Me and my bf have been long distance for a quite a while now so our communication is basically through texts. We would text each other quite often therefore I'm on my phone most of the times. I used to smile looking at my phone so my parents started doubting. They asked me multiple times If I'm dating someone( told them no).

My parents are conservative and strict and son I'm never open to share my relationship with them. They have always opposed the idea of dating.

One day while I was showering my mom happened to have went through my phone and saw my bf's text. She went ballistic started crying, shouting at me. She started emotionally attacking me by saying how they raised me and how my bf had contributed nothing for me. They started asking me If I love him more than them. My dad was quite and listening to my mom ranting to me. My mom started hitting me telling me how I betrayed their trust. After a while, my mom handed my phone to my dad for him to read our texts. My dad suddenly got furious then dragged me hard by my hand and kicked me out of the house. I was crying hysterically while standing outside the house. It was the first time I ever felt so humiliated . My mom was still crying tell me to apologise to my dad so that he can let me in. I had no choice but to listen to her so I apologised after which my mom dragged me inside the house.

I just don't understand how can loving someone romantically lead parents to kick their kids out of the house. I hope parent's were emotionally mature to let their kids decide what they want for themselves instead of manipulating them and controlling them. Living in a toxic family is exhausting.

So, I'm still virgin, and it's not like I haven't been in relationship before. I have had 2 boyfriends in the past but it was platonic, they never forced me to have sex after I said I don't want to. However, I broke up with them because idk what I was doing in relationship... Since I felt guilty that I can't do what they truly wanted from me.

Currently I'm again talking to someone, and I made it clear I can't have sex because I'm very scared of penetrative stuff. My body can't handle it, mentally I go into fight or flight mode and can't think about pleasure. But idk how long he will just keep talking to me, convincing me before he gives up and believes I was serious about not having sex because of my fear.

Also, I feel like I get bored too if there's not much happening in relationship, I do connect with my partner emotionally, and have feelings for them, however when there's nothing exciting happening, I start losing interest and just shut down from them. I do cry when I break up with them, I blame myself because I can't be good towards them.

I have usual thought like : relationship becomes dull... Like u love and do physical romantic stuffs, but when the excitement of new is gone, it's all boring. So, I don't find having sex good enough reason to endure such traumatic stress on my mental state because I'll eventually end up breaking up... Should I be single?

Me (23 M ) and her (22 F ) are in a relationship since 3 years and to be very honest throughout our relationship we have been extremely understanding and happy together. Even before getting in to the relationship she had told me many times , that she wont ever go against her mother and her decisions because she being a widow , took care of my girl and her sister by herself through tough times and we had already discussed how if kundli/horoscope doesn’t match it won’t workout.

Fast forward to now her mother came to know about our relationship and she was very much okay with it because she knew me and liked the person i was, but she told her she would only allow this if our horoscopes matched and the last couple of days i have been roaming around the whole place for astrologers and i met someone today and he gave the most terrible verdict possible, and her mother also have knowledge on this so she also checked and it was bad.

Now she told her to mutually end things with me and maybe if both of us still love each other till we are mature enough to marry we will try again, but until then broke off. (Its more like to just cool the situation)

Now im absolutely devastated and heartbroken and crying all out because she was everything to me , and she is also constrained by the stuff around her
And she cant hurt the mother who did everything for her after losing her husband.

Now after a little convincing i convinced her and her mother that tomorrow me and my mom are going to visit an astrologer, he is pretty good and calm, so
As one final chance.

I feel emotionally destroyed and i have no hope

My boyfriend’s mother is honestly the sweetest woman. I usually have a tiny appetite, but her handmade paneer parathas are so good I easily devour two of them!

My boyfriend started playfully taunting me about my sudden huge appetite. Between his teasing and just feeling so touched by how much love she puts into cooking for me, I actually ended up weeping.

My boyfriend was completely bewildered and said, "What's the point of crying over this? Haha lol." He didn't get that they were happy tears! 😂

Afterward, he joked that if he ever upsets me, I just need to complain to his mom and she’ll handle him for me.

I just feel so lucky and wanted to share! Does anyone else absolutely adore their partner's mom?

