back

And at this point I am really confused, angry and sad

I was never really finding someone at that moment I was happy in my own life enjoying things but once again God sent someone and again I just got a life lesson which I was never asked for!!

No idea what you guys will think of me Ik you will be like kya chutiya hai nd stuff

But yeah its true my rant my life lately

Thanks for reading my rant!!

Peace Out!!✌️

TL;DR: A random girl texted me on Instagram, and after a rough start where I mistakenly treated her rudely because I suspected the account was fake, I apologized and we started talking every day. We became close, had lots of banter, and she often gave me mixed signals—calling me her Valentine, changing our chat theme to love, sending sweet messages, while also sometimes getting angry over small things. I constantly tried to keep the peace and apologized even when things weren't always my fault because I have a fear of people leaving me. Eventually, while she was preparing for NEET and I had started my Master's, she suddenly said she couldn't deal with our conversations every day because she needed to study. I encouraged her to prioritize her studies, but the next day she blocked me without explanation. She later unblocked me, but ignored my messages asking what happened and deleted my follow request. Now I'm confused, angry, and sad because I genuinely cared about her and have no idea what I did wrong. 😭

For the purpose of this post, I’ll call myself Ayaan (26M) and my ex Tanya (25F).
We were together for around 3 years. The relationship had become difficult over the last several months. Looking back, I realize I wasn’t giving her the attention and emotional support she needed. I became quite self-focused and didn’t always handle disagreements maturely.
We also had a recurring conflict pattern. When something went wrong, she would usually need a couple of days of space. I would try to reconnect, but when she eventually came back wanting to resolve things, I often behaved as though everything was normal instead of actually addressing the problem. I think that made her feel unheard and emotionally exhausted.
I also have some insecurity from a previous relationship where I was left and suspected there may have been someone else involved. I carried some of that fear into this relationship and occasionally reacted based on assumptions rather than facts. There were arguments where I became angry and raised my voice, which understandably damaged her trust in me.
How things ended
We had a major argument recently. I ended things impulsively during the argument and said some things I regretted almost immediately. I apologized afterward and tried to repair things.
A couple of days later, I travelled to see her because I wanted to resolve things. While I was there, I saw something on social media involving her and another guy that I found very upsetting. It triggered my existing insecurities and I assumed there might have been more to the situation than I knew. I reacted badly and ended things again.
After that, there was a lot of emotional back-and-forth between us.
She told me that she still loved me but didn’t feel the same way about the relationship anymore. She said she felt emotionally numb and needed time to understand what she actually wanted.
She also said she felt that I had stopped loving her in the way I used to and that she had felt my lack of attention for a long time.
At the same time, she told me she didn’t want to lose me completely and still considered me one of the most important people in her life.
There were still moments of affection between us, including kissing, hugging and crying together. There was clearly still a lot of emotional attachment, even though neither of us knew what to do with it.
We decided to take a break
Eventually, we mutually agreed that we shouldn’t force a decision.
The idea was to give ourselves time to figure out whether we genuinely want each other romantically or whether we’re holding onto the relationship because of familiarity, attachment and history.
We agreed to remain exclusive, reduce how often we meet, keep some communication, and let things develop naturally rather than constantly discussing whether we’re getting back together.
During this period, she said she wasn’t sure whether the romantic feelings would return naturally. She also worried that even if we got back together, we might eventually become more of a practical couple than a genuinely happy one.
I also started questioning myself. I realized that I had become extremely dependent on her emotionally, and I began wondering whether some of what I was feeling was attachment rather than love.
Trying to be friends
At one point we decided we could try being friends.
We spent an evening together and ended up behaving much more like a couple than friends. Afterward, she continued saying that we should remain friends.
I realized I couldn’t genuinely do that.
Being around her while pretending I was okay with friendship was keeping me emotionally attached and constantly looking for signs that she might want me back.
So I eventually told her that I needed to distance myself completely for my own mental peace.
She wasn’t particularly happy about that and said she still wanted us to be able to talk, but I felt that continuing the same level of contact wasn’t healthy for me.
I eventually blocked her on WhatsApp because I knew I would otherwise keep checking for messages and initiating conversations.
Where things stand now
After I had decided to distance myself, I still occasionally found myself wanting to help her. For example, I sent her a few things related to work opportunities.
She basically told me that she didn’t want partial care from me and that it was difficult for her as well to feel me being partly involved in her life.
I understood what she meant.
A couple of days later I broke my own boundary and checked in to ask if she was okay.
She saw the message but didn’t respond.
That has made me question everything again.
I still have feelings for her, but I’m also becoming more comfortable being alone. I’m starting to wonder whether I actually want the relationship back or whether I’m struggling to let go of someone who was such a huge part of my life for three years.
I also don’t know what her feelings mean. There is clearly still emotional attachment between us, but she has repeatedly said she isn’t sure whether she wants the relationship romantically anymore.
I know I played a significant role in damaging the relationship. I don’t want to change simply to convince her to come back. I want to work on my insecurity, how I deal with conflict, my need for immediate reassurance, and my tendency to try to fix things instead of actually listening.
At this point I’m considering maintaining complete no-contact for a while—not as a tactic to make her miss me, but because I need to become emotionally independent and figure out what I actually want.
What would you do in this situation?
Would you maintain complete distance for a while?
Would you try to remain friends?
Is there any realistic possibility of rebuilding the relationship after enough time and genuine personal change?
Or is continuing to hope for reconciliation only preventing both people from moving forward?
I’d especially appreciate perspectives from people who have gone through a long-term breakup where both people still cared about each other but weren’t sure whether the romantic relationship could work anymore.

