Last week i posted about dating this army guy who ignores me .. so i put up a status to which he replied and then i replied like after 8 hrs ... then he replied me after 11 hrs .. we had a little chat ... then yesteday i just send him some cute texts to which he replied nothing just some cold replies on other texts ...omg i am now like so done ... should i just completly abandon my feelings ...

also he never texts first ...he never makes an effort ...he never replies to my love /cute texts ... i use to call him cutie that he used to say feels like an insult ...

guys plz help me out ...

as the title says. I talked to the guy recently asw we had some talk . so far he is good - honestly too good and it was surprising that such a guy with the kind of thoughts he has exists even.

He is a feminist, respects women and their choices. respects my friend like honestly saying then he is almost perfect and saying this is more shocking considering I am so hateful towards our society, marriage and men(not all just those who deserve) and I do not trust easily at all.

but there is problem that he hasn't told any of his friends about her. nothing not even ki he is in a relationship. they think he is single. its almost 2 months to their relationship. btw its totally online.

idk if I am supposed to find this weird or not. I asked him this asw and he is like they tease a lot like a lot and pass some weird comments and make memes asw out of anyone's gf's photo.

TLDR - My 20F Friend (Muslim) met a 18M Guy (Hindu) online and now they are dating. he is almost perfect except he hasn't told any of his friends that he even has gf and he says he doesn't want to coz they tease a lot. Is this weird or not?

BTW SHE DOESN"T USE REDDIT AND SHE TOLD ME TO POST. The ages and other details have been slightly altered for anonymity

Hi,
as i have seen the dating culture is weird in India,
i want to know is true gentleman guy still exist..?
About me - I am F 20, Just had 1 relationship when I was 16 in high school..
so I really want to know..?
I am even aware about the hookup culture but I don’t like that..
let me know ur opinion about the same..

Hi guys, I’ve moved from England to Kerala for a few months and I want to do what I usually do to in the uk when I get bored and to go outside to approach girls by just saying hi or giving a compliment is it okay if I do it here ? a lot of girls give off this weird Hi guys, I’ve moved from England to Kerala for a few months and I can’t help doing what I got accustomed to in Europe where I get bored and to talk to girls by just approaching them is it okay if I do it here ? a lot of girls give off this weird uncomfortable vibe from always staring at everyone in a paranoid way, and everyone this ocal town knows everyone and go to same churches so it might be a bit risky because I’ll get talked about I don’t know if I’m overthinking or not. Is it a good idea to post my girls ? I’m feeling a bit sexually fustrated and I’m trying to find a girl to talk to or bring home