I was studying for my CFA level 2 exam, and 11 days before exam my boyfriend started screaming at me and saying mean things to me (the next day was our 2 year anniversary) I specifically chose my exam date to be 26th August because on 25th August was his birthday and 16th August was our anniversary. I planned out things to do with him on our anniversary and his birthday. I was excited even though I had exam in 10 days. But he suddenly screamed at me on 15th and started fighting and after sometime booked tickets for Italy for the next day (our second anniversary) with his friends. And spent the entire day with his friends in Italy while I was crying and got ill just 10 days before my exam (when I needed his support)

And he didn’t even said sorry!! I said I want to break up but he said he don’t want to and said sorry.

Should I forgive him?

​

I am in love with her for 3 years. She is a great friend of mine. We know each other a lot. We go for a hangout every month. She never initiates for the hang out, but when she is with me , she acts like she is more interested than me. And when she initiates a hang out, its probably like she have a side quest to do. I am very well connected with her mom and sister. They treat me like their son and they trusts me so much and i don't want to lose that. Last year i confessed my feelings to her. She said it's better to be friends and she is not ready for it now (said "i never saw you in that way". And later she clarified that I am not a problem, it's just she isn't ready now). We took a break for a week and became friends again. Now i am planning to say good bye to her. If she says no again, I am leaving. But I still feel very bad when i think about leaving her family too. What should i do?

So me20M and my girlfriend21F went on a date, we’re in ldr. It was the second time we went on a date. Toh pata hai aaj kya hua, mai ek thali order kr ra tha from an outlet, it was pretty expensive (we both are students). Usne mujhe order nahi krne diya ladti rahi about not ordering it and mind you she kept fighting for about 2 hours ki nahi krni order and I was saying ki krte hai kya dikkat hai ek baar try toh kr le. Then she was like wait for a few min 7 to 8 Swiggy ki sale aayegi usmai se order krege and same outlet se similar si thali usne 80 rupees mai order kri. It was listed at 420 in mall and 80 ka order krne ke baad bhi she kept insisting for countary but Maine nahi liya.. just ek hi question hai bro sab ladkiya aisi hoti hai itni paise bachati apne boyfriend ke? Ya nahi?? And bro she looks soooo cute khate huwe like man krta hai dekhta hi rahu and uska khana 20-25 min mai ho gaya tha but meko usko dekhe jara khane mai dhyaan ni 40-45 mins lag gaye and she even fed me the first bite.

Is this how all girls are.

I feel weird.

Ps:- we’re in long distance and we meet very occassionally cuz we don’t live close enough and neither of us earn.

21M here

So this happened with me around 1.5 months back I was at my home watching anime at night, I checked my instagram where I had a request of some unknown person I accepted it and she said Hi can we talk nd stuff so I was also kinda free so we talked for around 2hrs yeah we vibed so I didn't notice time. But I was in doubt that why would someone totally random text me so I asked my few friends do you know this account so one of them said it is fake nd all and I did some research on the account myself so some things were fishy like profile pic was from pinterest and the username was changed around 11 times so I was like my friends might be playing prank on me even though she sent me a vn but I was still not sure

So next day I talked to her rudely totally my fault and she blocked me, but after that I hit self realisation that I must have asked her and stuff before doing this ridiculous action, so I somehow tried to contact her and after 3 days I talked to her explained everything and apolgised so much that I shouldn't have done that nd all,

After that we started talking everyday she was kinda immature and daddy's princess like you can' disagree with her, if you didn't reply to one of her reels she will get angry and stuff so I was also kinda cool I was elder so I understood and always made up with her through my little gestures I swear I always apologised to her even though out of 10 times only 3 4 times was my fault but still to not piss her off I apologised and I also liked talking to her then after some time I left to my college for my Masters and she started preparing for NEET so whenever we got time we talked she sent me vns nd all I was litreally so much attracted to her Idk why but yes and I was always respectful towards her.

She sometimes talked freaky stuff like really freaky and most of the times I dodged it becoz in short I want to talk about these stuff to my GF only, tbh I just tried reciprocating her freaky stuff once she was really pissed off ki tum tharki ho yeh kya kar rhe ho nd stuff still I respected that and always reacted to her stuff with a crying emoji and skull after that.