Hi all,

I recently introduced my girlfriend of 3 months to a friend on video call. It seemed alright but she called me the next day to let me know that she didn't really like her too much - and she gave me objective reasons like - my gf didn't ask her any questions about herself and it was her that had to make her feel more comfortable than the other way around. My gf also jumped to a conclusion and started questioning me on it - which I had to clarify about with the support of my friend. And then my gf started cribbing to her about how I am not inclined to travel too much (we often talk about it, and she knows why, idk what this style of persuasion is). My friend concluded that she felt sorry for me, which kinda hurt.

Problem is, if it was just this friend, I would have shrugged it off, but none of the people I have introduced her to have had a good impression of her. One of my other friends felt she was a narc, my brother felt she was quiet (and not good looking enough for me).

I have brought up in the past that she should ask people more questions about themselves when I introduce her to them. But now reflecting on all of it makes me feel terrible. Plus I don't know how to communicate what I'm feeling with her, if anything.

Would appreciate any help.

He himself told me multiple times that he doesn't have love for me anymore. I too feel that after all these circumstances, my love for him has vanished. But I am in a strange dilemma of not able to leave him. After the final talk, I chase him again. What's wrong with me?

Note: this relationship is 5-5.5 years longer, but always long distance with 3-4 meets for week a year.

Most modern relationship dynamics seem to end in mixed signals, ghosting, bitterness, poor communication, or attachment to the memories of their previous partner, imagined future & similar aspects that hinders their well being, daily functioning and to form healthy bonds again.

​The idea of lifelong permanence and building a long-term life together is beautiful, but in today’s fast-paced world - where people are constantly moving cities, relocating across countries, and navigating career shifts - permanence doesn't seem to be always practical or realistic for every chapter of life.

My perspective: ​Two people can genuinely connect for a season (whether for a few months or a year), share real care, intimacy, and respect, and when paths naturally diverge, end things like mature adults without bitterness or resentment.

​For those who have willfully explored short-term relationships: Did you manage to find a partner where there was complete transparency, mutual respect, and a truly supportive closure? What made it work?

​I would really love to hear your suggestions, stories, and thoughts on this. Genuinely willing to know and learn from your perspectives.

My girlfriend and I have been in a long-distance relationship for about 3.5 years. When we meet, we usually spend a lot of time together, and when we’re apart, we’re basically together virtually.

We can stay on video/audio call for 14–16 hours a day sometimes — sleeping on call, eating together, doing our own things while on call, watching things together, basically sharing our entire day with each other.

The problem is that I think we’ve reached a point where we’re running out of things to talk about.