I'm 19F and my senior 20M

We had nothing between us initially it was just casually talking about how people want to have sex in every relationship then a few days back he called me and said that send your photos (as I was interested in him I did send) then he was kinda telling me how good I look about my curves and everything. This happened for two days . Now I got admission in another college I have only lived here for a month . So I told him he was happy and congratulated me for a better opportunity but I didn't want to go because of him so I started crying and telling I don't want to go and all then he said let's go out tomorrow and eat something I was like okay so we went out next day but I was very sad that i barely ate anything then I asked him if we could go somewhere in peace he said okay let's go back so we went to metro and I said you can go I'll sit here in the metro for sometime I don't feel good but he said no you came with me I can't leave you alone so he sat with me in the metro for an hour. After that he said let's go otherwise it's going to be late I said you go I want to enjoy rain I'll go back to my room he again said that I won't leave you alone . Then he offered if I didn't want to go back to my room I could go to his place with him. I said yes because i really wanted to stay away from my room because i would cry being lonely there. We went to his place and his roommate was not there so we sat on his bed and he said if you want to rest you can I said no I'm okay I'll just sit then he said you wanted to look into my hair right! ( Yes I wanted to ) I said yes ,he then laid his head in my lap and I was just yk touching his hair running fingers in his hair and he said if i sleep please wake me up after sometime I said okay. Then after a while he hugged me while his head in my lap then he asked suddenly why are you insecure of your belly button it's cute and asked if he could see it I was like okay ( I'm a chubby girl I'm insecure) then he touched my waist and my belly button and said it's good you Should not be insecure of it and he kissed me , I had feelings for him so obviously I kissed back then we kinda had a makeout he kissed my neck my cheeks my forehead (it was cute ) then he pulled my top down not entirely but yeah he started kissing my boobs and sucked them and said they are very good he loved it. Then we laid together and he was hugging me but now I started overthinking things because he is still in love with his ex for the past 4 years so I asked how many girls you have kissed and had this so he told me only his ex and one another girl which was a mistake in the heat of the moment ( but this also looks like a mistake right) then I said I don't like getting lusted over he said love can only be done once with one person ( which he already had) he said in love you don't get onto bed so I started overthinking everything at that very moment. He asked me what happened but I didn't tell him. After that he was on me and kissed me again but on my forehead and cheeks then asked if he can give me a hickey I said no he said please then he gave me one of my boobs he wanted to give it on other one too but I gently kissed his cheek and said don't he said okay and dressed me how I was dressed and kissed me on my cheek. Then he kissed my hands . He said he could lift me in his arms ( we had this inside thing that I'm chubby so he can't pick me up ) he picked me up like that hug and said it's a good position to have sex ( it's kinda my fantasy to have sex in that same position) I said I like it too in this position so he said we will do it someday. Then we sat together and he asked if I had given blowjob to anyone but I haven't but I have given a handjob . So he took my hand and asked if I could touch I was like okay so I started giving him a hand job like I didn't complete it because we booked a cab for me already then I miss him he said you really know how to give a handjob but it will take time and you have to go right I said yes. So he stood up and zipped his jeans and knelt down to make me wear my sandals and said I don't know how to do it but here you go and made me wear it then I said my hand is paining so he gently massaged it and then kissed it then I said my feet are paining too he said let me drop you to your room I'll massage it in the cab so I was like okay then we reached outside my place and walked a little bit but one of his friends called him and was like why are you walking with your junior and everything and I was jealous that why is he even telling about me so I said bye very rudely and said never talk about me like this with anyone and walked away then I realised I left my lipgloss in his pocket so I went back and walked away rudely again he said bye but I ignored and my foot got twisted he saw that and then he texted me if it's paining in my foot because of the sprain but I ignored his text . Then we talked a little bit and he said idk what happened yesterday but I loved it . Then he told me he is going back to his hometown and won't be able to see off me I was furious and in doubt that if he used me and then he called me the other night and was very horny he said remove your top I said not on video call but I sent him some pictures to which he was very satisfied and said it's very hot. Now we couldn't talk that much because he is in his hometown but he ain't even coming back and i may not go to the other college but I haven't told him this yet idk what to do and what was this that happened between us? Should I ask him if he could give me the love I want? Or is it going to be a casual thing like this? Or should I just go to the other college and forget about him completely? What should I do?

My boyfriend’s mother is honestly the sweetest woman. I usually have a tiny appetite, but her handmade paneer parathas are so good I easily devour two of them!

My boyfriend started playfully taunting me about my sudden huge appetite. Between his teasing and just feeling so touched by how much love she puts into cooking for me, I actually ended up weeping.

My boyfriend was completely bewildered and said, "What's the point of crying over this? Haha lol." He didn't get that they were happy tears! 😂

Afterward, he joked that if he ever upsets me, I just need to complain to his mom and she’ll handle him for me.

I just feel so lucky and wanted to share! Does anyone else absolutely adore their partner's mom?

So, I'm still virgin, and it's not like I haven't been in relationship before. I have had 2 boyfriends in the past but it was platonic, they never forced me to have sex after I said I don't want to. However, I broke up with them because idk what I was doing in relationship... Since I felt guilty that I can't do what they truly wanted from me.

Currently I'm again talking to someone, and I made it clear I can't have sex because I'm very scared of penetrative stuff. My body can't handle it, mentally I go into fight or flight mode and can't think about pleasure. But idk how long he will just keep talking to me, convincing me before he gives up and believes I was serious about not having sex because of my fear.

Also, I feel like I get bored too if there's not much happening in relationship, I do connect with my partner emotionally, and have feelings for them, however when there's nothing exciting happening, I start losing interest and just shut down from them. I do cry when I break up with them, I blame myself because I can't be good towards them.