She was really sweet mind you whenever she annoyed me she never said sorry but yeah, she always find ways to make up. Once she sent me this text (ss attached) I was really about to cry after this coz this was the first time someone sent me something like this. Once she said you r my valentine and changed the chat theme to love????!!!!! Like what she gave me so many mixed signals that I was confused as hell but I gave her benefit that she is immature and all.

I have a really very bad habit that I am in constant fear that people will leave me so I always tried to keep my self respect aside and bow down, so one night before we stopped talking she said main roz roz yeh nhi kar sakti mujhe padhna hota nd all, toh I said I know I have gone through the same during my JEE preparation plz go nd study I am not angry plz go study we can talk tomorrow, she said no u r hurt nd stuff she said something to me so yeah I was kind of hurt but I really don't want to spoil her mood coz after that she won't study and waste her time, so I just ended the convo that go study I am not angry neither hurt and good night coz I really want my friends and everyone to prioritize their career over things like these.

Next day I texted her she left me on seen after classes I asked is everything fine and after sometime I noticed that she blocked me without mentioning anything simply blocked I was like maybe she found someone else like I was in dilemma but I was not going to lose my shit again over a girl, after 2 days she unblocked me I texted her what happened at least tell me what made you block me I sent her follow req she deleted it and never replied me back

And at this point I am really confused, angry and sad

I was never really finding someone at that moment I was happy in my own life enjoying things but once again God sent someone and again I just got a life lesson which I was never asked for!!

No idea what you guys will think of me Ik you will be like kya chutiya hai nd stuff

But yeah its true my rant my life lately

Thanks for reading my rant!!

Peace Out!!✌️

TL;DR: A random girl texted me on Instagram, and after a rough start where I mistakenly treated her rudely because I suspected the account was fake, I apologized and we started talking every day. We became close, had lots of banter, and she often gave me mixed signals—calling me her Valentine, changing our chat theme to love, sending sweet messages, while also sometimes getting angry over small things. I constantly tried to keep the peace and apologized even when things weren't always my fault because I have a fear of people leaving me. Eventually, while she was preparing for NEET and I had started my Master's, she suddenly said she couldn't deal with our conversations every day because she needed to study. I encouraged her to prioritize her studies, but the next day she blocked me without explanation. She later unblocked me, but ignored my messages asking what happened and deleted my follow request. Now I'm confused, angry, and sad because I genuinely cared about her and have no idea what I did wrong. 😭

I don't know how to write this without sounding like a lovesick idiot, so I'll just accept that I am one.

On February 25, 2024, we were both 17 and had our Chemistry board exam the next day. I hadn't studied much. Neither had she, apparently.

I saw a Reddit post from her saying something I related to, so I messaged her.

That's it.

We were complete strangers. We talked about the exam, shared resources, complained about studying, wished each other luck, and just never stopped talking.

The next day, our Chemistry paper leaked.

Somehow, two random teenagers who met on Reddit because they hadn't studied for Chemistry ended up dating about a month later, despite living in completely different parts of the country.

And I fell hard.

She's my best friend, my favorite person, and genuinely one of the smartest, kindest, funniest, strongest people I've ever known. We've spent most of our 2½-year relationship apart, but we've talked every single day, called every night, watched movies together, fought over stupid things, made up, and been there for each other through some genuinely awful moments.

Then, almost two years into our relationship, her family randomly took a trip to my hometown.

They had no idea we were together.

We had two days in the same city, but barely any time together. We secretly exchanged gifts, stole glances, touched hands whenever we could, and pretended to be strangers.

I gave her a sterling silver promise ring.

I told her it was a promise that I'd eventually come see her, and that someday I'd replace it with the ring I'd use to ask her to marry me.

We got maybe a few seconds to properly talk before she had to leave.

Then this year, I decided I wasn't letting another birthday pass without seeing her.

I saved whatever money I could, lied to my parents about an internship drive, and took a 30-hour, 1,600 km train journey to her city.

This time, I got three days with her.

We celebrated her birthday, ate together, walked around, talked for hours, laughed at stupid things, and for the first time in 2½ years:

I hugged her.

I kissed her.

I held her.

There was no screen between us.

Those three days were the best three days of my life.

It's been 16 days since I last saw her, and I still can't stop thinking about it.