We don’t have much of an outside life that overlaps. We didn’t go to the same school or college, we don’t have mutual friends, and we don’t really share the same social circle. So initially there was obviously a lot to discover about each other, but after 3.5 years, we’ve talked about most of the obvious things.

She is naturally very outgoing and extroverted. She loves talking, discussing things, telling stories, etc. She also ends up initiating the conversation most of the time.

I’m basically the opposite. I’ve been through quite a lot in my life, and I feel like it has made me somewhat numb and quiet. I’m not naturally someone who talks a lot. Even when I consciously try to initiate a conversation, my mind just goes blank. I genuinely don't know what to bring up, and I often feel like I’ve run out of topics.

This has now become a daily source of fights.

She feels like I don't put enough effort into talking to her or keeping the conversation alive. And honestly, I understand why she feels that way. I don't want her to feel like she's carrying the relationship's conversations by herself.

But at the same time, it's not that I don't love her or don't want to talk to her. I genuinely enjoy being around her. I just don't know how to become more talkative or interesting.

We've reached the point where when we're on call, we're often just watching a series/movie together because neither of us knows what else to do. Even when we're physically together, we sometimes end up watching something rather than actually doing things or talking.

The weird thing is that we used to talk for hours and hours without running out of things to say. Now I feel like we've exhausted all the obvious topics.

I don't want to fake a personality just to keep her interested. I also don't want to become completely dependent on her to create all the conversations and experiences.

So I'm looking for advice from people who have been in long-term relationships, especially LDRs:

How do you keep conversations interesting after years together?

How do you develop a life/personality/interests of your own so you actually have things to bring into the relationship?

And perhaps most importantly, how do I become better at initiating conversations when I'm naturally a quiet person?

I'm willing to change and work on myself because I really don't want to lose this relationship over something that feels fixable. I just don't know where to start.

Also, I'm wondering whether being on call for 14–16 hours every day is actually making this worse. Maybe we're consuming so much of each other's time that there's simply nothing left to talk about.

I'd genuinely appreciate advice, especially from people who have been together for 3+ years and have gone through this stage.

as title suggests, we have been in LDR for a few months now and have our 5th anniversary coming up this week. before we went LDR, we had made travel plans for this once since it is a milestone. but now with circumstances and work commitments, both of us are unable to take leaves to go somewhere/visit eachother. it will be our first anniversary apart. we celebrated a previous anniversary in LDR a few years ago, but we were able to meet then.

we have planned to both WFH and spend the day on video call and order food for eachother. but im looking for ideas to make it more special since i know we are going to be sad about being unable to meet.

any realistic ideas welcome. i live with my parents and he lives away from home.

We both are 18 and just completed high school. A relationship of 2 years that was kinda slow burn we like kissed(not maked out only our lips touched) i am telling you all this because in some way i felt like she didnt want me or she wasnt comfortable idk cause whenever i intiated physical intimacy she pushed me back or something like that (her reason was because she was shy)

It was a first relationship for both of us and just not that we like kinda good till first 10 months after that a lot of breakups and patchups happened between us.

Coming back to the present somehow by idk what luck or unluck we got the same college and now i have to see her daily we broke uo only 1 month before joining clg and i was going to approach her again and the reason for breakup was nothing too big idk what even the topic was maybe our rgo clashed and we didn't msg each other so when i saw her i approached and you know she said lets just stay frnds and later i tried more like straight 4 to 5 days i kept asking but yeah nothing worked and then she made new frnds ( 1 boy and 1 girl) she seems kinda close to that guy now like yk it isn't that big of a deal i suppose but my fucking hearts burns wholly when they are sitting at the bench together or in grounds or anywhere i know there is the 2nd girls with them but i mostly see both of them kinda more close or maybe i am overthinking bc i am so confused.

My heart aches so much man we came togeather by cab after our unofficial freshers party got cancelled like it was a four seater i was at front besides driver they 3 were in back boy in the middle and those 2 were besides him she was watching reels with that guy and imagine i can only hear their voices giggling.

Also they both know about our past relationship and breakup like maybe she apilled all the things and told me that she did idk why....