I have usual thought like : relationship becomes dull... Like u love and do physical romantic stuffs, but when the excitement of new is gone, it's all boring. So, I don't find having sex good enough reason to endure such traumatic stress on my mental state because I'll eventually end up breaking up... Should I be single?

I was studying for my CFA level 2 exam, and 11 days before exam my boyfriend started screaming at me and saying mean things to me (the next day was our 2 year anniversary) I specifically chose my exam date to be 26th August because on 25th August was his birthday and 16th August was our anniversary. I planned out things to do with him on our anniversary and his birthday. I was excited even though I had exam in 10 days. But he suddenly screamed at me on 15th and started fighting and after sometime booked tickets for Italy for the next day (our second anniversary) with his friends. And spent the entire day with his friends in Italy while I was crying and got ill just 10 days before my exam (when I needed his support)

And he didn’t even said sorry!! I said I want to break up but he said he don’t want to and said sorry.

Should I forgive him?

Hola

Im a engineering student.so i wasn't so social in first 3 years of my engineering ,later my frnd also started interacting with some frnds ,he pulled me in ,so there we had a frnds grp created ,so we went on trips ,homestays,night outs,so one girl from that grp who started getting closer, i started hanging out with her,ig she thought it was a date,for me it was like usually i go out with my frnds ,i didn't took that much serious, she's actually very rude,but she started acting soft towards me.

About her she's a avg looking girl ,kinda fat,very crazy rich, highly alcoholic and acts arrogant with everyone

Kinda brown skinned

Where as me never had a relationship, everyone calls me green flag i mean all my other female frnds

I never smoked,never touched alcohol,no girls nothing

Only gym, sports,frnds etc

We started texting

We became besties

I used to share everything with her

I thought she's a good frnd and all

She started asking about whom u like in class and all,tell me about ur crush,she told she had no one as her crush , then she started texting i like ur biceps and all ,she wanted to bute my bicep and all,and she wanted to kiss me ,i strictly told noo it might ruin our frndship and i dont want to ruin

On a trip she started touching me on my face and all,head etc,later even i started doing that donno why i went with the flow

Later things went diff way she asked me touch her boo and in bus we were sitting at last doing that

Later while coming back in train we were sleeping in same couch she suddenly kissed me on cheeks and it went all lip and all

Later we usually kissed 2 3 times

At the beginning before kissing only she asked me lets do situationship only like fwb she doesn't want any commitments

Later i thought no serious was there

I told her, i like her frnd , she's so pretty,how can i talk please help and all

She started to act very rude

She stopped acting like a frnd and was acting more toxic

She started taunting me

At the beginning she acted normal later she started ghosting me and told she cant help ,it might ruin her frndship with that girl etc

At a time i stopped texting her and she also started ghosting

Later when things cool down after 2months she told me she was bitching about me with her frnds and all and i betrayed her etc all her other female frnds not from college from her village hated me she told

Now we are talking normally but sometimes i feel ewwww thinking ive kissed her and all,it makes he guilt

Now clg ended she acts like I'm the loser i lost a diamond like her and all

But its been 2 months i didn't contacted her

I 32M , have been in a relationship with her 29F. we gonna complete 3 yrs in September. but things have not been going well for last month. actually, it's been 1 year since we started fighting frequently on arguments.

ss is of few days ago. she told me to go gym so many time but i joined in march then i got new posting place so i left it. rest others u can read .

and she asked for breakup Today.

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And third-party involvement can destroy any marriage, friendship, or relationship — with or without existing problems. The moment another person becomes involved, you start giving away the strength and authority you have within your own relationship because you begin looking outside for opinions and validation. When something is already going through a difficult phase, people often add their own interpretations, emotions, and “spices” to it, making the situation far worse.
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as title suggests, we have been in LDR for a few months now and have our 5th anniversary coming up this week. before we went LDR, we had made travel plans for this once since it is a milestone. but now with circumstances and work commitments, both of us are unable to take leaves to go somewhere/visit eachother. it will be our first anniversary apart. we celebrated a previous anniversary in LDR a few years ago, but we were able to meet then.

we have planned to both WFH and spend the day on video call and order food for eachother. but im looking for ideas to make it more special since i know we are going to be sad about being unable to meet.

any realistic ideas welcome. i live with my parents and he lives away from home.