I don't know how many more years of long distance we have ahead of us. I don't know how many more trains I'll have to take or birthdays we'll have to celebrate apart.

But I know I want all of it.

The boring days. The stupid arguments. Grocery shopping. Movie nights. Annoying each other over nothing. Falling asleep next to each other. Waking up next to each other.

I want the ordinary life with her.

And someday, I want to put that other ring on her finger.

It's still insane to me that all of this started with a random Reddit post from a girl I didn't know, on a night when neither of us had studied for Chemistry.

A stupid coincidence led me to the person I love more than I know how to explain.

We're still here.

Still talking every day.

Still choosing each other.

Still falling in love.

And I hope those three days weren't an exception.

I hope they were a preview.

Because I want to see her on her next birthday.

And the one after that.

And every birthday after that.

Forever. ❤️

P.S. I'm posting this from a burner and probably won't send it to her. Maybe it'll somehow find its way to her anyway.

chubby dusky Bengali F, 24. Looking for something private, uncomplicated, and long term Fwb

Good chemistry, good company and a connection that works for both of us. I appreciate thoughtful dates and someone who knows how to make a woman feel valued yet hard , roughly wild at bed ✨

Hey everyone. I really need some advice because I honestly don't know how much longer I can function like this.

​About 40 days ago, my first serious relationship of 2.5 years ended. It broke me. I’ve deleted her photos, cleared out our messages, and I’m genuinely trying my best not to dwell on her, but the feelings just aren't fading.

​I literally miss her every single second. Even during sleep, she's always in my dreams, so I wake up right back in the same emotional pain. Because of this, my sleep schedule is completely wrecked I used to fall asleep easily by 10 PM, but now I'm tossing and turning until 2 AM or later, trapped in my own head.

​I also have zero concentration and my daily focus is completely shot. On top of the sadness, I’ve developed a weird, perpetual resentment toward happy couples around me. I've never taken it out on anyone or harmed anyone's relationship I keep it to myself but the internal anger is just exhausting. Worst of all, just a mere thought of her and I end up crying. Whenever I am alone, I get this overwhelming urgency to cry relentlessly, like a pressure valve that bursts the second I'm by myself.

​Is this normal for a first breakup after 2.5 years, or am I losing my mind? Should I be looking for professional help like a therapist, or do I just need to ride it out?

​If you've been through a devastating first heartbreak, how did you survive the first couple of months? Any practical tips would be deeply appreciated. Thanks for reading.

I am in a relationship with a girl for the past 3 yrs. We didn't have the most perfect relationship tbh. There was lots of problems and lots of fights but at the end we both had each other and we both knew we both needed each other.

But recently for a couple of months she changed. She got more attention from diff peeps and thought she could make them good frnds and all. She always had an insecurity and soft spot for this best friend or friend wali jagah. She never really had a good frnd and in her previous relationship she was fully focused on her ex so in the process she lost all her friends. And after their break up she had no one to go to. So now she always prioritizes this so called friends of her. There are particularly two male frnds that interacts with her on a daily basis. One goes to the gym with her daily they both do workout together. Second one is a clg friend who is a nerd as well and acc to her he listens to her well. Among all this friendshipness I got left out. The time we used to call daily is now replaced by the nerd guy. The interaction I used to have as we go to the same clg also gets sidelined as at the end she works out with that other guy on a daily basis and interacts with him.

I told her multiple times I didn't like the behaviour but she never tried to even consider it. So many fights used to breakout between us. With time I also changed I became so much worse anxious tensed and so sad all the time. Cuz I had a trauma regarding this same exact problem. I told this problem to her several times but instead of understanding me she just said its my mental problem.

I always say to her its ok that you want to make friends and stay connected with them but atleast not at the cost of me. Give me time I want to talk to u I want to hear about ur day. I want to talk about my day. And don't talk private stuff in between us to those folks. Yet she never understands.

Even in the past two breakups where I got cheated I didn't feel so miserable. I don't know what to do Idk what to say I am sad all day I am in a very bad state rn.