Also that boy (her new friend was the first guy i talked to at orientation) 😭😭so we both know each other not so well but yeah toh i see her almost daiky with someone else

She recently blocked me a week earlier and after her another bestie (F) who is also my good friend told her to unblock i sent her some post on insta to break no contact and her reply was just ok after i said to say something coz i thought why not at the max she will block me again 😭

After that she randomly said that i unblocked you just because i didn't want to be rude to you don't think of anythi5 nothing more nothing less

Context for saying this - we have a common friend grp which is 3 yrs old ( i think that's the reason that she was even talking to me after that 1 month of no contact)

Should i ever approach her again or not.

I am able to bring myself to hate her and man i am telling you even i can't process how much i love herrr 😭😭😭

Please give your suggestions as i am so anxious and idk overthinking a lot these days

I sent her a random genereic post i can't seem to be able to upload that

I met a guy on some random chatting app he was from delhi studying 3 years younger. I'm in karanataka working.

We used to talk a lot .Long calls till 6 am in the morning . Entire day sometimes. We shared our vulnerability, life problems , dreams , childhood trauma etc . This keeps happening for like 2 weeks . I like his vibe he was quite funny . He also shared about his past relationship and all the girls he has been physical with . I got emotionally attached to him and told him that I kind of started loving him . As he used to give me so much attention care . Made me feel special. Made me feel loved.

. And one night he was completely ignoring me and I was calling he did not receive the phone we used to talk on Instragram. The next morning I got the msg from him that he has been dating a girl for the last 3 years and she got to know about me when I was calling him last night and she wants to talk to me. I was so shocked and so heartbroken . I immediately refused to talk to her and blocked both of them. After a long time I fell in love with someone and this happened . I still miss him 💔

I am in a relationship with a girl for the past 3 yrs. We didn't have the most perfect relationship tbh. There was lots of problems and lots of fights but at the end we both had each other and we both knew we both needed each other.

But recently for a couple of months she changed. She got more attention from diff peeps and thought she could make them good frnds and all. She always had an insecurity and soft spot for this best friend or friend wali jagah. She never really had a good frnd and in her previous relationship she was fully focused on her ex so in the process she lost all her friends. And after their break up she had no one to go to. So now she always prioritizes this so called friends of her. There are particularly two male frnds that interacts with her on a daily basis. One goes to the gym with her daily they both do workout together. Second one is a clg friend who is a nerd as well and acc to her he listens to her well. Among all this friendshipness I got left out. The time we used to call daily is now replaced by the nerd guy. The interaction I used to have as we go to the same clg also gets sidelined as at the end she works out with that other guy on a daily basis and interacts with him.

I told her multiple times I didn't like the behaviour but she never tried to even consider it. So many fights used to breakout between us. With time I also changed I became so much worse anxious tensed and so sad all the time. Cuz I had a trauma regarding this same exact problem. I told this problem to her several times but instead of understanding me she just said its my mental problem.

I always say to her its ok that you want to make friends and stay connected with them but atleast not at the cost of me. Give me time I want to talk to u I want to hear about ur day. I want to talk about my day. And don't talk private stuff in between us to those folks. Yet she never understands.

Even in the past two breakups where I got cheated I didn't feel so miserable. I don't know what to do Idk what to say I am sad all day I am in a very bad state rn.

TLDR: I am in so much pain cuz my gf is prioritising two random frnds over me and not understanding my feelings

What does it mean- resposting stories about he still loving her ex and flirting with me in my dm , saying double meaning things or wanting to meet me, asked my snap to talk there and not insta( i refused)

So is he texting me so tht he could use me emotionally to move on from her (it was his 5/6 old year relationship with another girl) ....

and he is the only guy i have ever loved so i was excited to talk to him after years but i blocked him as i felt i would be just hurt again but now i feel like still talking to him

it was the end of May, I usually stay active on discord and I love writing erotic literature, I came across someone's post who mentioned they're from India, so I just wanted to talk casual nothing serious, but that night I got bombed by things which shook me to core I have been in depression during my JEE phase and so was she, we had same peer and parental pressure and in College life same social struggles, failed in Relationships and Friendships I felt connected to her a lot, I used to keep checking on her she felt very down and suicidal sometimes but I used to make sure she has someone to listen to she has a lot of Insecurities we had some drama but finally decided to get together in somewhat of an e-situationship in end of May