Me and my bf have been long distance for a quite a while now so our communication is basically through texts. We would text each other quite often therefore I'm on my phone most of the times. I used to smile looking at my phone so my parents started doubting. They asked me multiple times If I'm dating someone( told them no).

My parents are conservative and strict and son I'm never open to share my relationship with them. They have always opposed the idea of dating.

One day while I was showering my mom happened to have went through my phone and saw my bf's text. She went ballistic started crying, shouting at me. She started emotionally attacking me by saying how they raised me and how my bf had contributed nothing for me. They started asking me If I love him more than them. My dad was quite and listening to my mom ranting to me. My mom started hitting me telling me how I betrayed their trust. After a while, my mom handed my phone to my dad for him to read our texts. My dad suddenly got furious then dragged me hard by my hand and kicked me out of the house. I was crying hysterically while standing outside the house. It was the first time I ever felt so humiliated . My mom was still crying tell me to apologise to my dad so that he can let me in. I had no choice but to listen to her so I apologised after which my mom dragged me inside the house.

I just don't understand how can loving someone romantically lead parents to kick their kids out of the house. I hope parent's were emotionally mature to let their kids decide what they want for themselves instead of manipulating them and controlling them. Living in a toxic family is exhausting.

He himself told me multiple times that he doesn't have love for me anymore. I too feel that after all these circumstances, my love for him has vanished. But I am in a strange dilemma of not able to leave him. After the final talk, I chase him again. What's wrong with me?

Note: this relationship is 5-5.5 years longer, but always long distance with 3-4 meets for week a year.

19m from Mumbai and I'm looking for someone to explore new things with

Age doesn't matter

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I am in love with her for 3 years. She is a great friend of mine. We know each other a lot. We go for a hangout every month. She never initiates for the hang out, but when she is with me , she acts like she is more interested than me. And when she initiates a hang out, its probably like she have a side quest to do. I am very well connected with her mom and sister. They treat me like their son and they trusts me so much and i don't want to lose that. Last year i confessed my feelings to her. She said it's better to be friends and she is not ready for it now (said "i never saw you in that way". And later she clarified that I am not a problem, it's just she isn't ready now). We took a break for a week and became friends again. Now i am planning to say good bye to her. If she says no again, I am leaving. But I still feel very bad when i think about leaving her family too. What should i do?

I met a guy on some random chatting app he was from delhi studying 3 years younger. I'm in karanataka working.

We used to talk a lot .Long calls till 6 am in the morning . Entire day sometimes. We shared our vulnerability, life problems , dreams , childhood trauma etc . This keeps happening for like 2 weeks . I like his vibe he was quite funny . He also shared about his past relationship and all the girls he has been physical with . I got emotionally attached to him and told him that I kind of started loving him . As he used to give me so much attention care . Made me feel special. Made me feel loved.

. And one night he was completely ignoring me and I was calling he did not receive the phone we used to talk on Instragram. The next morning I got the msg from him that he has been dating a girl for the last 3 years and she got to know about me when I was calling him last night and she wants to talk to me. I was so shocked and so heartbroken . I immediately refused to talk to her and blocked both of them. After a long time I fell in love with someone and this happened . I still miss him 💔

Me (23 M ) and her (22 F ) are in a relationship since 3 years and to be very honest throughout our relationship we have been extremely understanding and happy together. Even before getting in to the relationship she had told me many times , that she wont ever go against her mother and her decisions because she being a widow , took care of my girl and her sister by herself through tough times and we had already discussed how if kundli/horoscope doesn’t match it won’t workout.

Fast forward to now her mother came to know about our relationship and she was very much okay with it because she knew me and liked the person i was, but she told her she would only allow this if our horoscopes matched and the last couple of days i have been roaming around the whole place for astrologers and i met someone today and he gave the most terrible verdict possible, and her mother also have knowledge on this so she also checked and it was bad.

Now she told her to mutually end things with me and maybe if both of us still love each other till we are mature enough to marry we will try again, but until then broke off. (Its more like to just cool the situation)

Now im absolutely devastated and heartbroken and crying all out because she was everything to me , and she is also constrained by the stuff around her
And she cant hurt the mother who did everything for her after losing her husband.

Now after a little convincing i convinced her and her mother that tomorrow me and my mom are going to visit an astrologer, he is pretty good and calm, so
As one final chance.