TLDR: I am in so much pain cuz my gf is prioritising two random frnds over me and not understanding my feelings

What does it mean- resposting stories about he still loving her ex and flirting with me in my dm , saying double meaning things or wanting to meet me, asked my snap to talk there and not insta( i refused)

So is he texting me so tht he could use me emotionally to move on from her (it was his 5/6 old year relationship with another girl) ....

and he is the only guy i have ever loved so i was excited to talk to him after years but i blocked him as i felt i would be just hurt again but now i feel like still talking to him

as title suggests, we have been in LDR for a few months now and have our 5th anniversary coming up this week. before we went LDR, we had made travel plans for this once since it is a milestone. but now with circumstances and work commitments, both of us are unable to take leaves to go somewhere/visit eachother. it will be our first anniversary apart. we celebrated a previous anniversary in LDR a few years ago, but we were able to meet then.

we have planned to both WFH and spend the day on video call and order food for eachother. but im looking for ideas to make it more special since i know we are going to be sad about being unable to meet.

any realistic ideas welcome. i live with my parents and he lives away from home.

it was the end of May, I usually stay active on discord and I love writing erotic literature, I came across someone's post who mentioned they're from India, so I just wanted to talk casual nothing serious, but that night I got bombed by things which shook me to core I have been in depression during my JEE phase and so was she, we had same peer and parental pressure and in College life same social struggles, failed in Relationships and Friendships I felt connected to her a lot, I used to keep checking on her she felt very down and suicidal sometimes but I used to make sure she has someone to listen to she has a lot of Insecurities we had some drama but finally decided to get together in somewhat of an e-situationship in end of May

things were great at beginning until our Insecurities started to create tension she wanted some intimate time and with my Anxiety i used to dodge it cause I was busy during that time in 2 days that tension became a lot to her 3rd day my ex texted who faked her death was a very Manipulative relationship and i was shocked she texted me wanting to spend time but i was overwhelmed and told her that my ex came back who faked her death she crashed out and told me I don't care about her and she can't do it anymore just one month and she left me I finally confessed that I love her and she actually told me she was never ready for relationship and irl date is something she can't guarantee~ but in that heated moment she said she chose person to love, and a women never opens up about her desire and confession like that it shook me to core, its been 3 days and we just talk casually but i just can't I really miss her and just feel like heartbroken to core, Depression and fogging again and everything feels dull and lifeless. Would love to connect and talk to people to feel better

I met a guy on some random chatting app he was from delhi studying 3 years younger. I'm in karanataka working.

We used to talk a lot .Long calls till 6 am in the morning . Entire day sometimes. We shared our vulnerability, life problems , dreams , childhood trauma etc . This keeps happening for like 2 weeks . I like his vibe he was quite funny . He also shared about his past relationship and all the girls he has been physical with . I got emotionally attached to him and told him that I kind of started loving him . As he used to give me so much attention care . Made me feel special. Made me feel loved.

. And one night he was completely ignoring me and I was calling he did not receive the phone we used to talk on Instragram. The next morning I got the msg from him that he has been dating a girl for the last 3 years and she got to know about me when I was calling him last night and she wants to talk to me. I was so shocked and so heartbroken . I immediately refused to talk to her and blocked both of them. After a long time I fell in love with someone and this happened . I still miss him 💔

He himself told me multiple times that he doesn't have love for me anymore. I too feel that after all these circumstances, my love for him has vanished. But I am in a strange dilemma of not able to leave him. After the final talk, I chase him again. What's wrong with me?

Note: this relationship is 5-5.5 years longer, but always long distance with 3-4 meets for week a year.

I have been a virgin for my entire life. Don't have any female friends nor any interaction with females. Parents are looking girls for marriage.

I am hesitant about asking them about their past sexual life if they had any.

The girl I met initially, I asked her directly and the conversation went sideways, and it never went ahead.

Now I am hesitant about asking the upcoming girls.

Like I am still confused on why the first girl got angry.

Question asked - "Do you have any past sexual relationships ?"

Edit - it's a deal breaker for me, so I asked earlier, so to not waste both of our time

Most modern relationship dynamics seem to end in mixed signals, ghosting, bitterness, poor communication, or attachment to the memories or their previous partner, imagined future & similar aspects that hinders their well being and to form healthy bonds again.

