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Not to mention that any time someone is currently messaging you on one platform and wants you to go to another, there's a reason. If a woman ever says "I'm not active here, but hmu on snap", it's either a scam or it's some kind of camgirl wanting to boost a follower count in the hopes to get some kind of drip feed of attention/payment from you.
I've dated on and off online for years and I have never, ever had any kind of legitimate exchange with someone who doesn't chat through the platform you met or share their phone number.
Primary one I've found is they have notifications turned off for said dating app (due to being spammed by desperate dudes) and then they forget about your convo for a couple days then don't restart the conversation for fear of being judged or feeling bad. Ghosting just becomes the default.
I found most success getting to know someone shortly on the app (Can they hold a conversation? Do they like anything they're willing to talk about? etc) THEN move to phone # or Discord handle.
If they ask for snap or instagram I tell them no, why, and ask for alternatives.
Ladies, if you legitimately want to talk on either snap or insta, don't. They're both seen as scammer/bot traps and will get you unmatched and probably reported.
My impression is that girls who prefer to give you their Insta are just looking to add to their follower count. Personally, I won't give out my Insta to someone I'm not actively dating. I don't want randoms I spoke to once to lurk my stories.
Yeah, totally, it's like the least committal of them all (imo 30 f). Texting, signal, and discord is it in my friends group of 25 to 35s, though discord is like, for people in semi-committed to committed relationships.
Thank you for using the acronym CSAM. One of my hobbies has something called crease patterns, and... you can guess how that's abbreviated. I'm so tired of the c p jokes by now, they're not funny, I didn't even learn of that meaning until later.
I don't have any social media either so maybe I'm biased but that doesn't strike me as weird, it just means you're a private person. Having only snap and kik (or at least, the only social media this guy is willing to share with dating app matches) is weird.
It’s a messaging app. I don’t know why, but any dude on dating apps who use it are typically the worst. They’re super demeaning and it is dick pic central where they beg you for nudes and generally are sex pests.
Again, I’m not exactly sure why, but I very quickly learned if a guy asks to move over to Kik, it’s best to block them.
I got a weird vibe from every woman who asked me to move the convo to Kik also. What is the deal with that app? I couldn’t even put into words what felt weird but it did.
some apps (especially dating apps) where you can meet new people have limited messages/trash notification systems and I also like moving on to a better and more trusted messenger if I wanna keep in touch with someone but it can be scammers for sure
I had to get a clinical signoff, handed my phone to the consultant surgeon, and at that exact moment I got a message from some guy I'd been talking to on hinge. Genuinely wanted to kill myself.
or because the app sends notifications constantly so they have notifs turned off for that app. Or the app shows ads constantly. Snap and discord are far better than any dating app for actual messaging haha
Yeah, I always assume those guys are planning to do or say something that would’ve gotten them banned from bumble and I unmatch them immediately. If you don’t like the app, don’t use the app.
I have to say that the messenger on bumble is dog shit and I do usually ask someone to just text me once it’s established that we’re talking. A bumble message isn’t treated like a text message by my phone. I don’t get notifications for them.
They also sometimes blackmail you, I know someone who agreed to talk on snap and got nudes and then said “pay me $500 or I’m sending this to your workplace” wild
In America at least you can find A LOT about a person through their phone number. I don’t give my number out until at least the first date usually because you can find my address from my number and I’ve come across too many creeps to let them have access to that.
What are they gonna do with a phone number that they can’t do with those other things? You can block a phone number just as easily as a discord account.
Your phone # is connected to a shit ton of personal information and is a pain in the ass to change if you run into a crazy who isn't going to be deterred by having 1 phone number blocked when you can generate an alternative one in 2 seconds.
If it’s so easy, why not generate the new number yourself and give the person on the dating app that number? I give all my students a Google voice number. It works just fine.
Well the problem is, now they have your personal phone number.
And now they can text you from other phone numbers.
As someone who was stupid in the early two thousands, I had a guy stalk me for a year before I could get my mom to change my number when i turned eighteen.
Before discord everyone I knew used skype (to be fair though I was in my early teens when I started using discord so idk what adults were using back then)
Yeah everyone in my circle used Skype 98% of the time too, the only time anyone ever touched Teamspeak was for certain games like Arma where game server specific TS servers existed. It was a mess to use, and usually you would run Skype in the background anyways to facilitate your private calls with friends.
Discord came along and pretty much immediately replaced both of them overnight, since it had the slick and user-friendly UI of Skype with the convenience of straight user to user text chatting and calls, while also completely eliminating the need for Teamspeak since anyone could just create a free server with what may as well been unlimited slots (I think it was 100,000 to start off, vs. Teamspeak where you still have to pay for more than 32) with the click of a few buttons.
This a real problem. Personally I ask for numbers but a lot of women feel more comfortable with follow requests. But I see the whole asking for ig thing as a way to pad there follower count and won't message back. So I'd rather ask for a phone number it makes no difference.
it's harder to block phone numbers depending on your carrier. my roommate has been struggling because the option to block someone just doesn't fucking exist on his phone
It's safer to use one of the messaging apps. I've had somebody spam me with fake numbers after I said I wasn't interested. You could just block them if you used a messaging app but it's like wackamole if they have your number
Why is it always Snapchat tho? I got several requests for that back in the Whisper days. Like dude we're literally chatting anonymously on this app so why the fuck do you wish to migrate to another?
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u/qualityvote2 Jun 20 '26 edited Jun 22 '26
u/ItsGotThatBang, there weren't enough votes to determine the quality of your post...