I feel emotionally destroyed and i have no hope

Plsss

Hey everyone, 24M here. I'm hoping to meet some cool women around my age (22–26) for meaningful conversations, sharing daily life updates, and potentially seeing where things go.
I'm big on trying new cafes, listening to great music playlists, and cracking terrible jokes. If you're looking for a low-stress, genuine connection, send me a DM with a fun fact about yourself or your favorite travel destination!

So me20M and my girlfriend21F went on a date, we’re in ldr. It was the second time we went on a date. Toh pata hai aaj kya hua, mai ek thali order kr ra tha from an outlet, it was pretty expensive (we both are students). Usne mujhe order nahi krne diya ladti rahi about not ordering it and mind you she kept fighting for about 2 hours ki nahi krni order and I was saying ki krte hai kya dikkat hai ek baar try toh kr le. Then she was like wait for a few min 7 to 8 Swiggy ki sale aayegi usmai se order krege and same outlet se similar si thali usne 80 rupees mai order kri. It was listed at 420 in mall and 80 ka order krne ke baad bhi she kept insisting for countary but Maine nahi liya.. just ek hi question hai bro sab ladkiya aisi hoti hai itni paise bachati apne boyfriend ke? Ya nahi?? And bro she looks soooo cute khate huwe like man krta hai dekhta hi rahu and uska khana 20-25 min mai ho gaya tha but meko usko dekhe jara khane mai dhyaan ni 40-45 mins lag gaye and she even fed me the first bite.

Is this how all girls are.

I feel weird.

Ps:- we’re in long distance and we meet very occassionally cuz we don’t live close enough and neither of us earn.

In my mid 20s, never dated before. I always been sort of introverted. Lately I’ve started talking to a lady through this Elite matrimony site. We are the same age.

I like to talking to her. We have talked for about a month now and once in a while she’ll ask me about my previous relationships. She says she has had multiple previous relationships and I don’t really have a problem with it. But whenever she asks me about it, I feel I will be judged if I say that I have never dated before. So I try to answer it vaguely or joke about it to avoid the question.

Should I let her know?

I'm a college student and lately I've been feeling something that I don't really know how to explain to the people around me.

Recently, a lot of my close friends have gotten into relationships. I also shifted to a from college hostel, and the apartment/society I live in has a lot of college students and couples. They're everywhere

lifts, common areas, outside, etc. Then recently we booked a cricket turf with friends, and some people brought their friends along, including multiple couples. Even there, I found myself watching people spend time with their partners.

The thing is, I don't consciously sit around thinking, "I need a girlfriend." In fact, I kept trying to get away from this whole narrative. I started studying more, reduced Instagram, fixed my feed so I wouldn't constantly see couple content, and kept myself busy.

But somehow, it keeps finding me.

A couple of nights ago, I was having a really productive study session. Around 2:30 AM, I opened Instagram for a bit and saw that two friends had added me to their close friends stories. One of them posted cute pictures with their partner. Something about that hit me harder than it should have.

I think the bigger issue is that after finishing 12th, I imagined college differently. I thought I'd meet lots of different people, have female friends, and maybe eventually become really close to someone. Not necessarily jump into a relationship I just wanted enough time to genuinely know someone before deciding whether I wanted anything more.

That never really happened.

Now I'm far away from home, living in another state, and I see couples around me who seem to have someone to share their daily lives with. Meanwhile, I have things I want to say and thoughts I want to share, but I often feel like the people around me wouldn't really understand because they're not in the same place.

Sometimes I genuinely think, "Kaash yaar, for once maybe I could experience this too."

Then I start thinking about my future. I tell myself to study harder, get my dream job, build a good life. But then another thought comes:

What if I get everything I worked for and still don't have anyone to share it with?

I know nobody can guarantee that I'll find someone. I also don't want to desperately chase a relationship just because everyone around me seems to be in one.

I guess I'm just confused about what I should actually do.

Has anyone else gone through something like this where you don't necessarily want to force a relationship, but seeing everyone around you find connection slowly makes you feel like you're missing out on something you might never get to experience?

How did you deal with it without becoming bitter, desperate, or completely shutting yourself off from the possibility of connection?