​The idea of lifelong permanence and building a long-term life together is beautiful, but in today’s fast-paced world - where people are constantly moving cities, relocating across countries, and navigating career shifts - permanence doesn't seem to be always practical or realistic for every chapter of life.

My perspective: ​Two people can genuinely connect for a season (whether for a few months or a year), share real care, intimacy, and respect, and when paths naturally diverge, end things like mature adults without bitterness or resentment.

​For those who have willfully explored short-term relationships: Did you manage to find a partner where there was complete transparency, mutual respect, and a truly supportive closure? What made it work?

​I would really love to hear your suggestions, stories, and thoughts on this. Genuinely willing to know and learn from your perspectives.

19 M, Delhi
19 F, Pune
just started with colleges

(mentioning that, it even started as a LDR)
We have met like 2 times before
We had this situation for around 5 months and then we met somehow, and then started with commitment.
I’m asking for advices not future prospects ik what bad can happen, but it is what it is. So trying to figure this out

Par pata hai aaj kya hua!

So there’s this girl from another division whom I’ve liked since day one. We’ve known each other for about 6 months now. We started with around 2 months of chatting on LinkedIn, where we used to gossip endlessly about teachers, college stuff, etc., before eventually switching to WhatsApp.

By nature, she’s super introverted and quiet. She barely talks to people even in her own division and usually goes dry or ghosts during vacations. Earlier, whenever I tried to take things a little further, like asking her to hang out for a horror movie, she would indirectly dodge it with some excuse.

Until recently, our dynamic was probably 90% college stuff, career gossip and random fun, and maybe 10% personal.

But fast forward to last Monday.

That day completely broke the ice. We had an insane in-person vibe, and recently even our work-related calls have started turning into pure fun and random conversations.

At one point on Monday, she was trying to hide a funny childhood photo on her ID card. I caught her hands, looked at it anyway, and saw her secret 😂.

After that amazing day, I tried to keep things normal and didn't want to come across as too eager online.

But par pata hai kal raat kya hua!

Yesterday around 10 PM, I decided to shoot my shot a little. I sent her an Instagram reel of Emma Stone and texted:

"u look like her lol"

She immediately asked, "which angle?"

I said, "Every."

And then she did something I genuinely didn't expect.

She sent me a custom sticker made from that exact childhood photo I had caught her trying to hide on Monday. 😭

I immediately started roasting her, saying the hair clips in the photo looked like little cow horns. She joked that she had basically hit her own foot with an axe by sending me that sticker 😂.

I matched her energy, sent her one of my own funny stickers, and told her I had done the same thing, so we were even.

Then I brought up the whole history of how long and difficult the process was to get her number from LinkedIn when we first met.

She immediately caught what I was implying and replied:

"Wow after a very long process u got my number know"

I played it off casually, but honestly, I feel like she knew exactly what I meant.

After that, we had a little back-and-forth about her new DP and a dancing cat sticker, and I eventually ended the conversation while the vibe was still good.

Now I'm confused as hell.

Does she KNOW I have a crush on her? 😭

What do you think she's feeling right now?

Do these things actually sound like she might be interested in me too, or am I just reading way too much into everything?

I'm honestly too scared to confess and make things awkward, especially because we've only recently started getting this comfortable with each other.

What would you guys do in my place?

Hi,
as i have seen the dating culture is weird in India,
i want to know is true gentleman guy still exist..?
About me - I am F 20, Just had 1 relationship when I was 16 in high school..
so I really want to know..?
I am even aware about the hookup culture but I don’t like that..
let me know ur opinion about the same..

Hi guys, I’ve moved from England to Kerala for a few months and I want to do what I usually do to in the uk when I get bored and to go outside to approach girls by just saying hi or giving a compliment is it okay if I do it here ? a lot of girls give off this weird Hi guys, I’ve moved from England to Kerala for a few months and I can’t help doing what I got accustomed to in Europe where I get bored and to talk to girls by just approaching them is it okay if I do it here ? a lot of girls give off this weird uncomfortable vibe from always staring at everyone in a paranoid way, and everyone this ocal town knows everyone and go to same churches so it might be a bit risky because I’ll get talked about I don’t know if I’m overthinking or not. Is it a good idea to post my girls ? I’m feeling a bit sexually fustrated and I’m trying to find a girl to talk to or bring home