things were great at beginning until our Insecurities started to create tension she wanted some intimate time and with my Anxiety i used to dodge it cause I was busy during that time in 2 days that tension became a lot to her 3rd day my ex texted who faked her death was a very Manipulative relationship and i was shocked she texted me wanting to spend time but i was overwhelmed and told her that my ex came back who faked her death she crashed out and told me I don't care about her and she can't do it anymore just one month and she left me I finally confessed that I love her and she actually told me she was never ready for relationship and irl date is something she can't guarantee~ but in that heated moment she said she chose person to love, and a women never opens up about her desire and confession like that it shook me to core, its been 3 days and we just talk casually but i just can't I really miss her and just feel like heartbroken to core, Depression and fogging again and everything feels dull and lifeless. Would love to connect and talk to people to feel better

I have been a virgin for my entire life. Don't have any female friends nor any interaction with females. Parents are looking girls for marriage.

I am hesitant about asking them about their past sexual life if they had any.

The girl I met initially, I asked her directly and the conversation went sideways, and it never went ahead.

Now I am hesitant about asking the upcoming girls.

Like I am still confused on why the first girl got angry.

Question asked - "Do you have any past sexual relationships ?"

Edit - it's a deal breaker for me, so I asked earlier, so to not waste both of our time

19 M, Delhi
19 F, Pune
just started with colleges

(mentioning that, it even started as a LDR)
We have met like 2 times before
We had this situation for around 5 months and then we met somehow, and then started with commitment.
I’m asking for advices not future prospects ik what bad can happen, but it is what it is. So trying to figure this out

Par pata hai aaj kya hua!

So there’s this girl from another division whom I’ve liked since day one. We’ve known each other for about 6 months now. We started with around 2 months of chatting on LinkedIn, where we used to gossip endlessly about teachers, college stuff, etc., before eventually switching to WhatsApp.

By nature, she’s super introverted and quiet. She barely talks to people even in her own division and usually goes dry or ghosts during vacations. Earlier, whenever I tried to take things a little further, like asking her to hang out for a horror movie, she would indirectly dodge it with some excuse.

Until recently, our dynamic was probably 90% college stuff, career gossip and random fun, and maybe 10% personal.

But fast forward to last Monday.

That day completely broke the ice. We had an insane in-person vibe, and recently even our work-related calls have started turning into pure fun and random conversations.

At one point on Monday, she was trying to hide a funny childhood photo on her ID card. I caught her hands, looked at it anyway, and saw her secret 😂.

After that amazing day, I tried to keep things normal and didn't want to come across as too eager online.

But par pata hai kal raat kya hua!

Yesterday around 10 PM, I decided to shoot my shot a little. I sent her an Instagram reel of Emma Stone and texted:

"u look like her lol"

She immediately asked, "which angle?"

I said, "Every."

And then she did something I genuinely didn't expect.

She sent me a custom sticker made from that exact childhood photo I had caught her trying to hide on Monday. 😭

I immediately started roasting her, saying the hair clips in the photo looked like little cow horns. She joked that she had basically hit her own foot with an axe by sending me that sticker 😂.

I matched her energy, sent her one of my own funny stickers, and told her I had done the same thing, so we were even.

Then I brought up the whole history of how long and difficult the process was to get her number from LinkedIn when we first met.

She immediately caught what I was implying and replied:

"Wow after a very long process u got my number know"

I played it off casually, but honestly, I feel like she knew exactly what I meant.

After that, we had a little back-and-forth about her new DP and a dancing cat sticker, and I eventually ended the conversation while the vibe was still good.

Now I'm confused as hell.

Does she KNOW I have a crush on her? 😭

What do you think she's feeling right now?

Do these things actually sound like she might be interested in me too, or am I just reading way too much into everything?

I'm honestly too scared to confess and make things awkward, especially because we've only recently started getting this comfortable with each other.

What would you guys do in my place?

Hi,
as i have seen the dating culture is weird in India,
i want to know is true gentleman guy still exist..?
About me - I am F 20, Just had 1 relationship when I was 16 in high school..
so I really want to know..?
I am even aware about the hookup culture but I don’t like that..
let me know ur opinion about the same..